This Is Why Modern Women Are Delusional
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In this episode, we discuss beauty standards and what they mean to us and why they are the way they are as well as what they are not. Are beauty standards higher today than they were 100 years ago? Is there a difference between beauty standards in the UK and the rest of the world?
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what are beauty standards for me i okay i'm gonna say that it does come from within however i'd be
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lying if i would say that you don't look at beauty like you can tell in the uk but like
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who is attractive and who isn't you just know that so to say that it comes from within i think yes
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that's the general statement for anyone to make because nobody wants to sound like oh they're
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being shallow but realistically speaking the majority of society are shallow you do look at
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people and what they look like yeah okay so you would say it's based on looks yeah it is what
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what metrics would you use to measure someone's beauty um for me personally um is it men or women
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uh women women um it would for me i look at a woman's if i can strip back everything in terms of
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like the makeup the hair the the nails and to me i can see her as beautiful then she's beautiful but
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that's just me again my preference okay uh what do you think troy what are beauty standards
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i mean look i think it's entirely physical to be honest i don't want to sound cynical here but i
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think that's what people look at i think it's nice to say it's from within and there's yeah sure i mean
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there's some truth in that but i think let's let's let's be let's be real the dating marketplace it's a
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kind of a jungle out there right what are people looking at they're looking at the aesthetics right
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they're looking at the surface now that's not to say that you meet somebody and maybe they have a
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really obnoxious personality and you think actually i'm put off from that or they've got something about
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them that that's really great and you guys click and that adds something to it 100 that's that's
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definitely true but let's let's be honest right it's a surface level thing there are there are
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aesthetic standards and that's what people mean when they're talking about beauty
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i don't think the standards are particularly high in the uk but that's just that's just me though
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guys sorry for men as well for men as well for men as well for men as well yeah if you go to miami
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you get humbled real quick well miami but also like latin america i mean eastern europe all those places
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oh yeah yeah i went to a wedding in germany it was like all the girls were like literally stunning
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yeah um okay what do you think yeah i do agree i feel like it is based on how a woman looks i feel
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like as she mentioned if a woman's got her nails done hair done you've got yourself together men do
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like that it is you know quite obvious as well a man especially a regular man in the uk i don't feel
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like they would go for just a basic looking woman yeah they would go for a woman who's you know got
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themselves put together got their nails done they look good and yeah i don't really agree when
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they said that it's within it's just my opinion anyways i feel like if someone looks good then
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that's what attracts attracts men as well yeah what do you think um i agree to an extent with who
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i definitely feel as though beauty is an attraction i feel like if someone's attracted to you they're
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gonna think you're beautiful regardless however i do not agree that um just because you're well done
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up that then implicates that you're beautiful you know i don't have no makeup on now i'm very much
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beautiful um i don't need makeup to define my beauty um i think um yeah i don't need makeup to
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define my beauty however you know i do definitely feel like you have to be attracted to someone in
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order for you to think that they are beautiful do you guys think that beauty standards are higher
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were higher 100 years ago or today today definitely today today definitely today is there anyone that
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thinks they were higher 100 years ago anyone no because if you look back at old black and white
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photographs from the victorian era and then you look at you just do a scroll through instagram now
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i mean i mean like it's night and day in terms of in terms of hotness and i think that's down to a
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number of things it's like to do with nutrition it's to do with fitness it's to do with the fact
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that we're all encouraged to work out now uh makeup you know clothing there's so many different things
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bits of surgery and procedures and stuff i mean there's so many different things that come into it so i think
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yeah definitely overall you know people are more aesthetically pleasing now it was probably only the
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rich people that were super hot back in there that's what i was gonna say i was gonna say i
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feel like um things are more accessible now so yeah makeup is like it's you know less i don't know
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about pricing but i feel like surgery is more accessible to people and stuff yeah and i feel like
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that's probably why the standards are a little bit higher yeah do women respond when beauty standards go
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higher do you think that women do you feel like we like step up to the plate we yeah yeah and how
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how do we respond typically we follow the trend yeah we we follow the trend what trends so like the
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bbl trend that's happening at the moment i feel like it's going down now but um yeah i guess we just
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follow the trend like um what else is it like makeup yeah i disagree a little bit because i don't follow
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like all the latest trends all the time sometimes it's overwhelming to me so i try to do what is best
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for me and obviously we live in this society where social media is like is everything so everyone is
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bombarded with all these images but it doesn't mean that i'm gonna follow any single trend that's up
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there because it's overwhelming to me so um does beauty standards include weight yes to an extent
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i think yeah yeah does anyone think it doesn't yeah i don't think so anymore i don't i don't think so
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anymore i feel like um i feel like all shapes and sizes right now i might be wrong are accepted so um
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i just feel like for me personally it's based on how well how well you keep yourself and how put together
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you look not about your size that's just me personally do you think men think the same thing
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yeah i actually i actually think so i actually yeah i think it depends yeah yeah no but in general so
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we could talk about in general would you say men care or they don't care about weight in general
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care hence why girls are out here doing bbls i think it depends on nobody i don't think it's
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is bbl the bum thing yeah yeah yeah yeah do you think women are more put together today than 100
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years ago definitely yeah definitely yeah i don't know you look at some old some of these old pictures
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though seriously you see like these dusty old like photographs sometimes you see i mean they're not
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looking good you know the ladies weren't representing back then you know what i mean then back then it
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might have been a thing that's how they were meant to look yeah it's true it's true yeah those days
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were like oh yeah they're beautiful yeah yeah it's true look at them now but back then yeah she was hot
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it was more natural though back in the days it was like you know beauty is like today's like oh you
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need to be the perfect the perfect maker and i don't think they cared much but don't you think the one
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thing i've observed like here and also in the states a little bit as well is that a lot of there's
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a seems to be this fashion now for women wearing quite baggy clothes have you noticed like if you
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go to a shopping mall or something like that during the daytime a lot of the women are wearing like
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quite baggy jeans quite baggy and and maybe less makeup and stuff which sort of goes counter to that
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instagram thing in a way doesn't it because i think just looking around the streets i think a lot of
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women are dressing up sort of a bit less certainly during the daytime here but then if you go to say
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poland or if you go to ukraine or something like well prior to the you know the war um you would
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see a very different sort of story so i think in the west it feels like um i don't say standards are
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falling but it seems like a more casualness is sort of accepted into for women because i see more yoga
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pants and sweat i would say i see more yoga pants and sweats than i did 20 like 10 years ago let's say
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when i was 26 when i was 16. you know it was like i don't know because you guys are different about yoga
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pants a little bit but in the us they're like super common but i remember it was like a fight
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on facebook about if yoga pants were acceptable in public i don't know if you guys have that here
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if that was just an american fight i was in i was in la recently and i saw there was a lot of yoga
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pants going on down in sort of um venice and venice beach and like places like that yeah so my question
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is if beauty standards are higher and women respond to beauty standards why are women more overweight
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today and we dress up less is that stats that you have by any chance yeah and the 19 i mean there's
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no stat on dressing up that's just anecdotal um but when it comes to weight only 10 of women were
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overweight in the 40s where 60 of women in the uk are overweight 70 in america you gotta remember
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that in the olden days they had this thing where they used to wear corsets in order to line their
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bodies so they had this that was their trend you know that isn't the trend here so you gotta understand
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that as times as society changes so does the trends i guess no yeah but my question is more like if
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women respond to beauty standards and women actually cared about beauty standards like why are we more
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overweight and we dress up less because of the food that we eat right but that kind of indicates that
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we don't care as much as we say we do like because we're supposed to be under this immense pressure
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right from society but it doesn't seem like our looks are getting better as a whole i think again
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if you compare other societies because like before the you know the in the west sorry but just yeah
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just just as a counterpoint though so when like in 2021 i was in spent quite a lot of time in in russia
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and then and then also in ukraine prior to what's happening now and um it is a very different story
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though you do get a lot of women who are very elegant they're still wearing you know maybe heels
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slightly less during the daytime but you know what i mean very very elegant wearing dresses all the
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time but very very feminine in a way that you don't see so much here and i think that's got
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something to do with feminism to be honest or at least the the tide of because society is telling
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women you you don't have to make why you don't have to make an effort for it sounds very crude but
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you don't have to make an effort for men right because why should you right because you are you're enough in
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yourself okay um and and i think that's got something to do with it to be to be honest you
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know i don't think society is and i'm not saying society should be compelling women to do that but
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i don't think it is whereas i think in some of those other countries that are arguably a little bit more
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patriarchal let's say um there is still that pressure and so women are dressing up more and
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also they have to compete with one another because otherwise if you're the the girl who's you know just
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just not not bothering and everyone else is then you're gonna kind of get left to the side aren't you
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