JustPearlyThings - This Modern Woman THINKS all Men CHEAT

00:00:00.000 they'd be married by that they'll be married if it was no i would not marry in zimbabwe i'm sorry

00:00:04.400 never but it sounds like that would be better right what's the alternative you know what i

00:00:13.840 mean it's like we it's like you either stay together as a family or you bring random men

00:00:18.320 into your kids lives or they bring random women no both correct i think both ways you know um

00:00:25.680 so i'm just the situation is a you know for someone that this is zimbabwe i would think

00:00:30.720 that you're married and have a husband that has you know kids just with you but it seems like you

00:00:35.200 just ended up in a situation just like the one before like your circumstances your parents

00:00:40.560 circumstances exactly that's the thing i didn't want that to happen to me but you know when

00:00:45.600 you feel like you're going you're repeating the cycle it's like whoa why didn't you break the

00:00:50.480 cycle then how can i break the cycle i can't work on it by myself you can only do so much

00:00:55.360 you say you can only do are you not responsible for your life since you i am responsible for my

00:01:00.320 life and i choose i can pick and choose what i want to do for my life right yeah you can choose

00:01:04.880 to break the cycle yeah and i can i can choose to make sure that my children don't go through

00:01:08.640 certain things right so that's what i'm going to do if i feel like certain things of some person

00:01:14.480 you're gonna not put your kids through certain things by putting them at every single statistical

00:01:18.800 disadvantage you possibly could i would rather they have a better future but now they're more

00:01:24.800 like i agree they're more likely to go to prison they're more likely to be in a mental institution

00:01:32.320 this is the thing i've done hundreds of these shows like hundreds like i've literally interviewed

00:01:36.240 hundreds of women every woman thinks their kid's the exception but every adult you talk to will talk 0.99

00:01:40.480 about how much it hurt that their parents weren't together of course it's gonna hurt it will right but

00:01:45.520 that's what i'm saying like it's not about you guys anymore and i'm not really even talking about

00:01:49.120 you personally i don't know you guys situations but like the whole point is you're dissing a culture

00:01:53.440 that that talks about keeping families together they don't keep families together they be you'll be

00:01:57.920 out your auntie is that uncle that uncle that uncle different uncles no they do keep they're sleeping

00:02:02.720 with different uncles but they all come together and say hi praise the lord hi family yeah because

00:02:06.480 they understand that they understand that personal life is personal life but family life is more

00:02:12.240 important yeah but i think people need to be realistic and be like no it's not about being

00:02:16.320 realistic it's about being practical for your family if you stay with your wife you stay with

00:02:21.280 your partner your kids have a better chance in life okay let me ask you a question yeah let's go

00:02:25.600 if you had a daughter right now and she got married to my man yeah and he's cheating another 1.00

00:02:31.200 next woman would you ask her to stay if she's married yeah you would ask your daughter if she's married 0.92

00:02:37.360 yes but why okay let's say he's abusing her physically would you ask her no that's abused 0.90

00:02:42.640 physically she should go to the police and get them and arrested you wouldn't do nothing about it 0.99

00:02:46.560 no as a zimbabwe man no no no as a zimbabwe man i know they protect their family that you wouldn't sit

00:02:57.920 back and take that you know i'll protect my family yeah that protects me i'll protect my family yeah

00:03:03.120 but if it's just cheating without physical abuse she made that choice to be with that person yeah 0.95

00:03:08.880 if they committed those vows in front of god as a christian i believe then you should stay and work

00:03:13.840 it out she'll come to my my house we'll do counseling between you two and we'll work it out but what if 0.89

00:03:19.040 he doesn't change and well she she made that choice to be with that person because as long as he doesn't

00:03:25.360 leave modern women pick guys modern women pick guys that cheat they pick guys that everybody knows 0.98

00:03:32.480 cheats they pick guys with kids with other women and then they're surprised when he cheats what did

00:03:37.040 you think was going to happen every man modern okay every man no it's the men you pick no it's all

00:03:43.040 the men no it's the men you pick not all men cheat it's like why why are the okay why are the men that

00:03:49.440 cheat picking you i don't know so it says more about you than it does about them because there's

00:03:56.320 a lot of guys that don't cheat there's a lot of guys that are loyal if they're not picking you then

00:04:00.000 you have to ask why oh and then let's not forget they don't they don't pick us we've got a selection

00:04:05.280 we've got an option plenty on the table and we pick what we've got so you okay if you say that so you

00:04:12.080 you came from a step-parent household and you made the choice to put your kids into a step-parent

00:04:18.400 household where's the step-parent you you said your partner's two other kids yeah but i chose to

00:04:24.480 i chose to accept them because i was i went through certain things when i was younger you're pretty much

00:04:29.440 putting yourself in the same situation you made that choice i would i would imagine you coming from

00:04:33.520 a choice where it didn't work out between a step-parent you wouldn't want that for your children but you

00:04:38.000 made the choice to go into that same situation and you didn't even marry there's no commitment

00:04:43.040 i mean in a way i feel like there's nothing wrong with accepting someone else's kids there's nothing

00:04:48.320 wrong there's nothing wrong i know there's nothing wrong with that but for you for your situation

00:04:54.240 just looking at where you're coming from why would you make that choice because my stepmom didn't love

00:05:00.240 me so i'm going to show love to another child and i love them extremely but what if your partner

00:05:05.920 doesn't work out then you leave yeah then you leave yeah it doesn't matter but i'll still have

00:05:09.280 them in my life no matter what i always make sure they're okay you know it's not the same

00:05:14.080 no it is this it is literally the same you're telling me if you guys break up and he picks someone

00:05:21.280 new that you're gonna have the same relationship with the yeah they're still my children's brother

00:05:26.800 and sisters do you get what i mean so they're still that bond no matter what i will always love those

00:05:31.120 kids yeah yeah but his point is that you see the problems that came with that situation and you still

00:05:35.520 picked it so a lot of times like as women we complain about situations that we picked and then

00:05:40.000 we we get what surprised that like we're in the the same situation that we picked it's like it like

00:05:46.480 it's like a guy will cheat on us when we're dating then we'll have a kid and then whine about cheating 0.80

00:05:50.160 well then why why'd you have a kid oh so do you expect us to get rid of the child i'm not i'm not

00:05:54.720 talking about you guys i'm saying women in general will pick men that cheat they'll know that they cheat 0.95

00:06:01.120 so oftentimes they'll get cheated on when they're dating and then they have a kid together and then

00:06:05.600 whine about the cheating but he cheated before so why is it now a problem after you have children so

00:06:10.080 is that when you know the man cheats or when you don't know the man cheats i'm saying like women

00:06:16.480 will go after entertainers they'll go after rappers athletes and then get i'm not talking about you but

00:06:21.520 they'll get shocked that he cheats and but it's like you went for that type of guy they'll go for the

00:06:26.560 best looking guy and then get surprised when he cheats but even the best looking guys even if you

00:06:32.000 don't get with them they can still cheat yeah they're trying to get with them and they cheat they

00:06:36.880 think most women one out of three men are sexless so one out of three men are either virgins or having

00:06:42.080 had sex in the past year you find 20 only 24 percent of men you guys find attractive 80 percent of men you

00:06:47.760 find ugly so if women pick cheaters it's because they go for a guy that's out of their league 1.00

00:06:52.880 because women that are fours fives and sixes sleeps with eight nines and tens maybe get a 1.00

00:06:58.560 kid off of him and then he cheats because they're not on the same level oh no i'm not talking about

00:07:04.080 you but i'm talking let me know i'm not talking about you guys but i'm saying like women find 80 0.87

00:07:13.520 of men is ugly most men aren't getting laid like that so if you're getting cheaters it's because you pick 0.94

00:07:18.080 cheaters i agree i do that's my weakness as you it's a little adventures i can't lie 0.98

00:07:30.480 so how is that like a zimbabwean culture 0.53

00:07:38.640 they drink too much they don't know how to hold the job down they don't have that woman 1.00

00:07:42.240 auntie auntie auntie they're sleeping with everybody yeah they don't cheat generalizing

00:07:45.280 a whole nation once they like once they work on how long have you how much time have you spent in

00:07:50.160 zimbabwe um like 10 10 years okay you spent 10 years there yeah you came when you're 10 here yeah

00:07:59.600 i used to that's cool enough and you knew a lot about like cheating under the age of 10. when i

00:08:03.760 yeah when i saw quite a lot that i will not even bring up no no stop saran wow because i'm going

00:08:11.120 to get done for that um no we don't want you getting canceled i'm not bringing a gossip over here no

00:08:18.960 but um yeah when even when i went back like i was asking my grandma about certain things like

00:08:23.600 relationships and that and you know because i was preparing myself for for marriage for the

00:08:27.040 traditional marriage and stuff and i was like okay grandma like you know if your man is cheating on

00:08:32.880 you what should you do hey you have to stay wow if the if the man is beating you you have to stay

00:08:39.920 i was like oh wow yes and you know they all gather like in a group and they're telling you oh you know

00:08:45.440 you should do this for your mind do this i was okay so what did the man do for me they have nothing to

00:08:49.920 say the man usually provides he protects and provides what is it protecting um if someone breaks into

00:08:56.960 your house in the house i'm not the one that's gonna go outside to to beat the person because the man is

00:09:01.440 not home because he's out here cheating and drinking true hey you're you're saying all the zim men are 1.00

00:09:07.760 cheating and drinking most of these men if you don't know about zimbabweans yeah i do what are you 0.69

00:09:13.840 talking we have we have that you know we got that i know my old my old my old i've had multiple people

00:09:20.320 work for me that were from zimbabwe there's a stigma none of them were alcoholics no what's happening

00:09:26.400 right now is that the the girls are spreading the the loudest girls are spreading this false 1.00

00:09:31.280 narrative and saying that zimbabwe men are cheating you just went home to your elders right and what

00:09:36.560 did they tell you if something happens you stay you chose not to listen to advice of your elders so who

00:09:41.360 do you go for for council in your life i've got nobody that i go to council for in my life i don't

00:09:45.280 think that that's that's uh anyone who lives on earth needs someone to go for for guidance if you're

00:09:50.160 just living your life like this then you know your actions do reflect i don't think we can trust your 0.95

00:09:54.880 opinion that all zimbabwe men are trash well you can ask other women that are not zimbabweans 0.97

00:10:00.480 which are because i'm sure there's other cultures that i mean there's other and they'll say that 1.00

00:10:04.400 zimbabwe men are trash but it's crazy because yeah yeah you guys demonize traditional cultures when 0.98

00:10:11.040 traditional cultures have better outcomes they have more children they have happier women they have 1.00

00:10:14.720 less stds they have less abortions like every statistical outcome that you can look at is better from

00:10:20.000 traditional relationships i agree on the abortion part yeah that one that's the one i agree with 0.91

00:10:25.360 there's less abortions absolutely as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are

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JustPearlyThings - June 13, 2023

This Modern Woman THINKS all Men CHEAT

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