JustPearlyThings - June 06, 2023


Truth About Modern Women Who EARN More Than Men


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Length

8 minutes

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227.26553

Word count

1,916

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

8

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8

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about how to deal with a man that makes less than you in a relationship and why it's a bad thing. We also discuss the difference between a man who makes more than you and a woman who makes less.

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00:00:00.000 respect a man that they make more money than do you guys think i think it bring when it comes down
00:00:06.640 to actual household because i know what you guys you guys like to have like um subservience and
00:00:12.240 dominance kind of um dynamics i think that gets very hard when there's an obvious breadwinner
00:00:18.080 and i feel like realistically whoever's making the most money ought to they it will just naturally
00:00:25.360 but sometimes you don't have to say you know like i've been that person that's earned the most money
00:00:29.920 and it's about you respecting that person not to throw it in their face either and it's about
00:00:34.880 there's certain things that you don't even have to spell out like i'm on 55k and you're on 25k
00:00:41.120 it's just like okay well what we'll do for the household bills we'll go halves but i've got the
00:00:44.720 holidays and i've got the do you know what i mean i think you can respect but it's a choice it makes
00:00:49.680 more sense when you're more impoverished so when there's someone that's obviously like you are
00:00:54.560 dependent on them for granted and food that's when the dynamics you can't really have that
00:00:58.320 dominant that's the problem yeah it's the impoverished bit i think for a lot of these
00:01:01.600 things is my wait my mic's on right yeah okay sorry i think for a lot of these things i think
00:01:05.520 it actually depends on how the man carries himself right i think that if you are so like there's i think
00:01:10.240 there's a similar question in terms of like can a woman be with like a below average height male 1.00
00:01:14.000 right there's a guy who might be five nine who carries himself normally and there might be a guy who's
00:01:18.880 like five nine who acts like he's very short all the time and i don't think people won't like that guy
00:01:23.520 but not because he's short because he thinks he's short same thing with like in a household if the
00:01:26.800 man is making less money as long as the guy is contributing well to the household and he's not
00:01:29.920 like being weird about it or being like moody about it i think it could probably would you would
00:01:33.680 you agree that it's more of the exception rather than the rule are you asking me if i believe if
00:01:38.080 numbers are real and they exist or of course it's the exception generally men are more than women right 0.99
00:01:42.560 now so generally yeah no i know because i agree with you because i have a lot of tall friends like super tall like
00:01:47.200 i'm not i'm not in agreement in terms of i'm gonna say oh lord i'm gonna be in culture back in here
00:01:52.880 okay black caribbean culture i'm gonna tell you the average man versus the average black woman right now
00:02:05.200 the black woman is earning more is that in the caribbean or is that in london or what i'm gonna 0.74
00:02:10.240 talk about london caribbean okay i can't talk about america i can only talk about where we are now because
00:02:15.600 what you were saying about the is it at the average yeah i hardly meet men that earn more than me
00:02:21.600 yeah actually i'm sorry let me qualify everything anything i say anything i say
00:02:26.160 i don't even mess with you like 419 business your money is not legit man so do you do you feel like
00:02:31.040 you couldn't submit to a guy that makes more than you or less less than you sorry less than you
00:02:35.440 oh yeah i could but again it's how he carries himself do you know i mean i really think it's about
00:02:39.520 how you carry yeah and if you you you it's not even about position because it's about money and when you get
00:02:45.200 into the relationship i think what's mine is yours and what's yours is mine maybe i'm wrong but it's
00:02:50.240 one pot now no and we're all just that's when i first heard this conversation i was always confused
00:02:56.080 because i'm like don't you guys have a joint bank account doesn't it go into one well that would be
00:02:59.360 ideal right yeah that's what i would think that's right but apparently people have joined and then
00:03:03.040 they have yeah that's what i found out later but like when growing up everyone i knew always just had
00:03:07.200 a joint bank account but does that mean you've got one foot out the door then i'm wondering in those
00:03:12.240 relationships where you have the joint but you also got your little side monies are you really
00:03:18.240 are you fully invested in your relationship yeah or is that your money for a rainy day like for
00:03:22.320 example i've been told you have the joint for all your main bills but then i have my money to do my
00:03:26.320 hair to do my nails to do my you know whatever but why can't i take that from the main pot i think
00:03:34.080 you just like pay bills pay each other that's what i do like like i tend to pay a little bit more
00:03:38.560 rent because i outer my partner so she'll just send me like i think our rent's like five grand 0.93
00:03:42.480 she'll send me like one or two thousand dollars depending on what our agreement is and then we'll
00:03:45.520 just pay rent like that and then everybody keeps their own money and they do their own thing but
00:03:48.080 if you want to do like a vacation or a special thing then depending on who's got the most money
00:03:50.880 who earns more again it's you should it should be a team you'd like you want to do things together so
00:03:55.440 like that's what i would think like wasn't it but why wouldn't you just have one bank account if the
00:03:59.200 problem the problem with one bank account is what you have to be really careful about is it's easy to lose
00:04:03.680 track of spending and the last thing you want is for money to get in the way it's like easier to
00:04:08.000 track it yeah well it's just like it's a thing where like nobody might mean anything bad but maybe
00:04:12.720 oh maybe i'll i'll be certain i'll say the woman maybe the woman loses track of how much like hair 1.00
00:04:16.960 nails mani pedi costs whatever and then all of a sudden the guy goes to check his bank and he's like
00:04:20.720 what the hell i'm missing like you know 500 like what's going on here and the woman's not even 0.99
00:04:25.600 thinking like oh i'm spending all this money she's like oh i got you know this much here i'll spend it
00:04:29.040 yeah and i think that's the thing you got to be careful of i think joint bank accounts can work but you
00:04:32.720 gotta be really really careful tracking like the spending so somebody doesn't like build resentment
00:04:36.160 i think you might as well just not do it you think i i mean i don't think i just think it sounds
00:04:42.960 like too much of a cluster yeah you wouldn't do it in your relationship no really why not because of
00:04:48.640 what you just said i don't want that confusion man yeah like come on man like my my balance just
00:04:54.240 decreasing because of a pair of nails bags like it's the collective balance decreasing huh it's the
00:05:00.000 collective balance nah but like it still doesn't work i just think it's confusion we'd have to keep
00:05:04.960 receipts track of everything like nah i think if both parties are making a lot of money i think it's
00:05:10.400 okay because you guys are rich or whatever but when you're like paycheck man if you're like you know
00:05:14.640 three or four days out from payday and your account is broke and you want to go out and get
00:05:18.800 you know just like some kind of food and then you go and check in the last four charges where something
00:05:22.560 your girl did yeah you're i don't care what kind of man you are you're gonna be pissed off even if 0.69
00:05:25.840 even if you spent more you're gonna be pissed off because you're gonna see like oh it's gonna be
00:05:28.800 tense it's gonna be tense yeah who do you guys think benefited more from the women's sexual
00:05:33.520 liberation movement or the sexual liberation movement i would say men men and it's annoying 0.61
00:05:40.000 because in any scenario men still always benefit even before women got their sexual liberation men still
00:05:46.320 benefited now they've got their sexual liberation men are still benefiting why do you think so i mean why
00:05:52.400 do you think men benefit i'm just curious the reason i think men benefit is because now men don't have
00:05:58.320 to do a lot now to get sex so literally go on a dating app a woman's coming even now women don't even 1.00
00:06:05.920 get their ubis paid anymore they'll be like i'll drive to you because i need some d now what it's done now
00:06:12.160 is creating unrealistic expectations for relationships so now as a woman you want a man to whine and dine you 0.90
00:06:18.960 and 69 you but i feel like now it's like men don't need to do that anymore because you can just get
00:06:27.920 sex somewhere else is that because i'm liberated or because the the traditional values have gone i think
00:06:34.400 liberation in the promiscuity manner that's what i'm i'm speaking upon obviously like i'm i would say
00:06:40.960 to a to an extent i'm sexually liberated because of the fact that i i feel like i can have sex with 0.65
00:06:47.200 whoever i want but this is a person that i want to be with it's not just somebody that i saw on the
00:06:52.560 street and because he's fine i'm gonna let him put something inside me no it's because i respect
00:06:57.040 this man i want to see a future with him you know it's somebody i actually see myself with but i think
00:07:02.320 a lot of women now it's just i'm horny you know what let me give it to any man and i feel like that 0.93
00:07:08.000 they don't give it to just any man bruv a lot of women oh say i call you bruv i apologize all right
00:07:13.600 bruv you're gonna come hurt me now sorry how many bodies are you gonna watch my back i'm gonna watch
00:07:22.000 my back now because i called you bruv do you know what i mean but i think like a lot of times like
00:07:26.320 you're saying yeah you're liberated and all this but it's not like women are not just going around
00:07:30.800 throwing it to just any guy out there because there's loads of guys that are not getting any box
00:07:34.640 and you don't always forget that every single time we have these conversations i hate this point
00:07:39.680 nobody's true because you don't even register those guys yeah we always quote the 40 of men
00:07:45.040 that are not getting sex right yeah you don't care about them in that category i'm really sorry but
00:07:50.400 society already helps you like men you can get sex on a platter you can get a prostitute do you know 0.93
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