JustPearlyThings - March 16, 2023


Traditional woman gets Disgusted by this

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Aunty Jenny goes on an Epic Rant Pearl DEBUNKS the ＂PATRIACHY＂ fallacy

Episode Stats


Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

195.66

Word count

1,972

Sentence count

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Harmful content

Misogyny

11

sentences flagged

Hate speech

1

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Summary

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In this episode, we have our first guest on the show, who is a woman who has been through a lot in her life and has seen it all. She is a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, a friend, an entrepreneur, a businesswoman, and a human being and she is here to talk about it!

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 a lot of girls their lifestyle is so like a lot of my friends it's it's like i'll make more money
00:00:06.400 than them but they live like such an expensive lifestyle like they all have fake long nails 0.98
00:00:12.880 like which which are get they they add up it's like 200 like they'll go to nice places it's 200
00:00:19.680 bucks every time they go roughly or 150 to 200 because they have their nails in there and then 0.99
00:00:25.040 on top of that like if they get lash extensions if they get botox if they get friends your age
00:00:31.840 are getting botox um these are more girls i can just tell on the show that they've had it 1.00
00:00:36.720 the girl the girls my age don't botox not yet but i there's yeah it's a shame botox lip fillers like
00:00:45.520 yeah it fake hair oh don't even think yeah and it's just like how would you in a family like
00:00:53.760 maintain that because it's like unless you do really well which what percent of girls are going 1.00
00:00:59.840 to get the opportunity to be with a guy that does really really well some will but it's not the
00:01:04.480 the majority so the majority are gonna have to date and i don't want to say have to like it's a bad
00:01:09.280 thing like the majority will date average men and marry average men if they get married at all so 1.00
00:01:15.360 how are you going to afford that with kids you can't first of all it's fake and second of all
00:01:20.640 the men don't like that you know men want you they want to know what they're going to they want to
00:01:26.240 see you in every environment you know can you swim can you you know get in the the carpool can you you
00:01:31.840 know be active all of that is an expense and a lot of times you know women we do that for each other
00:01:37.440 i shouldn't say we but you know you want to present yourself well but you want to do it in a way
00:01:42.240 that's sustainable what men value i've heard you all can chime in is consistency and the problem with a
00:01:49.520 lot of that elaborate put on first of all they don't like it but it requires so much maintenance
00:01:54.640 and then you go from looking like you're going on the runway to who shot john so you know find a
00:02:01.600 routine that works for you and um make sure that you know number one your man likes it because
00:02:07.840 ultimately i don't care how many compliments i get from women if my man says i don't like your hair 1.00
00:02:13.120 like that i don't do my hair like that because ultimately his opinion trumps you know what everybody
00:02:18.880 else would say and that's like the one thing when i was asking you questions yesterday all your answers
00:02:23.040 were like well it depends what he likes yeah and it's very much like i can tell your mindset is very
00:02:27.600 much like him before me which is you know how it should be but it's not common nowadays yeah and i
00:02:33.200 understand you know and i kind of got caught up in that you know thinking it was a partnership but
00:02:37.600 the problem is and i told you this yesterday and especially at my age at 47 it happened after two kids
00:02:44.240 at 35 40 you really feel yourself as a woman like okay you know what i kind of want to slow it down 0.98
00:02:50.400 i want to set it down and i was one of those in my 20s i thought i could do everything a man can do
00:02:55.680 compare that to the men that i know at my age they are putting it in second gear they're starting
00:03:00.880 businesses they're investing they kind of have this like i'm running out of time i want to go hard so
00:03:06.080 i you know how you say women shouldn't vote because they don't have to go to war yeah so for 1.00
00:03:14.800 me it's kind of the same thing if i am not going to carry the same load until 65
00:03:22.240 i should submit because he's willing to do what i'm not that's so true because i never that is such
00:03:29.280 a good point because a lot of times girls will say well i make more than him now but or or i out 0.78
00:03:36.960 earn him how could i submit but at the end of the day they're going to work longer than us absolutely
00:03:43.600 i mean if you look at it i know we like to idolize some women that have it but how many older women 0.98
00:03:49.200 do you know are still going just as hard in their 50s think about that right i really that is such a
00:03:55.760 good point so even the ones that we admire you know i don't want to drop any names but you all
00:04:01.040 know the ones that are really really um well to do they start stepping back in their own way but if
00:04:07.760 you look at the men that are really wealthy you know they are opening new businesses and you know
00:04:13.760 acquiring more things and so that is i feel like the value that having the older women speak to the
00:04:20.720 younger women it's like i see myself in you but i also see you know maggie at 60 and i'm making
00:04:27.440 decisions now that it's going to make that period of time a joyous one oh my gosh that reminds me of
00:04:33.200 my dad because he retired and he sold his business and he's just starting a new one exactly it's like
00:04:38.480 they exactly how many men do you know that retire from their job i told you about my dad yesterday
00:04:45.120 and they stay at home for a few months and they just like they got cabin fever they can't do it
00:04:49.920 my dad's a retired teacher a phd he's a you know retired teacher and he stayed at home for a little
00:04:55.600 bit and now he's a real substitute teacher every time they call him he's back in the classroom whereas
00:05:00.560 my mom on the other hand she is ready to just you know slow it down enjoy the grandkids and grow old 1.00
00:05:06.080 gracefully so that's what's coming that's such a that's such a good point i never thought of that
00:05:12.080 what what else should be on here oh dear so we talked about money so we talked about did we talk about
00:05:18.000 intimacy since you were talking about body count i think no but let me put it on here intimacy right
00:05:23.840 i mean that's an important part of um the marriage it's how you connect with each other and i know you
00:05:29.920 talked about body count i think isn't it sex and money the two big reasons why marriage fails marriages 1.00
00:05:35.360 fail so i think that's something that you should address head on and the couple should agree on what's
00:05:40.960 important to them so what does that mean well intimacy specifically means you know your drive
00:05:48.480 does it match oh do they have equal like right sex drives right and even if you don't are you willing to
00:05:56.720 be you know available to your husband if we're talking about women if he is interested more than you
00:06:03.680 are you really just have to kind of have those conversations we get the ring we get so excited we
00:06:08.000 want the big day and then the honeymoon is over and you're looking at him and he's looking at you
00:06:12.400 and you're like oh man what did i get myself into but you really need to talk about all of it
00:06:18.000 what else oh dear all right so we talked about food we talked about money we talked about family we talked
00:06:24.720 about work um i know communication is um one of those words that's kind of like what does that mean
00:06:34.800 but i think communication styles are important for example i don't know if it was you or i was
00:06:39.920 telling somebody else i know my um triggers or difficult conversations and i will still have them
00:06:48.400 but as a woman because i'm emotional i can tell my guy okay this is a little hard for me i need a moment
00:06:55.200 it could be an hour it could be 24 hours i will come back and have this conversation but i want to do it
00:07:00.400 from a place of being level-headed and not have an emotional response i do that too if i'm really
00:07:05.920 mad about something i my mom always told me to wait two days yep and she said if you're still mad
00:07:10.640 after two days you can talk to them but like if you just wait because like especially if we're close
00:07:16.160 to our time of the mind or like where we are in our cycling there's very many times where i've been so
00:07:21.360 mad and i woke up and i was like wow i was overreacting exactly and i was so glad i didn't like
00:07:27.600 say anything or or talk to them because it's like if i if i did then i would have maybe said something
00:07:34.960 i regret and like just sometimes like waiting is like the best thing you can do as a woman because
00:07:42.080 we're like you know there's a part of every girl that's a bit crazy and sometimes you gotta you gotta
00:07:46.640 take care of that yes and it's okay just admitting that and knowing that but it's not okay to just act
00:07:52.560 it out well i feel this way so i'm gonna do this no i feel this way i want to do this but i have a
00:07:58.720 brain so i'm going to wait and i will you know come back but just give me a moment and we need to
00:08:04.720 understand how men communicate because they are very direct and they give direction and sometimes it's
00:08:10.240 a little harsh but when you know you have a good one and he loves you you just need to be able to
00:08:15.280 take that listen to what he's saying and not get so concerned about the tone because they communicate
00:08:21.360 differently from us so i think that's important to talk about what what else are we missing oh dear
00:08:28.560 let's see um we talked about money communication what other things do people have issues with um
00:08:35.360 i would talk about like social including social media um so your expectations for your friend group
00:08:44.320 and your presence on the internet what you're going to share what you're not going to share with
00:08:49.280 no that's such a great that's such a great comment because i've actually like i i feel like i've been
00:08:56.080 in a public relationship before and i i actually would prefer to like not tell people about that at
00:09:04.000 all until like like i i feel like if people always ask me about like who i'm dating and like all this but
00:09:11.440 it's just like i feel like it's just no like i just rather nobody know until i'm married once i'm married
00:09:17.280 you can know who he is like but it's just like because i've and i don't know if that's it would
00:09:23.680 also you know it depends on the guy too like he is but it's like i don't know i just i've been in a
00:09:30.400 public relationship before and it caused so many problems because you're worried about what people
00:09:34.640 say oh yeah what people think and it's just i i hated that it's it's not worth it i was just banned on
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