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00:00:00.000 do you guys think you are above average and why do you think you deserve an above average man

00:00:06.520 if so above average in like what sense like um the things that men want um

00:00:16.420 oh my gosh i don't know honestly like i couldn't really say i don't think i'm like average i don't

00:00:25.960 think i'm above i think i'm like in between but like i don't really so you think you're average or

00:00:31.800 you don't think you're average no i don't think i'm average but i feel like seeing above average

00:00:36.560 i don't really know if i am above average though because it just depends on different stuff okay

00:00:41.620 but like i don't try to go for a guy that's like above average realistically um for me like i'm not

00:00:48.080 too picky when it comes to um materialistic things and stuff like that and your job title and this

00:00:53.820 this is but what i've like learned from like going for guys who have like average jobs and stuff like

00:00:59.740 that which is like the only thing i've been used to is that like i would rather just now like i'd

00:01:06.300 rather have fun with it and go for musician if he's gonna cheat he's gonna cheat because imagine

00:01:09.820 getting cheated on by a guy who drives the 332 like you drive a red bus that's the issue that i have

00:01:15.360 with men is that it doesn't actually matter their title like if they want to play you they'll play 0.98

00:01:20.860 so like i said i don't usually go for above average guys but i might try i don't know

00:01:25.820 but it's still this personally for me i feel like it's still the same end game okay but my question

00:01:30.440 is do you think you're above average so you said yes i think i think i'm like in between but i'm

00:01:36.140 just gonna say yeah i'm just gonna rate myself okay okay that's that's fine there's nothing wrong

00:01:39.820 with saying that um so you think you're above average so and why do you think um like what do you

00:01:44.240 bring to the table to an above average guy what do i bring to an above average guy yeah like i'm

00:01:49.660 asking like what because um i'm a sweetheart like i just feel like i'm quite nice i can drive i'm

00:01:57.660 fun you know like that's why i said i don't really know in what sense you mean above average because

00:02:01.580 it could be like above average like financially or like ambitiously or like physically and stuff like

00:02:05.580 men don't care about like that's the thing they care mostly i feel like men mostly care about looks

00:02:10.540 wise and looks wise i'm never gonna sit here and say that i'm not above average because i rate it myself

00:02:15.020 but in terms of what i just like there's other things that men look for that's the thing but in

00:02:19.580 terms of what i what makes me above average for an above average guy i couldn't really answer that

00:02:25.100 yet just because i haven't actually experienced an above average guy if that makes sense i feel like

00:02:31.020 how tall was your ex-boyfriend um six foot one i think okay so that's top 15 probably 10 percent of men

00:02:39.180 yeah so that's above average how much did he make roughly i don't know i never asked you don't have

00:02:45.100 any guess i actually don't know were you the one that said banker he was a bank no that was he wasn't

00:02:51.100 what did you say he did football and um some oh the gym the gym yeah okay so that's so i i genuinely

00:02:58.060 couldn't tell you how much he was making plus i don't know but at least in looks he was probably

00:03:01.660 above average if he works at a gym and he's six one yeah so okay if we're talking about looks yeah

00:03:07.740 yeah so so i don't i don't think you're going for average man but i thought you meant above average

00:03:13.180 like you know wears a suit drives a maserati to work like that's what i think when i think above

00:03:18.700 my average i feel like the guy that i was talking to is my norm i feel like he's very much on my level

00:03:24.380 because your height and stuff like that you just happen to be taller than me but like if you own a

00:03:29.900 business or if you have like all of these things for me personally that's like above my average

00:03:34.780 yeah i mean there's a couple things that girls look for so it's like you know there's looks which 0.85

00:03:38.540 height goes into and then there's money um status so um i would say most girls the guys they go for 1.00

00:03:44.860 are above average in some way but i feel like um because you know only like 20 percent of men are

00:03:50.220 sexually active you'd have to but but essentially like 20 percent of men are sleeping with like 80

00:04:05.340 of women because the number one way the number one way people are meeting nowadays is dating apps and 1.00

00:04:10.060 that's five and women only swipe right five percent of the time that's crazy yeah and like women find 1.00

00:04:15.340 80 percent of men is unattractive like not not okay not they think they're ugly so i mean i guess

00:04:22.940 it's not to say that like the other ones don't ever get in the door but for the most part women go for 1.00

00:04:27.660 20 percent of men oh that's interesting i didn't know that yeah and they did the studies in person

00:04:33.260 because i know a lot of people will say oh well we don't find 80 of men as ugly but yeah they did the

00:04:37.420 studies like in person and on dating apps and like literally 80 of men ugly i wonder what why that is

00:04:43.100 though is it purely based on looks those dads because it's swiping so it's purely based on looks

00:04:47.820 right because i feel like women looks when it comes to men women don't really care that much about

00:04:54.540 looks as long as you're well put together we're more concerned with height height is like i'm not

00:04:59.180 concerned about but usually men don't look taller than me usually men don't look as good in pictures

00:05:03.660 as well so if it's just dating apps then you can't really go just off of no but it's not just going

00:05:08.300 off of that it's in person too like they raided the men in person and they also thought they were ugly

00:05:13.500 that's so interesting maybe because women are way more beautiful features there's way more like 1.00

00:05:18.220 different attributes i mean it's just women wear makeup so we got boobs and like we got we got 1.00

00:05:23.420 things that like sexually no but like for like towards a man like yeah but he could do it he could do a

00:05:27.820 top list photo yeah i think women just have higher standards like they actually say that women um 1.00

00:05:32.140 judge like men heart more harsh on appearance than men judge women

00:05:35.820 i think i wouldn't have thought that yeah men swipe right around 50 of the time women swipe right 0.99

00:05:43.100 five so even if let's just say we tripled it like in person she finds three times as many people

00:05:47.100 attractive it's still only 15 i think that's contributing to why women are just single and 1.00

00:05:51.580 uh yeah you know rates are going up for why women are not really married and single by 25 and 30 because 1.00

00:05:57.900 yeah the standards are definitely going high

00:06:01.820 so uh the same question though like what would you say you bring outside of looks

00:06:06.940 um outside of looks um okay obviously like personality um and just morals as well and like ambition worth

00:06:17.260 ethic i feel like i'm not really the type to just kind of sit down and just be by me like

00:06:21.900 i'm always trying to like better myself and work harder and stuff like that which i personally feel

00:06:26.460 like is a good thing because i want that in a guy too i feel like that's a very attractive thing to

00:06:30.620 like be ambitious and then other than that um i can keep i can cook a few bits and bobs nothing too crazy

00:06:37.900 um like i said like i can actually drive so i'm not gonna be like oh my guy needs to have a car and

00:06:42.940 i can't drive like she can actually have a car um and then i'm very like family oriented i have good morals

00:06:49.020 like like i said i feel like personality no i feel like looks is it can only get you so far

00:06:54.140 i feel like like your soul like internally you have like you have to check those boxes too so i

00:06:58.940 feel like i check those boxes as well okay uh what about you um do you think you're above average

00:07:04.860 and what do you bring to an above average man yes i do think i'm above average uh what do i bring to the table

00:07:13.660 um i just feel like yeah looks is like one thing it's the surface right but i take pride in my

00:07:21.500 appearance so it's not just like makeup and all of like oh getting botox or lip fillers and stuff

00:07:26.620 it's not that i'm talking about facials manicures pedicures like health and well-being going to the

00:07:32.780 gym like going to the doctors like these type of things like beyond the surface like i actually really

00:07:38.140 take care of myself like moisturizing like i know it sounds like oh i just cream my skin but like i

00:07:44.060 take really good pride in that like my skin is really soft so i'm happy about that um that's just

00:07:49.100 on the surface but then like in terms of other things like as a woman i just feel like i'm very

00:07:53.420 nurturing maybe it's my stuff to do my style sign if you guys believe in that stuff or it's just me my

00:07:58.540 just biological makeup but i'm very nurturing um in terms of like my duties in the household like

00:08:04.300 cleaning and cooking i will always do for for whatever man that i'm with because it just comes

00:08:09.500 naturally to me um in terms of like you're like a hundred percent of the household chores yeah yeah

00:08:15.500 yeah yeah well as in usually like well the person with now he does parts as well because he likes to

00:08:20.940 be clean as well so that's a good thing but i'm happy to do like 90 of it i've got this theory like

00:08:26.460 i want tradition to play like 85 90 in the relationship but that that 15 10 is just modern

00:08:33.500 day society we're not in the 1950s anymore things have changed so that 15 10 means that the man can

00:08:38.860 do the dishwasher sometimes or the woman can like go and work sometimes as well like it's okay but 1.00

00:08:44.460 i feel like our roles should um overpower the other percentage if you get what i'm trying to say

00:08:50.300 um but yeah like i i definitely feel like i bring a lot to the table not that my man or anyone i date

00:08:56.540 should ask me what i bring to the table because i think he should just i don't like that question from

00:09:01.420 a man but i know what yeah yeah yeah you're a woman yeah of course i'm gonna tell you how but

00:09:07.020 like as a man i wouldn't that would be a complete red flag if he's like demanding what seeking really

00:09:12.380 yeah like because i just don't yeah no i think men should ask women what they bring i think women

00:09:18.060 should ask men too you might want to not to phrase it you might not phrase it like that i've never asked

00:09:22.540 a man what you bring to the what you might not phrase it like that but you want to know what his job

00:09:26.620 is you want to know what his relationship with his family like they ask it to you they just don't do

00:09:30.620 it that directly typically like guys will ask you questions on dates to like figure out stuff about

00:09:35.580 you but do you think that's because men we can ask men because what we're asking for is more to see

00:09:40.380 like if they're providing stuff and that's more like factual like what i do for a job what i earn

00:09:44.300 whereas a woman it's more you need to experience her to see if she you can't you can say i'm nurturing

00:09:49.580 but you might not but you need to kind of be around her see how she is how see how she talks

00:09:54.220 but yeah adding to like you could ask like um when's the last time you like babysat or watched

00:09:58.780 children like how often do you interact with kids that's the way you could tell

00:10:04.620 yeah is that a good indication yeah i think so if you want a mother like it would you don't think 0.94

00:10:09.580 like doing the thing that you would have to do if you're a mom because nurturing goes beyond kids

00:10:13.660 but yeah okay it's i'm just saying that's one one way yeah yeah yeah but there's like ways you can

00:10:19.420 ask the question yeah yeah yeah fair enough that's fair that's fair but i think men should ask

00:10:23.980 more questions to be honest because i i think that like a lot of guys don't ask the right

00:10:29.900 questions and they get bamboozled later i know but i like the level of like mystery that woman carries

00:10:36.220 and i think that's her femininity like you shouldn't i don't think you should tell a man a lot especially

00:10:41.180 well if he's your partner of course but when you're first dating him i don't think you should tell him a

00:10:45.420 lot because you can tell him the facts of course but don't air out your dirty laundry and stuff because

00:10:51.100 you're a woman you're feminine you that mystery that mystique is really important i think yeah but

00:10:56.860 you don't okay there's a difference between airing it like talking about your ex-boyfriend and answering

00:11:01.180 questions he asks you're like yeah as long as the question's appropriate no i think like when guys

00:11:06.220 ask you questions and you don't answer it's like not feminine yeah because i think it's like

00:11:10.620 disagree on the question i guess i think it's like disagreeable yeah if you're gonna okay let's let's

00:11:14.940 say it like this if a guy said to me what's your body count i'm not gonna answer him because i just think

00:11:21.740 disrespectful you think it's disrespectful actually i don't even want to talk to you

00:11:25.260 anymore so i'm just gonna get up and leave you think it's disrespectful absolutely i think i think

00:11:29.660 mentioned i think men should know that to be honest um i don't think i think it's disrespectful if it's

00:11:34.700 someone like you don't know i mean not disrespect like it's it's private right but it's like if so if

00:11:40.140 he wants to if he's taking you seriously and wants to marry you i think it's a valid question i just

00:11:44.140 think it's only valid if you've been with someone that he is associated with like friends or family

00:11:49.660 i feel like a guy that has no kind of connection to your guy i don't think it actually matters

00:11:55.180 and furthermore you can ask a woman however many times what her body count is first of all she's

00:12:00.540 always gonna lie even if she doesn't lie how do you know she's telling the truth were you in her body

00:12:04.780 for all the years she's been alive never tell on themselves like guys start to count like because

00:12:09.660 you'll be like oh this sucks like that's what guys tell me that the women will tell on themselves later 0.84

00:12:13.260 yeah i think most guys like don't ask to be fair but i mean when you look at the numbers as a guy 0.85

00:12:18.940 i don't know how you wouldn't care especially men have so much to lose in divorce um court today it's

00:12:24.300 like if the girl's a virgin on her wedding wedding night she has an 80 chance of a happy marriage you 0.82

00:12:29.100 know it drops down to if she slept with more than five people 20 so if you slept with more than five 1.00

00:12:34.620 people your chance of a happy marriage in 10 years goes down to 20 and if you slept with more than 10

00:12:40.460 it's like you're you're probably going to be divorced like more likely than not within five years

00:12:45.740 have they said what the reason is for that and i mean i think it's good i think it's going against

00:12:50.060 nature like throughout all of history like when have women been as promiscuous as they are today 1.00

00:12:54.380 you don't undo biology just because we have birth control now so do you think that's down to because

00:12:59.340 she's experienced so many partners that she then doesn't feel fulfilled or do you think it's down to

00:13:03.900 the man finding out and not respecting her what do you think it's down to well it's the women leaving 1.00

00:13:07.740 so it's not the men like women usually leave not men um so i think it's the psychology of choice

00:13:14.060 if you have 10 meals in front of you and you pick one you're not as happy but if there's one in front

00:13:18.220 of you you're you're just happy to be eaten you know what i mean and so i think girls start to 1.00

00:13:22.940 compare so they'll say like the first guy he had this second yeah you're not no it's true no i agree

00:13:28.380 with that i should agree with that yeah and then i think like the the more you've been with it's like

00:13:32.940 the odds are the guy you married isn't your favorite and so now you're getting married to

00:13:37.420 your second choice is that good and i think we can all like think of a girl that maybe had an

00:13:42.140 ex that she kept going back to or didn't get over maybe an excellent you that happened to you you know

00:13:47.260 um i think that's common these women start running out of time so they run to their like second or 1.00

00:13:52.060 third choice true that's what i think anyway you know there's no hope that never happens to any of us

00:13:57.420 but yeah no i mean i mean the data honestly shows that half of us aren't going to have kids

00:14:02.620 50 in here single and childless if you hit 30 and you're still single you're sure if you're if you

00:14:07.820 had 30 you're still single your chance of having a kid drops below 50 so you're actually more likely

00:14:12.220 to not have a kid than have one is that just females yeah i rebuke these stats and i um no no it's not

00:14:19.660 like rebuking i think i think it's good for women to know because that's what's going to happen if 0.92

00:14:23.980 like you know and it's a fact as well like your eggs just yeah yeah yeah we know that yeah but

00:14:30.620 90 90 of your eggs are gone by 30 and then they sell you ivf as an option but the majority

00:14:35.980 of ivf treatments don't work so the majority of women that go get like ivf they don't actually get

00:14:40.940 get a kid at all i'm just a firm believer i feel like the way my life is supposed to pan out it will

00:14:47.180 pan out just perfectly and yeah the stats are important but i just feel like if i'm not ready now

00:14:54.380 and i'm ready later and it doesn't happen maybe it just wasn't meant to be i'll just leave it to to

00:14:59.420 life yeah i think a lot of women feel like that but you know then they hit 45 and they're on 1.00

00:15:04.380 antidepressants and more depressed than any other group like women over the age of 45 are more

00:15:09.580 depressed than any other group like more anxious and the same thing like body count is associated

00:15:13.820 to all those things like anxiety depression like i can't remember the list off the top of my head but

00:15:19.340 there's a bunch of like negative like things that are associated like negative mental health with

00:15:24.620 a high body count and sometimes you don't really know when you're ready until it happens so a lot

00:15:28.700 of like my brother has a baby and he was he thought he wasn't ready to be a dad until baby happened and

00:15:34.380 he's a great father yeah you become ready right yeah sometimes you need the moment to to understand

00:15:39.820 what you can and can't do that makes sense the women that are depressed um do they have children 0.88

00:15:46.940 no yeah that's sorry i might not have said childless single childless um

JustPearlyThings - March 24, 2023

This Level Of DELUSION Is AMAZING

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