JustPearlyThings - August 27, 2023


Why Modern Relationships are NOT Working


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Length

10 minutes

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187.61401

Word count

2,057

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

11

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Hate speech

5

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In this episode, we discuss what happens when a man stops being the leader in a relationship and how to deal with it. What does that mean and what does it mean for a woman? How does it affect a relationship? How should a woman deal with a situation where a man is no longer leading?

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00:00:00.000 do you know what yeah old school relationships used to actually work on the issues and their 0.99
00:00:04.640 problems and communicate this is why we shouldn't vote all right so what if the man stops leading
00:00:13.040 a woman so what happens then if he stops leading on which a man is typically supposed to do well
00:00:18.080 did you well did you did you stop following why is it always not leading well well i i think you
00:00:24.480 know i i think that's kind of an excuse because i think when you think of the most docile feminine
00:00:29.920 women i'm not saying it's me but i'm saying like when we think of like the most docile women they're
00:00:34.720 going to be led even if a guy isn't like the strongest lead how guys naturally lead that's
00:00:40.240 part of who they are what if they naturally stop leading okay what does that mean stop leading
00:00:45.280 like if you're a man okay what does that mean just fall back and just this is what i find i find that
00:00:50.480 usually okay it'll start start man because god are above the men and then the women this is just my
00:00:56.560 beliefs okay so you know take this or leave it but i think usually when i hear that it means she's
00:01:01.520 a really argumentative domineering woman that um you know basically made his life hell for 20 years 1.00
00:01:07.920 and he just got tired of like listening to her so he just gave up i'm not saying it to you i don't
00:01:13.120 know of course this is just this is just one of the way because like usually a guy will tell you
00:01:18.800 something and do you listen or do you accuse him of not leading you know this is depends what he says
00:01:24.640 well see that means you can't follow what he does see but it shouldn't depend this shouldn't depend
00:01:30.000 when you when you tell your kids something do you say do they say it depends when i'm going to listen
00:01:34.800 no i mean no they're just supposed to listen because they're below there he got ah so you're
00:01:41.200 saying the woman is below the man so she should just listen yeah that's the hierarchy what he says 0.99
00:01:45.200 if he says um you know just jump off a cliff well i think if he tells you i think you know i think
00:01:51.040 there are some extremes like i'll give you an example when i'll give you an example i'll give
00:01:57.120 you an example when i i don't believe in birth control so i wouldn't if a guy told me go on
00:02:01.520 birth control i'd be like look i think that's against that's true against yeah so so you know but
00:02:08.640 that's what is it a pull out method what do you mean what do you look at i think when you get married
00:02:15.360 you should just yeah all right i think you just you know see what happens but um but yeah so that's
00:02:24.240 what i think i think usually when relationships end it's the woman's fault yeah really do you know 1.00
00:02:30.560 what no no i don't agree so what if it's a situation what if it's a situation as you said the man the man
00:02:37.520 not being the leader anymore what if he just lacks motivation what if he lacks teaching you better or
00:02:42.720 bettering okay so how okay tell me like what motivation is give me an example um for example
00:02:47.840 okay cool um i'm like oh babe i want to set up a cake shop um just you know to better us you can
00:02:55.600 manage it but um i want you to like help set up a cake shop he's probably not going to motivate you
00:03:01.760 or push you in the direction of you can simply get in the stuff of you know the cake cutters or tools
00:03:07.440 that you would need i'll give you i'll give you an example of this cake shop you know men are more
00:03:11.280 logical so most men would probably say that's a stupid idea they will yeah and that's the thing
00:03:16.560 because women we're led with our emotions what's like fun in the moment right you know but men are
00:03:21.520 just a little more logical so i think a lot of times we have stupid ideas and we bring them to men
00:03:26.800 and they kind of like nicely tell us no but we don't take a hint but you guys can tell me if i'm
00:03:32.240 wrong no but the other side of this is like it's his investment like he's investing into this into
00:03:38.480 into your idea for a cake shop for a cake shop okay but maybe did okay did he say yes to the
00:03:44.000 cake shop i asked them i wanted them to motivate me okay why is it his job to motivate you because
00:03:50.320 he's because he's the man he's the leader not the motivator like
00:03:53.600 he wants to be sure that comes into it well it's like well it's like he could motivate your children
00:04:00.400 and your woman oh yeah not really even if it's okay so why can't you motivate yourself i don't
00:04:06.640 like no because now now you're all a strong independent woman and you're finding yourself
00:04:11.040 but why could you motivate yourself independent woman you want you want to but now you want to find just 1.00
00:04:14.720 be behind you but but now you know you can do it no let's fix it you're behind him he's in front yeah
00:04:22.160 he's a leader yeah he's the leader but if he's not leading for you or the children if he's out okay if
00:04:28.000 he's out spending five days a week in the club okay and he's drinking and he's whatever and he's partying
00:04:33.040 and you don't see him at night you don't okay he doesn't see the children what do you do then is he
00:04:38.000 leading okay okay so then i would ask why are you with a guy that spends five days a week in the club
00:04:45.200 that's why a woman leaves no no no no no this is what no no no this is what chicks do this is what 1.00
00:04:51.200 chicks do you pick a guy that showed you who he was and then we whine about it later so i say okay you 1.00
00:04:58.160 you picked a clubber so stay with him that was what you picked well why is this deception
00:05:02.320 that's when you grow up yeah who's more deceptive men or women that's not the point okay then
00:05:09.200 it could be both ways i'm not gonna say just men men and women fake hair you know fake bbls
00:05:16.000 men can fake their hairlines nowadays okay okay who fakes their hair more men or women women but
00:05:21.440 okay who who has who has both men tell more lies what yeah men tell more generally just lie about
00:05:28.240 everything yeah but women are more deceptive with their lies who who lies more men or 1.00
00:05:32.240 women men i'm sorry oh no oh yes women are so deceptive you think yeah if if you are gonna lie 1.00
00:05:42.480 you're not gonna lie hard who cheats better men or women women okay there we go that's the truth yeah
00:05:54.720 yeah but so yeah this is the dating market though yeah and these are usually so the the problem we get
00:06:00.000 into is throughout our 20s we'll just either sleep with sometimes marry one of these two guys
00:06:05.760 but then we get to our 30s and 40s and say i want something more long term and then we're like
00:06:10.640 i'm gonna pick these guys but then they're like oh no now i have a ran through wife i'm sad
00:06:18.160 and that's that's that's how i have this channel thank you can i get some round of applause
00:06:24.240 that was amazing i love the demonstration i just like to be appreciated um okay so
00:06:32.960 simp have you ever simped um you've been married have you been married for a minute 15 years i've
00:06:38.720 been married 10 years oh wow so it's a little different now in the dating game right yeah yeah
00:06:44.400 was dating apps around then nope instagram was it big facebook no nothing it's like that's like a whole
00:06:51.600 different world right yeah yeah no you know that's the number one way people are meeting under 30 i'm
00:06:58.800 gonna give you guys some stats the number one way people are meeting under 30 is online and it's crazy
00:07:05.600 and women only swipe right on dating apps five percent of the time so yeah so we're really only screwing 1.00
00:07:11.760 that top guy he's like he's really just he's doing well he's doing very well i think i'm like the second
00:07:18.320 guy because i ain't got a lot of height okay so you're the the second guy almost there yeah
00:07:27.840 yeah so so how how did you meet your wife then um i used to dance in a club where she worked
00:07:36.080 so i used to be a break dancer and she worked behind the ball and one thing led to another okay 0.94
00:07:42.480 and what made your wife like wife material she was just she was just different she was amazing she 1.00
00:07:49.440 was cool she was just like a female me oh really you guys are really similar yeah can she do magic
00:07:55.600 tricks too no that's why we're different you gotta teach her yeah i gotta keep some secrets and what do
00:08:02.480 you what do you see that's like different um do you have any friends that are dating now
00:08:06.560 yeah are they all married no no we still got friends who are dating okay and what do you like
00:08:12.880 what do you see that's different now from before it says a lot of technology it's very and
00:08:23.040 i think people are quick to end things and not give things a go like us we used to but then you sort
00:08:31.200 of like have a date that doesn't work go next one because it's more readily available it's easier
00:08:37.920 yeah actually i have a question have you guys ever been in a virtual relationship
00:08:44.000 sorry what's that like a distance like a dis sorry sorry long long distance yeah i'm in a long
00:08:49.520 distance relationship okay how how long did you do it for currently doing it okay does it how long have
00:08:57.120 you been um a couple of years now two years so two years and how often do you see him um
00:09:04.160 a few times a year lately okay what is what does he do i don't know if he wants me to say
00:09:13.280 what would we know who he was based on his occupation um he does a couple of things yeah okay
00:09:22.720 okay so you see him like what five times a year no not that much we've only been together for
00:09:28.000 yeah just something to you is this your first like distance relationship okay what about you um
00:09:35.120 so we partly was together for like a year when he lived in my city and then um he moved back home
00:09:42.480 so we'll like see each other probably like probably once or twice a month okay yeah so i found that the
00:09:50.640 distance thing i don't i don't know about you guys but it's a way for the top men to just have multiple
00:09:56.480 girls in every city yeah yeah you know so anyways have you done the why are you giving away all the 0.98
00:10:02.480 secrets yeah well i'm just i'm trying to explain how even more it's like expanded the yeah the top guys
00:10:10.720 just so that that is that what you do mr boy i don't do anything do your friends do that is that
00:10:17.280 why are you winking what's that i want him i want him on the secret i don't i don't think it was a
00:10:24.000 guys he's he's joshing me i don't like it's like um what my longest was like a month between okay that's it
00:10:30.880 once a month okay that's the longest as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are
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