JustPearlyThings - Boss Babe REFUSES To Accept This Fact...

00:00:00.000 i'm just going to say numbers raise your hand is there a wide camera do we have one

00:00:06.160 those four i think it's dependable under circumstances though because like if if

00:00:11.520 you're agreeing that you stay at home like if i'm staying at home then well i'm asking if you

00:00:17.360 it's zero percent if i'm at home um i've had been with my partner and i've been at home like he

00:00:23.840 wants me at home so i can't go to work so he's provided for me all 100 because obviously it's

00:00:29.040 impossible if i'm a stay-at-home mom but if she's working um i think it should be the percentage

00:00:34.880 should be agreed like in terms of if they're making the same then i don't see why it shouldn't

00:00:39.120 be 50 50 if they're both out working okay um all right so 50 50 if she's working yeah do you want

00:00:46.400 to work i like staying at home i'm a home person okay if i wasn't in okay so ideally zero percent

00:00:52.800 yeah i'm raising the kids okay and you said ten percent ten percent yeah it's 50 50 for me

00:00:59.280 unfortunately you know i mean that's what i'm looking for 50 50. okay yeah i would say ten percent like

00:01:06.160 if i'm working um but if i'm not working then nothing if you're working ten percent yeah okay

00:01:16.160 i think i'm going to change it a little bit like in an ideal world i would want to be able to go out

00:01:23.440 and do something part-time to at least contribute a bit so i'm going to say twenty percent twenty percent

00:01:27.760 yeah um i think 70 30 now um go ahead yeah i'm still i don't know sorry i can't give a percent what

00:01:42.880 percent of women do you think get to contribute twenty percent or less to the finite family 1.00

00:01:46.960 financial load the ones that own the home

00:01:56.400 can you say that again what percent of women do you think get to contribute twenty percent or less 1.00

00:02:00.960 to the family from like five percent housewives men are sassy now well i know what percent of women 0.98

00:02:05.440 do you think get to be housewives um yeah not a lot in the uk or what is it i mean the way

00:02:12.720 that the uk is right now uh probably under ten percent five percent i would say that five ten percent

00:02:19.920 under ten percent i'd say it's actually twenty percent oh wow okay you guys feel like you're in

00:02:24.560 the top twenty percent of women to earn that no what to be able to be a housewife 1.00

00:02:32.240 my circumstances i believe are exceptional so i don't believe i've been a housewife and i've lost

00:02:37.920 my partner so i was a housewife and i feel like my perspective of life has changed now that i have

00:02:44.480 the role of a man in a sense because i have to provide for my child so i'm definitely not i'm in

00:02:51.120 tune with reality i'm gonna hold my position i'm on the opposite spectrum so i've always been the

00:02:57.520 provider and i've got a little one as well 13 year old so i've always been the opposite

00:03:02.400 i've always earned and if i go in a relationship i look after you know what i mean so yeah it's kind

00:03:11.280 of mad right now me hearing all these percentages i'm not even gonna lie like wow okay what about you

00:03:18.800 top 20 percent of women uh i'll just say they'll just have to be housewives literally are are you top 1.00

00:03:29.040 20 percent of women oh am i yeah i would be qualified to be a house okay okay take all the boxes 1.00

00:03:37.680 top 20 percent of women yes or no yeah absolutely yeah um and you said no

00:03:44.800 um no no no big up you lot man no yeah no well i think i'd be in a housewife i might be a bit bored

00:03:53.440 yeah yeah i could i'm sorry when you're asking the question are you saying do we our values qualify

00:03:57.360 or do we want to and you say which one that's what are you asking no i was asking if you think

00:04:02.480 you're in the top 20 of women oh no in the eyes of men in the eyes of men but to be fair with the

00:04:09.280 numbers you know are screaming out you sort of are in it you wanted to pay 20 you know in an ideal

00:04:16.880 world i'd want to pay 20 but we don't live in an ideal world we live in the real world and i'm not

00:04:22.080 ignorant to the fact that i'm not in the top 20 of women so i don't expect to be a stay-at-home

00:04:26.720 housewife and have things how i want um i don't know where people get the idea that life's supposed 0.81

00:04:31.360 to be exactly how you want it life is how it is and you deal with it how you're supposed to

00:04:36.480 given your circumstances my circumstances are i'm not top 20 so i'm probably going to be working

00:04:42.720 what what what age do you guys think traditional women get married by

00:04:46.480 18 18 18 yeah traditional like arranged marriages maybe 21 between 21 and yeah before you're 20 100

00:04:57.840 so that maybe 19 to 24 25 i would say 20 yeah i would say between the age of 21 and 25 21 and 25 25

00:05:09.760 okay yeah i would have said 25. who do you guys think benefits more from the institution of

00:05:14.720 marriage in 2023 men or women women women women women definitely 20 yo no but i don't think it's

00:05:25.680 just money like i feel like it's like but it's the institution of marriage not the not the values of

00:05:31.120 marriage the institution and women benefit from the institution massively in this country normally the 0.94

00:05:37.120 men that like earn a lot of money and they're like the main breadwinner sometimes like um it will end

00:05:43.040 with a lot of domestic like violence and stuff because they feel like that i think that's a bold

00:05:47.120 assumption okay cool yeah that is a bold assumption let me just shut up but still no but i feel like

00:05:53.680 sometimes like men that make a lot of money they have a lot more entitlement though i think it's

00:05:58.160 definitely so does entitlement equate domestic violence no not domestic violence but like what do you

00:06:03.520 what do you mean by entitlement because they think okay i'm the man you're the woman i'm earning money

00:06:09.280 and you're not so whatever i say like goes it's not a thing where it's like roles where it's like okay

00:06:15.200 cool i can respect that you're cooking and cleaning it's more of a thing where i'm making the money and

00:06:20.080 that's like but we all just said that we would have a hard time respecting someone if we made more money

00:06:25.840 than them when it comes to decision making so don't you think if he's paying all the bills he should have

00:06:30.240 the final say in decision making yes otherwise go find a guy to split it 50 50 with yeah no i feel

00:06:35.440 like he should have the final like but at the same time as you said before i feel like there still

00:06:40.880 needs to be a um conversation and true if you're marrying the right man you will submit to him and

00:06:46.160 yeah there should still be and he'll get the final say but i feel like a lot of men that are earning they'll

00:06:50.800 just blessing i have a question do you want to have a conversation with your girl about every decision you

00:06:58.000 guys make nope

00:07:03.120 so it's like you could feel like that but guys don't want to do it and it's kind of like if a dude's

00:07:07.360 providing a lifestyle where you get to be in the top 20 of outcomes important decision he can consult

00:07:13.040 you and i think if you're with a guy for long enough he's going to consult you maybe but he also

00:07:17.840 might not it's like the bosses you know like a boss might go to their best employee and ask their opinion

00:07:22.720 but at the end of the day whose decision is it and then the employee doesn't go to the boss and

00:07:28.560 say you need to have a conversation with me okay but is it but you keep doing the employee and boss

00:07:34.800 i think it's very like different a relationship yeah i mean i agree i mean it's different but it's

00:07:39.440 the same it's the concept yeah yeah true i get what you mean i i understand what you mean like if if

00:07:46.960 if that's the lifestyle that we want we have to kind of be willing to accept what it comes with but

00:07:52.720 who says that it has to come with control and like having to obey someone i don't like that idea

00:08:00.720 like yes he's providing this life for me but he's also providing this life for his kids as well

00:08:05.600 you know and i'm sure he meant the man yeah the man that make the money say that no i'm i'm saying

00:08:12.320 that he is obviously providing for his family so some men are actually happy doing that they actually

00:08:20.080 want their wife to stay at home and spend time with the kids and not it's not it's not a bad thing 1.00

00:08:25.120 i'm not hating on anyone for wanting wanting what they want but but what does he get in return and

00:08:31.040 those guys typically want submission in return and submission is that we have to have a conversation

00:08:36.080 every time i want to i think women are kind of confused in a sense like you've got the modern woman 0.82

00:08:42.640 who wants to say traditionally like how she is with in her views or like it's contradicting it

00:08:49.760 contradiction contradicting it um both values because she wants to be a stay-at-home mom but 1.00

00:08:55.840 she still wants to have a say in the household and fight for the equality with the confusion of the 1.00

00:08:59.920 feminism thing okay it's like a challenge sorry let me just jump in there quickly so for example if 1.00

00:09:05.520 something happened with your kids um there was an issue in the house um and for example you and your

00:09:12.880 husband did not agree on the way that that situation was dealt with um am i not allowed to

00:09:20.080 have a say as as the wife as the mother of that child yeah or do i just listen to my husband no matter

00:09:26.880 what he says even though i feel that what he's saying is wrong and the way that he treated our son or the

00:09:31.360 way that he decided to deal with that situation he feels like what you're doing is wrong you both

00:09:35.920 feel that way okay but then we have to come to some kind of agreement because that's but feelings are

00:09:41.120 temporary feelings aren't really i just think women are emotionally with their kids and i find men very

00:09:46.480 logical and it's factual that a man would raise his child better than a woman so i think you have to 0.99

00:09:52.080 have faith in your partner and if he's a man you have to give him that step above to say you know what

00:09:56.800 you're the man of the household if you don't have that the whole structure of the household doesn't

00:10:00.720 have any foundations really because a woman can't run it it's impossible and statistics say that 1.00

00:10:07.040 women are single parent households and things like that are really awful for children so i think you 1.00

00:10:11.440 have to give your man the upper hand at some point there's no equality in the household there's the

00:10:16.560 man's role and a woman's role that's what i believe and the women and the women that honestly

00:10:22.160 do lead their households they're miserable yeah i mean you you guys see the girls that wear the 1.00

00:10:26.640 pants in the relationship do they look happy no no no no no

JustPearlyThings - August 09, 2023

Boss Babe REFUSES To Accept This Fact...

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