JustPearlyThings - What Really Makes A GOOD WIFE

00:00:00.000 do you want to be a wife yeah and if so what makes a good wife so starting here and then go around 0.81

00:00:08.720 what makes a good wife um i think companionship like definitely friendship i think that's a big

00:00:15.760 thing in a marriage um i wouldn't know that because i'm not married but you know something i

00:00:20.640 want is to be literally my partner's best friend um do you think men want a best friend yeah 100

00:00:27.840 100 okay yeah really i think so men want to talk to women all the time okay yeah not all the time

00:00:35.520 they say too much is too much yeah even me it's not all the time okay okay anything else um just

00:00:44.160 just to be there to show up okay yeah women don't have to do anything but be a best friend and show 1.00

00:00:49.840 up to be a wife okay not just that okay well i need to elaborate so i'm just gonna go off of what you

00:00:55.520 though so um just i i don't know okay i just um because we live in this in a society like this

00:01:06.000 in terms of like cooking and like traditional things i've i genuinely feel like it should be like

00:01:10.720 you know divided should be half yeah divided definitely so i don't think it's like a

00:01:15.120 compulsory thing do you think all the like fixing stuff around the house should be divided half half

00:01:20.160 fixing the car um should the dates be half half i'm just i'm just you know we're gonna this is the

00:01:30.400 energy right yeah and that would be a good wife yeah i'll split the chores with you i'll be your best

00:01:36.080 friend yes okay okay go ahead um what do i think a wife do you want to be a wife and what makes a good 0.98

00:01:44.320 wife yeah i do want to be a wife um i would say what makes a good wife is being the type of woman 0.98

00:01:53.920 that can motivate and inspire a man to be the best version of himself because i feel like with a good

00:02:01.840 woman by his side supporting him a man can do incredible things and i some i feel like some men

00:02:09.360 are lacking that in their lives like they're like they don't have that woman that's there guiding

00:02:16.080 them and like being supportive and motivating him and lifting him up um so how would how would a girl do 0.97

00:02:22.080 that just inspiring a man to be the best version of himself like um how so like if i said i want to

00:02:30.320 i want to i want to be a good wife and i'm coming to you how can i inspire well i feel like you you have

00:02:37.600 to be a good woman yourself first like you have to be like you have to be basically having your own 0.98

00:02:45.520 things like you have to be independent you have to be like cultured worldly intellectual um you have

00:02:53.440 to have things that also inspire the man and i feel like when you have those things as a woman you

00:02:59.040 can bring those into the relationship and the man sees you he sees your worth he sees your value

00:03:03.440 and he's like i've got to step my game up like i've got to be the best man for her um because you

00:03:09.440 inspire him to be like that you know and where did you learn this is this from your parents or did you

00:03:13.520 learn it somewhere else um i learned it from my parents yeah i did i think my mom really helped my

00:03:20.160 dad become the best version of himself she helped him on the straight road she made him cut out a lot of

00:03:27.200 toxic how did you do that um because of her morals like she had real strong morals he saw her value 0.92

00:03:34.720 he saw what type of woman she was and he wanted to lock it down straight away he was like this is like

00:03:40.320 a real good woman like she's you know there for me she's supporting me she's trying to help me build 0.97

00:03:48.160 she wants to help me build this empire so i've got to get my act together so yeah i did watch my mom and

00:03:52.640 dad like that because my question is more you said independent and i just went in history have

00:03:57.680 independent women have men wanted independent women like when men have always wanted women yeah that 0.99

00:04:03.760 relied on them when i'm when i meant sorry i just want to rephrase that when i meant independent i meant

00:04:08.880 as in like she is able to stand on her own two feet like she doesn't need him she's not constantly

00:04:14.640 needing him she doesn't give off that like needy clinginess like she can do things around on her 1.00

00:04:20.000 own but she would rather let the man do things for her if that makes sense but if he wasn't around

00:04:25.360 and god forbid something happened then she'd be able to stand on her own two feet because i feel

00:04:29.440 like men do want that they don't want to know that you like constantly like need them emotionally

00:04:36.560 mentally everything i've never heard a guy say that he doesn't want a girl that needs him but there's so

00:04:41.280 many guys that get turned off by it if they don't like you if like usually it's like a girl that's

00:04:47.120 like a little bit too ugly for him like typically like she's a little bit below his typical league

00:04:52.000 and like that's why she's annoying to him because she's not in his like league yeah like have you

00:04:58.640 ever seen a guy that was into a girl that's like oh she's too needy she wants me too much 1.00

00:05:04.160 i mean i have heard men say that but yeah i guess maybe they're with the wrong woman i guess i don't

00:05:08.880 know okay okay okay what do you think well i think the woman needs to look after the house i think 1.00

00:05:17.280 she have to um be there for him like to support him and i think the friendship it's important as well

00:05:26.800 um i don't know the respect as well okay so you think she should take care of the house she's 1.00

00:05:33.600 respectful to him yeah friendship i think that's important okay they can be friends they can do

00:05:39.040 things together they can even house things they can do together okay all right go ahead it's a weird

00:05:45.680 one for me well do you want to be a wife and did you say do you want you want to yeah well it's a

00:05:51.440 tricky one for me because i actually was a wife okay uh but now i'm single so yeah i want to be a wife

00:05:59.120 okay all right go ahead sorry i just love love i love love i love love um i kind of like the idea of

00:06:09.760 being a wife equaling things if that makes sense like paying for dates supporting our family supporting

00:06:16.480 a house when it comes to building stuff and i think so i like it though i love it um so you'll

00:06:23.280 half the money yeah you'll do 50 50 on the money but again it i i understand it comes to some extent

00:06:30.400 because obviously we get pregnant we um leave obviously because we are with child um so

00:06:42.400 i like the way you said that with child

00:06:45.200 what's your question actually what makes a good what makes a good wife makes a good wife morals 1.00

00:06:55.840 morals and i think would you include like loyalty in that absolutely okay so you'd say

00:07:00.480 a woman's a bad wife if she leaves no right no i i disagree no you disagree yeah but how are you a 1.00

00:07:07.360 good wife if you leave well if you don't have the reason to stay you you have to leave you know

00:07:13.040 commitment vows i think like um to be married and to have a family like i think that's beautiful and

00:07:25.680 it can be beautiful um it's it's common it's a commitment and it's hard and i feel like a lot of

00:07:33.440 people don't like to go through the hardship but the hardship makes you stronger but the good wives go 0.94

00:07:40.720 through the hardship and the bad wives leave no i was asking her so you can ah sorry um

00:07:48.880 i'm gonna think about that one i'm just i'm trying to i'm trying to understand i don't know like this

00:07:54.160 so just think if you're good at something you get it done yeah i feel like um it goes down to like

00:08:01.360 being a team you know and like working on things together and progressing the relationship

00:08:08.400 together you know so if someone's slacking

00:08:12.880 fair enough and if it is a long period of time or it does affect the relationship or you know

00:08:21.760 then you got to cut it basically all right all right what do you think makes a good actually i want

00:08:27.280 to do the girls first and then okay so what do you think do you want to be a wife and what makes a good 1.00

00:08:31.120 wife i'm gonna be controversial and saying not really don't want to be a wife no i only want i

00:08:37.680 would only get married if it was something that the other person felt really strongly about but to me

00:08:44.640 if you're in a relationship and you're that committed to that person what what is a marriage

00:08:48.880 gonna do like what is that commitment saying to other people exactly yeah and if i'm not committed

00:08:56.160 to someone that i feel like i should be married to them unless i believe in the religious beliefs

00:09:01.680 behind it i just don't see it as being a bigger progression in the commitment i should be committed

00:09:08.160 regardless okay and there shouldn't be something on paper to state that i have to be that way

00:09:12.800 it should just be a mutual agreement that you're both just a feeling committed and committed and

00:09:18.640 nothing's going to change about that so personally it's not something that i like

00:09:23.600 will ever try to force down someone or something that i really want but if they feel very passionately

00:09:28.080 about it and i feel like it's the right time i'm okay with that okay it's just something i don't

00:09:34.320 feel like what do you what do you think makes a good wife so in all honesty i think just being there as

00:09:47.120 the other half like i know you discuss about it as being them basically yeah i know you discuss it as

00:09:54.320 being like you know a woman has a role in a relationship but i'm actually bisexual so to me

00:09:59.280 it could work either way okay and to me i feel like 50 50 is where that kind of stuff needs to fall

00:10:05.680 into place 50 50 on everything because not necessarily a give and take okay so if you have

00:10:12.160 to look at the person's attributes what they give to a relationship and break it down that way i don't

00:10:17.280 think it's a one size fits all i don't think everyone can say right you're going to do this you're going

00:10:22.880 to do that because you're the man that man could be he could be really bad at it he could be amazing at

00:10:29.680 it yeah perfect let them work to their strengths i think that's what works in a relationship when you let

00:10:34.480 the other person work to their strengths working together yeah sure but i think there are some

00:10:38.880 things that regardless whether you're traditional or not there are some things that naturally a man

00:10:44.720 might be better at a woman might be better at we're very different biologically so there's always going 1.00

00:10:49.040 to be things that a man's going to be slightly better at than a woman unless they're you're an anomaly 1.00

00:10:53.840 and you're going to be 10 times stronger than a man that's unlikely so i i think yeah give or take

00:11:00.160 i think everything has to be looked at retrospectively and it has to be broken down about each

00:11:04.640 person's attributes and what they can give to the situation so what do you think makes a woman a good 0.97

00:11:09.600 way like what's just specific this is just a bit broad so i'm just trying yeah yeah kind of reign it in

00:11:15.440 no fair enough um so being able to provide in a sense that you can about provide emotionally whether

00:11:23.920 you can provide financially is irrelevant if the other person can provide financially perfect you then need

00:11:29.040 to make up for the other gaps so as a wife you might need to be able to kick be able to look 1.00

00:11:34.400 after children or be able to look after the man or the man be able to look after you and you be receiving

00:11:40.240 to that because i think a lot of women nowadays look at a relationship and think the man should have

00:11:46.720 to make the first move do everything but that makes a lot of men very not a lot of men but nowadays it makes

00:11:54.720 them quite intimidated and then they get nervous and then they think oh what if i can't do that you

00:11:59.920 have to be receptive to what they want to do if they want to buy food for you let them if they want

00:12:04.640 to take you out on a date and they want to pay for everything yeah okay but i'm asking what does she 1.00

00:12:07.920 have to do she she has to be receptive to it other than receive what else does she have to do um 0.98

00:12:15.360 i can't see because it's something that i personally you don't don't be yeah i don't know it's something

00:12:20.400 that i wouldn't really have values on so i don't really think what i'm going to say is going to give

00:12:24.800 you much much information to be honest okay no worries all right so question do you want to be a

00:12:30.560 husband do i want to be a husband um i am not enthusiastic about it with the way that marriage is

00:12:38.560 with with laws and just with the way the culture is in general um and i've been that way for a long

00:12:44.720 time i mean like as it was my parents divorced when i was a kid so i never really had a great

00:12:49.760 argument uh you know great example for sort of marriage and and that kind of thing anyway

00:12:55.040 and obviously as time's gone on you know we've seen what's happened in terms of the way that

00:12:58.880 society is here in the usa and canada and australia you know those western countries it's it's

00:13:04.800 it's not a good deal to be honest it's never been something that i've been particularly keen on

00:13:08.560 i've become less keen on the idea as i've gone on really now in a sense i agree with what you said

00:13:13.840 because i think long-term relationship fine commitment fine do you want to put a ring on it

00:13:20.000 probably not you know there would have to be a very good reason for doing it or do it somewhere

00:13:23.760 else like do it over in um maybe one of the latin you know latin american countries or something like

00:13:28.880 that okay and um out of what did you hear who would i marry out what did you hear today was

00:13:39.920 there anything you heard that you thought yes that would make a good way

00:13:42.240 i think a lot of the women were a bit light on specifics to to be honest you know there's a lot

00:13:49.440 of stuff yeah support and blah blah blah but there's there's there's a lot there wasn't much specifics

00:13:53.600 in terms of what what is the woman actually going to bring to the table so um i would say that but i 0.99

00:13:59.600 mean i i think really you want somebody who is going to support you who's going to be easy to be

00:14:08.000 around you know um and i think marriage worked pretty well back in the day when things were more

00:14:15.840 traditional to be honest and i think now we've come away from that it just doesn't work as well you

00:14:20.960 know and um we're seeing that and you know as we know the majority of divorces are caused by women 1.00

00:14:27.040 you know 70 of divorces are initiated by women so it's women who are which is why modern women are 1.00

00:14:32.480 shitty wives exactly exactly but that's but that's another reason another reason i'm not keen to go 0.91

00:14:37.520 into it because for guys it's a bit of a bad deal because you know the women are very keen to get 0.99

00:14:42.400 married you know women will try to push the agenda of like oh you know where are we are we going to get 1.00

00:14:47.760 engaged we're moving in together we're going to get married but then they get fed up you know 10

00:14:52.080 15 years like down the line and they initiate a divorce and then the guy's screwed so but why is

00:14:57.600 she fed up why is she fed up all right well i think i mean there's going to be many different reasons for

00:15:02.880 that and we could go into lots of different examples but i think a lot of it is that they lose the

00:15:07.760 the you know the butterflies go and it's inevitably going to go over a longer period of time because we all

00:15:13.360 know you have that honeymoon period and then you know it gets yeah then it gets it gets a bit boring

00:15:18.400 and the problem with that is that if you're then putting that into a legal contract where one of

00:15:22.080 the parties can just say i'll sod that and walk out that's a dangerous ground i think no like i've got

00:15:27.840 i don't know like i've just got a thought like obviously you said women leave in a marriage of course

00:15:36.000 which i understand but i'm 21 like i know i'm still young but i feel like there's a specific time

00:15:43.760 period to have kids and to marry and settle down and i feel like i don't know like this little pressure

00:15:52.240 because if i put myself in a guy's perspective or shoes like i'm not bearing a child and that changes

00:16:01.200 your body it does it changes yeah we are of course we have the biological clock yeah we're all aware

00:16:06.320 of it as women so yeah it's harder for us i think that's why probably why we want to lock it down so

00:16:11.760 oh yeah yeah sure sure yeah yeah and like with women leaving again this is such a broad subject so

00:16:18.560 i'm not i'm not on about just cheating by the way yeah um but yeah one-off it's like i get and

00:16:25.280 understand why men do like cheat yeah and leave and go for younger women well one out of it it's

00:16:32.640 actually not such a broad thing though well men don't typically leave for younger women they don't

00:16:37.360 even leave no they're just gonna cheat and stay they want to change but women cheat in their own 1.00

00:16:42.320 way i mean i think personally i think that sex is to to men as attention is to women so i think women

00:16:49.760 need attention like like men need sex but women are never expected to close off their social media 0.64

00:16:56.000 yeah yeah but men are expected to stop having sex with other girls how is that fair a woman can post 1.00

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JustPearlyThings - March 29, 2023

What Really Makes A GOOD WIFE

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