JustPearlyThings - December 25, 2022


Why Modern Women Lack Feminine Values


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

208.8798

Word Count

1,805

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

18

Hate Speech Sentences

3


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 in the country because there was war going on world wars so women had to pick up go to work
00:00:05.040 and do their thing cool from the aftermath of war there's women that are already in the workplace
00:00:10.240 and then there's women that also left widowed which means that they now have a choice either
00:00:14.160 you starve at home with your family and become and stay a housewife or you're gonna get up and
00:00:18.000 you're gonna go to work and that's how a lot of women have become what they call masculine because
00:00:22.640 they come out of a trauma they come out also the consequences of history and this is why at this
00:00:27.120 point and what i've been trying to say for time is let's stop trying to blame women for what's going
00:00:33.360 on in society right now let's understand that this is a construct and a consequence of history
00:00:38.560 and let's start let's start respecting because we cannot go back and and i i agree with you i'm not
00:00:43.680 i'm not saying it's one gender or the other i'm just saying like we have been talking about the men
00:00:47.840 forever it's like we like they i don't want no scrub scrub like there's there's no there's no there's
00:00:56.080 no song saying i don't want no whale the whale is like nobody's saying that no one and i'm saying
00:01:02.160 like we they have had like we have had decades where we talk it's like now the men are finally
00:01:07.680 talking and we can't even give them their fair that's kind of true because even men when they
00:01:12.320 were singing about women they sang a lot about love songs it was nice i feel like from the moment you're
00:01:22.000 born i don't know if it's just in an african home in an african home you're literally raised to cater
00:01:27.680 for your man from that's good because i was so i was eight so my mom was like you need to know how
00:01:32.640 you were for your man you were you need to know look good for your man you should be thankful you
00:01:37.040 were naturally taught game a lot of girls didn't get taught that they didn't get that yeah like a lot
00:01:42.960 of a lot of women would like even i mean my parents just started dating my parents my parents started
00:01:48.800 dating when they were 17 my mom taught me no game she's like meet your husband in high school
00:01:52.880 a lot of women aren't taught the basic necessities of being a woman like cooking this is shocking to
00:01:58.720 me yeah so it's a privilege like you you have something in your holster in your bag that you
00:02:04.800 can whip out whenever you need to for a man like okay i can cook for him i can clean for him because
00:02:09.200 you have it on you a lot of women had to learn that on their on their own or just had to go
00:02:14.880 throughout life and learning it they they never were taught it or they never needed to have it
00:02:20.400 until they were in a position where like oh i i can't do this on my own i can't cook i can't clean
00:02:25.920 i can't work a simple vacuum i can't do this because things have been done for me my whole life
00:02:31.760 or i was never taught that and so you shouldn't look at it as it like oh i was taught this from jump
00:02:38.240 i was taught how to cater to my man or be a woman you should take them and like african women like women
00:02:44.240 like me nigerian background especially that's all we know it's about even like now i'm 26 my mom
00:02:50.880 tells me if i'm 30 without a husband i am basically you okay okay but you you at least so
00:02:56.560 so if you look at dating app data she's right she's absolutely right so so so if you look at dating
00:03:03.360 app data that's when the numbers change where like women typically have more like leverage on dating
00:03:08.240 apps than than men until 30 and then men typically do i i can't remember it some girl was going over the
00:03:13.840 study but but and so like she was being honest and if anything you should be thankful for how
00:03:19.840 well they prepped you for the world because a lot of girls hit 30 and have no idea not like this is
00:03:26.480 a privilege a lot of girls don't have a dad or a mom to like tell them these things and even me like
00:03:32.800 my mom didn't know about dating or the dating landscape and yeah and it's like so you at least
00:03:39.200 know this at 26 where you can still make choices that that would get you in a better position at 30
00:03:45.040 where other girls are gonna hit 30 completely blind and screwed oh but you know what i although today
00:03:52.800 i'm not in your side i will agree with her and the only thing i will do is say slightly different
00:03:59.920 i will say like for example for me like i mentioned my dad passed away when i was 12 but i grew up seeing
00:04:07.040 my mom catered to my dad so i learned a lot from him but then after he was gone what my mom did is
00:04:12.960 teach me these survival skills that you need anyways to be able to make it through the world
00:04:19.680 so i believe that even things like cooking sewing this this that that's all type of kind of like
00:04:25.040 self-care and once you learn to take care of yourself you'll be able to learn to take care of
00:04:28.960 someone else but the fact that a lot of the time a lot of women also have the ability to take
00:04:33.600 accountability means you're not taking care of yourself because you don't even know what you're
00:04:37.280 doing wrong so you can't even be better so when you go into a relationship you land yourself in
00:04:41.360 trouble that's what it is what you should be able to do for yourself or you can do for others if not
00:04:46.560 then there's no point in you trying to say oh but you know i'm a woman and why am i going to do this
00:04:50.560 for man do it for yourself how can you not cook what's going to happen if you can't cook what about
00:04:54.880 the fact that as a woman you're going to be the mother and as i mentioned earlier as the mother as
00:04:59.360 the woman you're going to be more nurturing so these basic life skills forget about even for a
00:05:03.840 man do it for you and for the fact that one day you may want to be a mother then everything falls
00:05:08.400 into place if that makes it an easier pill to swallow i do have a question i agree with that i
00:05:13.360 do have a question um from your perspective britney how was it for you um correct me if i'm wrong you
00:05:22.080 grew up with just your mother um so i was raised by my mom till about like nine and then my grandma
00:05:29.920 kind of took over so when i was growing up i thought my mom just didn't want to be around but my grandma
00:05:34.400 was really controlling it was basically like i'm the mom now so like she kicked my mom out and my
00:05:39.760 grandma was my caretaker my grandma and grandpa so i was raised to my grandparents the uh half the
00:05:44.800 other half of my life okay how how was that for you in terms of just learning how to be a woman
00:05:51.520 whenever you reached that point i felt like a lot of their um ideas were just really outdated i felt
00:05:59.520 like they were really strict and it was smothering so even just going to a simple party or going to a
00:06:04.880 friend's house like as an adult do i see why maybe parents aren't so quick to let you go over to
00:06:10.560 someone's house yes but it was to a place where you couldn't even explore um i didn't really learn
00:06:16.560 too much from my grandma about being a wife or um how to be in a relationship because i always felt
00:06:23.200 like they just tolerated each other i never really saw the love like the bond um i've never really seen
00:06:31.280 that it's just always something i've known to be true but i've never seen anybody do it yeah so i felt
00:06:37.200 like my grandma was trying to get me to cook and do little stuff like that but it just was never
00:06:41.760 something and i like i really took an interest in i'm like i i genuinely never felt like i belonged in
00:06:46.800 the kitchen like and that's where too i resented how like my thought process a lot growing up because
00:06:55.200 i'm like why can't i just be a little bit more simple a little bit more obedient maybe more agreeable
00:06:59.840 not have such a strong opinion not be so introspective um that's just where i'm just different so i feel
00:07:05.680 like my grandma tried to teach me how to cook but as far as catering to a man no i learned everything
00:07:12.400 on the fly and that's where um i think sometimes maybe i get a little frustrated with the internet's
00:07:18.320 perspective because i'm like you don't even know what i've had to go through to even be able to speak
00:07:22.800 with this awareness like i've had to bump my head so many times to just be able to sit and sit in my car
00:07:29.040 and tell you give you a sermon you know so i just never felt like i really was prepared to be a wife
00:07:36.880 ever genuinely and you're not alone i think a lot of girls feel like that like i mean how many i don't
00:07:43.280 think the stuff that we talk about on these podcasts would be so shocking if women weren't
00:07:48.000 lied to for 50 years yeah and i think it's like even talking to andrew today like wasn't it helpful
00:07:53.680 like when he was talking about stuff i was even me and i listened to the stuff all the time i was
00:07:58.160 like oh i never thought of that like he was talking about how to get a guy to stop playing
00:08:02.160 video games i was like i wish i knew this i was like wow yeah that's actually a good one
00:08:09.920 why don't you think about it as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized
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