What does@RealFemSapien Bring to the table？？
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In this episode of the Super Chat, we are answering some of the most popular questions from the audience. Why would a man who values marriage want to marry you? Why does a woman want to get married? What does it mean to be a good wife? What are the benefits of having a good husband? How does a wife make a good house a home? And what is the difference between a wife and a housewife?
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cook for my man yeah i have no shame in admitting that i mean in europe we learn how to cook like
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every woman pretty much knows how to cook but that's not something that like i'm not gonna
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not work because like i need to make a meal like making a meal is something very normal in my life
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yeah but there's a difference between making a meal and making a home yeah i can explain that
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please well i mean there's a maid can like clean for you a cook can cook for you but only a wife
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can make a home so that's like family traditions culture and like what are you passing on to your
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children gotcha so that's again your dream life is to be you know happy wife happy life but your
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dream like forget about a million subscribers you want to make a house a home yeah i just want a lot
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of kids like i think i'm pretty cool so i feel like if there's like five of me running around
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it'd be even cooler you're ready for what kind of super by the way guys in the super chat we're going
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to be answering your questions today uh we're these women as as i just want to thank you guys
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for being here and everyone has a different uh opinion respect everyone's getting along great
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but i do want to answer some of the questions from um valutainers out there in the audience natalia
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you got something that you want to ask um so there's one question from nate uh throughman he said
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why would a man that values marriage want to marry you that's a question who me just in general oh
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why okay so why would a man who values marriage want to marry you okay go down the line here coco
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you go first why would a man who values marriage would want to marry me yes i'm not really sure if
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i understand that question so a guy who wants to get married yeah why would he want to marry you
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oh so basically you're asking me what it brings to the table or is that yeah is that what it is
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sure and we'll go down the line this you're not being singled out okay no no i know um well it's a
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very strange question honestly for me but i would want to marry somebody that i see building i if i'm
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with my boyfriend now and i see marrying him one day if we get to that point because he is a good
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partner he helps me do certain things and i help him and i i would it's easier to live life with
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somebody but that's not like my end goal like i'm not going to put everything on the side so i can
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like live life with someone but you know when you're grocery shopping it's nice to do it with someone
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i don't know if that answer your answer is like look i'm going to be a good partner i'm going to bring
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my like i like i'm going to bring something to the table but you're going to bring something to the
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table but we're going to do this together yeah and also like i always like him and i currently like
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we uh things that he's good at i'm not and vice versa and also like i totally agree a woman should
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be able to make a home because guys don't really know how to make a home yeah they don't know how
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to how to decorate the apartment they don't know the flowers are nice in the apartment they don't
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know that like your utensils should match and shit so like you know i'm guilty of all that by the
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but um ali why would a man why did your husband want to marry you why wouldn't he marry me no i'm
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kidding so it's basically my perspective on marriage is a little bit interesting being in
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that feminine role where i fully depend on my husband i believe that gives him purpose so i
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think that he's had a greater sense of appreciation for the work that he does so it's more fulfilling
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and he can cope with the stress more because well you know he's doing it for me and he's coming
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home to me also i make sure that he's rewarded for his hard work and his efforts
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he pretty much can lean on me in times of trouble but also we can also enjoy each other in times of
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great joy and that's that's a really fun thing a lot of people don't know this my my husband was a
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50 year old bachelor well 48 year old bachelor when i met him so he he tells me even now that i add
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value to his life and when i think about marriage as a business it's like you know drummond incorporated
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how can i make our our brand our family our business how can i make it so that we can thrive how
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how much bigger can we make this drummond household name and that's my approach to marriage so i if if
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you want a really good hard worker as your wife like that's what i think i bring to the table um
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follow-up question before we get to pearl you said your husband when you met him he was 48 yes and now
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he's 50 so you've been married give or take two years together two years was he successful before
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he met you oh i think he was very successful oh oh yes yes i hung out at the finish line and i got
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a winner but that's a thing i i do think it's a thing and so eric can you turn me up a little bit
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i'm down a little bit so when i met him he was very accomplished in the military that that's the thing
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is a lot of women wouldn't think that my husband makes enough money but i'm a badge bunny i'm like a
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masculinity honey that's what i'm looking for what is a badge bunny a badge bunny is a woman who likes
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cops firefighters service members so a man in uniform yes yes a man in uniform so he's a major
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and he's got all these shiny medals and i'm like sir sir pick me marry me choose me and yeah so i know
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that a lot of women wouldn't think that he makes enough but we live in the midwest so it's like more
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than enough money to go around and then you know i've got the muscles to make up for it so there you
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go um all right pearl why would a man want to marry you um i i do my best to be an asset in a guy's
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life in whatever way that i can so with my last boyfriend i was always like cooking and cleaning
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um and i'd like manage some of his business stuff so when i when i'm like going into a relationship
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i just want to i always think about like what can i do to help this guy like life be easier day to day
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i think that's what every part you should every if you're in a partnership you should always try to
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find i feel like i'm something yeah something got eric if you can hear me is the volume that's a train
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yeah okay but so we're good on the volume we're good okay gotcha because we all sound a little low
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all of us so i don't know if you can turn that up as you were i'm sorry what what how did you fit it
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i forgot oh i was just saying that i think it's important to be an asset to a guy's life yeah i i
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definitely agree with women being in a relationship and you don't have i'm definitely not for splitting
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bill bills and all that but you need to contribute you need to be of value but not just in a relationship
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in in life like if you if you're with a partner you should do stuff together like okay maybe he's
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cooking you said you were cooking and cleaning what was he doing anything or he was just um
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there no he was he was doing other things okay well can i can i give a follow-up with you yeah and
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you tell me yo hey that's too personal hey i don't know i want to go there but you know ali married
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the guy that she was dating coco plans on marrying i guess the guy that you're dating that's something
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you envision but you were being an asset to your relationship cooking cleaning being an asset but
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you didn't end up marrying him so is that like you know i kind of was being being the asset but
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it didn't work out so i kind of regret it um no i don't regret that no um i mean i think i could
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have had that if i want i just didn't see it long term um so did you break up with him or he broke
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up with you oh you ended it yeah i just didn't see it long term um and i was i just i think a lot of
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girls waste their 20s with guys that are like boyfriends and not husbands and i just didn't
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want to do that um so yeah i ended that but i don't regret doing that because i think one it gave
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me like relationship skills so i understand a little bit better like how i can help as many of you
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know i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform
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