JustPearlyThings - August 12, 2023


When Men Pay For Pr0n


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

217.06671

Word Count

2,074

Sentence Count

8

Misogynist Sentences

6

Hate Speech Sentences

13


Summary

In this episode we discuss the rise of social media in the dating world and how it has affected the way we view sex and relationships. We also discuss the dangers of only fans and how they can be used in sexual situations.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Only fans can be it can be used in different ways though
00:00:03.000 Can there's people that do only fans that don't you don't need to fully do the whole does he wait?
00:00:07.800 He subscribed to one right. That's what you're saying. He's subscribed to hers
00:00:10.820 I think that's like sad like I'd almost I'd almost rather he cheat than subscribe
00:00:15.980 Yeah, because I'm like nobody wants you to the point you have to get with it
00:00:23.480 You have to pay just to see pictures
00:00:25.460 And then I would wonder I'm like did I do something wrong?
00:00:28.340 I've had this conversation though. It's the same with like like maybe escorts and stuff in it
00:00:34.720 So let's say for instance with only fans. It makes it more personal
00:00:36.880 So let's say you can have only fans and you don't probably but if you do and someone really wanted
00:00:41.620 They couldn't really bother to wine and daniel or talked with you like that, but they really were like
00:00:45.400 Sexually attracted to you. They could just go through the only fans pay that little subscription
00:00:50.860 See everything in in their head
00:00:52.840 You're a boy now
00:00:54.280 Yeah, they've you know, I mean you've done whatever and then they can go on with their life
00:00:58.320 Do you know I'm saying same thing with like escorts or whatever instead of doing a whole day in situation?
00:01:03.580 They paid for escort
00:01:04.700 They've got out the system and they've moved on so it's like I think with only fans
00:01:09.000 The only difference between only fans and Pornhub
00:01:10.760 Pornhub is that they have
00:01:14.160 They might know the person they might know who the person is it's within reach
00:01:18.880 That's why I think only fans is growing because it's more personal
00:01:21.480 You ain't got to do nothing though, you know, you know, there's people like there's female escorts
00:01:26.740 Yeah, the guy with like all the guys
00:01:28.740 No, I hate you
00:01:29.860 They won't do nothing
00:01:30.700 Same thing with only fans like you haven't got to sexually do anything
00:01:34.240 There is a super chat
00:01:35.200 Never go through a girl's phone if you believe that you need to go through her phone
00:01:38.740 All you're doing is looking for anything to confirm what you already believe is happening
00:01:42.200 Sorry, but
00:01:45.220 That is true
00:01:46.140 Only that's a violation
00:01:47.400 I would
00:01:47.800 Okay, because I would genuinely look at myself and say what did I do
00:01:53.140 Like that he has to pay
00:01:58.920 He can't just go online
00:02:00.400 Paying someone else
00:02:00.860 Because paying for porn in 2020
00:02:03.860 Corn
00:02:04.480 So for 20 in 2023 is wild in and of itself
00:02:07.540 But it's the same as a
00:02:08.480 I agree
00:02:09.360 I'm just saying it's the same as a date
00:02:11.120 Remember this
00:02:11.940 Remember this
00:02:12.440 A lot of people
00:02:13.560 It's the fault of having something that they can't have
00:02:16.040 And it's an attraction
00:02:17.280 Where
00:02:18.240 Everyone can have it for $5.99
00:02:20.380 For $5.99
00:02:21.340 But I mean
00:02:22.440 That's a sexual
00:02:23.440 That's a sexual drive
00:02:24.460 Because I can't
00:02:25.140 I'm not physically having you
00:02:26.560 You're just someone that's on a computer screen
00:02:28.540 It's the same thing like we're an affair
00:02:30.120 A lot of people
00:02:30.880 An affair is
00:02:31.900 Sexy and
00:02:32.900 And they love it and it's an attraction
00:02:34.280 Until it becomes something that's like
00:02:36.680 Allowed
00:02:37.280 You know like people leave their wives
00:02:39.260 For their mistress
00:02:40.280 And they get with the mistress
00:02:41.580 And they get with the mistress
00:02:42.340 And they're like all of a sudden
00:02:43.400 It's like
00:02:43.960 It's not as fun anymore
00:02:45.120 It's not the same
00:02:46.060 We all want something that we can't have
00:02:48.320 It doesn't really happen often
00:02:49.180 Leaving wives for mistress
00:02:50.600 And those people are still tough
00:02:51.520 You might get left by the wife
00:02:52.640 And end up with the mistress
00:02:53.600 But you don't leave the wife for the mistress
00:02:55.580 You're a dummy in that situation
00:02:57.140 Come on
00:02:57.660 You're a dumbass
00:03:00.020 Dumbass
00:03:01.520 Has social media ever caused an argument
00:03:04.620 In a relationship
00:03:05.700 Yeah
00:03:06.140 Oh my god yeah
00:03:07.480 What have women argued with you
00:03:09.600 Or men
00:03:10.040 About
00:03:10.680 The liking game
00:03:12.180 Back when that was a feature
00:03:14.220 When I used to get me in
00:03:15.640 Heating discussions
00:03:16.760 All the time
00:03:17.540 But I would
00:03:18.900 I was like
00:03:19.660 I would do it for like
00:03:20.560 Algorithm things
00:03:21.300 So if I know I'm about to post
00:03:22.780 I'll just like anything
00:03:23.800 On my timeline
00:03:24.420 Because I know they're going to look
00:03:25.600 And they're going to go and like
00:03:26.620 My thing back
00:03:27.260 That was that
00:03:28.340 That was the vibe
00:03:29.060 I would like pictures of your gran
00:03:30.580 Your ankle
00:03:31.720 Whatever
00:03:32.220 Dogs
00:03:32.880 Anything on that timeline
00:03:34.320 At that time
00:03:34.860 I would just think
00:03:35.860 And they'll be next to me
00:03:36.880 When I do it
00:03:37.320 It's not like I have to do it in secret
00:03:38.740 But I understand it looks crazy
00:03:40.800 Yeah
00:03:41.300 It looks crazy
00:03:42.260 Anything you pop
00:03:42.960 Because as well
00:03:43.460 It puts it onto their news feed
00:03:44.980 As well
00:03:45.300 Remember when you can see
00:03:46.200 What other people are like
00:03:46.580 That's what I'm talking about
00:03:47.320 That's when it was an issue
00:03:48.340 That's when it was an issue
00:03:49.300 Yeah
00:03:49.540 So I used to get into
00:03:51.500 Into situations about that
00:03:52.940 But I think on the flip side
00:03:53.940 If your girl only follows
00:03:55.160 90 people
00:03:56.480 Let's say for instance
00:03:57.220 And then
00:03:57.620 You know what I mean
00:03:58.720 And then she follows
00:03:59.340 That one guy
00:04:00.340 You might be
00:04:01.040 You see 91
00:04:01.880 Who's that
00:04:03.860 Who's that 91
00:04:05.480 I haven't been there
00:04:06.940 You know what I mean
00:04:07.460 So I think it works both ways though
00:04:08.980 What have you gotten into arguments
00:04:10.520 My situation was different
00:04:11.800 Where
00:04:12.420 A girl slid into my DMs on Facebook
00:04:15.440 I like
00:04:16.820 Went the extra mile on Facebook
00:04:18.500 To find out that she went to college
00:04:19.800 With my girl
00:04:20.420 And then
00:04:21.680 How that went was
00:04:23.100 Facebook
00:04:23.800 You know like
00:04:24.260 When you're in a relationship
00:04:24.940 It says you're in a relationship
00:04:25.740 With this person
00:04:26.480 I wasn't that smart
00:04:28.180 When I was below 25
00:04:29.740 Like I said
00:04:30.660 So what happened was
00:04:33.360 She was like
00:04:34.780 Oh
00:04:35.140 When we started having a conversation
00:04:36.940 She was like
00:04:37.400 Oh but you're in a relationship
00:04:38.500 With this person
00:04:39.100 Hold on a minute
00:04:39.760 I think I went to the same college
00:04:41.340 Oh I did go to the same college
00:04:42.900 She screenshotted
00:04:44.460 My whole conversation
00:04:45.980 With the girl
00:04:46.480 And sent it to my
00:04:47.480 My then girlfriend man
00:04:49.520 And that obviously caused
00:04:50.620 Oh that argument
00:04:51.580 Is because you were cheating
00:04:52.640 Yeah
00:04:53.280 I was below 25
00:04:56.620 I was below 25
00:04:58.660 I was below 25
00:05:00.620 It was a thing seriously
00:05:01.960 That's a fair enough argument
00:05:03.200 What did you get in an argument about
00:05:06.560 It's essentially
00:05:07.700 Like you said
00:05:08.500 It's one of those like
00:05:09.800 Back when you can see
00:05:11.640 Who you liked
00:05:12.500 And what you liked
00:05:13.820 Back when there was a thing
00:05:15.420 Back then
00:05:18.160 Again we were young
00:05:19.220 We were dumb
00:05:20.140 We didn't know
00:05:20.880 Where the social media was
00:05:21.860 We grew up
00:05:22.420 With social media
00:05:23.400 Essentially at the same time
00:05:24.600 So you would see
00:05:25.740 Your partner
00:05:26.680 Liking all these things
00:05:28.160 And then that would be
00:05:28.780 An argument
00:05:29.220 Because
00:05:29.700 For those who don't know
00:05:31.640 Who are too young
00:05:32.360 To know
00:05:32.660 Instagram is to show people
00:05:33.940 Who you liked
00:05:35.200 Like the pictures you liked
00:05:37.100 On like his own separate feed
00:05:38.560 So that feed
00:05:39.640 All the girls know this
00:05:40.680 Yeah that feed
00:05:41.380 Will get you in trouble
00:05:42.380 Did you know that
00:05:43.800 I'm not sure if it's the same now
00:05:45.400 But before
00:05:46.120 On Instagram
00:05:46.880 If you were following
00:05:47.900 Under 200 people
00:05:49.640 It wouldn't show
00:05:50.960 What order you followed people in
00:05:52.600 Did you know that
00:05:53.480 So like
00:05:54.680 Let's say your man goes out
00:05:55.860 On a night out
00:05:56.440 And he starts following
00:05:57.360 Someone new
00:05:58.000 Then you know
00:05:59.020 You might click on their page
00:06:00.800 And you'll be like
00:06:01.540 Alright cool
00:06:01.920 She was at the same party
00:06:02.800 He obviously had an interaction
00:06:04.040 However
00:06:04.900 However
00:06:05.900 If he was following
00:06:07.020 If he's following
00:06:07.640 If they're following
00:06:08.520 Under 200
00:06:09.200 I don't know
00:06:10.540 If it's still the same feature
00:06:11.700 And I don't know
00:06:12.180 Updates and stuff
00:06:13.240 But yeah man
00:06:14.240 Those kind of things
00:06:15.220 Get into
00:06:15.600 You get into arguments
00:06:16.520 Over that
00:06:16.980 Well wait
00:06:17.380 Let me ask you something
00:06:18.140 Right
00:06:18.440 Because
00:06:18.940 What you just said
00:06:20.060 Bro I weren't cheating
00:06:21.000 It was a conversation
00:06:21.900 Through Facebook
00:06:22.540 Bro I don't want to hear anything
00:06:23.260 Bro
00:06:23.740 I don't want to hear anything
00:06:23.860 I don't want to hear anything
00:06:25.760 I don't want to hear it
00:06:26.520 I don't want to hear it
00:06:27.760 I don't want to hear it
00:06:28.660 I don't want to hear it
00:06:29.500 I don't want to hear it
00:06:29.520 I don't want to hear it
00:06:30.780 Wait is a toxic
00:06:31.860 Like I think cheating
00:06:33.160 It's like a physical situation
00:06:35.020 It's not physical
00:06:35.960 No I don't agree
00:06:37.100 No
00:06:37.540 It can be emotional
00:06:38.400 You can emotionally cheat
00:06:39.760 Alright let me ask you this
00:06:41.060 Let me ask you this
00:06:41.640 Because I don't know
00:06:42.200 I like to hear that
00:06:42.820 Coming from women
00:06:43.400 Can I ask you something
00:06:44.200 Devil's advocate
00:06:45.080 Is it really the end of the world
00:06:46.560 If he's messaging another girl
00:06:47.920 Thank you
00:06:48.800 Oh
00:06:49.120 Like I
00:06:49.720 I agree
00:06:50.460 It's not the end of the world
00:06:51.780 Because I just don't think
00:06:52.680 But it's not the start of the Ivo
00:06:53.420 I just think like
00:06:56.240 I just think like
00:06:58.300 If we have open social media profiles
00:07:00.700 Can we really like
00:07:02.000 Get off our high horse sometime
00:07:03.420 Like because I think
00:07:04.280 That attention is
00:07:05.120 To women
00:07:07.320 As sex is to men
00:07:08.340 Do you guys agree with that
00:07:09.440 Yeah
00:07:09.660 Okay so I'm like
00:07:11.160 If we
00:07:11.520 Most of us have open
00:07:12.800 Instagrams and relationships
00:07:14.180 Meaning we can get attention
00:07:15.680 From high status men
00:07:16.780 And that's always on the table
00:07:18.460 But if he sends a message
00:07:19.880 Like it's the end of the world
00:07:21.180 No
00:07:22.120 But if he does what
00:07:23.420 He was
00:07:24.240 She messaged me first
00:07:27.040 I was just responding
00:07:27.860 It's rude not to respond
00:07:28.820 What kind of message we talking about
00:07:30.060 If it's like
00:07:31.320 You know
00:07:31.960 Emojis and stuff like that
00:07:33.420 Then it's a bit mad
00:07:34.140 And I mean
00:07:34.700 If it's general conversation
00:07:35.740 Then you know
00:07:37.080 You might be able to bus case
00:07:38.700 It's crazy
00:07:39.700 I think I just
00:07:40.280 Look at things like differently
00:07:41.700 I just
00:07:42.460 No I'm with you
00:07:43.100 You pick the problems
00:07:43.820 Isn't it
00:07:44.180 You pick like
00:07:45.040 Battles and wars
00:07:45.860 I guess
00:07:46.200 Yeah you gotta pick battles
00:07:46.980 Because
00:07:47.260 If you're the type of person
00:07:48.920 To like date
00:07:49.640 For like a long term
00:07:50.860 Relationship
00:07:51.700 Or marriage
00:07:52.340 Right
00:07:52.660 Then it's like
00:07:55.020 In the grand scheme of things
00:07:57.060 Is a message
00:07:58.000 Gonna make or break your life
00:07:59.560 Yeah exactly
00:08:00.240 It's the intention about
00:08:01.900 Do you know
00:08:02.360 I think most of it
00:08:03.160 Becomes that great area
00:08:04.100 Of the unknown
00:08:04.720 So it's the attention
00:08:05.560 Behind the message
00:08:06.480 Alright let me ask you a question
00:08:07.800 Because I don't feel like
00:08:08.520 You're on my side
00:08:09.240 I'm not
00:08:09.720 Okay
00:08:10.680 Alright cool
00:08:12.220 You're with your girl
00:08:13.880 You've been with her a little while
00:08:14.800 You're on a break yeah
00:08:15.920 Break
00:08:16.400 You mean she's single
00:08:17.300 Okay but
00:08:18.740 Okay she's single
00:08:20.700 She's single
00:08:21.140 Okay so you might agree with me
00:08:22.240 In this
00:08:22.580 Yeah
00:08:22.920 You've been with each other
00:08:23.740 For a while
00:08:24.180 Now I was in a situation
00:08:25.520 Okay you have a girl
00:08:27.160 She's not your girl
00:08:28.620 But you know like
00:08:29.320 You have not
00:08:29.940 It sounds bad
00:08:30.860 Like a backup
00:08:31.500 Not a backup
00:08:32.140 You have people on your phone
00:08:33.340 That you know like you
00:08:34.280 Right
00:08:34.720 Now I was in a situation
00:08:36.600 Where I was always with someone
00:08:38.440 From like 16
00:08:39.220 So when I wasn't with someone
00:08:40.400 I used to just
00:08:41.220 Grab a girl
00:08:42.220 That I knew liked me
00:08:43.320 Because I wanted to feel
00:08:44.720 Like it was a fulfilled thing
00:08:45.940 Right
00:08:46.160 So if I'm not with
00:08:47.840 So if I'm not with you
00:08:48.940 And we've broken up
00:08:49.600 For like a week
00:08:50.220 And we have a
00:08:51.020 Sexual situation
00:08:52.340 I didn't cheat on you
00:08:53.920 Because we were on a break
00:08:55.620 And you'll mind them fingers bro
00:08:57.000 I hear you
00:09:01.020 What I was saying
00:09:01.760 Were you agreeing with me
00:09:02.080 On this one though
00:09:02.840 No I hear you
00:09:03.440 What I was saying here
00:09:04.180 Is the moment you are
00:09:06.040 On a break
00:09:07.440 You've fed her to the wolves bro
00:09:09.020 You can't
00:09:10.000 And vice versa bro
00:09:11.200 You're single
00:09:11.680 You're two single people
00:09:12.680 It's no longer
00:09:13.720 I know it may feel like
00:09:15.340 You know
00:09:15.760 Okay cool
00:09:16.520 We were in a relationship
00:09:17.560 But
00:09:17.940 Boy you're not under that covenant
00:09:20.380 You're not under that contract
00:09:21.640 That obligation
00:09:22.420 That verbal commitment
00:09:23.480 Anymore
00:09:24.160 So whatever you do
00:09:25.500 It might be frowned upon
00:09:26.680 It might be whatever
00:09:27.540 But some people just move on
00:09:28.500 Quicker than others
00:09:29.100 That's all
00:09:29.440 I feel like you're like
00:09:30.200 20% on my side now
00:09:31.540 There we go
00:09:32.380 There we go