JustPearlyThings - August 02, 2023


Why Post Wall Women Are Undesirable


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Length

12 minutes

Words per minute

198.9623

Word count

2,582

Sentence count

2

Harmful content

Misogyny

24

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Hate speech

6

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss why women should or shouldn t be dating in their 50s, why women cheat, and why men cheat on their wives. We also talk about the difference between men cheating and cheating on their wife.

Transcript

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Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
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00:00:00.000 it was got the what did you get i got the i got the i don't think i'm delusional no then you get
00:00:05.680 it was one of you we got like the same i think we got a bit the same she gets the delusion crown
00:00:13.600 okay yeah i'm fully delusional yeah it's okay though i get it it's okay it's all good a lot
00:00:19.520 a lot of times people say they'd want these things but then they don't always date those
00:00:23.280 you know it's like sometimes it happens um why do i think women shouldn't be dating in their 1.00
00:00:29.920 50 yes um i think that if you're selling a car right now i'm not saying women are cars 0.90
00:00:37.840 but i'm going to use an analogy to compare us to cars okay now if a car has high mileage now if the
00:00:44.880 car has been on the market for 30 years if the car has been on the market for 30 years i can say one
00:00:51.680 one it's had a lot of test rides and two why are you still on the market at 50 that's a lot of time
00:01:02.080 to figure out how to sell yourself because sometimes life doesn't work out the way that you think it
00:01:09.600 or expect it to be you could be dedicating your life to your kids and making sure that they're okay
00:01:15.680 because your husband walked out on you and remarried and had more kids and you've been focusing on your
00:01:21.840 kids and making sure they are i gotta i gotta i gotta be honest here what do i think of when i hear this
00:01:28.240 that he walked out on me what did you do to make him walk out because not a damn thing now now now 0.72
00:01:34.640 that attitude that attitude right there is the problem with women because we think we didn't do a 1.00
00:01:39.920 damn thing to make him end the relationship i want to make i want to make her own men will spend 1.00
00:01:45.920 hours studying asking what went wrong all this stuff women say i did nothing wrong to make him
00:01:52.400 leave you know what it is point two why i also think that women when they get left it's worse 1.00
00:01:59.040 because if a man leaves he's losing half his he's also losing his children most likely
00:02:05.680 so if he leaves you i'm thinking this must have been a living hell for him to leave you no it's not
00:02:13.440 always the case and i understand why why you would come to that conclusion i really do but it's not
00:02:19.760 always the case i never said always um you know there's um you know there's miracles like things happen
00:02:27.040 right but in general um yeah i i question why but especially in younger marriages like if you get
00:02:36.880 married for instance in your 20s you haven't even had the opportunity to get to know who you are as a
00:02:45.600 human being as a person on this earth what your purpose is and what you're doing in life like i
00:02:50.880 understand that tradition you you you find someone you get married in your early 20s you have kids
00:02:59.440 i don't necessarily know if that's the right thing that people should be doing now because i don't know
00:03:04.480 where that came from like i don't know whether that came from our parents got younger but this might
00:03:09.680 younger but this might sound stupid yeah i don't know whether this is even a real thing but
00:03:14.400 back in the day especially like grandparents ages when they were in like the war times and stuff i
00:03:24.000 would imagine life expectancy was a little bit lower so when you are looking to create a family
00:03:30.080 and have kids of course you're going to be doing that at a younger age because life expectancy was
00:03:35.280 lower where nowadays what time period are you talking about so like for instance my my i'm pretty
00:03:41.840 sure my granddad was like in world war ii not in like literally fighting but like he was
00:03:48.480 in those i think you're definitely right but i think it's a longer time i think i don't know
00:03:53.760 i just i just personally think it all that's where it came from i think it's all boys don't
00:03:58.000 tip choice it says the 1800s men lived to be 75 and 73 for women i'm just i'm just looking i don't
00:04:06.800 know if these are true or not i'm just i don't know i don't even it's not facts i haven't looked
00:04:11.040 this up it's just kind of logic so you said a couple things i forgot what the first one was
00:04:17.920 that i wanted to say something i probably forgot to women don't remember sorry can i just say
00:04:24.880 something yeah go ahead you know like when you said um a lot of the times it's kind of like
00:04:30.960 not not in a i'm trying to say it respectfully but blaming the woman for why the man left yeah i think
00:04:37.440 personally um it depends yeah but at the same time a lot of times apart from past experience i feel
00:04:46.240 like a lot of women get a bit too comfortable and a lot of women then turn down tone down their 1.00
00:04:53.360 their level of trying to to be attractive to their man or try to be um available to their minds because
00:04:59.520 let's be real as a man yeah yeah you go work and whatever you got a good wife at home whatever
00:05:04.480 you're gonna see women everywhere yeah as a man and the brain the man's mind is a lot different to a
00:05:10.080 woman's man yeah so i'm not saying that oh i'm cheating or i'm looking but you know it's not saying
00:05:16.160 it's hard to ignore but you're gonna see there's always going to be more people more women attractive 1.00
00:05:20.640 than your woman yeah so what i'm saying is and your man yeah of course of course but at the same
00:05:25.920 time i feel like from past experience from you know a lot of women from my past experience is 1.00
00:05:31.920 my opinion um i feel like a lot of women get comfortable and they feel that they they don't 0.80
00:05:37.600 have that they they don't no no but they don't have to do so much and effort wise they don't have
00:05:42.160 to look as good as how i met you and do the thing and it's just a bit like they get they become
00:05:47.120 fatties no but i think it is literally equal like i had a conversation the other day with a guy
00:05:52.960 and um he basically said that since he's been married he just stopped going he stopped going
00:05:57.840 to the gym he just stopped yeah i do think there's a pandemic i want to i do think i do think the men 0.51
00:06:04.640 do it too i'll get that i want to say something yeah i i know a couple uh they go to my gym um
00:06:11.200 um i personally think that in a marriage you as you said you don't want to get too comfortable
00:06:18.480 because you want to be excited to go home and actually see that person so this couple they
00:06:24.480 wake up together they do business together travel together they do basically everything together
00:06:30.720 and they always keep it fresh they would never go to the same country they would never do the same
00:06:35.280 workouts they'll always do something new they'll venture new businesses they
00:06:39.040 unlock new experiences they unlock new experiences yeah so that's what i was saying before like it all
00:06:45.440 boils down to choice and effort like they choose to be happy with each other honestly yeah i remembered
00:06:51.760 i remembered what i was gonna say i remembered you said you don't really know yourself in your 20s
00:06:58.000 and what i was gonna say is we're supposed to grow together and become one marriage is supposed to be
00:07:04.320 two flesh become one that's like the biblical thing you know so so i think for the people that don't
00:07:11.680 want to grow together you guys should just stick to your relationships and the and the people that
00:07:17.840 think you should get divorced for everything you guys should that's fine go stick to the relationships
00:07:23.040 where us who don't believe in divorce should be over here yeah i agree with that but i'm glad that i didn't
00:07:30.240 marry early because i think you can have like a more varied life but can i ask you a question though
00:07:37.440 because i feel like what if one of your boyfriends uh did propose to you at the time that you said
00:07:43.040 they were great and you know like obviously things can be good at the time like i'm not saying
00:07:47.760 you know it is it's a bad thing but at the same time i feel like nine times out of ten it's mostly the
00:07:55.600 men that propose to the women that want to commit yeah so yeah what if they wanted to commit would
00:08:01.360 you say at the time you was ready or like do you know what i'm saying i wasn't ready actually oh i
00:08:06.400 have a question i have a question if if you went do you want kids i'm assuming right yeah most of them
00:08:12.480 do so what if what if um you got tested tomorrow and you you no longer could have kids because you
00:08:17.520 waited too long would you still be happy with that decision that would obviously be really sad and i would
00:08:23.520 i don't know i'd have to think about that question because i would i would adopt if i
00:08:29.120 there are other options exactly it's not just biological yeah but there's a lot of problems that
00:08:33.680 come with those options and i know it because we've both given up for adoption and like in my family we
00:08:39.280 gave up a kid for my parents like got pregnant when my mom was 17 so they gave up their first kid and
00:08:43.920 then we adopted three later there's a lot of problems that come with adoption like it's not really
00:08:48.240 an identity kind of it's not really good for a kid to like take it from its mothers and give
00:08:53.920 it to the strangers but it could be better than it growing up in care probably it 100 is better than
00:08:59.440 growing up in care but i think the ideal okay i think the ideal is to stay with the guy that you
00:09:05.200 had the kid with get married do the shotgun wedding and stay together forever yeah but the thing is what
00:09:11.680 if you can't have kids but if they can't have kids okay but if they can't have kids that's the only
00:09:16.560 option they can they can kind of have really yeah no then you know i mean that's true i mean i think
00:09:21.120 that's like that's what i would do if i couldn't have kids but but my question more is like we say
00:09:25.760 like to wait you don't know yourself in your 20s but it's like when you're older you're kind of playing
00:09:30.720 roulette like you said you're 33 so geriatric pregnancy starts for you at 35 and after that it's high risk so
00:09:37.280 it's like now you're in a new relationship and you have all this pressure where if you start in your 20s
00:09:42.640 it's less high pressure for the guy but don't you think it's a lot of pressure for women to just 1.00
00:09:47.840 okay if i'm not if i don't have a kid at 30 then i must have a kid regardless everybody is a bit of
00:09:54.000 pressure about that is that you still have time no not really though because you have a lot of time
00:09:59.120 you have that pressure in your mind and you you have to but i think i mean feel it regardless for the
00:10:04.160 most part like i mean you can't you have to know that on some level that you have to be more rushed in
00:10:09.200 your 30s i think society makes it so much harder for women to just be in general just just be just 1.00
00:10:18.320 be a woman just be human what do you mean just be because there's all these rules you got to do this
00:10:22.640 by this age um you've got to be married by this age and if you don't get married then you're this type
00:10:27.200 of woman and if you don't look like this then you're this like everything a woman does we scrutinize 1.00
00:10:32.400 for i disagree i think everything a woman does we're praised for i don't know what i live in this one 0.86
00:10:39.120 so yeah you know we're in this world where women can get fat and then we're like body positive you're 0.99
00:10:44.880 beautiful anyways no you know what it's because it's different generations oh my god let's know
00:10:51.360 this is this different generations and this is when it comes down to age and and a different way of
00:10:57.600 world like you know something i want to you know i'm saying say it say it say it actually and you also
00:11:04.160 said that women are like expected to be married by a certain age i just think it's like basic supply 0.85
00:11:10.000 and demand you know the best women tend to get married younger it doesn't mean you're a bad woman 1.00
00:11:16.400 with the better women yeah because yeah yeah yeah if you're selling a car don't you think the best 0.82
00:11:23.200 product gets taken off off the shelf immediately we're not cars it's not a good comparison i kept i kept
00:11:30.240 saying that i'm not saying that we're cars no i know i know yeah yeah so i think it depends on your
00:11:35.520 values because there are some girls that since they were young they've always dreamt of getting 0.89
00:11:39.200 married and having kids they're more likely to have children i think those are the better women 1.00
00:11:44.720 yeah in what way that they are better women they're better for society and how how would they how are 1.00
00:11:49.680 they better for society because they they have kids and they're great mothers because they've always 0.98
00:11:54.320 wanted to be mothers and that was their number one goal and they're usually better wives because they 1.00
00:11:58.480 prioritize the family and i'm not you know because a lot of people will come at me and say well what
00:12:03.680 about you well i can admit there are better women than me yeah yeah and it's just an opinion an opinion 0.98
00:12:10.480 is not fact so it's just an opinion you know i mean it could just be an opinion it is but i think it's
00:12:16.960 just common sense if i'm being honest don't you think that the best mothers have always wanted to be
00:12:23.840 mothers especially especially as a child yes i think they romanticize it i think they think it's
00:12:29.360 going to make their lives and be the best thing ever a lot of um people have children earlier because
00:12:33.520 they're actually not that satisfied in life or themselves and they think it will fix it and it
00:12:37.040 doesn't whereas like i think you shouldn't do that to fix your life have a child i say don't do that
00:12:44.160 but i say the women that want to get married have children early young those are the best if my 1.00
00:12:50.640 brother's looking for a girl i'm saying pick that women not the woman that wanted to wait till her 30. 1.00
00:12:56.880 yeah but what about