JustPearlyThings - November 05, 2023


Why Do “Trad” Influencers Dress Like 304s？


Episode Stats

Length

7 minutes

Words per Minute

163.03784

Word Count

1,258

Sentence Count

71

Misogynist Sentences

20

Hate Speech Sentences

17


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.120 What up guys, welcome to the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel and welcome to Morning Coffee
00:00:05.220 Thoughts where I give my thoughts over morning coffee.
00:00:07.800 Today I'm actually eating steak, not coffee, but I wanted to talk about this new thing
00:00:15.520 that I started on Twitter.
00:00:17.400 So if you guys follow my Twitter, which is at Pearly Things, you'll see I've started
00:00:21.880 a series where I am rating if women's outfits are appropriate if you're a wife and a mother.
00:00:30.600 Now, why do I say appropriate for a wife and a mother?
00:00:35.540 Isn't it just appropriate?
00:00:38.020 Well, my answer to that is yes.
00:00:40.520 But I would say under the age of 25, you have, you can claim naivety.
00:00:45.940 Now, what does that mean, Pearl?
00:00:48.560 Men and women both do stupid shit when they're young.
00:00:51.660 You know, they're more reckless, they're doing whatever, they're raised by the culture to
00:00:55.720 be a certain way.
00:00:56.560 But over the age of 25, or especially when you have children as a woman, you're meant
00:01:03.720 to dress and move a little bit differently.
00:01:07.580 Now, I want to start by saying I am not without sin.
00:01:10.920 This is not saying that I have never worn things that are inappropriate.
00:01:14.080 I'm six foot, and I grew up playing volleyball.
00:01:18.360 And in volleyball, really, you're wearing spandex from the age of 12 in front of hundreds
00:01:22.980 of people.
00:01:24.100 So you sort of grow up not really honestly thinking much of short stuff because, I mean,
00:01:31.220 that's what you grow up doing.
00:01:33.500 I was an athlete.
00:01:34.200 And I actually came to the realization that a lot of the stuff I was wearing was way too
00:01:41.200 short.
00:01:42.240 And it actually frustrated me a lot because I just could not find clothes that didn't
00:01:46.640 look like a grandma and were long enough on me.
00:01:50.000 But that's for a different day.
00:01:53.340 And I had this realization.
00:01:55.000 I started looking at the influencers that kind of label themselves as more like trad or
00:02:01.980 traditional.
00:02:03.080 And I realized that a lot of them sort of dressed like hookers.
00:02:06.840 A lot of them.
00:02:08.840 And what I wanted to point out is not attacking them personally, but just something we can learn
00:02:13.720 about the outfits you pick and the way you choose to represent yourself in public and
00:02:18.560 online.
00:02:20.400 So I really just felt like it was time to start a movement.
00:02:25.000 Or we say, ladies, especially when you are a wife and a mother, because that is a role,
00:02:31.100 it is time to put the boobs away.
00:02:33.280 It's time to put the butt away.
00:02:35.120 It's time to put the midriff away.
00:02:36.900 It's time to cover up and put it all away.
00:02:40.100 And there was a time when this was normal.
00:02:42.740 I go back and I look at pictures from the 1900s, even the 1940s and 50s, and that's still
00:02:48.840 after the first sexual revolution in the 20s.
00:02:51.980 Women were dressed a lot more modestly.
00:02:55.920 Now, the problem with women is we tend to go with what's cool, trendy, and in the culture.
00:03:02.880 And the issue with that is when women do do what is cool, trendy, and in the culture,
00:03:09.000 the trends that are trendy now are very provocative.
00:03:11.360 And the entire media and marketing is trying to sell clothes and dresses towards women that
00:03:17.560 are immodest.
00:03:19.240 And yeah, I just thought we should really have a conversation as women.
00:03:24.780 And I really wanted to know, especially women's thoughts in the comments, what do traditional
00:03:31.280 women wear?
00:03:31.960 What should be deemed appropriate and what should be deemed inappropriate?
00:03:37.680 So I had a couple things that I wanted to start with that were inappropriate.
00:03:42.460 Um, I think we should start, and I'm not saying we can't go further, guys.
00:03:48.340 I know we can.
00:03:49.580 But I think as a start, um, because we are in 2023, let's start by putting the upper thigh
00:03:57.960 away, the mid-drift away, and the upper thigh, the mid-drift away, the boobs away, the butt
00:04:09.960 away.
00:04:10.880 Um, so no low cleavage, no butt out.
00:04:15.980 Um, I think at some point we can have a conversation about yoga pants, but that's a different day.
00:04:21.060 Um, and I think that's a start, ladies, um, because at some point, becoming a wife and
00:04:27.600 a mother is a role.
00:04:29.280 And when you are adapting and becoming that role, you know, you're not supposed to dress
00:04:37.020 like a teenager.
00:04:37.980 Now, the pushback I get is from these mothers that are older than me and claim they look better
00:04:43.160 than me, and some of them do, okay?
00:04:44.900 Some of them are hot.
00:04:45.820 But, um, but it's not a good look when you're 45 years old and you're cosplaying as a 22-year-old.
00:04:53.680 I'm sorry.
00:04:54.620 Younger women dress differently than older women, and they are meant to.
00:04:58.380 That is a different role.
00:04:59.780 You are meant to be valued for different things when you are older because looks fade for everybody.
00:05:06.760 And if we can't have an honest conversation about what's modest and what's immodest, you
00:05:13.340 know, I'm just trying to start the conversation.
00:05:16.640 Um, so this, these mothers and wives will start tweeting at me their selfies, which again
00:05:22.040 is just really weird.
00:05:23.520 It's really weird.
00:05:24.500 Like, go, and, you know, it's one thing to wear something immodest for your husband.
00:05:30.340 That's kind of the pushback.
00:05:31.380 Well, I look like this and I dress like this for my husband.
00:05:34.200 But my question is, why are there pictures of you online?
00:05:38.820 Why are there pictures of you online for the world to see if it's for your husband?
00:05:43.860 And I started to think about how people sort of look at the man a little bit funny when
00:05:49.300 his girl is dressed like a hooker.
00:05:50.880 I'll give you guys an example.
00:05:52.540 I went to a business dinner a couple of months ago and this girl came with one of the business
00:05:59.240 guys and this woman was dressed like a complete hooker.
00:06:03.120 She was dressed like it was, it was ridiculous.
00:06:06.060 Her boobs were, I'm like, I thought we were talking about business.
00:06:10.940 All I can see is this chick's boobs.
00:06:13.220 Like, you know what I mean?
00:06:15.480 Um, and it makes you look at the guy funny because you think, why aren't you protecting
00:06:21.780 your chick from the world who is obviously going to look, you know, you know what I mean?
00:06:29.600 Um, and it's an honest conversation about what is appropriate.
00:06:36.800 And as a man, do you have a responsibility to look out for your woman and make sure that
00:06:41.480 she dresses modestly?
00:06:42.700 Now I know women in 2023 say men can't tell me anything, but I really do think that's
00:06:49.000 partially the responsibility of the man.
00:06:51.940 And on top of that, you know, I could say the same thing for men in sweatsuit and sneakers.
00:06:58.860 You know, I had a co-host, um, that, you know, that, that who shall not be named, who decided
00:07:05.960 to make a video calling me a colonizer.
00:07:08.620 Um, who, when we first started the show together, I sort of told him to, you know, up the dress
00:07:15.800 because he showed up in a track suit.
00:07:18.240 And, you know, again, over a certain age, it's time to dress like an adult.
00:07:22.220 I'm not a style expert.
00:07:23.600 I'm certainly not a fashion expert.
00:07:26.120 Um, but I want to have the conversation.
00:07:28.860 What's appropriate and what's inappropriate and do the men have some responsibility in
00:07:35.680 how their women dress?
00:07:37.780 Let me know in the comments, like the video on your way out, subscribe.
00:07:42.140 I'll talk to you later.