JustPearlyThings - April 15, 2023


This LEADS To The Destruction Of Modern Men


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11 minutes

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219

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In this episode, we talk about consent and sexual assault in relationships and how to protect yourself and your partner in the legal system. We also talk about how to deal with a partner cheating on you and what to do about it.

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00:00:00.000 The one client that basically, um, he built the whole, you know, financial situation.
00:00:05.080 The wife was staying home with the kids and he came home one day early from work and his
00:00:09.920 wife was with another guy and you know, the guy was like running out the back door or
00:00:13.560 whatever.
00:00:14.040 But what's interesting is that she ended up getting the whole house, like almost full
00:00:18.000 custody of the kids and like totally ruined his life, but he didn't do anything wrong.
00:00:22.040 Right.
00:00:22.420 Just the way the system is set up.
00:00:23.700 And that doesn't mean like, oh, everyone needs to go MGTOW now and don't ever get married.
00:00:27.240 But that really like calls into question here.
00:00:29.880 That was not even something he did.
00:00:32.380 You know, he didn't do anything wrong, but the courts are going to side with the woman 1.00
00:00:35.000 in most cases in the Western world.
00:00:37.020 Yeah.
00:00:37.200 And that's, it's hard because there's not really a way to avoid it out here.
00:00:42.820 Cause even the guy that I talked to the other day, he wasn't legally married.
00:00:46.280 It was just, you don't even need to be married.
00:00:49.400 Like it's just, it's so easy.
00:00:51.380 Like as soon as you go through the doctor, like that day, they will send you to like,
00:00:56.540 the, do you know someone that's happened to?
00:01:01.100 Yeah.
00:01:01.600 That's why I, tell me, tell me what happened.
00:01:04.000 Um, so I know somebody that was in, just in a normal relationship, no problem, whatever,
00:01:11.480 but they needed housing.
00:01:13.900 Yeah.
00:01:14.760 Like there's nothing to do with a partner.
00:01:16.860 So they just created their own partner in the head, got into a refuge.
00:01:22.820 No way.
00:01:23.800 Waited a year, was in temporary housing and then got into a flat.
00:01:28.940 So they even need like any type of evidence?
00:01:30.220 You don't need evidence.
00:01:31.940 Like now, nowadays they're cracking onto it more, but I know back then it was easy.
00:01:37.920 If you, if I said I'm in a, they don't even need to know the guy.
00:01:40.880 Like if I just, and I literally, they don't need to be a fake person and I'm not saying
00:01:45.400 like, I haven't done that or live at home.
00:01:47.200 I'm just saying an example, right?
00:01:48.760 People, but that's how easy it is in the UK.
00:01:51.980 Like people take advantage of the system.
00:01:54.740 So.
00:01:55.040 Yeah.
00:01:55.240 The number of abuse allegations increased, uh, 200% when they implemented that law.
00:02:00.840 I think it was 2013.
00:02:01.800 Um, so yeah.
00:02:03.900 It's like, you're getting it.
00:02:04.760 You're getting it.
00:02:05.360 You're getting it.
00:02:06.200 Yeah.
00:02:06.460 Not saying that that doesn't happen though.
00:02:08.100 I'm not being sensitive, but I'm just being real.
00:02:10.980 Do you guys think, okay, if the roles were reversed and we had those repercussions for being
00:02:15.320 with men, would you change your behavior?
00:02:18.360 I, I wouldn't talk to anyone.
00:02:19.860 You wouldn't talk to anyone.
00:02:21.020 You know what's funny?
00:02:21.720 I think.
00:02:22.540 I'm, I'm curious.
00:02:23.360 I haven't heard from you yet.
00:02:24.460 So I want to hear.
00:02:25.320 Eggshells.
00:02:25.780 I would be walking on eggshells.
00:02:27.500 I would be so paranoid.
00:02:28.600 It'd be paranoid to the point where it's like, it's not even a point in talking to anyone.
00:02:32.500 I would just do me focus on me.
00:02:34.240 If someone comes my way, they come my way.
00:02:35.720 I wouldn't even go out looking for people because I would be so scared of what could
00:02:40.040 come from it legally.
00:02:41.340 Some guys, um, put ring all over their apartment.
00:02:45.820 So they can't say that anything that was consensual, like wasn't consensual.
00:02:51.240 Yeah.
00:02:51.480 But then wouldn't that be, um, like they're recording it without your consent.
00:02:56.300 I have no idea if that's legal.
00:02:57.860 You can't record sex acts.
00:03:00.140 That's where they draw the line.
00:03:01.240 Right.
00:03:01.440 So like, I advise clients to have like, you know, at least a camera outside your house
00:03:05.580 or in situations where it is legal.
00:03:07.000 So you can show, I actually spoke to a lawyer about this because I, cause I've been sleeping
00:03:11.160 with a lot of girls.
00:03:12.020 I said, how do I protect myself?
00:03:13.320 And he said, oh, just send a text.
00:03:14.460 Did you have a good time?
00:03:15.220 I said, that's not guaranteed.
00:03:16.400 They're going to respond even if they did.
00:03:18.280 Right.
00:03:18.760 So an objective empirical account that shows like this person's leaving on good terms and this
00:03:22.820 and that.
00:03:23.480 I've never had any accusation luckily with, with all these girls, but I have plenty
00:03:27.800 of clients that have.
00:03:28.660 And a lot of the times, like I mentioned before, it's because the person cheated and
00:03:32.200 then they just want to save the marriage.
00:03:33.620 And it's like, you know, there's no consequence for doing that really if the girl is lying,
00:03:38.380 which is unfortunate.
00:03:39.300 I think just proceed with caution is what I would say.
00:03:44.600 And, you know, just, yeah, just like, I don't know, like in some countries it's a bit more
00:03:50.220 strict.
00:03:51.100 I feel like even though the UK might say some of these things, I haven't actually heard
00:03:56.460 them until today.
00:03:58.020 Can I just say something also?
00:03:59.940 So I think also in the West, and it's naturally, right?
00:04:04.900 A lot of, a lot of men go after these type of women and they, they like them. 1.00
00:04:11.220 It's attractive.
00:04:12.100 These type of women that will, how would I say the word? 1.00
00:04:16.760 Crazy.
00:04:17.600 No, no, no.
00:04:18.460 They will F them up.
00:04:20.360 Oh, okay.
00:04:20.800 Yeah.
00:04:21.040 Yeah.
00:04:21.260 Because they're attractive.
00:04:22.580 They're sexy.
00:04:23.620 They're whatever it is.
00:04:24.440 But you don't understand, you turned around, like you created that monster.
00:04:29.220 Women have to be looking that certain way, wait, that certain way, blah, blah, blah. 1.00
00:04:32.840 She needs to da-da-da. 1.00
00:04:34.900 And then this woman become your worst enemy because this woman is a gold digger. 1.00
00:04:39.160 She has to keep maintaining her looks, her, you know, going out every night in these type 1.00
00:04:45.360 of restaurants.
00:04:46.180 And she will use you and abuse you. 1.00
00:04:48.180 But we, men, most of the time are attracted to these type of women and they complain about 1.00
00:04:52.860 what these women do for them, but they don't honor a lot of nice girls that they don't 1.00
00:04:58.140 look like 10 out of 10.
00:05:00.000 It's the same in reverse too, right?
00:05:01.040 Like women, women don't want a nice guy. 1.00
00:05:02.620 A hundred percent.
00:05:03.460 It's, it's natural.
00:05:04.680 People are just attracted to drama.
00:05:06.500 Exactly.
00:05:07.280 It is attractive.
00:05:08.160 I also, I also think that men, you, you really don't know what someone's going to do when
00:05:13.560 they're, when they're scorned, when they're pissed off.
00:05:16.000 And I think you can see a different side of people when there's a breakup.
00:05:20.120 But that's what I'm saying.
00:05:21.000 And that's the thing.
00:05:21.640 It's not that like women are worse than men or men are worse than women, but it's that
00:05:26.680 women are given the tools to destroy men if they so want to. 1.00
00:05:31.300 Yeah.
00:05:31.600 It would be so interesting to see what type of world we'd be living in when that's been
00:05:35.740 reversed.
00:05:36.440 Yeah.
00:05:36.680 Well, I mean, you could go back a hundred years ago.
00:05:38.860 It wasn't the, no fault divorce started in the nineties, seventies.
00:05:44.060 I don't remember, but a hundred years ago, it wasn't like that.
00:05:46.860 Or look at the East.
00:05:48.420 Yeah.
00:05:48.540 But see, that was one of the problems.
00:05:50.300 Cause when men did have that power, society saw some men as abusing it.
00:05:55.040 So, you know, there was a natural sense, you know, to kind of balance it.
00:05:59.460 But like I said, it's just the pendulum has gone too far.
00:06:01.680 And I think what's happened is people have just lost their balls.
00:06:04.080 People are not courageous enough to say enough.
00:06:07.020 You know, men and women come together and say, it's enough.
00:06:09.200 It's gone too far.
00:06:10.240 Everybody is suffering.
00:06:11.900 How can we do it together?
00:06:12.680 And we've created this polarized world where everyone's on each other's back.
00:06:16.380 You know, men against women, black against white, rich against poor. 0.60
00:06:18.720 And no one's come together and say, what kind of society do we want to live in?
00:06:22.720 And how courageous do we need to be to create it?
00:06:25.340 It's not going to be perfect.
00:06:26.440 And there's always going to be losers, but we need to create this because everyone's suffering.
00:06:29.640 But no one's doing that.
00:06:30.880 And it feels like society and the powers that be have created this.
00:06:34.020 Like what you just said, Pearl.
00:06:35.000 I mean, the fact that you've got rumble on standby just shows.
00:06:37.380 There's a lot of, I know you have a lot of your detractors and a lot of your hates.
00:06:40.980 I get it.
00:06:41.300 But there is something really important about what you're trying to say.
00:06:44.560 Same way Kevin Samuels, God rest his soul.
00:06:46.840 There's a lot of stuff that people are trying to say, but the minute they say it, they're
00:06:50.160 shut down.
00:06:50.940 But we need to hear these point of views.
00:06:52.680 How can we say it when there's so much things coming out?
00:06:56.280 Like now you have to think of it, well, not in my world, but now it's not just male and
00:07:02.680 female.
00:07:03.740 There's like all the in between.
00:07:05.360 There's all of this intersectionality going on.
00:07:07.580 So how can we even say everybody stop and let's do it this way or let's try to do it.
00:07:14.260 We can't because we've got to think of this one, this one, this one and this one.
00:07:17.880 Do you know what it is?
00:07:18.280 It's almost like the majority of people are sensible thinking, but people are scared.
00:07:21.780 And I think we're letting the agenda be run by the fringes.
00:07:24.700 It's a minority.
00:07:25.180 It's a minority of people.
00:07:25.560 You're talking about intersexual people.
00:07:27.840 Like what percent of people are even trans or heishi, whatever the hell it is. 1.00
00:07:33.320 It's like what, one, two percent of the population and we all have to cater to them?
00:07:37.240 Yeah, the kids in the schools, that's how it's, well, not in the real world, but I feel like on social media, that's what they're catering to.
00:07:45.460 It's like in the schools, I'm scared to, you know, have my kids go to actual school.
00:07:52.340 I'll homeschool my kids if by the time I have children, there's certain because I don't want them to think that's okay.
00:07:59.380 I don't want them to think, yeah, I don't want them to, like, for example, like Peppa Pig, right?
00:08:04.040 This one sounds so random, but about two months ago, I saw on Peppa Pig, they changed it.
00:08:09.740 It was like same sex sort of thing.
00:08:11.740 And I don't have a problem or whatever with same sex or lesbian or whatever, but my child seeing that and say, like, a mummy and a mummy can't have a baby. 0.88
00:08:22.960 Like, that's the reality.
00:08:23.900 Well, it's like, why do they need to know?
00:08:25.500 Why do they need to know?
00:08:26.400 That they're so innocent.
00:08:28.240 Like, they're just, if they want to, exactly, like, now it's more like force, force.
00:08:33.380 Not saying that I'm against anything, no.
00:08:36.140 I'm just saying now it's more pressure.
00:08:38.480 And it's popular.
00:08:39.520 Yeah, and it's a trend.
00:08:40.980 It's a trend to be bisexual. 1.00
00:08:42.400 There's so many girls I know, especially, like, our age group, like, 21, it's like, yeah, I'm bisexual.
00:08:48.360 Like, it's a trend, you know, so.
00:08:51.880 So, guys, what is more important to you when looking at a guy?
00:08:59.380 Money or looks?
00:09:02.300 I have a third one, I'm not going to lie.
00:09:04.160 Yeah, I've got a third one as well.
00:09:05.880 Yeah, same.
00:09:06.400 You've got to pick one of the two looks.
00:09:07.980 Money.
00:09:08.820 Money?
00:09:09.640 Yeah.
00:09:10.540 No, but if I say money, it's going to sound like I'm a gold digger.
00:09:14.520 Don't worry about that.
00:09:15.260 No, don't be watching it.
00:09:16.200 I think you're authentic and that's a problem with people and they're not authentic.
00:09:18.540 You know what, yeah?
00:09:19.000 I'm going to be real.
00:09:19.940 Let me keep it real, baby.
00:09:21.820 Money.
00:09:22.560 Money.
00:09:23.520 Yeah.
00:09:23.880 Same.
00:09:24.440 Money?
00:09:24.820 Yeah.
00:09:26.060 Money.
00:09:26.960 Money.
00:09:27.260 Shoot.
00:09:27.820 Money.
00:09:28.260 Actually, I think I changed my mind, you know.
00:09:30.080 Wait.
00:09:30.840 No, but.
00:09:31.380 Looks ain't going to pay the bills, baby.
00:09:33.660 And they're not going to pay the bills.
00:09:35.000 That's it.
00:09:36.360 Yeah, you're so right.
00:09:37.300 After what I've been through, money.
00:09:39.160 Money.
00:09:39.500 Definitely.
00:09:39.780 So, if you were advising guys, would you tell them to get their money up first or their fitness if they only
00:09:45.300 had time for one?
00:09:46.640 Fitness.
00:09:47.500 Oh, sorry.
00:09:48.560 No money.
00:09:49.620 Fitness.
00:09:49.900 I'm just curious if the results you guys have seen are the same.
00:09:53.460 What's interesting for me, like, I was bringing this up on the King Riches podcast yesterday,
00:09:57.020 is that I've had tons of broke clients that spent the last of their money on my training
00:10:01.440 and got rock star level results.
00:10:04.240 Like, just getting tons of girls living at home, like, doesn't matter. 1.00
00:10:07.940 Like, I've found that money is very, very, very, like, almost irrelevant.
00:10:11.660 Really?
00:10:12.040 As long as the guy's not living in poverty.
00:10:13.380 I know online, like, everyone thinks.
00:10:15.040 Yeah, that's so true.
00:10:15.520 There's, like, so many Red Pill creators that are, like, get the bag and all this stuff.
00:10:19.200 But in practice, that's total BS.
00:10:22.060 But don't you think money makes a guy more confident and more, like, he's worthy for...
00:10:27.840 I get the other side of the coin, though.
00:10:28.920 I get a lot of, like, millionaire clients.
00:10:30.380 I was telling you before the show, a billionaire client.
00:10:33.240 And they're just trying to lead with that.
00:10:35.300 So they're like, I'm just going to pick her up in the Ferrari.
00:10:37.500 I think show the house.
00:10:38.620 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:10:39.180 A guy being in touch with his masculinity is what makes him attractive.
00:10:42.460 And he doesn't need money for the reason.
00:10:43.560 But we were given that option.
00:10:44.700 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:10:48.580 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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