JustPearlyThings - Why Men Don't Want Women Over 30

00:00:00.000 people can be likable and not sorry not dependable husband father material yeah correct and the

00:00:05.840 parents see that yeah and then we just say la la la i don't hear you i pick them anyway

00:00:11.840 you just unpacked something really interesting for a lot of guys listening to this need to be

00:00:15.680 really careful about this you're like well you know we were i was in my 20s and picking guys

00:00:20.480 that weren't like a good long-term you know secure option i was picking like this thing they got me

00:00:25.120 what really what they did is they got you sexually excited that's what it was i was there was passion

00:00:29.520 and there was some attraction there's charisma there's that you know that's exactly what it was

00:00:33.840 and then you're you get and now you're like well i wasn't thinking about this like longevity and

00:00:37.920 this and it's like what do you mean you weren't thinking about it i know what it means i mean

00:00:42.160 let me say what what it means is now you're thinking about it and so now you're having as a woman and

00:00:47.120 this is like not you specifically but in general women get to 30 31 32 it's like oh now i have to

00:00:52.160 think about these things which means you're rationalizing yourself into a relationship and

00:00:55.760 the question i would have is is rationalizing yourself into a relationship genuine desire

00:01:00.080 no you do misunderstand me a little bit i've always always wanted to get married and have kids and i've

00:01:05.280 always been thinking oh yeah i'll marry this person without thinking what does he earn what potential

00:01:11.600 does he have to earn anymore does he even want to earn anymore he smokes i don't even like smoking why

00:01:15.680 would i marry someone that's my it's the worst thing in the world i you know what i mean they've done

00:01:19.520 drugs well that's like i hate it and i and for me it's a passion so i'm trying to accept things that i

00:01:25.280 don't accept and trying to make this person into something instead of finding a man that is

00:01:29.440 already right but he's saying he's saying like again you're could you explain the bottom you're

00:01:34.160 right i don't i don't i don't misunderstand it at all and i know exactly what it means and you can't

00:01:41.200 and you couldn't say it if you did so it doesn't matter that you would never say i wouldn't settle for

00:01:44.720 my partner you wouldn't say the opposite so that we can't trust those words even though they're probably

00:01:48.800 i want you to be right but we can't trust no it's like well you know i wouldn't speak badly 0.88

00:01:52.720 with my husband no shit you wouldn't obviously you wouldn't so that's fine but the reality is you 0.62

00:01:56.560 get you know women get to a certain age and they start looking these other attributes but that's 1.00

00:01:59.680 not genuine desire right and so what happens is when she marries that guy where was that genuine

00:02:04.560 desire in the 20s it's still for those guys and by the way coming back to this where did she go

00:02:08.080 back to for that genuine desire no but sexual desire isn't what gonna is going to keep you in

00:02:12.480 a relationship but it'll make you it didn't but it'll make you cheat and that's you know my body

00:02:16.640 doesn't mean that you don't sexually desire the partner that you've checked because it sure doesn't

00:02:20.160 but you can look out and find somebody who is all of the things that you're 100 you're 100 correct

00:02:26.080 but so the chances of it are very slim though i got i got a friend he's worth about 120 million

00:02:31.200 uh he's 42 and he's single he's a great guy i'm real tight with this guy but he's single he's 42 and

00:02:35.760 he flies all the time around the world he tells me he's like i'm bringing this girl on a trip with me

00:02:39.440 i'm bringing that girl on a trip with me that's what these guys do when they're 100 million you know

00:02:42.240 before they're 40 they just fly around the world and take girls with them in different places right 0.99

00:02:45.680 makes sense and he's like oh i'm taking this chick but she's married i'm like what she's

00:02:50.080 he's like yeah we used to hook up like you know six seven years ago and then she got married but

00:02:53.120 you know how it goes and i'm like what do you mean he's like well you know she's married some guy he's

00:02:57.600 a construction guy he's a nice guy but he can't take her to dubai for a week and i can so she just

00:03:02.000 says she's got a work trip and she just goes and meets with me and i'm like dude is that normal he's

00:03:06.480 like he's like yeah like every chick i hooked up with in my 30s that got married is now like

00:03:11.360 lighting me up on insta like hey what you do and haven't you know thought about you for a while

00:03:16.160 and and i'm like so what does that teach you sir about you know the dating marketplace he goes i

00:03:20.800 wouldn't and he's 42 now he goes i would never marry a woman in her 30s why because i know that

00:03:25.360 she's not marrying me for the genuine desire at this point she just wants to settle down now that might 0.99

00:03:31.440 be an extreme argument to look at it and i understand that group statistics don't apply to

00:03:35.600 an individual but that's a scary thing to think about and so i'm like so who are you going to marry

00:03:39.040 you're 42 he's like um you know he's like i i think if i get married it'll be an omito girl 22 23

00:03:44.720 it's a big age gap but he's like but he's got 120 mil he's got the life like he's got women

00:03:48.960 available to him at that option he doesn't have to deal with the history that's his biggest fear

00:03:52.240 is during dealing with the history i will agree actually so if i met my partner at work and it

00:03:58.000 literally seriously lucked out but before that when i was looking on tinder you've got divorcees you've

00:04:02.880 got dads i don't want to be with somebody that's got kids already that aren't you know that

00:04:07.440 you've got slim pickings at 35 34 so in that case i can see that a lot of women would probably settle or 1.00

00:04:15.360 no i mean yeah but you also you can also see why from a guy's point of view it's like risky with a

00:04:20.160 girl that's older because it's like more baggage that he has to deal with more guys that he that he

00:04:25.760 really has to compete with and rollo tomasi has a phrase it's not the number but it's like the number

00:04:30.720 of like alphas or i can't i'm butchering this please don't really but it's basically like the

00:04:35.920 number of high value guys that she's been with because if she's been with drake um i don't know

00:04:41.760 the ceo of budweiser like how how is you know tom dick or harry gonna compete with you know she's

00:04:51.520 always gonna feel like she's settled and nobody wants to feel like they settled in a relationship 0.83

00:04:55.440 but men can live with it women can't i think anyway do you think that's true well one thing 0.99

00:05:00.720 that i that i really i'm very passionate about like in our business uh we're in the suit selling

00:05:04.320 business but really we recruit and hire young men uh and and my pitch is very simple i hire young men

00:05:08.720 and teach them how to make a million dollars a year that's what i do in my business right

00:05:11.760 our company you know offices 27 countries across the world uh most of the guys that work with us are in

00:05:16.720 their early to mid 20s when they start we teach them how to build value and i tell the guys this i'm

00:05:20.400 like don't get married in your 20s they go what i'm like you're going to be working 80 hours a week

00:05:24.240 with us just commit to that work 80 hours a week and when you're not working go to the gym why

00:05:28.640 because by the time you get to 27 28 30 you're going to have a lot of money and a lot of muscles

00:05:34.000 and then you can live the life that you want and that's what i teach so it's like the the sort of

00:05:39.360 what this conversation cultivates to is like yeah we can talk about what's a high value woman but the

00:05:45.040 deeper question is how does a man get a high value woman because there is such a thing as a high value 1.00

00:05:51.360 so how do you get that so i want to ask you girls what do you think how does a man get a high value

00:05:54.640 if you think you're a high value woman how does a man get you and don't say lazy and funny 1.00

00:05:59.840 i think definitely every man should go to the gym because that's the first thing a woman looks at 1.00

00:06:06.000 you don't even have to be particularly good looking but if you're fit and you've got you

00:06:10.000 look like you can protect someone you've got presence in a room then that works straight away

00:06:14.000 and then if you're you have to be more than that so if you're funny it helps if you've got charisma if

00:06:18.960 you've got a good job if you've got drive um and then i think the soft nice stuff actually probably

00:06:27.440 comes last or the cuddly i think women can live without that i think you need it a bit but i think 1.00

00:06:33.920 where men start with that and that you know you go out with the nice guy and he gets you flowers

00:06:38.320 but he's not strong and he's not driven and he's it kind of makes you feel a bit sickly that they get

00:06:42.800 you the flowers and they're nice to you all the time it's kind of too much yeah honestly and that

00:06:47.280 sounds but that's why nice guys don't get the girl it's because that they because they have nothing

00:06:52.960 else to compete on it's because it's the easiest thing to to project but it doesn't require sacrifice

00:06:59.200 but it's not that because i was thinking earlier that if those guys just went to the gym and got a

00:07:05.120 bit more presence that's easier than trying to get those guys to be nice and lovely and you know and

00:07:13.600 potentially commit so you know we always go for those guys hoping that they're going to choose

00:07:18.720 us when actually they can choose from so many women and they don't care and they don't have any 0.97

00:07:22.480 rush to settle down why are they going to do that for us what as opposed to sorry the nicer guys

00:07:29.360 if you get a guy in the middle it's kind of like a five across the board he can kind of like boost up a

00:07:33.600 bit and that that that's good well what do you think i think if i see my man treat his mum with 0.70

00:07:42.080 respect you know treat treat his the women in his family how they should be treated because i've seen

00:07:47.600 a lot of guys and they they're horrible to their parents who was your last boyfriend three years

00:07:53.600 ago they're my only boyfriend okay was he nice to his mom yeah very nice who ended the relationship

00:08:00.800 um me so let's say listen to what women do not say but um why he was nice to his mom yeah he was nice

00:08:11.440 to his mom but he also liked to do a lot of really bad things so that didn't do it for me but that is

00:08:19.040 definitely a big thing though still the parents um looking at hygiene so you want to get laid be 0.97

00:08:25.440 nice to your mother and shower all right hygiene um for me i like a man with money

00:08:32.960 gonna say it because i need to feel stable as well you know and women like to be looked after i 1.00

00:08:37.200 appreciate the honesty i like you're not capping we don't cap

JustPearlyThings - August 14, 2023

Why Men Don't Want Women Over 30

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