JustPearlyThings - August 14, 2023


This Modern Man Compared Women To A Chameleon


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9 minutes

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1,922

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263

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In this episode we discuss how to find a good woman and how long should it take to find one. How long should you see a woman before you marry her? How long does a woman need to be with you before you commit to a relationship? How much time should you spend with a woman in order to determine if she's a good mate?

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00:00:00.000 All right, men, if you want to say, how do I...
00:00:03.160 One, are any of you with a good woman? 0.99
00:00:06.240 Like, anyone married?
00:00:07.940 We're not married yet.
00:00:09.080 No, no, no married.
00:00:10.440 Okay, I just wanted to get...
00:00:11.400 Okay, how do you find a good woman? 1.00
00:00:13.260 How do I find one?
00:00:14.340 Yeah, identify one.
00:00:16.400 I think a good woman...
00:00:18.880 I can't tell a good woman straight away. 0.92
00:00:21.640 It has to be along the course of time.
00:00:23.720 She needs to be how I want, when I want, when I need her to be.
00:00:28.500 And I won't get that.
00:00:30.000 Just from the first look basis.
00:00:31.880 Do you know what I mean?
00:00:32.700 So I think a first...
00:00:34.400 A good woman, to me, is a woman that has good family values, 0.92
00:00:40.200 that know how to be around her family,
00:00:43.320 that has a good relationship with her dad.
00:00:46.320 Submissive.
00:00:50.480 Caring, nurturing.
00:00:53.960 Healthy.
00:00:54.400 And how do you know a good one?
00:01:04.600 So right now, this is what you have to do.
00:01:06.380 You have to see her for three months,
00:01:08.220 ask her to make you a coffee.
00:01:09.880 Yeah, yeah, yeah, go for it.
00:01:11.760 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:12.100 That three-month thing.
00:01:13.260 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:13.760 Three months.
00:01:14.860 Okay.
00:01:15.720 Yeah.
00:01:16.440 This is for the woman you pick to marry, so like, okay. 0.99
00:01:19.760 And you need to make edits, so it's okay.
00:01:22.480 Take on a coffee date for a first date, okay?
00:01:26.280 Date as many women as possible to tell the difference. 0.99
00:01:29.660 Make sure she's not on birth control
00:01:32.460 and figure out what her relationship's like
00:01:35.540 with her family and her dad.
00:01:37.080 What do you agree with, disagree with,
00:01:39.060 and what would you like to add?
00:01:45.520 There's loads I need to add to that, man.
00:01:48.020 It's not that simple.
00:01:50.160 I'll get the whole thing, man.
00:01:51.340 Start again.
00:01:52.180 Yeah, start again.
00:01:53.060 Tell me that list again.
00:01:54.880 I think we can keep going.
00:01:56.220 Yeah.
00:01:56.460 So you got to see her for three months.
00:01:58.500 So what are you guys thinking?
00:01:59.200 For three months.
00:01:59.800 Yeah, yeah.
00:02:00.320 Cool, cool.
00:02:01.000 I think three months mixed.
00:02:01.540 You think that's enough?
00:02:02.460 You can marry a girl three months? 0.99
00:02:03.820 No.
00:02:03.980 No, no.
00:02:04.480 You can't.
00:02:05.080 Oh, okay.
00:02:05.480 In three months.
00:02:06.860 But you know why you come here?
00:02:08.180 A lot of women are chameleons. 1.00
00:02:09.400 No, 100%.
00:02:10.280 Yeah, trust me, they can shapeshift.
00:02:13.820 Have you ever dated a girl for three months
00:02:15.780 and she changes completely? 0.96
00:02:16.900 Yes, yes.
00:02:18.780 You know when the biggest change of a woman happens? 1.00
00:02:21.560 Why?
00:02:21.880 When she has a baby.
00:02:22.980 For me, that's when I see the biggest change in a woman. 1.00
00:02:25.880 So you won't even really know your woman
00:02:27.460 until she has a child.
00:02:28.500 Probably.
00:02:29.020 That's what I believe.
00:02:29.700 So in order to find a good woman, 0.99
00:02:31.580 you have to get her pregnant? 1.00
00:02:32.400 No, you don't have to.
00:02:33.420 But I'm saying.
00:02:33.860 Don't worry about that.
00:02:36.540 No, you don't have to.
00:02:37.520 Because there's certain things you'll see.
00:02:38.720 But I'm saying, from my experience,
00:02:40.760 I have three kids in it.
00:02:41.920 So I saw the biggest change when the woman had a child. 1.00
00:02:45.560 Okay.
00:02:46.380 So how long should you see her before you marry her,
00:02:49.460 knock her up, whatever? 0.99
00:02:50.780 I don't know about marry her, knock her up. 1.00
00:02:52.320 Three months is a good time to determine
00:02:53.800 whether she's being genuine.
00:02:55.320 If she's wearing a mask or not.
00:02:56.500 So you got to see her for three months
00:02:58.020 in order to date her?
00:02:59.540 Like, what's the...
00:03:00.200 I mean, I don't think, as he said,
00:03:02.020 you can't really determine anyone
00:03:03.380 as the true person,
00:03:04.880 as they're being genuine,
00:03:06.000 as they say they are,
00:03:06.780 for like the first three months, January.
00:03:08.880 If you've lived with someone,
00:03:10.660 that's different.
00:03:11.280 If you move in with someone,
00:03:12.100 you can see the truth a lot quicker.
00:03:13.420 Actually, can I, can I, I'm sorry.
00:03:15.920 I'm a little ADD sometimes.
00:03:17.500 When, when do you guys expect to sleep with her? 0.59
00:03:20.900 You know what?
00:03:22.300 That's subjective.
00:03:23.480 You see that question there, yeah?
00:03:24.940 It is very subjective, yeah?
00:03:27.280 In general.
00:03:28.160 Are you saying expect?
00:03:29.100 Yeah, expectation is a big word.
00:03:30.420 I don't have an expectation.
00:03:31.520 I don't have an expectation.
00:03:32.640 They expect straight away.
00:03:33.420 You know what it is?
00:03:35.060 Fourth date.
00:03:35.340 I'll be honest, yeah?
00:03:36.640 I don't think there's too much of,
00:03:38.620 it's not a problem
00:03:39.320 if you sleep with a woman the first night 0.90
00:03:40.800 or you sleep with a woman 0.65
00:03:41.560 two months down the line.
00:03:43.240 Because man can move different.
00:03:44.260 Man can wait, like a woman, a woman. 1.00
00:03:46.180 Sleep with her as soon as you can.
00:03:47.800 Yeah, but, you know what it is?
00:03:49.440 Because you can,
00:03:50.300 you can sleep with a woman straight away 1.00
00:03:51.920 and have a great connection
00:03:52.980 and a great relationship with her.
00:03:54.460 Or you can,
00:03:55.340 a woman can hold out for six months 1.00
00:03:57.080 and whatever,
00:03:57.660 and there's man out here
00:03:58.420 that will sit there for six months.
00:03:59.680 How married?
00:04:00.120 Clark and bust out.
00:04:01.160 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:04:01.980 All right.
00:04:02.360 How long is two months?
00:04:03.920 I'm just gonna,
00:04:04.660 I need hands.
00:04:05.340 How long is too long?
00:04:07.540 No matter how good the girl is, 1.00
00:04:09.080 you ain't waiting.
00:04:10.000 Like, this is ridiculous.
00:04:10.660 I think three months is the max.
00:04:12.140 Okay, okay.
00:04:12.760 I just want,
00:04:13.560 I want hands for the max.
00:04:15.160 Are you waiting?
00:04:15.800 Yes.
00:04:16.180 All right.
00:04:16.580 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:04:17.920 He's coughing.
00:04:18.640 He's coughing.
00:04:19.440 I need hands.
00:04:20.620 Are we waiting a week?
00:04:21.980 Is that okay?
00:04:23.000 All right.
00:04:23.400 Yeah, yeah.
00:04:23.840 I'll wait a week.
00:04:24.760 Okay, I just,
00:04:25.340 I need you to go,
00:04:26.440 put your hand up
00:04:27.540 when it's too long.
00:04:28.280 Yeah, yeah.
00:04:28.720 Okay, cool.
00:04:29.360 All right.
00:04:29.820 Two weeks.
00:04:31.420 Three weeks.
00:04:33.320 So you're putting in three weeks?
00:04:34.940 It depends on the context.
00:04:36.460 I mean,
00:04:36.720 has she made other people wait?
00:04:39.080 You don't know.
00:04:40.080 You never know that.
00:04:41.220 Yeah, that's a stick.
00:04:41.840 You never know that.
00:04:42.520 You don't know.
00:04:43.820 I'm not gonna be the one that waits.
00:04:44.980 You guys have a tendency to do that.
00:04:45.620 I'm not gonna be the one that waits.
00:04:46.840 So, I mean, like,
00:04:49.340 how old is she? 0.98
00:04:50.980 I mean,
00:04:51.420 is she some kind of born again virgin? 0.94
00:04:53.720 I don't know.
00:04:54.240 I don't know.
00:04:54.660 I'm not.
00:04:55.720 You're getting a girl 1.00
00:04:57.040 from first date,
00:04:59.340 like, so you don't know.
00:05:00.360 You've just met her off the street,
00:05:01.980 whatever, dating app, whatever.
00:05:03.660 So you have to determine.
00:05:04.780 All right,
00:05:04.940 so three weeks you can wait.
00:05:06.260 You're not,
00:05:06.720 you're,
00:05:07.560 he's,
00:05:07.940 okay, four weeks.
00:05:09.180 Four weeks too long for anyone?
00:05:11.120 No, five weeks.
00:05:12.900 Okay, two months.
00:05:14.200 Too long to sleep with her?
00:05:16.540 The two months is the max.
00:05:18.420 All right.
00:05:18.760 After that, yeah.
00:05:19.820 I'm gonna go with two months.
00:05:22.180 Yeah, I get bored easily.
00:05:23.680 So after two months, I might.
00:05:25.100 Two, two months.
00:05:25.800 Yeah, I'll go with two to three months.
00:05:27.500 Two to three months.
00:05:28.340 All right, so three.
00:05:29.260 All right, so you guys too,
00:05:30.140 you said she can have three. 0.56
00:05:30.820 But I don't know,
00:05:31.420 but the thing is,
00:05:32.140 I'd done three months when I was young.
00:05:33.880 Maybe when I'm older now,
00:05:34.940 I don't, I don't know.
00:05:36.100 That's why I'm in,
00:05:37.800 but when I had the three months,
00:05:39.040 that relationship lasted.
00:05:40.940 Oh, you meet a nice woman.
00:05:43.680 You think you're,
00:05:44.360 you're looking for a good woman.
00:05:45.260 If she's the one,
00:05:45.980 then I could wait like a year,
00:05:47.660 but I have to be convinced.
00:05:48.680 A year.
00:05:49.240 Yeah, no, I don't care.
00:05:50.340 If she's the one, one.
00:05:51.140 I know she's the one, though.
00:05:52.220 But then you have to know,
00:05:53.300 you have to know,
00:05:54.600 you have to be in her life
00:05:56.160 for that whole time.
00:05:57.480 I understand her.
00:05:58.200 How old are you again?
00:05:59.440 I'm 29.
00:06:00.220 Okay, you're 29.
00:06:01.380 So how old women do you usually date? 0.99
00:06:03.700 Around my age.
00:06:04.660 So if she's not a virgin,
00:06:05.740 will you wait for a year for her?
00:06:07.920 She's not a virgin,
00:06:08.660 will I wait for a year?
00:06:09.840 If I was,
00:06:11.240 yeah, I could do.
00:06:12.340 I could do.
00:06:12.980 It's not likely.
00:06:13.900 I could do.
00:06:14.560 Are you sleeping with other people
00:06:15.720 at the time you're waiting?
00:06:16.720 Yeah.
00:06:16.900 Yeah.
00:06:21.280 Come with that one.
00:06:22.640 Somebody's really waiting.
00:06:23.920 That's a good question.
00:06:25.020 Yeah, but you know what I'm saying?
00:06:25.880 I don't know what she's waiting for.
00:06:27.140 I'm saying, I don't know what...
00:06:27.980 That's a good question.
00:06:28.840 Okay, okay.
00:06:29.560 So you got a year.
00:06:31.160 You went from two months hands to a year.
00:06:33.200 Yeah, but I'm saying it depends how much...
00:06:35.540 All right.
00:06:37.800 The average, the nice...
00:06:39.980 I don't know.
00:06:40.500 Your favorite girl that you've been on a date with.
00:06:42.800 Let's just take her. 1.00
00:06:43.620 You guys can think of.
00:06:44.620 Whoever your favorite ex is, whatever.
00:06:46.940 All right.
00:06:47.160 Would you have waited a year for her?
00:06:50.080 Yeah, I did.
00:06:50.960 Oh, you did.
00:06:51.600 Okay.
00:06:52.980 So you'll wait a year.
00:06:54.580 You'll wait...
00:06:54.960 Two months.
00:06:55.540 Two months.
00:06:56.220 You'll wait what?
00:06:57.900 When you're saying...
00:06:58.540 Now you're saying favorite girl.
00:07:01.400 He says you're looking for a wifey. 0.99
00:07:03.600 I'm just...
00:07:04.000 I was just trying to get her to visualize something.
00:07:05.720 I would wait.
00:07:06.360 But one of the...
00:07:07.040 If you're talking about favorites, it didn't last...
00:07:09.160 It didn't take long.
00:07:10.460 It was first time.
00:07:11.500 No, but how long would you wait for a girl you liked?
00:07:13.920 That's what I'm saying.
00:07:15.440 I just used that as, you know, giving you...
00:07:17.480 I don't know.
00:07:17.960 I can't answer that question.
00:07:19.240 Please answer the question.
00:07:20.340 It's hard for me to...
00:07:21.360 You're here to answer my question.
00:07:23.000 This is what you're here for.
00:07:24.760 Please just give me an answer.
00:07:26.580 Please.
00:07:27.220 It doesn't have to be set in stone.
00:07:28.400 I would wait two months.
00:07:29.080 Yeah, two months.
00:07:29.500 Okay.
00:07:29.820 Thank you.
00:07:30.360 Thank you so much.
00:07:32.020 You're like three weeks, roughly a month, a month.
00:07:34.920 Yeah, three weeks.
00:07:35.420 So one month, two months, a year.
00:07:37.440 We got to...
00:07:38.140 A year, you know.
00:07:39.240 Okay, so step one.
00:07:40.980 Sleep with her as soon as possible and wait up to... 0.66
00:07:47.400 A year?
00:07:48.300 Up to one month to a year, depending on the guy.
00:07:55.180 Yeah, yeah.
00:07:55.560 Because what if you wait a year and you don't like it?
00:07:57.740 Mm.
00:07:58.240 Mm.
00:07:58.760 Good point.
00:07:59.520 I wasn't only in that one.
00:08:01.660 Into that one.
00:08:02.340 So you know what I'm saying?
00:08:03.500 The outlet.
00:08:04.200 Yeah.
00:08:05.880 Okay.
00:08:06.440 Well, okay.
00:08:07.080 So don't wait.
00:08:07.740 Now we're going back.
00:08:08.680 Don't wait.
00:08:09.520 I don't...
00:08:09.980 Just for him, though.
00:08:11.040 He's waiting.
00:08:11.600 Yeah, he's waiting.
00:08:11.960 Okay, so next step.
00:08:13.460 Okay, so...
00:08:14.740 When should you ask her to make you a coffee?
00:08:17.040 That's what we have.
00:08:18.620 I don't even drink coffee.
00:08:20.440 Okay, so what else?
00:08:21.600 How else do you vet for a good woman? 1.00
00:08:24.640 You know what?
00:08:26.840 To vet a good woman, yeah, I think you need... 1.00
00:08:29.000 It depends on the communication and the conversation that you have.
00:08:31.360 So going coffee is...
00:08:33.800 I agree.
00:08:34.980 And the maddest thing is, the girl that I'm seeing now,
00:08:37.140 this is the first time I've ever gone coffee
00:08:38.620 and we had a mad conversation in Costa over coffee.
00:08:41.020 And I've never done that before, which is mad.
00:08:44.240 I'm telling you.
00:08:45.260 But once you have a good...
00:08:46.380 Through conversation and through certain things,
00:08:48.840 a man would get an idea.
00:08:50.580 So adding on to what Rome's the same with family values,
00:08:53.840 traditional, maybe even fear of God,
00:08:56.680 like conversation with her, you will understand a lot more about her.
00:08:59.520 You know what I'm saying?
00:08:59.900 If she can...
00:09:00.420 Can she even conversate? 0.71
00:09:01.440 Can we have a proper conversation together?
00:09:03.220 You know what I'm saying?
00:09:04.740 Okay, so take on coffee date.
00:09:06.820 Sleep with her as soon as possible.
00:09:09.380 Coffee date after I finish waiting.
00:09:11.020 Oh, so that...
00:09:13.160 Okay.
00:09:14.360 You're getting on coffee date after you finish waiting.
00:09:16.840 That's a waste of time.
00:09:17.600 Nah, man.
00:09:18.040 You gotta go first.
00:09:19.040 Okay.
00:09:20.960 Go on coffee date.
00:09:23.000 Either before or after you sleep with her.