Trans Woman Opens Up About His Transition
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the controversial topic of gender dysphoria and whether or not you should be able to choose your gender. We also talk about adoption, sex ed, and gender identity. We hope you enjoy this episode and stay tuned for the next one!
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born that way like like if anything it's kind of saying like you can't evolve it's that basically
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that is what you're saying is that goes against my beliefs as humans that we're supposed to evolve
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so to say that you're not born a certain way means that whatever happens in your life i think god
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makes you i mean this is a bit more religious but i think god makes you a certain way like i think
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god exactly no but i no i i think god i think god gives you i think god gives you a gender
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and i think the genders come from god so i don't think god makes mistakes when it comes to that
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god didn't make a mistake god doesn't make mistakes what about all the kids i'm not trying
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to say god made a mistake no i mean but it is because in a way like the surgery is playing god
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because it's like you're you're trying to pick your gender and only god that's exactly what it is
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yeah that's literally what it is that's why i disagree and and i think that you know like if
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you're gonna if you're gonna be able to pick your gender if science has evolved to the point where
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people can say you know what i don't feel comfortable as i am and i want to change i want to put myself
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through physical distress i want to put myself potentially in a firing aim of a lot of people's
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negative opinions but guess what it's going to make me happy it's going to make me feel good
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about myself so you know what i'm going to do it i think right and we have no but i think that it kind
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of speaks to the culture it's like a me me me culture instead of it's like what makes me happy
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instead of what make what's good for families which is what it used to be a hundred years ago i'm not
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saying it's wrong or it's right i'm saying the difference like that this is this is when i look
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at the culture nowadays it's all about me and it has to be where it used to be i would i think it's
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better when it's about family yeah right like i think a hundred years ago it was about what's best
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for the family can i just respond my family has not suffered can i just say yeah i'm not talking
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about you i'm not talking about you guys personally but you can't reproduce okay let me just talk about
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mothers can i just talk about mothers we'll adopt all of the kids that all the heterosexuals don't
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look after all these people make so can i just say yes say for example like good luck good luck
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and then there's a long list anyways that's that's the other thing it's like this really false
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narrative with adoption like there's all these kids that people don't want the issue is they
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that people that shouldn't be parents give them up later they're older but when it comes to babies
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there's like a wait list it's tough to get a baby that's true it's hard you have to you have to go through a very
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vigorous training process yeah you have to be you have to be like this whole um they do dbs checks
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on you they do you know they visit your home they do random visits it's it's hard no my parents have
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done it both ways they've adopted and they've given up so i've been on both sides it's it's different
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than people think um but sorry what were you saying man honestly i forgot so you have to just come back
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to me you need to corral us into an actual topic instead of us rambling so just so um my next
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question is oh yeah go ahead go ahead okay so um i have a question if if our bones are dug up
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2 000 years from now what gender would you be identified with and if the answer is binary
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why should we make laws to accommodate you cannot accurately tell can i can i can't answer this
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please it's not accurate 100 of the time there's like a 30 40 deviance already okay it's not that easy
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to tell male and female have different um pelvic structures because that's right that's right
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okay so it's not right you should actually google and do some research onto this because you're just
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completely wrong and should read some books on archaeology why is he wrong because you can't
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always tell that easily there are women with smaller hips but you're arguing you're arguing for
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exceptions rather no this is not an exception i know the okay so what i'm gonna say to you if i can answer
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your question yeah it's not a surefire thing honestly yeah like if you're if your bones are dug up
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you're probably going to be classified by your gender but in my opinion yeah all that matters is the
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quality of life when you're here yeah there's people that are miserable yeah there's people that
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kill themselves they're depressed they don't want to live their truth there's people like yourself
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they're not scared to make their opinions knowing how much they're going to be hated you know i think
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people need to be celebrated people that live their truth no matter how much they're going to be
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knocked and torn down they need to be celebrated because it's not easy and when i die when i'm dead
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i'm gonna well i don't know what happens but let's say there's an afterlife i'm gonna tell you
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i'm gonna say you know what i've done my best here on earth i've done my best here on earth
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monologues when he's asking you're not answering his questions but that's even a good point
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the problem with what you just said is that the reality is there is a there is almost like a facade
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behind this whole transgender thing changing your gender with surgeries doesn't necessarily
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guarantee you a better life in fact if you look at the statistics more people suffer after surgeries
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than before so it's not like you they make it seem like when you change your gender then you
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automatically accept yourself and then you're going to be comfortable with your skin
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in fact you actually especially for the male to female transition you you probably have a worse
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life expectancy afterwards i honestly haven't done any research about transgender people all i all i have
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is my own personal experiences i can't even say i've got many uh any friends yeah um that are
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transgender actually yeah so like honestly all i can go on is my own personal experience but
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you know i just think that quality of life is so important we're only here for a certain amount of
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time and i just think it's really important for everyone to just be happy in whatever way that means
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obviously you can't be like you know doing like killing people just because it makes you happy but i think
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changing your body and your physique things that are personal to yourself i don't think why it should be seen
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is such a big problem some people are going to regret it right what what what if i want to be black
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what if should i do that it makes me happy i should paint i mean black people sometimes they go on you
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know sunburns they use sun cream i'm asking me should i do that if it makes you happy yes go ahead but i
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can i just answer your question so when i die and my bones are like in the ground and whatnot i know
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that i'm gonna be my bones are gonna come out as a woman because i identify as a woman and a woman only
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that's not how that works i don't identify as anything else that's my answer i'm the only one
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that has ever read into this is clear there is a certain amount of deviance we just we don't we
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don't care we don't we don't care all right go ahead it's pretty straightforward you know there's
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like a pelvic difference between a man that isn't consistent and look you can look it up but you keep
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making assumptions and i actually know it's the fact that you're going off on exceptions when
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literally it's like deviance is not an exception that's a fair amount what's the majority 60 okay
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no no that that 30 i know that's 30 percent of men that's not it's not it's not it's not your show
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thank you go ahead she you've talked a lot let her talk i don't know as much as these guys
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i don't i don't know i don't know where to go from like you know but um i had one question um
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it was for taz so um when you mentioned how um so you mentioned you're muslim has being
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transgender like is it like a challenge for you like to be muslim and transgender at the same time
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has it been it's not a challenge for me no so like say for example so um do you visit like the mosque
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like i go to an inclusive mosque or i'll just pray at home okay fine um so like you don't feel any sort
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of you know like going into a mosque any type of discomfort like if if if now i decided to go to
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a mosque like i wouldn't go to the masjid that i went to when i was younger but partly i didn't feel
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comfortable in that masjid anyway because i was in the women's section and i felt like i was being
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disrespectful to to to the cis women in there knowing that i like and this is before i even
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read like had the term for it like i just didn't feel comfortable i feel like i was being