Why Most Women Are Single And Childless
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the types of women we like to date and why we don t want to date a boss woman. We also discuss the type of people we attract in a relationship and what we like and don't like in a partner.
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so we're going to be talking about um what type of jobs you guys like to date
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so um if you i'm curious in your last relationship or your current relationship what does he do
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um so you can start here yeah you go first were you taken or single i can't remember
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oh i forgot to say i'm actually single right now um the last person i was speaking to
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um i think he had like multiple jobs i think one of them was like in like um
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you know there's like gym membership things i think he was in like a gym and then he also did
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football on the side but not like professional and then i think that was it i think okay so he
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worked in a gym yeah and then football as well okay yeah yeah go ahead what did he do oh um
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um my current the current person works as a private banker okay and previously
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oh entertainment like artist okay so like a musician yeah okay so he's an entrepreneur but he runs
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a removal company but it's not like low level it's okay it's high level he's worked hard
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at it yeah he does really well okay um he's a rapper yeah he's a really good rapper actually
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what what is your the person i'm kind of just met now she's a like a dance teacher um and a model
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as well okay but you know just to add out there like do you know what i wouldn't what i've realized
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later in life what i don't want is i don't want like a boss woman i'd rather just have that my
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woman which i mean not be doing all that stuff what made you what made you decide that have
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you dated a boss woman before yeah do you know what i just i just came to realization that i like
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i believe more in a traditional um relationship and you know speaking to my own mom my own family
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and they think the same thing and i think it's the best way to progress for me personally have you
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ever dated a girl that made more than you uh yeah when i was younger when you were younger yeah do you feel
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like she still was able to respect you in the relationship yeah definitely she was on me when
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when i was on the way up as well like when i was younger i was trying to pursue a career in uh
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basketball okay and she had like a good job in um she was like a lecturer and stuff so
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like she'd lend me a car to get to go to trials and like even amount of food and stuff she'd like
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bust me a card and that and um it does it makes me feel like demasculated and that so now i'm in
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a position where that's not the case and yeah i wouldn't want to go back it made you feel
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demasculated when she paid for things most definitely when i was young it would happen like once by the way
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but she passed me the card but okay yeah um what what did your either no you said you were single
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so your last boyfriend what did he do um i've dated but i've never like had a boyfriend um okay the last
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guy you were really into yeah um like for me it's it's more about if you make the same income with me
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with of of me or higher so it's not really about the job for me you can do anything if you're passionate
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about if you love it i don't mind but it's are you are we making are you right so what what did
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he do uh i haven't actually asked when i go on dates i haven't asked it's like i go on dates i get
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to know you so how would you know if he makes the same or more you you know by like the way you act
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and um where we go and i think for me before jobs i think i want to know that date on your family
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i feel like i want to know if you're like a family man what you but okay um i would say like
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business just normal business so um international business okay so like sales maybe type stuff yeah
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okay so you're dating the cannery wharf guys yeah like a business center but but i was just there
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today i was like a lot of suits um okay um what did your last boyfriend do oh the last guy i was
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so you dated a criminal yeah basically i love it yeah never again how did how did a criminal get in
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the like you seem like a level-headed woman like how did a criminal get in the door with you like
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i'd imagine back you know if i hear crime i'm like ah i don't i don't like the crim you know no crime for
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me is it back in the day like i just wasn't the person i am today like i was very like immature
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and just not as level-headed as i used to be i used to be very much like a just out there girl so
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that was the type of people i was attracting so that's that's the best way to describe it i was
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attracting where i was but i've never banged fraud in my life
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okay so have you guys i've seen this video i have i've seen it no i actually haven't you know i've
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seen it found it really funny okay don't you know i'm gonna interview but you you about it last but
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md phds we also are the fastest growing group of entrepreneurs along with latino women in america
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pew research said that women are now out earning men out earning men in 22 of the largest cities
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in america including where i live new york dc la you name it when we talk and i know that you've said
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that you cannot teach a man or tell a man how to be a man so i will not ask you to indict men in
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this question but i do want you to speak ayonla to how women need to uh i don't know position ourselves
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so that we can be in our divinity so we can have our crowns right how we can create and not build
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when some of us quite frankly feel that the men that are available to us and i'm talking about
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across the color spectrum across the age spectrum trust me i've done them all um they are not
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positioned to protect nor provide because of some of the statistics we just talked about they're not
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earning the incomes they're not having the resources and some of them are not even showing
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up in the leadership would you date a bus driver
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you would you date if he owns the bus if he owns it if he owns the bus that's no that's a problem
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that's a problem because the standards and requisites and i'm not talking about him laying on his sofa
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playing video games all day i'm not talking about that but the standards and the criteria that we use
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to measure men is off for who we are as women and who they are in this society i would date a bus driver
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if he was if he loved driving the bus if he was a man of integrity if he was good to his mama
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if he treated me well i would date a bus driver but we think that it's another human being's
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responsibility to give us what we need instead of us building together i can build with a bus driver
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i'd have my little stash over on the side and my prenup but i could build with a bus driver
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so i think some of the criteria that we look for in the reality of today keeps us unhappy keeps us
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angry keeps us imbalanced and then when the men show up we want to beat them up because they're not
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living up to our standards and criteria and and it's not working beloved it's just not working so it's
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not that it's bad or wrong it's obsolete it's obsolete we have to come up with a new way of
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being i don't believe in carrying a man a man has to do for himself my son got his first job when he
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was nine nine okay because you're a black man you will know how to take care of yourself but i think the
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way we measure it it's it's just obsolete i think that's a factual analysis whatever we want expect
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okay so my first question would you date a bus driver no no if he owned the bus
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ah that's it's just so surface level to arcs that though isn't it no there's bus drivers that are
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trying to take women on like like you guys on dates and they want to know if you would you know you would
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there's probably like levels though isn't that like i mean i'm just gonna look it up bus driver's
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salary london uh 15 pounds an hour so like i mean that's like 18 us dollars 15 pounds an hour
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so yes no i'm gonna say no now but come back to me okay so no no i think i very much agree with
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with what she said like if you're passionate in what you do a lot of people earn way less than 15 pounds
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an hour you're you're grafting and at the end of the day you might be able to change that later on
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down the line so yeah if i get along with you well you're presenting yourself or you're treating me
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well 100 yeah yeah no i would i i used to before i went out with with my my now partner who's a man
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i went out with two females and if if i said that i obviously when it was when i was with a woman
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obviously you know like we was 50 50 in and things like that so if i would do that with a woman then
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kind of sort of not i'm saying like i don't like being treated by a man but for me personally as
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someone who's been out with both females and males how can i hold a man to a higher standard of having
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to look after me when my previous partner who was a female didn't have to earn as much it would be for
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me personally stupid to say well yeah my man's got an x amount because i never asked that of my female
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partner so what i'd have to ask that of my male partner are your standards exactly the same when you
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look at men and women yeah i think so i think so i think so i never saw myself with a man so um so i
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i think it took me by surprise so i think it's it's it's not you never so you were always like
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a lesbian before and then you found this guy and he was an exception yeah yeah yeah i don't think
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it was an exception because now i like obviously apart from i'm so sorry babe you are the only man
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i find attractive but like that obviously i'm like it's i wouldn't rule out ever like be just be like
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he's the only man ever do you know what i mean if that makes sense um but um yeah but i can't hold
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one in a certain respect without holding the other in the same respect so if i said to my female
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partner like you know yeah it's fine for you to earn the same as me and put 50 50 in then how can i not
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be like that with my mom but that's just that's just i think a personal thing of going through that
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experience you know it's interesting because i've had other girls that were bi on the show and they
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actually said they had like higher standards for the guys than they do for the women i just i'm just
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realistic like i'm just logical like yeah i think it's just logic that you know if you're going to go out
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with both then you can't have different standards can you because at the end of the day you're asking
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for the same thing which is love in in the same capacity that i would ask love from a woman is the
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same capacity that i would ask love from a man so how can i ask for different materialistic things
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if what i'm asking for is the same is the relationship dynamic the same when you go for men and women
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for me personally like the the females i went out with were kind of tomboyish so um i'd say that the
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dynamics were more similar than i expected okay um i i've always just been attracted to kind of like
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the leader of the group whoever that is whatever color ethnicity religion uh sex you know what i
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mean i've always just been attracted to someone but not a leader as in makes the most money more as in
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character you know the the kind of brightest the brightest star in the room the the brightest
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character so for me that's that's the most important thing rather than job
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mm-hmm okay uh would you date a bus driver yeah i'd date a bus driver
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is there any profession you wouldn't date um like adult stuff you know like of stuff oh no no
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no or any any of that type of stuff and anything that's like when they have to dress promiscuously
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or anything like this okay so no like uh do you guys have hooters here no okay hooters is like a
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booty shorts chain in the u.s where it's like it's like a weight like they're waitresses but they
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dress they wear like the orange stuff yeah yeah yeah yeah that's hooters yeah bring it to me okay
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um okay um do you so outside of um just like promiscuous is there any other industry
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you wouldn't date um do you know what like you know if someone like worked in a zoo as well
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i don't like the thought of like some animals in captivity against their will and stuff i think
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that's a bit mad okay and if they were like pro that i'll be like okay morally it might say a bit
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bad wow that's like a very random i know i just i just i didn't really think about answering the
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question yeah um okay uh what about you would you date a bus driver i would as she said if he's passionate
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and he's a family man and he respects his mom absolutely i it's fine because i think the goal
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is to find a respectful man that can treat you well um other than a job we could fix that later on
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it's fine if you haven't no no no no fixing it it's like he's a bus driver the rest of his life
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that's fine that's fine are you does that switch your answer bus driver the rest of his life no it
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doesn't no no here's you slow date him yeah okay uh what about you um if he had plans to leave the
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bus driver job then i would date him um but if he's planning to stay there for the rest of his
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life unfortunately i couldn't date him because i feel like 15 pounds an hour for the rest of your
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life isn't really good plus the long hours and um i'm gonna be completely honest with you like ask me
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if i would date a bus driver is like ask him a man would you date like a porn star like in society
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this is a little bit like you know is the equivalent of a porn i mean obviously like is a more like we