JustPearlyThings - March 16, 2023


Traditional woman gets Disgusted by this


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

195.6608

Word Count

1,972

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

11

Hate Speech Sentences

1


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 a lot of girls their lifestyle is so like a lot of my friends it's it's like i'll make more money
00:00:06.400 than them but they live like such an expensive lifestyle like they all have fake long nails
00:00:12.880 like which which are get they they add up it's like 200 like they'll go to nice places it's 200
00:00:19.680 bucks every time they go roughly or 150 to 200 because they have their nails in there and then
00:00:25.040 on top of that like if they get lash extensions if they get botox if they get friends your age
00:00:31.840 are getting botox um these are more girls i can just tell on the show that they've had it
00:00:36.720 the girl the girls my age don't botox not yet but i there's yeah it's a shame botox lip fillers like
00:00:45.520 yeah it fake hair oh don't even think yeah and it's just like how would you in a family like
00:00:53.760 maintain that because it's like unless you do really well which what percent of girls are going
00:00:59.840 to get the opportunity to be with a guy that does really really well some will but it's not the
00:01:04.480 the majority so the majority are gonna have to date and i don't want to say have to like it's a bad
00:01:09.280 thing like the majority will date average men and marry average men if they get married at all so
00:01:15.360 how are you going to afford that with kids you can't first of all it's fake and second of all
00:01:20.640 the men don't like that you know men want you they want to know what they're going to they want to
00:01:26.240 see you in every environment you know can you swim can you you know get in the the carpool can you you
00:01:31.840 know be active all of that is an expense and a lot of times you know women we do that for each other
00:01:37.440 i shouldn't say we but you know you want to present yourself well but you want to do it in a way
00:01:42.240 that's sustainable what men value i've heard you all can chime in is consistency and the problem with a
00:01:49.520 lot of that elaborate put on first of all they don't like it but it requires so much maintenance
00:01:54.640 and then you go from looking like you're going on the runway to who shot john so you know find a
00:02:01.600 routine that works for you and um make sure that you know number one your man likes it because
00:02:07.840 ultimately i don't care how many compliments i get from women if my man says i don't like your hair
00:02:13.120 like that i don't do my hair like that because ultimately his opinion trumps you know what everybody
00:02:18.880 else would say and that's like the one thing when i was asking you questions yesterday all your answers
00:02:23.040 were like well it depends what he likes yeah and it's very much like i can tell your mindset is very
00:02:27.600 much like him before me which is you know how it should be but it's not common nowadays yeah and i
00:02:33.200 understand you know and i kind of got caught up in that you know thinking it was a partnership but
00:02:37.600 the problem is and i told you this yesterday and especially at my age at 47 it happened after two kids
00:02:44.240 at 35 40 you really feel yourself as a woman like okay you know what i kind of want to slow it down
00:02:50.400 i want to set it down and i was one of those in my 20s i thought i could do everything a man can do
00:02:55.680 compare that to the men that i know at my age they are putting it in second gear they're starting
00:03:00.880 businesses they're investing they kind of have this like i'm running out of time i want to go hard so
00:03:06.080 i you know how you say women shouldn't vote because they don't have to go to war yeah so for
00:03:14.800 me it's kind of the same thing if i am not going to carry the same load until 65
00:03:22.240 i should submit because he's willing to do what i'm not that's so true because i never that is such
00:03:29.280 a good point because a lot of times girls will say well i make more than him now but or or i out
00:03:36.960 earn him how could i submit but at the end of the day they're going to work longer than us absolutely
00:03:43.600 i mean if you look at it i know we like to idolize some women that have it but how many older women
00:03:49.200 do you know are still going just as hard in their 50s think about that right i really that is such a
00:03:55.760 good point so even the ones that we admire you know i don't want to drop any names but you all
00:04:01.040 know the ones that are really really um well to do they start stepping back in their own way but if
00:04:07.760 you look at the men that are really wealthy you know they are opening new businesses and you know
00:04:13.760 acquiring more things and so that is i feel like the value that having the older women speak to the
00:04:20.720 younger women it's like i see myself in you but i also see you know maggie at 60 and i'm making
00:04:27.440 decisions now that it's going to make that period of time a joyous one oh my gosh that reminds me of
00:04:33.200 my dad because he retired and he sold his business and he's just starting a new one exactly it's like
00:04:38.480 they exactly how many men do you know that retire from their job i told you about my dad yesterday
00:04:45.120 and they stay at home for a few months and they just like they got cabin fever they can't do it
00:04:49.920 my dad's a retired teacher a phd he's a you know retired teacher and he stayed at home for a little
00:04:55.600 bit and now he's a real substitute teacher every time they call him he's back in the classroom whereas
00:05:00.560 my mom on the other hand she is ready to just you know slow it down enjoy the grandkids and grow old
00:05:06.080 gracefully so that's what's coming that's such a that's such a good point i never thought of that
00:05:12.080 what what else should be on here oh dear so we talked about money so we talked about did we talk about
00:05:18.000 intimacy since you were talking about body count i think no but let me put it on here intimacy right
00:05:23.840 i mean that's an important part of um the marriage it's how you connect with each other and i know you
00:05:29.920 talked about body count i think isn't it sex and money the two big reasons why marriage fails marriages
00:05:35.360 fail so i think that's something that you should address head on and the couple should agree on what's
00:05:40.960 important to them so what does that mean well intimacy specifically means you know your drive
00:05:48.480 does it match oh do they have equal like right sex drives right and even if you don't are you willing to
00:05:56.720 be you know available to your husband if we're talking about women if he is interested more than you
00:06:03.680 are you really just have to kind of have those conversations we get the ring we get so excited we
00:06:08.000 want the big day and then the honeymoon is over and you're looking at him and he's looking at you
00:06:12.400 and you're like oh man what did i get myself into but you really need to talk about all of it
00:06:18.000 what else oh dear all right so we talked about food we talked about money we talked about family we talked
00:06:24.720 about work um i know communication is um one of those words that's kind of like what does that mean
00:06:34.800 but i think communication styles are important for example i don't know if it was you or i was
00:06:39.920 telling somebody else i know my um triggers or difficult conversations and i will still have them
00:06:48.400 but as a woman because i'm emotional i can tell my guy okay this is a little hard for me i need a moment
00:06:55.200 it could be an hour it could be 24 hours i will come back and have this conversation but i want to do it
00:07:00.400 from a place of being level-headed and not have an emotional response i do that too if i'm really
00:07:05.920 mad about something i my mom always told me to wait two days yep and she said if you're still mad
00:07:10.640 after two days you can talk to them but like if you just wait because like especially if we're close
00:07:16.160 to our time of the mind or like where we are in our cycling there's very many times where i've been so
00:07:21.360 mad and i woke up and i was like wow i was overreacting exactly and i was so glad i didn't like
00:07:27.600 say anything or or talk to them because it's like if i if i did then i would have maybe said something
00:07:34.960 i regret and like just sometimes like waiting is like the best thing you can do as a woman because
00:07:42.080 we're like you know there's a part of every girl that's a bit crazy and sometimes you gotta you gotta
00:07:46.640 take care of that yes and it's okay just admitting that and knowing that but it's not okay to just act
00:07:52.560 it out well i feel this way so i'm gonna do this no i feel this way i want to do this but i have a
00:07:58.720 brain so i'm going to wait and i will you know come back but just give me a moment and we need to
00:08:04.720 understand how men communicate because they are very direct and they give direction and sometimes it's
00:08:10.240 a little harsh but when you know you have a good one and he loves you you just need to be able to
00:08:15.280 take that listen to what he's saying and not get so concerned about the tone because they communicate
00:08:21.360 differently from us so i think that's important to talk about what what else are we missing oh dear
00:08:28.560 let's see um we talked about money communication what other things do people have issues with um
00:08:35.360 i would talk about like social including social media um so your expectations for your friend group
00:08:44.320 and your presence on the internet what you're going to share what you're not going to share with
00:08:49.280 no that's such a great that's such a great comment because i've actually like i i feel like i've been
00:08:56.080 in a public relationship before and i i actually would prefer to like not tell people about that at
00:09:04.000 all until like like i i feel like if people always ask me about like who i'm dating and like all this but
00:09:11.440 it's just like i feel like it's just no like i just rather nobody know until i'm married once i'm married
00:09:17.280 you can know who he is like but it's just like because i've and i don't know if that's it would
00:09:23.680 also you know it depends on the guy too like he is but it's like i don't know i just i've been in a
00:09:30.400 public relationship before and it caused so many problems because you're worried about what people
00:09:34.640 say oh yeah what people think and it's just i i hated that it's it's not worth it i was just banned on
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