This will END Abortion In 2023
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about abortion, abortion use, abortion pill use and abortion termination. We talk about the pros and cons of abortion and what it's like to have an abortion. We also share our own experiences with abortion and how we've dealt with abortion in our own lives.
Transcript
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okay so my first question do you guys know somebody that's had an abortion yes i'm so
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starting here go around and then second row and then what was their experience like or
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your experience if you want to share but um yeah i have i definitely have and um
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from the outside looking in it doesn't look very it's obviously it's an emotional
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it's an emotional thing to go through i wouldn't wish that situation in a hole on anybody
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because it is and it must be a tough decision very tough decision to make it's sad to watch
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people go through stuff like that so did you say you had one yourself or you know i've seen
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you've seen one so what was the reason they had one um it's probably just like to be fair
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i don't live their life so i don't really know what they was really going through to be fair
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people only choose to tell you what they want you to know so from what i do know um
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i don't think it was the right time for them or something like that okay yeah right time okay go
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ahead yeah same here i've i've seen quite a few of my friends going through it and i feel like as soon
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as you start speaking about it that's when you start realizing there's actually more women than
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you think they actually go through it each year it's actually crazy and um it's something that
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it's actually hard to pick a side actually for me i was like pro-life pro-choice is something that i
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understand both parts and i feel like it's just depending on the person their situation there's a
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lot of things to take into account so it's actually a tough decision and it's something really hard to
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go through definitely okay what was the reason they had one some people don't mention the reasons i
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think it's something very like intimate each each one like so you that friend didn't didn't tell you
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why they had one not necessarily yeah but most of the time is because it's bad timing wrong person
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personal i know like financial issue this type of things definitely okay bad timing person go ahead
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um i'm pretty agree with you claire for me i would say the most earliest abortion use was from one of
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my friend uh and it was in high school obviously it was too early for her to you know to have the baby and
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she had to do the abortion and that's one of the reason i support i mean kind of in the middle but if i
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have to choose one i go for a pro choice but luckily um her boyfriend that time would stay with her
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all the all the process so it wasn't too bad oh wow so he was he was like support did he want it too
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um i think both of both of them um didn't want didn't want the baby okay it was too early okay
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okay um so yeah uh once and i actually understand her very much because um she had been like a
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fantastic mother to two other children oh so she already had two she had two children um and she had
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sort of sacrificed her education and sort of moving forward in life and then she met this guy who just
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knew that like we are perfect for each other but she was very uncertain and then um she became
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pregnant after a month but then like she had two other children and she wanted to and the two other
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kids were sorry i'm just they were not okay yeah okay but she was like and then she chose to take care
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of the children that she had instead of bringing in like another child i actually think it was twins so
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it would have been like two other people um and she told me kind of like a little bit shameful and
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i think she felt very relieved when i said like oh i understand you and i don't think she had gotten
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that reaction from other people before yeah okay um so what was her reasoning just like she didn't want
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two different dads or she didn't think she could take care of the kid money money yeah yeah i mean they
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were living in like a basement flat and she was sort of her entire life revolved around um her two
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children like she couldn't afford bringing in two other a third kid yeah like four having four children
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and and then i mean she didn't want to uh you know risk having another dad leaving again you know okay
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yeah what about you yeah i know loads i think i mean one in three women in our country has an
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abortion in their lifetime so all of us know tons and it's way more common than people realize so
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yeah i know people who have had an abortion who thought it was the right decision i know people who
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have had an abortion and then ended up being pro-life activists i know people that have done abortions
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you know as doctors or whatever so yeah it's extremely common and everyone reacts in different ways as
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we've seen already yeah like calum said so many two specifically come to mind i guess one who was at
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19 one who was 35 uh so 19 year old uh girl really heartbreaking uh story in that she ended up doing
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performing her own abortion at home uh through the pills by post scheme that's now available in the uk
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that abortion providers can just send at pills by post and she did her oh really they send you
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abortion by mail here exactly wow so this started in the pandemic and it's now continued on past the pandemic
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so she had a really terrible experience and now um she actually yeah has joined and a more pro-life
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stance uh and another 35 was was more similar in that she she already had kids and she was looking
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to take a step up in her career uh so that was more she was more of a stable situation but but made that
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choice okay go ahead um i don't know anyone personally but then sometimes i actually think maybe i do know
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someone that's had it but they haven't been vocal about it because obviously i mean there is still
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the stigma with abortion which i personally think there shouldn't be i think it should be
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what you do with your body is your choice really i think there should be more stigma really yes
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so we're we're completely different yeah very different yeah i think we should have the most stigma
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yeah okay so very interesting so completely yeah i think i think we should stigmatize it more
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okay interesting yes but it's okay keep going keep going so yeah so i don't i don't personally know
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anyone um but again maybe there is someone that i know that's close to me that i just didn't tell you
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yeah exactly i i'm i'm not sure okay but so as far as you know now as far as i'm concerned no
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but but it could have it could have happened yeah one out of three is a big it's yeah exactly okay go
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ahead um i know quite a few people that have had abortions um i've got friends that have had abortions
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and then regretted it um which is awful to see um and i've had friends that are completely against it
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and um part of them and i can see that part of them want to be they they wanted to get an abortion
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because they have been in a and what i meant by i'm in the middle is there's so many it just all
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depends there's so many situations like um one of my friends in particular um
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um she's in an extremely toxic situation um didn't have the means didn't have you know the
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work there was no uh stability there was no um thought so she was in like a toxic relationship
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extremely toxic relationship but not just a relationship a whole like the life a lifestyle
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everything um and what like what's worse bringing a baby into an extremely knowing that it's extremely
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toxic situation um and this child not being able to live and be a child and um spend their life
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um affected mentally emotionally and then they have to spend the rest of their life struggling through
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therapy and um trying to heal of after all this mess um and and then she she feels guilty about it
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right um or to get an abortion i would say the second and yes the second so i i this is why i really do
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think it depends and i think it's every situation is different i think ones especially that is going to
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it's like it's it's apparently supposed to be about saving
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um like pro-life saving the child but pro-choice could also save the child from a lifetime i just
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but the way i think about it like i think it'd make more sense to tell women don't date toxic men and
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don't put yourself in that situation rather than you know which i'm not saying you said or you didn't
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but it's like why are you in that situation to begin with you know what i mean yeah well i agree but
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there's um there was also one of the people that i know that got an abortion was a drug addict
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and she was and when i say drug addict i mean full-on heroine and all of that and she knew she
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couldn't stop it she knew she wanted to stop it but she got pregnant and she wanted to keep the baby
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and what what i don't you know there's people like that that um i agree with but then i
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also hear stories but then i'd say get off of drugs oh i'd say get off with drugs i'd say stop dating
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that waste man but it's like we agree yeah we're on the same this is why i'm like i'm in the middle
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i don't have a no and a yes it's it's all depends okay all depends okay what about you i feel like i do
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know uh women that have had an abortion however they haven't told me as they're going through it i think
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it's something that they probably only maybe share with you know people that are really close to them
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or you know maybe other women or something but um i've had people tell me that you know that they've
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had it's happened to them in the past they've made that decision you know in the past um however i
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suppose the reasons have been already mentioned today you know it could be because they're young
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it could be because they're not with the right person you know they might not feel like they're
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going to get adequate financial support when you think about it who's the right person someone that's
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going to support you well i would think like most people like i mean you'll be surprised if half of
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us are getting divorced anyway it's like most people are with the wrong person anyway but you know what
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i hear you however like some people the relationship doesn't work out however they still do their best for
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their child but some people they don't care in the beginning with they never cared and those are
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the people shouldn't be having kids yeah well i just think that's like the woman's fault yeah
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because why'd you pick him you know what i mean the thing is yeah i agree with you i agree with you
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i agree with you 100 like it's the women however sometimes men present themselves in a certain way
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and it's a facade well i think then you should you know so some women they they get tricked well i think
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maybe we should probably you know then take longer to like sleep with them until you i agree 100 yeah
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do you do you think really 100 chicks to really taking that no no no they say 50 wait hold on i
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found a new stat 50 of women do not wear a condom with a new partner it's crazy right that's crazy
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because it's not just a baby you can get diseases from that as well that's just crazy 50 it's actually