JustPearlyThings - August 24, 2023


Why Most Women Are Single And Childless


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14 minutes

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191.94989

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2,758

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2

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Misogyny

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In this episode, we talk about the types of women we like to date and why we don t want to date a boss woman. We also discuss the type of people we attract in a relationship and what we like and don't like in a partner.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 so we're going to be talking about um what type of jobs you guys like to date
00:00:04.480 so um if you i'm curious in your last relationship or your current relationship what does he do
00:00:11.300 um so you can start here yeah you go first were you taken or single i can't remember
00:00:18.100 oh i forgot to say i'm actually single right now um the last person i was speaking to
00:00:22.720 um i think he had like multiple jobs i think one of them was like in like um
00:00:29.900 you know there's like gym membership things i think he was in like a gym and then he also did
00:00:36.000 football on the side but not like professional and then i think that was it i think okay so he
00:00:42.280 worked in a gym yeah and then football as well okay yeah yeah go ahead what did he do oh um
00:00:50.780 um my current the current person works as a private banker okay and previously
00:00:59.520 oh entertainment like artist okay so like a musician yeah okay so he's an entrepreneur but he runs
00:01:10.300 a removal company but it's not like low level it's okay it's high level he's worked hard
00:01:17.660 at it yeah he does really well okay um he's a rapper yeah he's a really good rapper actually
00:01:23.920 amazing
00:01:24.400 what what is your the person i'm kind of just met now she's a like a dance teacher um and a model 0.99
00:01:31.640 as well okay but you know just to add out there like do you know what i wouldn't what i've realized
00:01:36.020 later in life what i don't want is i don't want like a boss woman i'd rather just have that my 0.91
00:01:41.160 woman which i mean not be doing all that stuff what made you what made you decide that have 0.88
00:01:47.340 you dated a boss woman before yeah do you know what i just i just came to realization that i like
00:01:52.460 i believe more in a traditional um relationship and you know speaking to my own mom my own family
00:01:58.700 and they think the same thing and i think it's the best way to progress for me personally have you
00:02:03.960 ever dated a girl that made more than you uh yeah when i was younger when you were younger yeah do you feel
00:02:10.100 like she still was able to respect you in the relationship yeah definitely she was on me when 0.95
00:02:13.820 when i was on the way up as well like when i was younger i was trying to pursue a career in uh
00:02:17.100 basketball okay and she had like a good job in um she was like a lecturer and stuff so
00:02:21.940 like she'd lend me a car to get to go to trials and like even amount of food and stuff she'd like
00:02:26.880 bust me a card and that and um it does it makes me feel like demasculated and that so now i'm in
00:02:30.880 a position where that's not the case and yeah i wouldn't want to go back it made you feel
00:02:34.260 demasculated when she paid for things most definitely when i was young it would happen like once by the way
00:02:38.320 but she passed me the card but okay yeah um what what did your either no you said you were single
00:02:45.140 so your last boyfriend what did he do um i've dated but i've never like had a boyfriend um okay the last
00:02:51.220 guy you were really into yeah um like for me it's it's more about if you make the same income with me
00:02:57.780 with of of me or higher so it's not really about the job for me you can do anything if you're passionate
00:03:03.360 about if you love it i don't mind but it's are you are we making are you right so what what did
00:03:08.560 he do uh i haven't actually asked when i go on dates i haven't asked it's like i go on dates i get
00:03:13.660 to know you so how would you know if he makes the same or more you you know by like the way you act
00:03:19.000 and um where we go and i think for me before jobs i think i want to know that date on your family
00:03:26.060 i feel like i want to know if you're like a family man what you but okay um i would say like
00:03:30.480 business just normal business so um international business okay so like sales maybe type stuff yeah
00:03:36.960 okay so you're dating the cannery wharf guys yeah like a business center but but i was just there
00:03:44.780 today i was like a lot of suits um okay um what did your last boyfriend do oh the last guy i was
00:03:52.480 dating banked fraud
00:03:53.600 so you dated a criminal yeah basically i love it yeah never again how did how did a criminal get in
00:04:10.820 the like you seem like a level-headed woman like how did a criminal get in the door with you like 0.98
00:04:15.340 i'd imagine back you know if i hear crime i'm like ah i don't i don't like the crim you know no crime for
00:04:21.360 me is it back in the day like i just wasn't the person i am today like i was very like immature
00:04:26.040 and just not as level-headed as i used to be i used to be very much like a just out there girl so
00:04:31.540 that was the type of people i was attracting so that's that's the best way to describe it i was
00:04:35.400 attracting where i was but i've never banged fraud in my life
00:04:37.860 okay so have you guys i've seen this video i have i've seen it no i actually haven't you know i've
00:04:50.520 seen it found it really funny okay don't you know i'm gonna interview but you you about it last but
00:04:56.420 everyone else okay go ahead
00:04:58.020 md phds we also are the fastest growing group of entrepreneurs along with latino women in america
00:05:09.780 pew research said that women are now out earning men out earning men in 22 of the largest cities
00:05:16.920 in america including where i live new york dc la you name it when we talk and i know that you've said
00:05:23.680 that you cannot teach a man or tell a man how to be a man so i will not ask you to indict men in
00:05:28.960 this question but i do want you to speak ayonla to how women need to uh i don't know position ourselves 1.00
00:05:39.680 so that we can be in our divinity so we can have our crowns right how we can create and not build
00:05:46.580 when some of us quite frankly feel that the men that are available to us and i'm talking about
00:05:52.240 across the color spectrum across the age spectrum trust me i've done them all um they are not
00:05:57.780 positioned to protect nor provide because of some of the statistics we just talked about they're not
00:06:02.740 earning the incomes they're not having the resources and some of them are not even showing
00:06:07.280 up in the leadership would you date a bus driver
00:06:10.840 you would you date if he owns the bus if he owns it if he owns the bus that's no that's a problem
00:06:19.800 that's a problem because the standards and requisites and i'm not talking about him laying on his sofa
00:06:26.600 playing video games all day i'm not talking about that but the standards and the criteria that we use
00:06:34.180 to measure men is off for who we are as women and who they are in this society i would date a bus driver
00:06:42.040 if he was if he loved driving the bus if he was a man of integrity if he was good to his mama
00:06:49.300 if he treated me well i would date a bus driver but we think that it's another human being's
00:06:57.260 responsibility to give us what we need instead of us building together i can build with a bus driver
00:07:03.460 i'd have my little stash over on the side and my prenup but i could build with a bus driver
00:07:08.740 so i think some of the criteria that we look for in the reality of today keeps us unhappy keeps us
00:07:18.900 angry keeps us imbalanced and then when the men show up we want to beat them up because they're not
00:07:25.060 living up to our standards and criteria and and it's not working beloved it's just not working so it's
00:07:33.220 not that it's bad or wrong it's obsolete it's obsolete we have to come up with a new way of
00:07:39.700 being i don't believe in carrying a man a man has to do for himself my son got his first job when he
00:07:45.700 was nine nine okay because you're a black man you will know how to take care of yourself but i think the
00:07:54.020 way we measure it it's it's just obsolete i think that's a factual analysis whatever we want expect
00:08:04.180 okay so my first question would you date a bus driver no no if he owned the bus
00:08:13.300 what she said no i'm joking um
00:08:20.260 ah that's it's just so surface level to arcs that though isn't it no there's bus drivers that are
00:08:25.780 trying to take women on like like you guys on dates and they want to know if you would you know you would
00:08:30.660 date them how much do bus drivers earn um
00:08:38.580 there's probably like levels though isn't that like i mean i'm just gonna look it up bus driver's
00:08:42.340 salary london uh 15 pounds an hour so like i mean that's like 18 us dollars 15 pounds an hour
00:08:51.300 so yes no i'm gonna say no now but come back to me okay so no no i think i very much agree with
00:09:05.140 with what she said like if you're passionate in what you do a lot of people earn way less than 15 pounds
00:09:11.140 an hour you're you're grafting and at the end of the day you might be able to change that later on
00:09:17.540 down the line so yeah if i get along with you well you're presenting yourself or you're treating me
00:09:21.700 well 100 yeah yeah no i would i i used to before i went out with with my my now partner who's a man
00:09:28.980 i went out with two females and if if i said that i obviously when it was when i was with a woman 1.00
00:09:35.780 obviously you know like we was 50 50 in and things like that so if i would do that with a woman then 1.00
00:09:41.620 kind of sort of not i'm saying like i don't like being treated by a man but for me personally as
00:09:46.420 someone who's been out with both females and males how can i hold a man to a higher standard of having
00:09:51.380 to look after me when my previous partner who was a female didn't have to earn as much it would be for 0.97
00:09:57.140 me personally stupid to say well yeah my man's got an x amount because i never asked that of my female 1.00
00:10:03.140 partner so what i'd have to ask that of my male partner are your standards exactly the same when you
00:10:08.100 look at men and women yeah i think so i think so i think so i never saw myself with a man so um so i
00:10:14.820 i think it took me by surprise so i think it's it's it's not you never so you were always like
00:10:19.780 a lesbian before and then you found this guy and he was an exception yeah yeah yeah i don't think
00:10:23.860 it was an exception because now i like obviously apart from i'm so sorry babe you are the only man
00:10:28.580 i find attractive but like that obviously i'm like it's i wouldn't rule out ever like be just be like
00:10:34.740 he's the only man ever do you know what i mean if that makes sense um but um yeah but i can't hold
00:10:41.140 one in a certain respect without holding the other in the same respect so if i said to my female
00:10:46.020 partner like you know yeah it's fine for you to earn the same as me and put 50 50 in then how can i not
00:10:51.140 be like that with my mom but that's just that's just i think a personal thing of going through that
00:10:55.620 experience you know it's interesting because i've had other girls that were bi on the show and they
00:10:59.940 actually said they had like higher standards for the guys than they do for the women i just i'm just
00:11:04.340 realistic like i'm just logical like yeah i think it's just logic that you know if you're going to go out
00:11:08.980 with both then you can't have different standards can you because at the end of the day you're asking
00:11:12.980 for the same thing which is love in in the same capacity that i would ask love from a woman is the
00:11:17.540 same capacity that i would ask love from a man so how can i ask for different materialistic things
00:11:23.460 if what i'm asking for is the same is the relationship dynamic the same when you go for men and women
00:11:30.740 for me personally like the the females i went out with were kind of tomboyish so um i'd say that the 1.00
00:11:37.300 dynamics were more similar than i expected okay um i i've always just been attracted to kind of like
00:11:44.020 the leader of the group whoever that is whatever color ethnicity religion uh sex you know what i
00:11:50.900 mean i've always just been attracted to someone but not a leader as in makes the most money more as in
00:11:55.380 character you know the the kind of brightest the brightest star in the room the the brightest
00:12:00.260 character so for me that's that's the most important thing rather than job
00:12:03.620 mm-hmm okay uh would you date a bus driver yeah i'd date a bus driver
00:12:10.500 is there any profession you wouldn't date um like adult stuff you know like of stuff oh no no
00:12:18.740 no or any any of that type of stuff and anything that's like when they have to dress promiscuously
00:12:24.020 or anything like this okay so no like uh do you guys have hooters here no okay hooters is like a
00:12:31.780 booty shorts chain in the u.s where it's like it's like a weight like they're waitresses but they 0.56
00:12:36.500 dress they wear like the orange stuff yeah yeah yeah yeah that's hooters yeah bring it to me okay
00:12:43.540 not degeneracy
00:12:47.300 um okay um do you so outside of um just like promiscuous is there any other industry
00:12:53.300 you wouldn't date um do you know what like you know if someone like worked in a zoo as well
00:12:59.620 i don't like the thought of like some animals in captivity against their will and stuff i think
00:13:02.900 that's a bit mad okay and if they were like pro that i'll be like okay morally it might say a bit
00:13:06.980 bad wow that's like a very random i know i just i just i didn't really think about answering the
00:13:11.060 question yeah um okay uh what about you would you date a bus driver i would as she said if he's passionate
00:13:16.580 and he's a family man and he respects his mom absolutely i it's fine because i think the goal
00:13:21.620 is to find a respectful man that can treat you well um other than a job we could fix that later on
00:13:27.700 it's fine if you haven't no no no no fixing it it's like he's a bus driver the rest of his life
00:13:32.500 that's fine that's fine are you does that switch your answer bus driver the rest of his life no it
00:13:37.780 doesn't no no here's you slow date him yeah okay uh what about you um if he had plans to leave the
00:13:43.780 bus driver job then i would date him um but if he's planning to stay there for the rest of his
00:13:48.260 life unfortunately i couldn't date him because i feel like 15 pounds an hour for the rest of your
00:13:52.980 life isn't really good plus the long hours and um i'm gonna be completely honest with you like ask me
00:13:59.540 if i would date a bus driver is like ask him a man would you date like a porn star like in society
00:14:05.540 this is a little bit like you know is the equivalent of a porn i mean obviously like is a more like we
00:14:12.100 need bus drivers