Trans Woman Tries To Corner @JWALLER
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss what it means to be a good woman and how to deal with being taken advantage of by men. We also discuss the difference between selflessness and being selfless in relationships and the differences between the two.
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i feel like eventually i feel like a good woman goes through so much before she actually gets
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the goods like you go through so many men while like you're giving your all you're giving your
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no no good women good women good women get picked quick i mean like they might take one
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come on they might take one or two l's yeah like they might i'm not talking about five six l's
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but not usually like there's a girl i knew in college and she was she was honestly cute like
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she wasn't like stunning but like she was cute right but men were just like she got the right
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morals it wasn't even she no she was just really feminine yeah um and she was a christian and like
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men were lined up to date her because of the way she made them feel she never had an issue with men
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taking advantage of her she never had an issue with men you know um being in situationships like
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she got the relationship easy because she was kind she was loving and she was selfless yeah but like
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the women that always complain about being taken advantage of usually they're not doing something
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not selfless i feel like selflessness is a big thing they're counting but it's also it's also the
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right values you've also got to know how to pick the right men and right now social media has a lot
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of women confused thinking that they need the guy with the most amount of likes who wears the latest
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trainers who has the biggest chain and you're passing over decent guys and so that's that's why i'm
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saying again you're being misled because your youth and your beauty right now your intellect right now
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you're at your peak this is this is when you should really be gunning for that guy this is the time
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these girls these older women are saying oh yeah chill you know it's a journey you know look at the
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woman who are telling you that and tell me if they're successful women in happy relationships
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that's all i'm saying but i feel like like adding on to what you're saying it's about also the
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generation we're in today i feel like that makes a big difference like times of females our age for
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example they might say self-love because life is different i feel like do you guys i'm sorry go
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ahead but it's not it's not the generation we're in today it's the choices that women make today
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yeah it's not it's not the generation society doesn't make you do things you pick what percent
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of women are virgins on their wedding night that's a choice what would you say like you you mentioned
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something just a second ago when you were like oh um before it gets to the point where like women get
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taken taken for granted what's the point where you can give be so selfless and you can keep giving
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and giving and giving giving where's that fine line between giving so much and then just being
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absolutely walked over yeah literally what do you have to what what what what changes what's the
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stopping point do you know for you like your personal opinion um i i think that people that are
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genuinely selfless aren't asking what they get in return and they tend to get more and they don't tend
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to pick men that treat them like shit not and and even even the men that are a little bit more of
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assholes they they they usually act right for those girls or like do more for those girls because like
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oh by a landslide yeah they'll do more for that girl there's a difference between this and um selfless
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there's a good line i would if a man wants to act right he's gonna act right if he's not acting
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right but but we go but we go like women we always blame the men instead of ourselves like like the
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question is if the men aren't treating you right what are you doing like what are you doing and it's
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the same way when men when men the women aren't treating them right they have to say okay what am i
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doing wrong alex had to read how many books five books on women and study text game to get the
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results we wanted but it's like when women we're not getting the relationship or we're not getting
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men to treat us right we say oh well to you well just automatically blame yeah but maybe maybe it's
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something you're not doing yeah of course i agree sorry did you no i was just gonna say you know you
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guys are talking about going on a journey i just want to be very clear with you you are at the top
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of your sexual marketplace value right now at that age a woman at 21 22 23 you are at the top of your
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value so if you're really looking at it like a marketplace like troy says i'd sell but your top
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of market sell you know and that should be the goal um is to sell when you're when you're at top
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obviously i will never be able to sit here and tell you young ladies what it's going to take for you
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to be happy that's not for me to tell you i would tell you that finding a strong man that you can look
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up to and admire and want to get behind is likely your best bet and at a younger age and older age
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and that's all just going off that what you just said sorry um i just have a bit of like a just like
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confusion in my brain because obviously you said i'm not going to sit and tell you like how much
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like what you should do to be happy but you i personally think you are quite disrespectful to
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like regina about like what she does to who she said that she loves her work and she loves her job
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and i'm yeah she said she likes taking dick for money yes i i don't okay you don't have to say
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that but that's exactly what she that's exactly what she said but like you don't know her personally
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you don't know her circumstances like i just think that was really disrespectful what does that have
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to do with what i just said though no but like you said oh i'm not going to sit here and tell you
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what you should do to be happy but she said that she was completely fine and
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can i ask you a question um when did you start doing sex work um i started doing it like back
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in lockdown okay so like what two years ago um three is it three now yeah time flies right
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um do you do you regret that are you happy with that decision i'm happy okay how do you know that
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you're happy i'm so sorry that to ask about how do you like what is it that makes you know that
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because even though like at the end of the day i'm like oh yeah i'm doing these and these and these
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like uh oh people should think i am a slap if i don't have any regret why would i have to be unhappy
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has it has it affected your dating life at all has it made it harder to date
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yes or no yes and no i mean like um i always find myself like
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i never really wanted to have a relationship and i always end up into relationships like
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without me wanting to and um as well like because in my world it's really it's really
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difficult today and i'm not talking about like the being an escort world because um i am a trans
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woman as well at the same time boom told you told you no but i didn't say it wasn't true i just said
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he didn't have to say tranny well she was attacking me she was attacking me i just said what did you
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say no she she keeps coming at me and like here's the thing i'm not coming if you're happy i can't
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sit here and tell you either if you're happy you're happy yeah but like for example like i agreed with a
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lot of things you've done you've said right and i'm honest but like uh now in front of people and
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stuff like that i don't accept you you're calling me tranny yeah that's right well no like we were
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getting after it and that's fine but i i didn't call all i'm simply saying because i didn't call
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you i can't i did did i feel free but what i'm saying to you i will never do it i will never do
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it because i respect you as a person at the same time i respect you as a person you didn't see what
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coming no i just didn't i didn't no and so what and i'd like well first of all if i've offended you
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i'm sorry yeah no i feel offended and so do i so do i because you asked me a bunch of shit to piss
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me off and whatever but what i'm what i'm saying to these ladies is completely different than your
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situation why why why tell me because they're substantially younger and they're not in the
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same business they're not going to be in the same business and they want a different probably want a
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different situation in their life well that's why that's why i'm not imposing myself onto them
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am i and that's fair but to answer your question i said something to them she diverted
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to you instead of going with what we were actually talking about going to what you said though you said
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about the journey i feel like we are quite me personally i've always wanted to get married from
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a younger age not like i didn't want to be 21 and not married yeah me too literally but i feel like
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i don't know maybe journey for you is different but for me i want to i'm not saying i want to go all
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the way to 35 and still be single it's more about me knowing that i'm ready to be a wife because i
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my mom my mom is a married woman my father and their relationship is good i would like i look for
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that but i'm not going to rush into that and just think oh i'm 21 i need to get married and i completely
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agree with you so that's what i think i'm just talking to you yeah and that's fine color journey
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whatever i'm just simply saying that you're very much more likely to find yourself in a happy place
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if you don't go sleep with like tons and tons and tons of men and that you don't wait until
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you know you're past your 30s in order to get married that's all i'm saying no no i agree with
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i'm not saying it from a place to try to like like be disrespectful to you guys i'm just simply saying
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is very likely that that's the case it's just double standard yeah it's yeah life is a complete
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double standard double standards are real i agree to them to a certain extent i'm not going to sit here
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and just say like listen to oh yeah man can cheat man can do this man could do that cool if you want
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to cheat if you want to do that then you can go do that in your own but my man and that's completely
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okay do that so i know we're talking about the large majority so that's what i'm talking about
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in my personal opinion i don't want no man that cheats i don't want no sneaky man i want an honest
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man because if i agree if i decide as my personal choice that i have a man that's my husband and
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he's sleeping with someone else and i accept that for myself and he can do that on the side
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then that's my personal issue that's literally to do with me and my boyfriend but i don't want to
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agree with you i don't do as you wish no of course if a woman accepts that and they want that in their
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life like i know a woman or a girl that she's with a boy he constantly cheats on her he tells her
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life oh this is what's happening i'm cheating on you i'm with these other women and she accepts it
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so at the end of the day she can't sit and chat shit or anything about it because she accepts that
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lifestyle i think it's absolutely fine for you to have whatever aspirations you want you want you
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want to have for your for your life it's just that it's just that you've also got to recognize
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the the work the reality the working of the wider world like being a realistic person and living in
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delusion because you're looking for you're you're sort of looking for a bit of a unicorn in a way
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aren't you if you're looking a unicorn you're looking for a i assume a very high value guy
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yeah but also at the end of the day but you also never like cap it because imagine like i meet
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someone in two days i completely fall in love with them yeah and i'm okay with them doing that
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you can never put a cap to anything but at the end of the day my morals right now that's what you
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want i don't want no man that cheats on me i don't want no man that talks to any other girl so so to
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clarify your your answer to the question is that yes she should leave i would leave personally but at
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the end of the day you can't really cap it at anything because imagine you're completely in love
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of the man exactly what about what about you yeah i agree with you like right now you're saying
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you're leaving yeah but when you're actually in the situation like it's complete different to what
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you want and your aspiration okay leave or stay give me one i would say leave leave leave or stay
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what about you leave or stay um depending on the situation staying depending on the situation okay i need
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we'll respect that okay so sort of stay sort of if i knew it's a girl they're getting it they're
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getting it slowly the compromise okay okay so she might stay but it's not something that you want
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yeah you don't want it of course of course and you leave or stay uh i'm a triny i have no right
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okay fine um so okay so so question i want to know does it does it switch if you have children your
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answer yeah i think when you have children it's way different a lot of people stay in relationships
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sometimes because of their kids but then some people on the other hand they'll think we can
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both look after the kids just not while we're together because if you can go and cheat on me
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no i'm asking you so not not with someone else like me personally all right all right who's who's
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staying if there's kids raise your hand i'm not staying just for the kids i'll be raw
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okay so you are you are not raised to be a wife if you're going to put yourself before your kids
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i can't lie it depends on the situation no you just it depends on the situation how
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how am i going to have a conversation if i can't believe the words that you say
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no you can ask me questions it just depends it really depends on the situation so this is the
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situation go on tell me your situation the footballer the footballer footballer he cheats
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you got you got you got two two two little rascals running around i'm not gonna lie
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at the end of the day that's what any girl would stay not any girl no no damn near not any damn near
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any girl would stay but i didn't say my personal beliefs either one yeah my personal beliefs i would
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say no okay so you would leave so that that goes to my question how are you raised to be a wife
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it's nothing to do with it really it really is i don't believe it is do you believe you're a
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traditional wife to a certain extent i was raised on those beliefs but like i feel like because i
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grew up in a western world in london it's slightly changed so it's it's traditional i don't feel like
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i'm entirely modern but that mindset is modern because traditional societies um basically i'm trying
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to find the definition what's the difference between traditional and modern um traditional
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society is characterized by um community ownership um where modern is individual
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so traditional is the family first modern is me first like that's the difference a traditional
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i was i was raised on always putting my family first so i can never say if i was in that position
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no no then maybe i will stay with my gosh but i don't feel like i'm begging you straight answer
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please i don't feel like i would personally okay maybe if i was putting this no no so this is the
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hypothetical situation you said you'd leave before yeah okay if it's a cheating thing then okay but
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that's what i'm saying maybe it's self-respect before that it's not self-respect being raised as a
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wife i feel like that also comes with not being cheated on so that's why that's that's why i feel like
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wrong but the thing is you don't really you don't marry into it if you don't feel like
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her grandma or what do you say grandpa grandmother had a whole family across town like i mean the same
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how many of our grandmothers and great-grandmothers and great-great-grandmothers show up to their
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husband's funeral and meet their family what i mean 8 000 8 000 years ago 17 men reproduced for every
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or 17 women reproduced for every one man i'm really intrigued if you're in like a married
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household like more times the parents are not going to want to show you if they're like cheating
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because they want you to have like a good image of marriage and they want to be the role models
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so they're not going to show you the ins and outs of their relationship and like what goes back or
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they want you to have this um this is what a relationship looks like so i feel like when kids are
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involved like and he's doing everything that he's meant to do as a man he's providing he's protecting
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he's being a father to the children he's got time for me we're going on like we're doing stuff as a
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family we're actually a family unit i feel like yeah i probably would stay because it's like it's not
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like it's coming out of our marriage or it's like he's stepping out of his role that's when you know i
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feel like i would leave because it's like what i'm actually with you for i'm being a wife you're not
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being a husband okay that's that's a good development i think i think in traditional
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societies when you look at relationships say in nigeria in the village when a marriage is people
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having married problems they don't come out to the woman and say how do you feel every day is he okay
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is he treat you well they normally say is he is he making money are you fed do you have a house is he
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doing his freaking job i've noticed in the west it's kind of how you feel it's like you know in
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certain situations that i think yeah be be cautious of that that it's a man has a role to protect to
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provide to be a certain kind of pillar don't mix that up with you know an egotistical battle to be
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the girl who kind of you know the it girl who doesn't get cheated on who gets everything she wants
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who gets the millionaire footballer and and the monogamy and the nice bags and the constant
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attention and feels good every day all the time and i'm not even saying i was just banned on tiktok
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