JustPearlyThings - This Feminist Was In Denial After Hearing this

00:00:00.000 get real like women couldn't vote women couldn't have jobs right black people were seen as 1.00

00:00:04.280 literally inhumane right and so you know if we took that that mindset back to where we were then

00:00:11.820 black people weren't human and so kit you would not be sat here with us because you would not be 1.00

00:00:16.500 yeah you would not yeah i'm just a little confused what is that like i just what is it i'm just

00:00:21.940 confused what did that have to do with what we were talking about so it's in relation to saying

00:00:25.940 like we're lying okay so then essentially the people who went black people are people they

00:00:31.300 were liars back then okay i don't i don't but this is this is what i'm saying it's it's lying to women

00:00:36.540 when we're saying like statistically they're like for example when you when you sleep with more men

00:00:40.220 you lose your ability to pair bond so you have a harder time bonding with your husband later on

00:00:45.280 like the person that you marry and there's a million studies that'll back this up yeah people

00:00:50.380 you sleep with the less like you you have a higher probability of being divorced yeah yeah so

00:00:57.220 so saying to women empower yourself and sleep with whoever you i'm not i'm not saying women should be 0.99

00:01:02.060 proof not everyone wants to get married and not everyone wants to be power bonded not everyone and

00:01:06.440 not everyone is scared right no and that's that's fine and so but i think we should give women all of

00:01:11.940 the information oh yeah so i'm saying like if you don't want to be married and you want to be like

00:01:16.740 by yourself if that's what you want to do go go go do it i'm don't but like don't i think a lot of

00:01:23.060 times girls follow this advice and they're not they're not giving all the information but then 0.89

00:01:27.940 we're also just assuming that every man is going to be like you're worthless oh i'm not i'm not assuming

00:01:33.420 every man but i think they're like majority okay would you would you prefer a girl that slept with 1.00

00:01:38.100 100 people or slept with 10 that's it for me 10 yeah and like i think if you ask like yeah guys would

00:01:45.600 you prefer someone more pure or more more of a hoe most guys are going to say more pure yeah but 0.99

00:01:50.280 then you see for a relationship yeah but then you see who and what people then you see who and what

00:01:55.620 people watch on social media or porn or who they engage with and you're like oh you're a hot celebrity

00:02:00.600 or someone with a lot of followers you're someone who is very desirable or someone who is and that's

00:02:04.720 it nothing is black and white the one thing i'll say about that is i i understand about the whole

00:02:08.940 desirable thing but guys don't really care how much a girl is desired by other men that seems to

00:02:17.700 be more of a woman thing that they'll use pre-selected by other women does that make sense

00:02:23.200 so like you know you said this example i'll be honest no matter how many guys are looking and

00:02:29.140 thirsting over lizzo i'm not going to be thirsting over her do you know i mean she's not what i would

00:02:34.520 look for whereas like you get someone like jonah hill if he was just an average guy no one would

00:02:39.140 want him but because of who he is and women fawn over him a lot of women see him as attracted because

00:02:43.840 he's desirable to other women does that make sense yeah like 100 like i'm i say i'm unfortunately i i'm

00:02:50.960 aware of the reality i'm not like delusional um but then i'm aware of the science but so being that's

00:02:57.580 it psychology has been my life for the past like oh my god when i started i started studying it

00:03:01.860 oh my god 12 years ago um and so it's the understanding of why its behavior has come

00:03:08.760 become that way and the anthropology and all of that stuff um so i come from more of a scientific

00:03:13.780 fact but then i'm like i obviously know my bias i obviously know xyz but yeah like i'm not gonna

00:03:18.720 i'm not delusional in that lizzo being a big woman is not attractive but then you know like yeah it's 1.00

00:03:27.540 so so would you agree that we should give like like the advice if a for a girl that wants to be

00:03:32.660 married would be to like sleep with as little men as possible if you want to get married to the 1.00

00:03:37.040 highest value guy you can no i'm not saying like be a prude i'm not saying no no no yeah yeah it's

00:03:44.200 like it's like you should want to marry a man that wants you regardless but but you don't think you

00:03:48.340 don't think your choices have consequences like no i think there's consequences right and so you

00:03:53.200 don't think we should be honest to the next generation saying hey these are the consequences

00:03:56.400 for those actions if you if you get on the internet and you you post your naked body like

00:04:00.400 a guy that that's worth a damn but one guy will care and one guy won't but but do the guys you want 0.53

00:04:06.520 care is the question that's i think that's the difference i think that the difference is the

00:04:10.880 the high quality guys that most other women would want he's more he's gonna care about these things

00:04:17.260 whereas there'll be some guys who don't care but it's likely that those guys that don't care are not

00:04:21.160 the guys you want but then quality again is subjective like would you rather have someone who just

00:04:25.260 accepts you for who you are and loves you for who you are and your history because then porn stars

00:04:29.660 get married but the numbers porn stars get married but here's the thing you need to other porn stars

00:04:33.720 though but but here's statistically actually not correct because i get studied here here's here's

00:04:39.420 the thing the numbers the numbers don't lie and actions have consequences right and so we could say

00:04:44.120 oh it's subjective like what is quality but like when you it's supply and demand yeah like what what

00:04:49.880 guys why do we need to all fit into the majority why do we like i'm very happy being an anomaly i'm

00:04:55.540 very happy being oh oh like and i and i say and i say go if you want to be an anomaly go do it if

00:05:01.320 that's what makes you happy i'm never going to tell someone how to live their life but what i'm saying

00:05:04.960 is like why do we lie to younger women instead of giving them all the information like why don't 1.00

00:05:09.980 we say the younger woman if you if you want the highest the guy with the most options okay if you

00:05:15.000 want the highest quality guy you can attain putting your starting and only fans is not the best way to

00:05:21.640 get there but then it's like like i don't understand like to me like this is common sense and i feel like

00:05:25.720 we should agree on this and it's almost like you like are looking for that exception because you don't

00:05:30.780 want to like you don't want to because what we're doing then is putting what he wants and he desires

00:05:35.340 and he values above ourselves well because it's not always about you and that's that's what i'm saying

00:05:40.860 like he gets to choose who he wants to marry and if you want to we get to choose who we want to

00:05:45.500 marry now women marry who they can no i don't believe that that's true like women well they have 1.00

00:05:51.420 to propose so we don't choose we don't have to no not at all i uh but do you not think do you not

00:05:59.120 think would you agree that women decide who have sex yeah yeah so we do not think that it is men who

00:06:07.720 decide who gets married no because a woman can say no or a woman can ask and a woman has the ability 0.94

00:06:15.640 to be like look if you're not going to commit to me i'm going to walk away no i know but men can also

00:06:20.260 say no to sex right but we understand that culturally when it comes to having sex it is women who decide 0.97

00:06:25.780 get access yeah but women usually don't say no to marriage either 1.00

00:06:29.560 the majority of women who are proposed to accept i don't yeah i don't know statistically also and

00:06:39.120 again it's because what i mean is like you know you know that when you stay from the first day of a

00:06:44.060 guy you know that he would have sex with you straight away so nine times out of ten a guy is

00:06:50.060 ready to have sex before the woman that's why she has the power to who has sex right but also nine times 1.00

00:06:55.160 it is the woman who is ready for the commitment so he decides who he commits to and i think that's

00:07:00.500 what pearl is saying saying that when it comes to marriage i think here's the thing like before any

00:07:05.900 woman has sex with a guy she has he has to qualify himself to her before she accepts that intimacy 0.91

00:07:12.160 right so the same is true that women have to qualify themselves to men if they want relationship and 1.00

00:07:19.020 commitment but then so this then falls back to the patriarchy why is it the women are the ones who are 1.00

00:07:24.780 like i have to look good i have to be hairless but why do the men have to say oh i have to have a good

00:07:29.700 job i have to like a girl could be unemployed a dude will still date her but like men have to 0.99

00:07:34.760 qualify themselves to women too it's like like you're trying to like take away the things that

00:07:39.220 men care about yeah and the things that like the things that women and men care about just are

00:07:43.200 yeah well that's that's why i'm very i'm i'm so frustrating in that i'm very gray area i'm very so

00:07:48.600 that's it i've had men that are broke men that are objective i'm gonna say objectively not very good

00:07:54.560 looking men that are short men that actually bring little to the table other than being nice

00:07:58.620 right and um so but would you would you prefer a man that like i would prefer yeah i would 100%

00:08:04.340 prefer a man that brought me more offered me more but it didn't stop me from dating other men it

00:08:10.740 didn't stop me right but then i think i'm i think i'm the anomaly in that but i'm saying like you would

00:08:14.900 still prefer the man that had more just like the man would still prefer the woman that had had less

00:08:19.740 guys yeah and i think like like it just is i'm not saying i mean i mean it's not like you know

00:08:26.380 like double standards just are yeah i was gonna say as well do you not um i think the difference is

00:08:34.800 that and this goes back to like what you were saying earlier what we've all said earlier is i

00:08:40.580 understand the notion of you know you said oh but you should want someone who loves you for you

00:08:44.520 but we all acknowledged earlier earlier that love isn't condition is not unconditional like love is

00:08:50.400 very or if we say love at least who we choose is definitely conditional and some like you could

00:08:56.760 meet a guy who you think oh he rocks my world intimacy wise but if you want to start having a

00:09:01.000 family and he's really not doing anything with his life it's like you may really care about him but

00:09:04.980 you may not choose him over the next guy who can do that for you does that make sense yeah and

00:09:09.080 then i think it also depends upon like i'm gonna be real it really depends upon your mental health

00:09:13.460 your well-being you're like so i settled for people who treat me like shit and if if someone 0.72

00:09:19.420 from outside went amy this is what this guy is doing to me i'd be like are you confused like leave

00:09:24.900 him like what the fuck um and yeah like i fully like agree with that i fully agree that like that's 0.72

00:09:31.280 it's just not a simple yes or no back so would you would you would you then go back because love

00:09:35.660 is conditional would you go back on your statement that like the man shouldn't love you for you

00:09:39.820 like it's it's conditional based on the choices yeah like that's it so yeah that makes sense so

00:09:44.480 so you would agree then to younger women we should tell you them that actions have consequences and

00:09:49.520 going on only fans might not be the best action if you want a husband i think well that's the reality

00:09:54.220 is that yeah it will it will have consequences yeah because it will some men won't care some men 1.00

00:09:59.160 will care right you have to be okay and you have to be responsible to be like i know that if i'm on

00:10:03.280 only fans some men are going to be like you're trash well and as long as you're okay with that

00:10:08.020 then and especially the men you want just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized on a daily basis

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JustPearlyThings - April 28, 2023

This Feminist Was In Denial After Hearing this

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