This Feminist Was In Denial After Hearing this
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about why women should sleep with whoever you want and not who you don t want and why we should empower women to do the same. We also talk about how women are being lied to by the media and society and how we need to stop perpetuating these lies.
Transcript
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get real like women couldn't vote women couldn't have jobs right black people were seen as
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literally inhumane right and so you know if we took that that mindset back to where we were then
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black people weren't human and so kit you would not be sat here with us because you would not be
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yeah you would not yeah i'm just a little confused what is that like i just what is it i'm just
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confused what did that have to do with what we were talking about so it's in relation to saying
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like we're lying okay so then essentially the people who went black people are people they
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were liars back then okay i don't i don't but this is this is what i'm saying it's it's lying to women
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when we're saying like statistically they're like for example when you when you sleep with more men
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you lose your ability to pair bond so you have a harder time bonding with your husband later on
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like the person that you marry and there's a million studies that'll back this up yeah people
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you sleep with the less like you you have a higher probability of being divorced yeah yeah so
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so saying to women empower yourself and sleep with whoever you i'm not i'm not saying women should be
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proof not everyone wants to get married and not everyone wants to be power bonded not everyone and
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not everyone is scared right no and that's that's fine and so but i think we should give women all of
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the information oh yeah so i'm saying like if you don't want to be married and you want to be like
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by yourself if that's what you want to do go go go do it i'm don't but like don't i think a lot of
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times girls follow this advice and they're not they're not giving all the information but then
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we're also just assuming that every man is going to be like you're worthless oh i'm not i'm not assuming
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every man but i think they're like majority okay would you would you prefer a girl that slept with
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100 people or slept with 10 that's it for me 10 yeah and like i think if you ask like yeah guys would
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you prefer someone more pure or more more of a hoe most guys are going to say more pure yeah but
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then you see for a relationship yeah but then you see who and what people then you see who and what
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people watch on social media or porn or who they engage with and you're like oh you're a hot celebrity
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or someone with a lot of followers you're someone who is very desirable or someone who is and that's
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it nothing is black and white the one thing i'll say about that is i i understand about the whole
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desirable thing but guys don't really care how much a girl is desired by other men that seems to
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be more of a woman thing that they'll use pre-selected by other women does that make sense
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so like you know you said this example i'll be honest no matter how many guys are looking and
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thirsting over lizzo i'm not going to be thirsting over her do you know i mean she's not what i would
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look for whereas like you get someone like jonah hill if he was just an average guy no one would
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want him but because of who he is and women fawn over him a lot of women see him as attracted because
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he's desirable to other women does that make sense yeah like 100 like i'm i say i'm unfortunately i i'm
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aware of the reality i'm not like delusional um but then i'm aware of the science but so being that's
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it psychology has been my life for the past like oh my god when i started i started studying it
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oh my god 12 years ago um and so it's the understanding of why its behavior has come
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become that way and the anthropology and all of that stuff um so i come from more of a scientific
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fact but then i'm like i obviously know my bias i obviously know xyz but yeah like i'm not gonna
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i'm not delusional in that lizzo being a big woman is not attractive but then you know like yeah it's
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so so would you agree that we should give like like the advice if a for a girl that wants to be
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married would be to like sleep with as little men as possible if you want to get married to the
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highest value guy you can no i'm not saying like be a prude i'm not saying no no no yeah yeah it's
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like it's like you should want to marry a man that wants you regardless but but you don't think you
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don't think your choices have consequences like no i think there's consequences right and so you
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don't think we should be honest to the next generation saying hey these are the consequences
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for those actions if you if you get on the internet and you you post your naked body like
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a guy that that's worth a damn but one guy will care and one guy won't but but do the guys you want
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care is the question that's i think that's the difference i think that the difference is the
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the high quality guys that most other women would want he's more he's gonna care about these things
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whereas there'll be some guys who don't care but it's likely that those guys that don't care are not
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the guys you want but then quality again is subjective like would you rather have someone who just
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accepts you for who you are and loves you for who you are and your history because then porn stars
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get married but the numbers porn stars get married but here's the thing you need to other porn stars
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though but but here's statistically actually not correct because i get studied here here's here's
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the thing the numbers the numbers don't lie and actions have consequences right and so we could say
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oh it's subjective like what is quality but like when you it's supply and demand yeah like what what
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guys why do we need to all fit into the majority why do we like i'm very happy being an anomaly i'm
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very happy being oh oh like and i and i say and i say go if you want to be an anomaly go do it if
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that's what makes you happy i'm never going to tell someone how to live their life but what i'm saying
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is like why do we lie to younger women instead of giving them all the information like why don't
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we say the younger woman if you if you want the highest the guy with the most options okay if you
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want the highest quality guy you can attain putting your starting and only fans is not the best way to
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get there but then it's like like i don't understand like to me like this is common sense and i feel like
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we should agree on this and it's almost like you like are looking for that exception because you don't
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want to like you don't want to because what we're doing then is putting what he wants and he desires
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and he values above ourselves well because it's not always about you and that's that's what i'm saying
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like he gets to choose who he wants to marry and if you want to we get to choose who we want to
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marry now women marry who they can no i don't believe that that's true like women well they have
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to propose so we don't choose we don't have to no not at all i uh but do you not think do you not
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think would you agree that women decide who have sex yeah yeah so we do not think that it is men who
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decide who gets married no because a woman can say no or a woman can ask and a woman has the ability
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to be like look if you're not going to commit to me i'm going to walk away no i know but men can also
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say no to sex right but we understand that culturally when it comes to having sex it is women who decide
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get access yeah but women usually don't say no to marriage either
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the majority of women who are proposed to accept i don't yeah i don't know statistically also and
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again it's because what i mean is like you know you know that when you stay from the first day of a
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guy you know that he would have sex with you straight away so nine times out of ten a guy is
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ready to have sex before the woman that's why she has the power to who has sex right but also nine times
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it is the woman who is ready for the commitment so he decides who he commits to and i think that's
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what pearl is saying saying that when it comes to marriage i think here's the thing like before any
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woman has sex with a guy she has he has to qualify himself to her before she accepts that intimacy
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right so the same is true that women have to qualify themselves to men if they want relationship and
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commitment but then so this then falls back to the patriarchy why is it the women are the ones who are
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like i have to look good i have to be hairless but why do the men have to say oh i have to have a good
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job i have to like a girl could be unemployed a dude will still date her but like men have to
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qualify themselves to women too it's like like you're trying to like take away the things that
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men care about yeah and the things that like the things that women and men care about just are
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yeah well that's that's why i'm very i'm i'm so frustrating in that i'm very gray area i'm very so
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that's it i've had men that are broke men that are objective i'm gonna say objectively not very good
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looking men that are short men that actually bring little to the table other than being nice
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right and um so but would you would you prefer a man that like i would prefer yeah i would 100%
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prefer a man that brought me more offered me more but it didn't stop me from dating other men it
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didn't stop me right but then i think i'm i think i'm the anomaly in that but i'm saying like you would
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still prefer the man that had more just like the man would still prefer the woman that had had less
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guys yeah and i think like like it just is i'm not saying i mean i mean it's not like you know
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like double standards just are yeah i was gonna say as well do you not um i think the difference is
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that and this goes back to like what you were saying earlier what we've all said earlier is i
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understand the notion of you know you said oh but you should want someone who loves you for you
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but we all acknowledged earlier earlier that love isn't condition is not unconditional like love is
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very or if we say love at least who we choose is definitely conditional and some like you could
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meet a guy who you think oh he rocks my world intimacy wise but if you want to start having a
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family and he's really not doing anything with his life it's like you may really care about him but
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you may not choose him over the next guy who can do that for you does that make sense yeah and
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then i think it also depends upon like i'm gonna be real it really depends upon your mental health
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your well-being you're like so i settled for people who treat me like shit and if if someone
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from outside went amy this is what this guy is doing to me i'd be like are you confused like leave
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him like what the fuck um and yeah like i fully like agree with that i fully agree that like that's
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it's just not a simple yes or no back so would you would you would you then go back because love
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is conditional would you go back on your statement that like the man shouldn't love you for you
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like it's it's conditional based on the choices yeah like that's it so yeah that makes sense so
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so you would agree then to younger women we should tell you them that actions have consequences and
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going on only fans might not be the best action if you want a husband i think well that's the reality
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is that yeah it will it will have consequences yeah because it will some men won't care some men
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will care right you have to be okay and you have to be responsible to be like i know that if i'm on
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only fans some men are going to be like you're trash well and as long as you're okay with that
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then and especially the men you want just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized on a daily basis
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