JustPearlyThings - What does@RealFemSapien Bring to the table？？

00:00:00.000 cook for my man yeah i have no shame in admitting that i mean in europe we learn how to cook like

00:00:06.060 every woman pretty much knows how to cook but that's not something that like i'm not gonna 1.00

00:00:10.500 not work because like i need to make a meal like making a meal is something very normal in my life

00:00:17.360 yeah but there's a difference between making a meal and making a home yeah i can explain that

00:00:22.480 please well i mean there's a maid can like clean for you a cook can cook for you but only a wife 1.00

00:00:28.480 can make a home so that's like family traditions culture and like what are you passing on to your

00:00:33.860 children gotcha so that's again your dream life is to be you know happy wife happy life but your

00:00:42.180 dream like forget about a million subscribers you want to make a house a home yeah i just want a lot

00:00:47.240 of kids like i think i'm pretty cool so i feel like if there's like five of me running around

00:00:51.140 it'd be even cooler you're ready for what kind of super by the way guys in the super chat we're going

00:00:56.640 to be answering your questions today uh we're these women as as i just want to thank you guys

00:01:03.000 for being here and everyone has a different uh opinion respect everyone's getting along great

00:01:07.840 but i do want to answer some of the questions from um valutainers out there in the audience natalia

00:01:13.940 you got something that you want to ask um so there's one question from nate uh throughman he said

00:01:19.260 why would a man that values marriage want to marry you that's a question who me just in general oh

00:01:25.120 why okay so why would a man who values marriage want to marry you okay go down the line here coco

00:01:32.960 you go first why would a man who values marriage would want to marry me yes i'm not really sure if

00:01:39.040 i understand that question so a guy who wants to get married yeah why would he want to marry you

00:01:44.500 oh so basically you're asking me what it brings to the table or is that yeah is that what it is

00:01:49.580 sure and we'll go down the line this you're not being singled out okay no no i know um well it's a

00:01:56.220 very strange question honestly for me but i would want to marry somebody that i see building i if i'm

00:02:02.480 with my boyfriend now and i see marrying him one day if we get to that point because he is a good

00:02:07.840 partner he helps me do certain things and i help him and i i would it's easier to live life with

00:02:15.200 somebody but that's not like my end goal like i'm not going to put everything on the side so i can

00:02:20.000 like live life with someone but you know when you're grocery shopping it's nice to do it with someone

00:02:25.980 i don't know if that answer your answer is like look i'm going to be a good partner i'm going to bring

00:02:30.340 my like i like i'm going to bring something to the table but you're going to bring something to the

00:02:33.860 table but we're going to do this together yeah and also like i always like him and i currently like

00:02:39.040 we uh things that he's good at i'm not and vice versa and also like i totally agree a woman should 0.99

00:02:46.580 be able to make a home because guys don't really know how to make a home yeah they don't know how

00:02:50.760 to how to decorate the apartment they don't know the flowers are nice in the apartment they don't 0.60

00:02:55.120 know that like your utensils should match and shit so like you know i'm guilty of all that by the 0.92

00:03:01.140 but um ali why would a man why did your husband want to marry you why wouldn't he marry me no i'm 0.96

00:03:08.040 kidding so it's basically my perspective on marriage is a little bit interesting being in

00:03:14.340 that feminine role where i fully depend on my husband i believe that gives him purpose so i

00:03:18.740 think that he's had a greater sense of appreciation for the work that he does so it's more fulfilling

00:03:23.660 and he can cope with the stress more because well you know he's doing it for me and he's coming

00:03:27.140 home to me also i make sure that he's rewarded for his hard work and his efforts

00:03:30.900 he pretty much can lean on me in times of trouble but also we can also enjoy each other in times of

00:03:37.180 great joy and that's that's a really fun thing a lot of people don't know this my my husband was a

00:03:41.320 50 year old bachelor well 48 year old bachelor when i met him so he he tells me even now that i add

00:03:47.180 value to his life and when i think about marriage as a business it's like you know drummond incorporated

00:03:53.260 how can i make our our brand our family our business how can i make it so that we can thrive how

00:03:58.960 how much bigger can we make this drummond household name and that's my approach to marriage so i if if

00:04:04.020 you want a really good hard worker as your wife like that's what i think i bring to the table um 1.00

00:04:08.860 follow-up question before we get to pearl you said your husband when you met him he was 48 yes and now

00:04:14.580 he's 50 so you've been married give or take two years together two years was he successful before

00:04:19.520 he met you oh i think he was very successful oh oh yes yes i hung out at the finish line and i got

00:04:25.700 a winner but that's a thing i i do think it's a thing and so eric can you turn me up a little bit

00:04:31.240 i'm down a little bit so when i met him he was very accomplished in the military that that's the thing

00:04:36.000 is a lot of women wouldn't think that my husband makes enough money but i'm a badge bunny i'm like a

00:04:39.460 masculinity honey that's what i'm looking for what is a badge bunny a badge bunny is a woman who likes 1.00

00:04:43.800 cops firefighters service members so a man in uniform yes yes a man in uniform so he's a major

00:04:50.680 and he's got all these shiny medals and i'm like sir sir pick me marry me choose me and yeah so i know

00:04:58.220 that a lot of women wouldn't think that he makes enough but we live in the midwest so it's like more

00:05:02.680 than enough money to go around and then you know i've got the muscles to make up for it so there you

00:05:06.200 go um all right pearl why would a man want to marry you um i i do my best to be an asset in a guy's

00:05:12.300 life in whatever way that i can so with my last boyfriend i was always like cooking and cleaning

00:05:16.760 um and i'd like manage some of his business stuff so when i when i'm like going into a relationship

00:05:21.680 i just want to i always think about like what can i do to help this guy like life be easier day to day

00:05:27.520 i think that's what every part you should every if you're in a partnership you should always try to

00:05:32.080 find i feel like i'm something yeah something got eric if you can hear me is the volume that's a train

00:05:38.180 yeah okay but so we're good on the volume we're good okay gotcha because we all sound a little low

00:05:42.980 all of us so i don't know if you can turn that up as you were i'm sorry what what how did you fit it

00:05:48.940 i forgot oh i was just saying that i think it's important to be an asset to a guy's life yeah i i

00:05:54.460 definitely agree with women being in a relationship and you don't have i'm definitely not for splitting

00:05:59.880 bill bills and all that but you need to contribute you need to be of value but not just in a relationship

00:06:05.800 in in life like if you if you're with a partner you should do stuff together like okay maybe he's

00:06:11.940 cooking you said you were cooking and cleaning what was he doing anything or he was just um

00:06:16.320 there no he was he was doing other things okay well can i can i give a follow-up with you yeah and

00:06:23.300 you tell me yo hey that's too personal hey i don't know i want to go there but you know ali married

00:06:28.400 the guy that she was dating coco plans on marrying i guess the guy that you're dating that's something

00:06:34.380 you envision but you were being an asset to your relationship cooking cleaning being an asset but

00:06:40.280 you didn't end up marrying him so is that like you know i kind of was being being the asset but

00:06:45.880 it didn't work out so i kind of regret it um no i don't regret that no um i mean i think i could

00:06:52.780 have had that if i want i just didn't see it long term um so did you break up with him or he broke

00:06:57.020 up with you oh you ended it yeah i just didn't see it long term um and i was i just i think a lot of

00:07:02.400 girls waste their 20s with guys that are like boyfriends and not husbands and i just didn't

00:07:06.180 want to do that um so yeah i ended that but i don't regret doing that because i think one it gave

00:07:12.320 me like relationship skills so i understand a little bit better like how i can help as many of you

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JustPearlyThings - May 03, 2023

What does@RealFemSapien Bring to the table？？

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