JustPearlyThings - August 10, 2023


Why Modern Women Aren't Marriageable


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

220.65434

Word Count

1,767

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

19

Hate Speech Sentences

14


Summary

In this episode, we discuss the issue of Paternity fraud and paternity fraud in the Jamaican legal system. Is it a problem? Should men have the right to sign off on the rights of their children when it comes to paternity fraud?


Transcript

00:00:00.000 jamaica is the number one in the world for paternity fraud for my jamaican friend big
00:00:05.440 up pearl you're doing god's work keep preaching the gospel um slender scoot if women have the
00:00:11.360 right okay i've read that one so if women have the right to choose to be mothers do you think
00:00:18.320 men should have the right to choose to be to choose not to be fathers sorry sorry if women
00:00:24.400 have the right to choose not to be mothers do you think men should have the right to choose not to
00:00:28.480 be fathers they have that choice anyway agreed here yeah here they have that choice okay so
00:00:35.120 do you do you think that's right yes or no and why that a man can sign off on his rights and not pay
00:00:41.520 child support and not pay child support and the baby's there yeah because if a girl has the right
00:00:47.840 to get an abortion then shouldn't he have the right to sign off do you mean in the circumstances that
00:00:52.960 say a woman was pregnant and she said she's keeping it and the guy's saying oh i don't want the baby
00:00:58.480 do you mean in that circumstance or you mean in general right yeah so if um yeah if if there's a
00:01:04.800 baby and i don't if i don't want to be a mother i can get an abortion so he should be able to sign
00:01:09.200 off on the rights yeah and not have any they'll have to get a contract in that time where he says
00:01:13.760 i don't want to be um the father and you're still having a child and then i don't think you should have
00:01:18.240 to pay child support you're basically saying cool i'm okay with being a single mom then i think it's kind of
00:01:22.880 hard to answer them because like you said before a woman has a choice um to take contraception but
00:01:27.760 so does a man have a choice to wrap up so he doesn't get her pregnant so i feel like you both have a
00:01:32.640 responsibility if you're having unprotected sex as a man you know what can happen so i just think some
00:01:39.280 women they get pregnant like on purpose like to break a family or whatever so i think in cases like
00:01:45.760 that she should deal with it and be responsible at the fact that you've both done it so he didn't want a
00:01:51.360 kid you know he didn't want a kid like some women use it to entrap men so i think she should deal
00:01:55.920 with it like if it's like that then he has a right well and we're the only ones that can consent um and
00:02:01.120 know all of the circumstances because we know when we're ovulating and we would know if we have birth
00:02:05.040 control or not so i mean girls as she was saying i have an iud yeah um what do you guys think yes no
00:02:13.520 yeah i feel like you know they both have the responsibility and i don't know i don't i don't
00:02:24.720 really know how i feel about that um i would say yeah like if it's like a one night stand and like
00:02:31.600 certain women they they want to have a child by whatever they're not really concerned who their dad
00:02:37.040 is yeah i think you should be able to have the freedom to say you know what i'm not saying it's right
00:02:42.080 either like yeah i'm not saying it's right in a sense of doing it like the same way for abortion
00:02:47.600 i think each circumstance is going to be unique to its own you know it's interesting we'll call a
00:02:53.120 guy a deadbeat dad but a girl that has an abortion isn't a deadbeat mom yeah i would never call anyone
00:03:00.640 a deadbeat dad like that's like people won't say that because the child isn't here yet whereas when
00:03:06.080 the child is here and they expect a dad to look at that child and see how beautiful it is and just
00:03:11.680 want to help i mean but you'd expect a mom to not want to kill her child but i feel like people are
00:03:16.800 visual i realize when a woman's pregnant well how it depends if she doesn't do it six months you can't
00:03:22.080 see that baby you can just see a little bump whereas you can see a little beautiful little baby
00:03:25.760 sitting before you yeah but you can get an ultrasound yeah i mean like and you could feel the baby yeah you
00:03:30.640 can definitely feel it 100 but i just feel like from outside of looking in people will judge a man
00:03:37.600 more because they think oh the child is here you're and you're still not being active i just think as
00:03:43.120 women we're more judgmental like and harsh on men in general like i think women judge men too much
00:03:50.080 and are ungrateful for certain things and fail to look at ourselves as women but i feel like men do
00:03:56.560 judge men as well for example if there was a person that's a father and he saw someone else not being
00:04:01.920 active i mean as individuals like i think women i think we're very selfish naturally like all we
00:04:06.720 think about is ourselves and unless you like block out society and start taking reflection and thinking
00:04:12.480 about who you are as a person like i've i've been in like with my partner and like i've moaned and moaned
00:04:18.240 and when you come to the conclusion but you know what i'm just moaning too much like give him a break
00:04:22.880 do you get it yeah i disagree females are not selfish naturally that's not a natural trait i don't
00:04:28.240 mean i feel like in society now i think women are very selfish like she's saying a deadbeat dad i hear
00:04:32.800 so many women say that and i just think so disrespectful to the child let alone the man well
00:04:37.200 why is it disrespectful to the child because in a lot of the cases the man isn't a deadbeat dad like so
00:04:42.000 many dads want to be a dad and they can't be one so like how is he a deadbeat dad because he's not
00:04:46.000 giving you money it's all based from what i said in the beginning it's all based on money but you
00:04:49.360 shouldn't want to give money for to raise a child to raise a child though i'm sorry it takes money
00:04:53.440 to raise a child though i don't believe that it does because like i understand we've got to survive
00:04:57.600 which is what i say money is important but like i think women expectations are far too high like
00:05:04.560 they want too much like a household and a family foundation isn't built on money like we had less
00:05:09.840 years ago and we did more with families like now we've got everything so if i have 50 pound a week
00:05:18.080 i can survive on 50 pound a week if you have 500 pounds you know it is i feel like it depends on
00:05:22.160 what type of lifestyle you want to live and what type of lifestyle you want to give your child is
00:05:26.000 women like i think modern women are tend to be selfish yeah because they pick a lifestyle over a
00:05:31.360 family yeah yeah yeah yeah they would rather have a certain quality of living rather than multiple
00:05:36.800 children i just think women are waking up a little bit i personally feel like women are waking up and
00:05:42.480 smelling the coffee and realizing we want more like we want more brainwashed to believe that we should
00:05:47.920 be that way to be honest i don't think so like for example i look at my parents marriage for example and
00:05:54.240 i see so many flaws in that marriage and i look at my mum even to this day now you know my dad passed
00:06:00.000 away three years ago and i look at my mum and she still complains about the things that my dad did not
00:06:06.000 do in that marriage even to this day now how long were they married oh god like 30 years i think
00:06:11.520 that doesn't even exist now like it's so rare but i look at that still stuck stuck stuck together yeah
00:06:16.400 but i look at that and i think to myself you know what i don't want that life it's because i don't
00:06:20.560 want to be with a man my mum does the same thing she makes me believe that i deserve better like you
00:06:25.280 you get your career but there is a new modern society there is nothing wrong with wanting a
00:06:30.320 life for yourself i agree i completely agree there's nothing wrong with wanting it but can
00:06:35.280 you get it yeah that's right yeah you can get it you can is if that's true then you'd have it
00:06:40.880 like women women would have it yeah in general 50 of women wouldn't be going on the path of being
00:06:46.080 single and childless in the future like by 2030 like they wouldn't be on that path if they could all
00:06:53.120 get it and so a lot of times like especially on like tick tock and shit i see all these girls that
00:06:57.440 are like raise your standards raise your standards like da da da da da da and it's just like yeah
00:07:03.280 but a lot of those girls aren't going to get what you're saying how do you know that though i think
00:07:07.680 it's a mindset because what one percent of women get to be housewives one in five that means four
00:07:12.960 don't i think it's so the majority of women aren't going to get that yeah but it doesn't just mean
00:07:17.840 that they want to be housewives maybe they just want to live a comfortable life and it's not about
00:07:22.240 marrying a rich man average it's about marrying a man with a provider mentality the average salary
00:07:27.040 is 41 000 a year and you guys even said yourself like you how many people here wanted to pay 20
00:07:33.200 or less of the bills but what percent of us are in the top 20 of women and so the men are looking up
00:07:38.160 and asking what do they get out of it they don't get purity they don't get youth or none of us are
00:07:41.200 virgins anymore and they get in the uk they get a 31 year old wife so she's on the brink of geriatric
00:07:46.480 pregnancy why on earth would they have a provider mindset for a non-traditional wife