JustPearlyThings - February 07, 2023


Why Men Gets Side-Chicks


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Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

174.46153

Word count

1,512

Sentence count

159

Harmful content

Misogyny

27

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Hate speech

9

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This week we talk about having a side chick, a mistress, and a sneaky link. What does it mean to be a "side chick" and how does it differ from a "main chick" or a "sneaky link"?

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00:00:00.000 So, to start, have you guys ever had a side chick or been a side chick?
00:00:05.000 Yeah, I've had a side chick.
00:00:07.000 Okay, so you have?
00:00:08.000 Yeah, I've been a side chick.
00:00:10.000 You've been a side chick?
00:00:11.000 Yeah, I have.
00:00:13.000 Well, I did not plan this at all.
00:00:16.000 Wow, okay, okay, okay, go ahead.
00:00:18.000 No, not an official side chick, but like, I chuckled multiple tings at the same time.
00:00:23.000 Okay.
00:00:24.000 Unofficial.
00:00:25.000 Yeah, no, I've never had a side chick per se.
00:00:29.000 But juggling, yeah, but not side chick.
00:00:33.000 I would say yes.
00:00:35.000 So, when you guys hear side chick, because when I think of side chick, I think there's like a main chick, and then like, you know.
00:00:41.000 Exactly.
00:00:42.000 Because I don't think it's a side chick if you juggle multiple, wouldn't that be?
00:00:46.000 I actually have a question.
00:00:47.000 Do you guys think, what's the difference between a side chick, a mistress, and a sneaky link?
00:00:52.000 Side chick, mistress, and a sneaky link, you said. What's the difference?
00:00:56.000 Yeah, yeah.
00:00:57.000 Side chick is when you've got a girl, and then you've got another girl as well on the side, that doesn't necessarily know about the, yeah.
00:01:05.000 They don't know about each other.
00:01:06.000 Okay.
00:01:07.000 Mysteries is more for married people.
00:01:09.000 If you're married and you've got a side chick, it's a mistress. 1.00
00:01:11.000 Okay.
00:01:12.000 Kind of upgraded side chick. 0.98
00:01:14.000 Yeah.
00:01:15.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:16.000 That's it.
00:01:17.000 Because when I think of a sneaky link, like that is they're not in a relationship.
00:01:20.000 Yeah.
00:01:21.000 It's just like a sneak.
00:01:22.000 Yeah, that's just somebody you sneak around with late nights.
00:01:24.000 Past 11 o'clock, booty calls.
00:01:26.000 Booty calls.
00:01:27.000 Yeah.
00:01:28.000 Okay.
00:01:29.000 So, question for the guys that said yes to having a side chick.
00:01:35.000 What made you want to get a side chick? 0.98
00:01:41.000 Was your girlfriend not doing something?
00:01:43.000 That's usually the reason for a side chick. 1.00
00:01:46.000 Because, you know, like if you get into a relationship with a girl, she kind of gives you like a terms and conditions list, like without even saying it really.
00:01:54.000 So, you know what you can kind of get from your main girl, because, you know, in return, you know, you're taking her out in public.
00:02:04.000 Whereas your side chick, she doesn't really care about being out in public. 1.00
00:02:07.000 And she might do the things that your main girl might not. 0.99
00:02:10.000 So, that's kind of how she might have crept into, you know, being my side chick by doing the stuff my main thing wasn't doing.
00:02:17.000 Can I have an example of something?
00:02:19.000 Um.
00:02:21.000 Yeah.
00:02:24.000 Learning when to be quiet.
00:02:28.000 Okay.
00:02:30.000 Like just accepting something and just being like, all right, cool.
00:02:33.000 So, your main girl was always arguing with you. 0.98
00:02:36.000 Yeah.
00:02:37.000 And so, like that just got tiring.
00:02:38.000 So, then you were like, I need to find someone who gives me peace.
00:02:41.000 Some peace and quiet.
00:02:42.000 Yeah.
00:02:43.000 And so, why did you not promote the side chick to main?
00:02:45.000 Because being a side chick, you can't really promote. 0.97
00:02:52.000 Once you come in as a side chick. 0.52
00:02:55.000 You're never coming out.
00:02:56.000 Nah, you're never coming out.
00:02:57.000 You're never coming out the side.
00:02:58.000 You're staying in that.
00:02:59.000 It's like the friend zone.
00:03:00.000 Absolutely.
00:03:01.000 Men, we have that. 0.90
00:03:02.000 I'll be putting them in the side chick friend zone too.
00:03:04.000 Once you're in there, you come in that gate, you leave in that gate.
00:03:07.000 Uh-huh.
00:03:08.000 You know what I mean?
00:03:09.000 So, what do you guys think?
00:03:10.000 Can a side chick be promoted to main chick? 1.00
00:03:14.000 Absolutely not.
00:03:16.000 I know your answer.
00:03:18.000 It's a respect thing.
00:03:20.000 So, you just won't ever respect them in that way.
00:03:22.000 Do you know what I mean?
00:03:23.000 Mm-hmm.
00:03:24.000 Go ahead.
00:03:25.000 Nah.
00:03:26.000 Simple.
00:03:27.000 As simple as that.
00:03:28.000 I don't think so.
00:03:29.000 Nah.
00:03:30.000 Side chicks, if it's a girl that you don't necessarily respect enough to be your actual wife, 0.99
00:03:36.000 then she's not, that's not what she's for.
00:03:38.000 Mm-hmm.
00:03:39.000 She's for, she serves a purpose.
00:03:41.000 They're usually not as good looking as well.
00:03:43.000 It's like usually a Walmart version of your girlfriend. 1.00
00:03:45.000 Yeah.
00:03:46.000 B-Tech version.
00:03:47.000 Little, little, little version.
00:03:48.000 But if your main girl leaves you and you splurge with your missus, 1.00
00:03:52.000 the side chick's gonna become your main girl anyway. 1.00
00:03:55.000 No.
00:03:56.000 That turns into a situation.
00:03:57.000 Yeah, that turns into a sneaky link.
00:04:02.000 She gets demoted from side chick to sneaky link. 1.00
00:04:05.000 And then you go and wash someone else.
00:04:07.000 Do you know what I mean?
00:04:08.000 And then she's still the side chick. 0.64
00:04:11.000 What about you guys?
00:04:12.000 So being on the other end of that, what was it like being a side chick?
00:04:15.000 Horrendous.
00:04:16.000 Horrendous.
00:04:17.000 Awful.
00:04:18.000 I think being a side chick, you still class yourself as, even though you know you're side chick,
00:04:24.000 you still like to think that you're their main girl or you're the person bringing all the fun to them.
00:04:30.000 So it still feels like you're their main girl.
00:04:33.000 But then you know it's never going anywhere.
00:04:36.000 You're never stepping out of that zone because you let yourself come into that zone.
00:04:39.000 That's always the problem.
00:04:40.000 Why do you stay?
00:04:42.000 Because it's fun.
00:04:43.000 Yeah.
00:04:44.000 And I think a part of you still hopes that you might, they might promote you to their main chick.
00:04:51.000 But that never happens.
00:04:53.000 Ever.
00:04:54.000 So.
00:04:55.000 Absolutely.
00:04:56.000 For me, it was, it was fine because I knew what I was getting into.
00:05:02.000 I knew I was the side chick and I didn't want nothing else.
00:05:06.000 And it was what it was.
00:05:07.000 So for me, it was fine.
00:05:09.000 But I think if you understand going in that you're not going to be upgraded and you're not emotionally attached to the person,
00:05:18.000 like try not to get emotionally attached, then you can do it successfully.
00:05:22.000 Yeah.
00:05:23.000 Okay.
00:05:24.000 Blessing.
00:05:25.000 I know you're fixing the camera, but I need you to pull the, yeah.
00:05:28.000 Yeah.
00:05:29.000 So we have a video we're going to react to.
00:05:31.000 And I just want to see everyone's.
00:05:33.000 It's called, um, side chicks have high self esteem. 1.00
00:05:38.000 Yeah.
00:05:39.000 They definitely do.
00:05:41.000 What up YouTube?
00:05:44.000 It's your big homie, AP.
00:05:47.000 And this is for all the women that think that side chicks have low self esteem. 1.00
00:05:57.000 Okay.
00:05:58.000 I've heard that shit so many times in my life.
00:06:01.000 Or when I talk about the women I've dated and shit and women say, I mean, that's that type of woman. 1.00
00:06:08.000 I mean, you, you know, those women have low self esteem to fuck with somebody like you and this, that and the other. 1.00
00:06:14.000 Let me explain this shit so y'all can finally get an understanding and understand that these women have the highest self esteem. 1.00
00:06:24.000 Okay.
00:06:25.000 First of all, a woman that is a quote unquote side chick, she doesn't go into this situation like, oh man, I can't get a man for myself. 0.99
00:06:39.000 So I might as well latch on to somebody else shit or, you know, you know, I don't deserve a man of my own.
00:06:48.000 So I might as well deal with whoever will fuck with me.
00:06:52.000 That's not they motherfucking attitude.
00:06:54.000 All right.
00:06:55.000 They attitude is like, well, shit, if he talking to me, if he giving me time and attention, if he willing to take me out, if he willing to spend money on me, somebody ain't handling their fucking business at home.
00:07:11.000 You know what I'm saying?
00:07:12.000 And that might not be true, but this is how they think.
00:07:16.000 This is how a woman feel. 1.00
00:07:17.000 She might feel like, or you know what?
00:07:20.000 Shit.
00:07:21.000 He might got a chick now. 1.00
00:07:23.000 He might like his chick, but when he get some of this pussy, you know what I'm saying? 1.00
00:07:29.000 Or when he get a dose of me, man, he ain't going home.
00:07:34.000 You know what I'm saying?
00:07:35.000 He going to call her up like on Harlem nights. 0.93
00:07:37.000 Like, like, yeah, baby, I ain't coming home.
00:07:41.000 You know what I'm saying?
00:07:42.000 So that's the, that's the mentality of a side chick. 1.00
00:07:46.000 Not no, oh, I can't get a man of my own or, you know, all that kind of dumb shit.
00:07:52.000 These women go in like, well, shit, he can't, he can't be too happy if he barking up my tree. 1.00
00:07:59.000 You know, he calling my phone all the fucking time.
00:08:02.000 He seem to be always available for me.
00:08:04.000 You know what I'm saying?
00:08:05.000 They damn near start feeling like, man, that can't be serious what they got.
00:08:09.000 You know, if he, if he coming at me this hard, they can't be straight.
00:08:13.000 Thankfully, somebody comes rioting.
00:08:15.000 You know, a lot of stuff is pretty cold.
00:08:16.000 Don't think I can't be anymore.
00:08:17.000 Because when I get llega studies, you know.
00:08:20.000 Where the stuff is happening?
00:08:21.000 Yeah.
00:08:22.000 It's okay.
00:08:23.000 So now you, know what's going on tonight?
00:08:24.000 What do I do for you guys think or not today?
00:08:26.000 That time you hand up my life today?
00:08:28.000 To be near, walk out of town.
00:08:30.000 You know, I've already got caught.
00:08:31.000 And I was just waiting for him back.
00:08:36.000 Let's do it.
00:08:37.000 It's okay, but what you do, we get on, what the experience.