JustPearlyThings - August 24, 2023


Why Post Wall Women Are Single And Childless

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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Ignore Paul Tina
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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

217.89

Word count

2,081

Sentence count

198

Harmful content

Misogyny

29

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Toxicity

8

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Hate speech

11

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss whether or not a woman should get married at 39 years old, and why it's a bad idea. We also discuss why a woman shouldn't get married until she's 30 years old if she doesn't want to have kids.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 I think I've actually been subject to doing that, to actually thinking that I deserve
00:00:08.120 more than what I can give to you, or exactly that, what I bring to the table, which is
00:00:14.100 different for both traditionally men and women.
00:00:16.200 Because the thing is, because you're a really successful musician, because you've been on
00:00:19.420 X Factor or whatever, right? So it's like if you put yourself in the top 10% of talent,
00:00:24.880 right? And that's great, but you have to know what comes with it, and it doesn't make you
00:00:30.600 more attractive to men. Men don't care. It's nothing. And so it's like women will treat 1.00
00:00:35.360 their career and act like it's an asset to men when it's nothing. You're still an average 0.70
00:00:39.640 chick.
00:00:41.240 How old are you?
00:00:42.720 I'm 26.
00:00:43.780 26? Do you have babies?
00:00:45.960 I wish. I'm trying.
00:00:47.940 Do you have a husband?
00:00:49.340 No, no, no ring. And it's true to me too. It comes with, like, I could tell you because
00:00:54.820 I'm in that situation. It comes with a lot of problems. You can't look like you're better
00:00:58.180 than these men.
00:00:59.620 You have to speak from experience, that's it.
00:01:02.040 Yeah, I just think the preference thing and, like, everyone's entitled to what they think
00:01:06.180 they desire and deserve, yeah, and the standard that they want for their life. I don't agree
00:01:11.200 with shitting on people. Like, I don't agree with that. I'm so against that, actually. 0.99
00:01:15.520 Like, I don't, I wouldn't say she really shat on the bus driver. She just answered the
00:01:19.440 question.
00:01:20.340 If she dissed it.
00:01:22.240 Oh, did she? I haven't watched the whole thing.
00:01:23.600 Oh, did she? If she does, then, yeah, okay. Ignore what I said.
00:01:28.800 But it's more like she doesn't ask him about his character. She doesn't ask about his values.
00:01:33.140 It's just, bus driver, he's out the door without asking any other questions. And I'm saying,
00:01:37.760 that's the problem.
00:01:38.480 No, I think that's wrong.
00:01:39.500 Also, I think if she was younger, maybe, but you're so old, like,
00:01:44.280 respectfully, you can't, what are you going to, if I was a man, I'd be like, what can
00:01:48.880 you provide for me? You can't even make babies. 0.99
00:01:50.600 Yeah, but what if she doesn't want babies? And what if he doesn't want babies?
00:01:53.860 She can find somebody on the same level as her.
00:01:55.800 But why would a man want to have tribes?
00:01:57.380 Yeah, no, but why would a man, why would a man marry a 39-year-old that can't offer him
00:02:01.860 children?
00:02:02.740 Because he might have had his kids. Like, surely if she's 39, she can probably go for 0.98
00:02:05.920 someone that's about 50, 55. He's probably had his kids.
00:02:08.180 Right, but then why would he get married at all?
00:02:11.920 He might not get married.
00:02:13.280 And that's my point.
00:02:14.220 But is marriage the epitome of success? 0.97
00:02:16.540 I think as a woman, yeah, I think you're a loser if you don't get married and have kids. 1.00
00:02:21.040 I don't agree. 0.96
00:02:22.080 I think the equivalent of not getting married and having kids, I think the equivalent of
00:02:25.760 that is a guy that doesn't have a job.
00:02:28.680 But that's another thing as well that I think you have to consider, because you said that
00:02:31.620 she might want to date someone that's like maybe 55. 55-year-old bus driver, but a 39-year-old
00:02:38.160 TV presenter, I feel like is not the same. I feel like realistically, the bus driver is
00:02:42.300 not going to be like 20 years old. He's probably going to be older. So it's slightly more embarrassing
00:02:46.060 that within your life, you didn't build a better career.
00:02:48.940 Right, but why does it matter if you have money? So she has money. Why does she need him?
00:02:53.160 Because naturally women, like naturally, like natural selection or whatever, like naturally 1.00
00:02:57.920 women feel more secure with a guy who has more money.
00:03:00.480 But this is the problem. It's like, she's not a traditional woman. How many bodies she 1.00
00:03:05.300 got by 39?
00:03:07.160 Well, this is all assumption.
00:03:09.200 Oh, come on. 30. You're telling me 20 years in the dating market.
00:03:12.520 But even if she does, even if she does, like I don't think that now.
00:03:16.480 That lowers your value to men. It makes you less valuable. So the whole point is she wants 1.00
00:03:20.720 a traditional outcome, but she's not a traditional woman. 1.00
00:03:23.680 We don't know that yet.
00:03:24.520 I don't know that yet.
00:03:25.160 Actually, also, another thing a lot of people don't, and I noticed it, everyone just ignored
00:03:32.240 the fact that she's this quote unquote high value woman that earns this amount of money 1.00
00:03:37.360 and this and that. And she's around a lot of high value men. So why haven't any of them
00:03:41.840 picked her?
00:03:42.340 That's very interesting.
00:03:44.200 And I only say that because I grew up with my brother and I can think like a man. So
00:03:50.400 with my brother, what I understood how men think is the older you get, how men think,
00:03:55.800 the more experience you have, whether you do or don't, only you and God knows, it doesn't
00:03:59.160 matter. But the older you get, the way a man can view you is like you have a lot of experience.
00:04:04.500 Why are you single? Why are you so old? The older you get, you have more experience.
00:04:08.840 It's harder to change you, the older that you get. So a man will go for a younger woman 1.00
00:04:13.480 because they're able to perhaps manipulate.
00:04:16.380 We can view it in a bad way or we can view it as they're able to, because I know that
00:04:20.840 if I was a man, I'd get someone younger so that I can mold them to what I want them to
00:04:24.500 be. Now you lot can sit there and be like, oh, you know, he's manipulating, he's grooming.
00:04:28.780 All right, cool. But actually, I know that if I go for a 30 year old woman, they're going 1.00
00:04:33.880 to be stuck in their ways. If you both smoke, I've got a 20 year old woman there, 30 year old 1.00
00:04:38.600 women there, both of you smoke. I can actually probably change a 20 year old woman, but 1.00
00:04:42.980 a 30 year old, I don't think there's going to be much to it.
00:04:45.060 And two are supposed to become one flesh anyways.
00:04:48.360 Right.
00:04:48.960 So, and that's like, that's how they used to view it.
00:04:51.500 I think they were one.
00:04:52.600 Yeah.
00:04:53.140 I think the main question here is if she was to date a bus driver, will the relationship
00:04:58.100 work? No, it won't work because he's not providing for her. He's not being the superior
00:05:02.880 person in the relationship. So what's the point of her going for a bus driver? What for the
00:05:07.140 sake of saying she has babies? I think she knows it's just not going to work. Like a
00:05:11.060 bus driver probably doesn't know as much as her, probably hasn't had as much experience
00:05:15.260 as her. They probably do not have the same thing in common in terms of medium success.
00:05:18.300 What experience does she have? She talks for a living. 1.00
00:05:20.560 Yeah, but she probably has experience of like, she's probably in big rooms with people. 0.99
00:05:24.220 They have like really serious conversations. She probably can't have them conversations
00:05:27.780 with a bus driver. So I think the reason why she's saying that is because she knows
00:05:31.160 with a bus driver, the relationship is just not going to work. I'm sure you can agree
00:05:34.940 that a man's role is to provide, right? So if you can't provide, the relationship is 0.98
00:05:38.860 just, it's not going to work. I think his role is to provide if you're a traditional
00:05:42.420 woman, if you deserve to be provided for. So what is a traditional woman? Could it be 1.00
00:05:47.540 like state, like what is that? I mean, I think, I think you can, in general, like what our great
00:05:52.440 grandmothers were. Our grandmothers and great grandmothers. Okay, so what, like virgin?
00:05:55.800 More so, yeah. I mean, I really don't think they exist anymore, to be honest, but like
00:06:03.320 virgin, usually like submissive to their husband, cooks, cleans, good with children, has experience
00:06:11.140 with children, knows sewing. I think we know in general what a traditional woman is. Like 0.99
00:06:16.500 we're not, we're not dumb, you know? So I think it's entitled to ask for something you 0.84
00:06:23.160 don't deserve. And that's why I think this is crazy because she's asking for something
00:06:26.840 she doesn't deserve. She's asking for traditional treatment when she doesn't deserve it. 1.00
00:06:30.280 I think that's a bit harsh to say that she's entitled only because, obviously when you compare
00:06:35.740 it to like traditional women, the grandmothers and stuff like that, they didn't have an option 0.99
00:06:40.060 to become a TV presenter. Their whole life goal was to be a housewife and raise kids. 0.71
00:06:44.460 Yes, they did. Women have been able to work since like the 20s. 1.00
00:06:46.940 No, but this is what I'm saying is that like work and TV presenters, two different things.
00:06:50.640 Like this woman is on TV every day. She's having fun. She's living her dream. She's kicking 1.00
00:06:53.860 back. Like I personally, if I'm on TV having fun, I don't really know if at 39, I'd want
00:06:59.100 to come back to a however year old bus driver, but he's probably riding his bus and he's going
00:07:03.660 to be so happy to see, you know, his pretty wife on the TV and he comes home and he sees
00:07:07.420 her as well. I feel like this is the-
00:07:09.640 What's better, a bus driver or air?
00:07:12.700 Air.
00:07:13.260 Air.
00:07:13.500 Air. Like nothing.
00:07:14.500 Like to breathe. Um, what? Air or like nothing, nothing.
00:07:18.500 No, no. So you come home, right? And you lay in bed and there's air.
00:07:21.500 Oh.
00:07:22.500 But no, that's different.
00:07:23.500 And there's, or, or there's a bus driver or the equivalent of an average job because
00:07:29.080 she's an average chick. 1.00
00:07:30.080 But that's what I'm saying.
00:07:31.080 I'd rather air if he's irking me. Like if, like if he's getting on my nerves, I'd rather
00:07:36.500 air.
00:07:37.500 But I feel like bus drivers work long hours anyway. So 90% of the time is probably going to be
00:07:41.340 air in that bed. But I just feel like it's harsh for her to be entitled just because men like-
00:07:46.440 So she's 40, right? What does life look like for her at 60, 70? Like we're supposed to live
00:07:51.900 to be 90 years old.
00:07:53.220 I don't know, but what is she going to do the last 40 years of her life? Her looks are 1.00
00:07:56.840 gone. So TV's over.
00:07:58.120 I don't know, but my sis just doesn't- 1.00
00:08:00.440 She's invisible to men because like men aren't really checking for women over the age of like 0.66
00:08:04.260 45, 50, you know, 50 if you're lucky. Um, so now what does the second half of her life
00:08:10.180 look like?
00:08:11.180 The thing is, is obviously personally, like, I don't know, but obviously she says she just
00:08:15.580 doesn't want to spend it with a bus driver. So if that's what sis doesn't want, then that's 1.00
00:08:19.280 what sis doesn't want. And maybe like, who knows, maybe that debate actually sparked up and woke up 1.00
00:08:25.760 a bus driver and he's thinking, do you know what? I'm really going to work harder. Or maybe,
00:08:30.040 do you know what? They're like, fuck it. She's 40. I can't relate. I'm going to keep driving my bus. 1.00
00:08:33.340 Like, but my point, my point isn't even really her. Like, I don't, I don't really give a shit 0.98
00:08:37.280 about this girl. Right. My point is like average women still feel entitled to above average men. 0.99
00:08:42.780 And we're so delusional to think that we are going to get them when, what does she bring to
00:08:47.800 the table as a 39 year old news presenter? So would you say the bus driver's above average
00:08:52.280 and she's average? No, I'm saying she's average, maybe even below average at 40 as into what she 1.00
00:08:59.620 can bring to a guy. And a bus driver is an average man. So they're like equals kind of. Yeah. And
00:09:04.980 she thinks she's above it. So what about men in, go on, go on. So Paul, would you marry a Tina?
00:09:12.220 Yeah. Do you guys think you guys would have a lot in common? You know what's funny? I actually want
00:09:18.660 to date someone. I like prefer it when we have nothing in common. So how would the relationship
00:09:24.120 survive? Like, what would you guys discuss if you guys, I don't, I don't really think you
00:09:27.000 need to talk. Yeah. So then that'll basically be like dating air. Exactly.