JustPearlyThings - Why Men Are Against Girl's Night Out

00:00:00.000 to find somebody i don't agree with because you're your own person just because you're in a

00:00:05.020 relationship guys guys guys stop stop wait wait wait we need one at a time why would you think 0.98

00:00:10.100 it's something stupid or whatever you trust the man enough to be with him you trust the man enough 0.87

00:00:14.540 to sleep with him so why won't you trust his opinion why does he have to give that if i say 0.99

00:00:18.280 to my man like i went in if i say to my man don't do this the first thing is me thinking not she's

00:00:23.260 telling me what to do there must be a reason behind it why she's telling me not to do because

00:00:27.180 she trusts me i did not go i had two free tickets i did not go i'll tell you why wait wait wait

00:00:32.700 until you ask me a question i'll tell you why because the same way a man wants that sort of

00:00:36.260 validation a woman wants assurance i don't want to just blindly do everything all the time especially

00:00:40.600 sometimes i'm thinking okay that's okay so let's talk that's what submission is no so let's make

00:00:44.300 let's make a point i made a really important point i made a really important point because this the

00:00:48.100 point she's making is twofold and it's extremely important because a lot of women talk about being 0.98

00:00:51.120 submissive but they're submissive when it suits them that's not submission so she wanted to go to the

00:00:56.480 concert he said no she trusts him as a man she didn't go absolute respect for that that's exactly

00:01:01.280 my woman would have done exactly the same thing women go i'm submissive you're submissive when he's 0.99

00:01:06.420 buying you shit in bed and you're submissive but the second he says something you don't like you 1.00

00:01:10.500 instantly turn off the submission run your fucking mouth that's not submissive that's manipulation 1.00

00:01:13.640 that's bullshit so that's the first thing the second thing is responsibility and authority are linked 1.00

00:01:18.580 and if as a man if i'm going to be responsible for a woman i need a degree of authority over her 0.98

00:01:24.380 this is the reality of it if i'm going to be responsible for paying your bills responsible

00:01:28.180 for your personal safety and responsible for your personal development responsible for fixing

00:01:31.800 the life fitting and responsible for everything that i'm supposed to do as a man i need a degree

00:01:36.700 of authority to sometimes come along and say xyz and be obeyed if i'm gonna have a ship if you have a

00:01:41.940 ship the reason the captain has to go down with the ship is because he is responsible for everything

00:01:46.740 that happens on that ship and because of that he has authority if he yells at the shipmates and they all

00:01:52.120 ignore him then he can't be considered responsible for the problems on the ship which means he doesn't

00:01:56.320 have to die with it if you want a man invested in a relationship he needs to be responsible for you

00:02:01.180 but he needs authority over you and you know what the smartest thing you can do as a woman is sit and 1.00

00:02:05.460 go you know what going to this concert is two hours but this is going to piss him off and it's going to 0.70

00:02:10.800 splinter in his mind for years is this really worth it now i'm not saying let some man abuse you let 0.98

00:02:18.440 the man treat the shit that but if you have a good man who's good to you 99 percent of the time and he 0.98

00:02:22.040 comes along he really cares about something you should give him that grace and give him that you 0.99

00:02:27.040 know what he's the man he said it boom done because if something happened to you at that concert 0.93

00:02:31.580 if your bag if your bag was snatched if you got fucking robbed if someone tried to punch you 0.83

00:02:37.220 if someone grabbed you who would you call okay the police you call your man the police you call him 0.98

00:02:45.060 senor andrew mr tate king master supreme leader of everything the universe the matrix and all of that

00:02:50.620 no i just say this because it keeps him chilled wait wait wait wait wait do you not think that

00:02:56.160 wait wait wait wait wait wait one second one second i just i just i you go ahead if you want to say

00:03:02.280 something just doing the most of course i have to do the most this is the thing what you don't

00:03:06.620 understand is that as a lady i am displaying to you that it's very easy to speak to a man like

00:03:11.160 andrew tate as long as you don't need to step on his toes and you expect you respect the authority

00:03:14.940 that he has i'm not going to sit here and try and fight against the man that has done a lot more in

00:03:19.020 my life been in rooms i haven't been in because he's andrew tate i respect you but i can still put my

00:03:24.540 point across okay my point is no but there is a point of course look i'm just saying something when you

00:03:30.100 say but after something you just can't see what you said before however it's a point is an

00:03:34.760 acknowledgement and then comes the counter argument because i don't have to agree with things to speak

00:03:38.780 okay so my point simply is fine i get that but at the end of the day the same way that we have

00:03:45.000 evolved now as a woman i have evolved i i would expect and what i do want is not equality is a

00:03:50.660 certain level of respect which means that if i am also somebody that is quite smart somebody that can

00:03:55.940 take care of themselves i've done all of this for about 30 years of my life you can't tell me just

00:04:00.300 no what the condition is sorry yeah the condition is instead of telling me no give me the assurance

00:04:05.680 as to why you said no because actually i am agreeable when you make me feel assured that what

00:04:09.980 you're doing makes me feel safe actually because what women are looking in love for is stability and 0.97

00:04:15.180 stability comes from knowing that you can trust the man i don't trust blindly it doesn't count if

00:04:21.040 you're only agreeable when you feel like being agreeable can i just say something

00:04:23.840 can i just say something i'm submissive you're only submissive when you you're only submissive when

00:04:29.940 you feel like being agree like when you feel like it can i just say something out of respect

00:04:34.680 we live in different houses of course if i went he'd never know my me and my man because i i'm a

00:04:39.560 caregiver if i if i went he would have never known right so i still didn't go okay and so what you

00:04:48.860 were saying so i'll say to you okay baby don't want me to go why don't you mean to go like what's

00:04:52.800 worrying what's the matter why would you not want me to go but why would i want to question him when

00:04:55.880 he's always got my best interest at heart well i want to know i don't know why because my best

00:04:59.840 interest why should he have to explain everything because you're not a child you are also an adult

00:05:04.540 and it's not i'm treating a woman like she doesn't have her own mind it's very disrespectful

00:05:08.720 acknowledgement like i'm sorry think about it right i'm a 26 i'm 26 right yeah i've lived my life all

00:05:15.760 by myself and then i'm in a relationship and this man is telling me i can't go out with no reason

00:05:21.080 does that make sense can i do that to a man and just say i don't want you to go out if i told him

00:05:25.620 if i told my man listen right you know you said you're going such and such well you know what i don't

00:05:30.200 really think you should go you'll think about it and he'll say you really don't want me to go and i'll say

00:05:33.580 no it won't go that's a lie that's not a lie there's no matter if we can do if we can do

00:05:39.140 let me give you let me give you let me give you let me give you let me ask you girls let me ask 0.91

00:05:43.420 you girls a question the reason she decided not to go is because this is obviously not a regular

00:05:47.220 occurrence right so he had a reason and she trusts his judgment let me give you girls a scenario let's 1.00

00:05:52.020 imagine i'm with a chick whatever whatever she has a concert i said i don't want you to go and she 1.00

00:05:57.320 she replies like you why can't i go and i say got a bad feeling don't go 1.00

00:06:01.900 now what now so would you think the woman should just go i don't give a shit about your stupid 1.00

00:06:08.300 feeling and bounce or should she trust me there's no reason there's no reason i got a bad feeling 0.99

00:06:15.400 this is the thing that doesn't make sense wait wait look at the key listen listen my sister this is the

00:06:20.360 key when he say i don't know i just got a bad feeling let me tell you how that is get translate

00:06:25.540 into my head he cares about me and he's actually thinking about something that potentially could be

00:06:30.220 happened that i'm not aware of i love him for thinking outside the box but you've reassured

00:06:34.500 me you've shown me respect for being able to make my own decision and that's all it takes

00:06:38.380 that's all a girl wants to hear no but i'm sorry you need a logical reason as to why you're gonna tell

00:06:43.100 me a feeling a feeling is not logical a feeling is not logical the whole point is like you're not

00:06:50.520 trying the whole the whole point is a guy doesn't want to explain like what every decision he makes

00:06:55.680 and i don't want to admit to every decision he makes a lot of times like men think things through

00:06:59.880 a lot like more than we realize and so he's already thought about it he's already made his decision

00:07:04.660 it's a headache to him when every time he makes a decision he has to explain it to you

00:07:08.920 that's right and if you trust that man if you trust that man and you've been with him as long

00:07:12.740 as auntie's been with her man and he says something with the kind of relationship they

00:07:16.360 have and the respect they have for each other of course she's gonna be like all right well cool

00:07:19.160 done that's trust and that's trust i wasn't happy of course but and also that's that's a really good

00:07:25.180 point about submission because submissions is largely misunderstood like i can tell you a million

00:07:29.440 stories i've had girls who are like yeah you're the man you're in charge and yeah no problem

00:07:33.480 that uh yeah she's cool and she's cool on the jet she's cool in dubai she's cool in the

00:07:37.220 restaurants she's cool in the five stars she's cool in the lambo the but the second i say something

00:07:41.300 that she that she half doesn't like then she's like well you know what then she's a feminist 1.00

00:07:45.600 right so women do this very well a lot of women flip-flop like if you trust your man and you really 1.00

00:07:50.940 want to be with him and you really want to submit to him there's going to be times you're going to

00:07:53.260 submit in ways you don't like that's the whole point of it there's going to be times you have to do

00:07:57.240 things you don't want to do i've actually said this in the past i respect you in the fact that

00:08:01.980 you're willing to give a woman a life you're willing to provide for her so i respect that

00:08:06.960 you can then tell her i want you to do this baby she has to listen right but a lot of women 1.00

00:08:11.460 they want autonomy over themselves but i don't personally i don't want a man that's going to

00:08:16.660 provide for me just so he can tell me to sit down and i'm a dog and i'm gonna sit down let's

00:08:20.380 understand something i can make my own decisions let's understand something every man will give

00:08:25.640 you a life it's just a matter of whether you're happy with not every man no no exactly every man

00:08:31.440 will give you a life it's just a matter of whether you're happy with the man the life that man is

00:08:35.000 capable of giving and this goes back into the earlier points we were saying you can find a

00:08:40.120 good man who will work his ass off and give you the best life he can possibly give you give you

00:08:44.100 every ounce of strength inside of him he'll give you all he has you can get that but if you're going

00:08:49.480 to wake up and go no i don't want that life i want that life well then that comes with problems

00:08:54.740 yeah and this is the cognitive dissonance that most females operate under where they sit and go i want 1.00

00:09:00.560 that life but i want him to act like that guy i want the nissan and the mclaren you can't have

00:09:08.400 both what about you need to decide and and there becomes a degree of female maturity as you said 0.99

00:09:13.720 earlier you get to a point where you're like you know what maybe all that glitz and glam and

00:09:16.600 bullshit isn't worth it it's not worth it you grow up right and and that's fantastic and you make a

00:09:22.540 different decision and i'm saying that a lot of women get to that point the problem is in the modern 1.00

00:09:27.800 world the shit women did before they got to that point from 19 to 24 pisses the man off to the point 1.00

00:09:34.340 where he's never going to be as good as he could be it's different in your in your world right you 1.00

00:09:38.700 met a man you stayed with that man ding i know plenty of people first man high school sweethearts 0.54

00:09:44.140 the world was different only 40 50 years ago the second man they've been married forever 50 year 0.91

00:09:49.240 marriages all that shit's gone and then we have to tie back into all the other sub points i've made 0.97

00:09:54.060 into you've had a very fun life at your peak sexual value from 19 to 24 running around doing xyz now 0.99

00:10:00.540 you're with this guy who can't give you the life he knows you've already lived part of him feels inferior 0.98

00:10:05.020 his status is damaged because all the shit you did is on instagram and he ain't the one who gave it to 0.99

00:10:10.300 you and now you're expecting a whole bunch of crap out of him and now when he comes and works his ass off 0.98

00:10:16.720 and manages to save up and buy a bmw and picks you up hey i got bmw you go yeah i like mercedes 0.99

00:10:24.880 and this is the point you're missing it's not about the fucking car it's about something larger than 0.98

00:10:31.220 that it's about making him feel like he's a man again and now he's in charge 0.98

00:10:35.100 a woman shouldn't have to make a man feel like a man you're sitting here going i'm an i'm an

00:10:38.520 autonomous female i can talk about that but you're what are you doing you're damaging the psyche 1.00

00:10:44.060 of the man who's trying to love you is it worth it but what do you mean by loving can we break it

00:10:50.140 down can we break it down does loving mean that you listen to what i have to say and also think

00:10:55.520 about what i want and not just what you want is that what loving means if that's it i can i can

00:11:00.280 subscribe to that but i'm not gonna subscribe to you sit down and you have to sit down it's not

00:11:04.340 about that i'm a grown-ass woman i pay my own bills and you're gonna tell me what to do that's fine

00:11:08.580 but it gets to a point it gets to a point where you have to sit and analyze the scenario you're in

00:11:13.900 and try and realize and pick your battles and i'm telling you you may not realize it but a man does 0.99

00:11:20.040 a whole bunch of shit for you that you don't know he's watching the shows you want to watch he's 0.99

00:11:25.480 listen to you talk gossip about the girls at work he's fucking going yeah i like that dress that 1.00

00:11:30.020 he doesn't give a fuck about any of it he's doing it for you but the second is back the other 1.00

00:11:35.280 way you have some fucking issue with autonomy it's bullshit listen yeah he's right because women 1.00

00:11:41.460 women talk nonsense for a long time yeah babe you're right yeah babe can't believe she did that 1.00

00:11:47.400 it's true babe oh yeah that show is good yeah babe yeah it's true you become upset i agree men do a lot 0.90

00:11:53.140 but women do a lot too as much as my if my man caters to me i will do anything to make him happy 1.00

00:11:59.140 if he says oh babe i want to i like this meal i will i will make sure i can cook it for him because

00:12:04.880 guess what he actually cares about what i want as well you can't just have a one-way relationship

00:12:09.840 i'm just saying i'm just saying if i was a woman and i had to make a man as attracted to me as

00:12:17.540 possible my goal would be to give that man status and make him feel good about himself and i'd be very

00:12:22.680 very careful talking too much about life experiences or opposing views not because he's out to oppress me

00:12:27.660 not because he's an evil horrible person but because he's trying to find somebody with a

00:12:32.540 similar life view he's trying to find somebody he can show the world to trying to find somebody

00:12:36.480 he can feel like he can teach things to that's how you get the best out of a man i'll tell you

00:12:40.980 how you get the best out of a man that's why i got clementine no no no but if you go into a man's room

00:12:45.340 when he's playing video games and he's playing video games and you say all you do is play video

00:12:48.780 games and you nag him he'll play video games if you walk in there and go you know what you're so smart

00:12:52.960 i've seen you do so many amazing things and you said so many amazing things why do you waste your time 0.99

00:12:56.340 playing video games you could show me so much now you're gonna get him off the fucking console 0.99

00:13:01.380 yeah but it's an e i know it's an ego play i know your old girls are like why should i have to do 1.00

00:13:06.420 that there's a lot because he tells you look pretty in the morning because you win it's because in the

00:13:11.820 end you win you talk about why should i have to do that well why should you have to work hard in the

00:13:16.500 gym to get six back because you win that's the game if you it's actually men are so simple 0.94

00:13:22.140 we are so simple and the truth is women know it this is what's amazing women pretend they're 1.00

00:13:26.540 confused you're not confused you know you're just egos are in the way and society's telling you 0.97

00:13:31.240 something else and you just fucking refuse to be agreeable nice people so i have a question for 0.98

00:13:46.460 the girls so imagine you're dating a guy okay and it's your birthday and for your birthday he gets 0.98

00:13:51.820 you let's say a 500 gift okay and you're you're happy right it's very it's thoughtful it's specific

00:13:58.060 to you then you found out last year he got his ex-girlfriend an entire birthday party

00:14:04.480 how does that make you feel he she he went to he did the most he he rented out the nicest hotel in

00:14:10.980 london he got her everything she wanted the year before me no care you don't care i don't really

00:14:17.660 care as long as he's he's making me happy okay we're different we're different people too it's a

00:14:24.620 different relationship and maybe like you know he he bought her flowers every day 365 days a year and

00:14:30.700 he didn't do that for me it's like well if that's what makes her happy he's gonna do it makes her

00:14:34.200 happy i mean i get i get the angle what you're saying is like oh she did you know he did all that

00:14:39.020 for her why am i not good enough but the second you compare yourself you lose yeah yeah and i i agree

00:14:45.020 but i'm just saying that's how men look at like your past is like basically like you've given it for

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JustPearlyThings - December 28, 2022

Why Men Are Against Girl's Night Out

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