JustPearlyThings - August 19, 2023


This Is Why Men Cheat


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8 minutes

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1,831

Sentence count

146

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Misogyny

24

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Toxicity

20

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17

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In this episode, we discuss cheating in a marriage and how to deal with it. We also talk about why women should or shouldn t cheat on their husband and how cheating is a huge issue in today's society. We also discuss if women should be allowed to leave a marriage if their husband cheats on them.

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00:00:00.000 And I think it's very rare to find a wife who's perfect.
00:00:03.680 Nobody's perfect.
00:00:04.620 Correct.
00:00:05.020 And so that's my point.
00:00:06.600 It's like, let's make sure we're clean and perfect before we break up.
00:00:11.260 But we're never going to be perfect.
00:00:12.020 Correct.
00:00:12.460 And that's my point.
00:00:13.640 Like, we have to remember.
00:00:14.640 But it still doesn't give someone the right to cheat on you.
00:00:15.280 It doesn't give him the right, but I'm saying men are human.
00:00:19.200 But they're not exactly the animal.
00:00:21.860 They're not animals, right?
00:00:22.780 They're human.
00:00:23.080 I'm not saying they're animals, but I'm saying I think it's silly to tell women to leave every time you get cheated on.
00:00:29.500 I agree with you.
00:00:30.580 Because sometimes, I think, again, it's a generational thing.
00:00:33.080 I agree with you.
00:00:33.900 Women now, again, are more inclined to go, okay, I'm done with it because this man's cheated me. 1.00
00:00:39.220 He's made me feel less than I am.
00:00:41.000 Because there's a thousand men who are trying to swipe into them, slide in their DMs because they have those options.
00:00:47.240 Whereas back in the day, it was like, oh, no, no, it's my husband.
00:00:49.340 I'm going to work on it.
00:00:50.060 I think it's really sad that in society nowadays that women think there's always something better. 1.00
00:00:55.020 Whereas you can just work on establishing that.
00:00:57.300 And I interview, like, I've heard stories of, like, moms where the mom left because she got cheated on.
00:01:02.820 The dad gets remarried.
00:01:03.820 The mom's single. 0.89
00:01:04.560 Is she better off now?
00:01:05.840 No.
00:01:06.340 Is that a better life for her? 0.99
00:01:08.320 And, like, I'm not excusing it.
00:01:09.920 I'm not saying it's okay.
00:01:10.840 But, like, we were supposed to be virgins on our wedding days.
00:01:14.680 If you think of the emotional distress of the woman that's going to have to stay with a man who's cheated on her,
00:01:18.880 you have to constantly, day by day, go think, who's he texting?
00:01:21.220 No, no, no, but you choose to do that.
00:01:23.500 No, it's hard to get over it.
00:01:25.460 It is a choice.
00:01:26.300 Well, in marriages, you're supposed to do hard things.
00:01:28.580 And women back in the day didn't have the choice. 1.00
00:01:30.540 That's the thing.
00:01:30.980 Whereas 2023, women do have the choice. 0.98
00:01:32.820 They have an option to do better than they have done, to accept, to realize they expect and they deserve more than they can.
00:01:39.080 Well, but, see, I let that deserve.
00:01:41.220 See, it's like.
00:01:41.560 Deserve.
00:01:41.780 Because women do deserve, as men deserve. 0.99
00:01:43.560 Men deserve something.
00:01:44.280 I don't think anyone deserves anything.
00:01:46.720 Everyone deserves anything.
00:01:47.260 I think if you commit, if you commit, if you commit into a relationship and you are married, one second,
00:01:53.040 if you commit to a relationship and you're married, it's a contractual agreement that you have decided you and me, we're a team, that's it.
00:01:59.780 And if someone breaks that, I do think it's, it's too easy nowadays to.
00:02:04.080 Do you think women, we should break it? 1.00
00:02:06.700 Do you think men should break the marriage contract because we're not coming in as virgins? 0.86
00:02:10.660 Should they not marry us? 0.92
00:02:11.720 No, they choose to marry you knowing full fact that that might not be the case, right?
00:02:15.000 So they already know that.
00:02:16.600 So that's, that's done and dusted.
00:02:18.120 Let's get over it.
00:02:19.000 Now it's the guy.
00:02:20.140 All right.
00:02:20.680 Let's get over it.
00:02:21.660 Should men break the marriage contract if a woman gets fat in a marriage? 1.00
00:02:26.300 Maybe.
00:02:26.940 Yes.
00:02:27.740 Wow.
00:02:28.260 I mean, it depends why she gets fat, right? 0.99
00:02:30.240 Why does it depend?
00:02:31.420 I don't know.
00:02:32.380 What if it's something he's done?
00:02:33.820 Does it depend why he cheated?
00:02:35.420 You never, you never ask the guys.
00:02:37.340 I just wanted to point this out.
00:02:38.500 So you said it depends on why she's getting fat. 1.00
00:02:41.100 So essentially.
00:02:41.540 What if it's a medical thing?
00:02:42.700 That's my point.
00:02:43.380 But essentially what you're trying to say is because some of the reasons why women get 0.97
00:02:46.880 fat is actually because of their hormones sometimes.
00:02:49.020 I know that.
00:02:49.500 Could be.
00:02:49.960 Good.
00:02:50.140 So what you're essentially saying is in a marriage, a man has to deal with a woman's 0.99
00:02:53.440 hormones. 0.99
00:02:53.900 So for instance, when she's on a period, we have to deal with all the bullshit that comes 1.00
00:02:57.240 with that. 0.99
00:02:57.760 When she gets fat because of our hormones, we have to deal with that. 1.00
00:03:00.680 But then you never think about the problems that men face with our own hormones, which
00:03:05.000 is testosterone.
00:03:06.240 That's true.
00:03:06.860 What have I got to do with being fat?
00:03:08.040 I actually hadn't finished what I was saying.
00:03:09.860 Go ahead.
00:03:10.240 Go ahead.
00:03:10.460 So with, thanks.
00:03:11.740 So with the, so if he does cheat or whatever, if he is sorry for cheating and he really
00:03:18.140 is making an effort to make it right, then I think you should probably try and make that
00:03:23.300 work because you've already made this, it's through thick and thin, good and bad, all that
00:03:27.560 stuff.
00:03:27.820 But if he has said, okay, I cheated on you and now I want the, the, the, the woman I 0.77
00:03:32.960 had an affair with to be my next girlfriend and I don't care about you, then what does the 0.86
00:03:37.100 wife is screwed? 1.00
00:03:37.680 It's, I think like, and again, you know, studies can say anything, but the studies I've seen, 0.98
00:03:42.480 it's like 50 to 70% of the time, it's a one to two time thing.
00:03:46.480 Yeah.
00:03:46.720 So it's like knowing that the majority of, of cheating is a one time thing.
00:03:50.860 I just think it's in our best interest to try to get through it.
00:03:54.180 And especially, I think it's tough for guys nowadays because women walk around half naked, 1.00
00:03:59.140 you know, like men have so much testosterone.
00:04:02.280 They should be able to, everyone should be able to, not naked, everyone keep your pants
00:04:06.140 on. 0.96
00:04:06.340 But I went to, I just went to Vegas and chicks had stickies on their boobs and they're walking 1.00
00:04:11.560 around no top or in a thong and just sit, you know, that's how you naturally are. 0.91
00:04:15.800 Why not?
00:04:16.320 Well, I think that's hard for men.
00:04:18.600 Like men have all of this testosterone, you know, that's a very tough.
00:04:22.460 They actually don't care about testosterone. 0.99
00:04:24.700 So you say women should be able to walk around naked and in the same breath, you're saying 0.97
00:04:28.320 men should be faithful to their wives.
00:04:30.340 But in the same breath, you're also saying that that same man that should be faithful to you
00:04:33.040 should be able to go out and accept the fact that every woman out there should just be 1.00
00:04:36.400 able to walk around naked.
00:04:37.540 If you go to a nudist beach, no one wants to have sex with any of them and they run around 0.96
00:04:42.260 naked all day long. 0.96
00:04:43.280 Okay, wait, wait, wait.
00:04:44.180 I just need to repeat this. 0.72
00:04:45.220 You think that the men don't want to have sex at nudist beach? 1.00
00:04:47.880 I mean, maybe one or two of them, but they're all pretty like, I don't like seeing the naked 1.00
00:04:51.880 people.
00:04:52.060 Okay, okay, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:04:53.300 I want you to just logically think through this. 0.95
00:04:55.320 You think that if the naked women went up to the men on the beach and offered them sex, 0.99
00:05:01.020 they would say no. 0.93
00:05:01.980 Have you seen them?
00:05:02.780 No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:05:04.520 I need a yes or a no.
00:05:07.520 I mean, I just don't cheat.
00:05:10.700 I think they're not in the mind frame.
00:05:12.100 No, no, I need a yes or a no. 0.99
00:05:13.800 They don't go around with their penises. 1.00
00:05:15.000 All right, all right, I'm going to ask the question again. 0.99
00:05:17.300 I'm going to ask the question again.
00:05:18.540 I don't think so.
00:05:19.220 Do you think the majority of men, if a naked woman is in front of them and offering them 1.00
00:05:26.220 You've changed the question.
00:05:26.360 Go to the nudist beach.
00:05:27.420 Okay, what is she on?
00:05:28.560 On the nudist beach, what is she?
00:05:30.700 Naked.
00:05:31.360 Okay.
00:05:31.620 On the nudist beach where everyone's naked.
00:05:33.360 I think no one cares.
00:05:34.160 Okay.
00:05:34.540 Okay, we're going to.
00:05:35.360 No, people do care.
00:05:36.280 How much of the population go to nudist beach?
00:05:38.280 You're actually talking about the niche type of people that go there for style of crazy.
00:05:40.780 Well, we started there.
00:05:42.980 I mean, it's quite a novel thing, right?
00:05:45.000 So, like, when I was in Barcelona and people were topless, I was like, God, this is amazing.
00:05:50.900 I have a question.
00:05:52.240 As a guy, for the guys in the room, would it be distracting if women walked around naked? 0.96
00:05:58.260 Not really.
00:05:59.060 I think they've all since looked at the funny.
00:06:02.740 It would be distracting for, like, a minute and then I'll get used to it.
00:06:06.580 Yeah, yeah.
00:06:07.700 He's like, try it.
00:06:08.860 I always find if I walk around and knock around like a guy, they don't even, like, it doesn't faze them anymore.
00:06:15.240 You know what I mean?
00:06:15.740 They get so used to it.
00:06:16.320 But that's the point. 0.99
00:06:17.620 Like, men are thrown sex at them all of the time. 0.97
00:06:20.620 Like, it's in our media. 0.98
00:06:22.040 We dress half naked.
00:06:24.220 And it's like, my whole point is maybe we can have a little empathy for the men, but it's like, it seems impossible here.
00:06:30.700 Like, there's, like, no empathy at all where we can kind of understand where they're coming from.
00:06:35.300 Yeah, because that's the thing.
00:06:36.360 Like, as King was trying to say as well, like, men produce 70 to 80 million sperm a day.
00:06:41.160 So, their hormones are raging.
00:06:42.860 And the reason that they do that is so that we can have a population on this earth and keep the world going.
00:06:47.920 So, when we know that men have that biological reality, the same way that we have a biological reality to have estrogen and testosterone and to be moody and not moody and all of these different things, why can't we accept that that's a biological fact for them?
00:07:01.120 And therefore, like Paul said, you know, obviously, the disrespect and all of these types of things, that's not okay.
00:07:06.600 We're not saying it's okay.
00:07:07.500 But if we can just accept the reality that men are sexual creatures for a reason, and that's why we're all here.
00:07:13.860 So, if a man is going to cheat, why does it have to be the absolute end of the world?
00:07:17.600 I just don't think it is.
00:07:18.700 Because if we know the reality for men, then that's, it's likely that it's going to happen. 0.92
00:07:23.240 The crazy thing is, the crazy thing is, in all of biology, like, if you look at different kinds of animals, the females have what you call, like, a mating strategy where they signal to the males whenever they want to mate.
00:07:36.540 Now, when it comes to human beings, human beings are the only species where the women use their mating signals just to play around. 1.00
00:07:47.600 So, literally, they dress half naked, and then they put red lipstick, and they say, we're doing it for ourselves.
00:07:54.660 That is crazy.
00:07:55.560 I don't mind if guys are looking at me like that.
00:07:57.540 I don't mind if guys are looking at me like that.