This Is Why Simps Are The Enemy
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Summary
In this episode, I sit down with men's rights advocate and advocate for men's issues to discuss what it means to be a man in the modern family court system, why divorce is a problem for men, and how to deal with it.
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what are what are some other red flags so you said frustration telling her no
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shallowness and how can a guy test i mean i guess shallowness and materialism you can kind
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of see it's like it'll present itself it'll present itself and here's the problem though
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i'm talking about things that are red flags and women these are actually red flags and men
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yeah the fact of the matter is for every gold digger out there there's some guy in a jewelry
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store buying her a tennis bracelet men reward women for that shallow materialism that's how
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they bring them in and of course that creates more shallow women so it's a vicious cycle
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um but that's one of the things i suggest men look for because if you think that she has an
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attitude of entitlement about your money when you meet her just imagine what her attitude
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about your money is going to be during a divorce right right that's so true so
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what motivated you to become an advocate for men's rights and create a voice for men
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i'm a guy that likes the underdog and i went most of my life not even knowing that men were underdogs
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as a matter of fact i would i don't recall ever actually saying it but i would have considered
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myself a feminist at one point when i was naive enough to think that women were the underdogs
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once i woke up to that it just became a different underdog that i was pushing for
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what do you think are the most pressing issues that men face today suicide is nearly at the at the top
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of the list you know suicide rate for men is four times what it is for women right under that and
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connected to that is the egregious rollback of civil rights that men experience in family courts
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um their civil rights are just squashed and stepped on in star chamber like activity and that's a huge
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problem which makes marriage a problem um other than that men's those things are stacked against men
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all the rest of it i put on men their poor choices is their biggest challenge
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they choose terrible women to bond with they make terrible financial decisions around women they
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literally send their their ships against the rocks
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why why do you think like family court is so bad like it baffles like the more i've done the document
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i really didn't understand why men wanted to get like didn't want to get married until i started doing
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this stuff but it's so crazy to me when i hear their stories like one guy had a woman plotting to like
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get him to hit her or get her to hit him and he shows me the text so like people think i make this
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up and i'm like no i i saw the case files like i looked at them and literally she still got custody
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like a woman that was plotting against her her husband trying to get him to abuse her and lied
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about it in court said that he raped her and then also they proved that she was lying they still gave
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her custody it's like why is it so lopsided i'll give you another example of this and then i'll get
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back around to answering the question as best i can i worked with a lieutenant colonel air force lieutenant
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colonel out of west virginia who was married to a borderline personality female very crazy at one
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point he was trying to leave the home with his daughter and he was in an suv with her and the
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wife jumps up on the hood of the car and starts smashing the windshield in with a coke bottle he
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captured it on video to to show the court what kind of behavior he was dealing with and the judge
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admonished him for violating her privacy and threw the video out of evidence
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there's two reasons for this one is just a natural social bias that we have toward women rescuing women
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family courts are a factory for damsels in distress and they play on our gynocentrism of the times and
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women get preferential treatment the other thing is that it's money the courts tend to go after we find
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that even female celebrities now that have a lot of money they're getting screwed over in family courts
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out of tons of cash it's about the money the courts go after whoever has the most income
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that's what they want and that's where their bread and butter is
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well it's funny because they almost punish the men for doing the traditional thing which is to work
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it's like we want the men that work and provide but if they work and provide then they'll say oh
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you weren't with the kids enough it's like well not only that you you work and provide not only were
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you not with the kids enough but you set up a lifestyle your work and provision becomes the excuse
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for her to take it during the divorce i'm dependent on him i didn't have a career i stayed at home
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and so i've become accustomed to this life and that becomes a rationale it's why it's one of the things
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i bring up when men talk about starting traditional relationships and getting married
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i want them to understand that when you arrive in family court your work to take care of your family
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is the very thing they're going to use to take it from you after the marriage is over wow so how would
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you is there is the legal system fixable like are there any laws that could be passed that would fix this
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no i think short of cans of kerosene and and torches and pitchforks no i i don't think it's fixable i
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think the family court is if you look into it uh into title 4d into just the the ramped corruption
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what's that i don't know what title title 4d is part of the social security act and what basically it
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boils down to is the courts get paid for collecting child support from the federal government family
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courts are the only courts in the country that make a profit they actually make money because
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they're getting paid to collect but guess what they're not getting paid to they're not getting
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paid to enforce visitation so they largely ignore the complaints the money is in collecting child support
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but why do they set it up like why do they set it up like that
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i think it's all about the benjamins baby it's about the money