JustPearlyThings - December 28, 2022


Why Women Look For Top 1% Men


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Length

9 minutes

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217.18852

Word count

2,111

Sentence count

177

Harmful content

Misogyny

24

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Hate speech

18

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In this episode we talk about cheating, purity and why women are attracted to younger men. We also talk about why women don t cheat and why men cheat. We talk about our experiences with cheating in our relationships and why we don't cheat.

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00:00:00.000 Someone's unfaithful in their relationship has everything to do with their character
00:00:03.080 and has everything to do with their choices.
00:00:05.380 It has nothing to do with, there's some men that like, so I can't get behind that.
00:00:09.740 But some men are more likely to do it.
00:00:12.320 So if it meant, so this is, but this is, this is my point.
00:00:16.220 So now you want a top 2% guy that also won't cheat on you.
00:00:19.580 This is a unicorn.
00:00:21.400 Like this isn't, and so even you, you're a nice woman, right?
00:00:24.800 You're, you're pleasant, right?
00:00:26.440 And I don't think you're asking these men to be spend crazy amounts of money on you,
00:00:29.980 but you're still a normal girl.
00:00:31.740 That's, that has, that's asking for a top 1% man.
00:00:35.180 And this is, this is kind of like encompassing the problem.
00:00:38.320 Okay.
00:00:38.660 And again, I understand when you break it down in that way.
00:00:41.980 Yes.
00:00:42.400 Like I can understand like your line of logic, but again, I'm going to push back on, say,
00:00:46.540 like all the same thing is inverse.
00:00:48.920 Like for my partner, wherever he is in this world, like all those things, like I'm going
00:00:53.180 to fit all those, all those like boxes like that are against him as well.
00:00:58.320 Like there's someone like, I, and again, like maybe I am being delusional, like, and
00:01:02.280 that's fine because like, I'm happy to be delusional.
00:01:04.320 And most women are. 1.00
00:01:05.200 Yeah.
00:01:05.460 I'm happy to be delusional, but like I, there's no doubt in my mind that I'm going to be married
00:01:09.000 and there's no doubt in my mind that my partner won't, you know, like I believe.
00:01:12.360 And I prayed that like, I'll have it like healthy with marriage.
00:01:15.420 So here, here's the problem.
00:01:16.480 Like what, what do men want?
00:01:18.060 So, so if they looked at, okay, Cupid, like what, when do men swipe right the most?
00:01:22.680 I don't know what that 18, that like, okay, Cupid, it's a dating app, dating app, men swipe
00:01:27.680 right the most on women that are 18.
00:01:29.440 I know that's, I know that ain't fun and it slowly goes.
00:01:33.780 So men like youth, they like purity and it's like, it gives control.
00:01:39.440 It gives it, they want someone they can, wait, wait, wait, but see, this is an example.
00:01:46.520 We remember we said, who are these women that are shaming these men when men say they don't 0.58
00:01:50.620 want a girl that slept around, you say, oh, it's because they want to control them. 1.00
00:01:54.020 But that's, that's not what I'm saying.
00:01:55.460 But like, there are 40 year olds who are swiping on 18 year olds.
00:01:58.460 Like, I didn't say, I didn't say like aggressive, like, I mean, like if you're saying, okay, most
00:02:04.120 men, so like men that are on dating apps, let's say they're between like what, 25 and 45, or
00:02:08.560 like in their mid thirties, like swiping on 18 year olds, that girl doesn't have, she 1.00
00:02:13.660 has no life experience.
00:02:14.660 Wait, wait, wait, I think, I think, okay, okay, but, but the point, that's not the point
00:02:20.200 I'm making.
00:02:21.200 The point is that men are attracted to youth and purity and the problem is, and, and
00:02:24.800 beauty, right.
00:02:25.800 And like thin, thinner women are curvy, you know, you know, slim, you know, and so the, like 1.00
00:02:31.560 the point is there's a million women that are pretty and youthful. 1.00
00:02:36.120 There's a new girl turning, doesn't have to be 18.
00:02:37.980 Let's give 22 every day.
00:02:38.980 Okay.
00:02:39.980 Unless I feel more comfortable.
00:02:40.980 Yeah, we can, we can, there's some studies that have said 21, 22, I'm just giving you
00:02:45.000 one that, that kind of shows the extreme.
00:02:47.580 And so the, the point I'm making is there's a lot of women that want the top 1% of men.
00:02:54.720 And like, that's why most women are going to be single and childless is because we all 1.00
00:02:58.440 want the same guys.
00:03:00.760 We want, we want a guy that makes money. 0.99
00:03:01.780 We also want to be attracted to him.
00:03:03.360 We also don't want him to cheat on us.
00:03:05.220 And it's like, I mean, I understand that, but I think another part of that is just
00:03:08.360 like, women are like our, which, I mean, the other side to that coin is like, why are women's 1.00
00:03:13.460 standards so high?
00:03:14.460 It's because we've seen what happens again, like being children of divorce, like we've
00:03:17.980 seen how bad it can be when you don't have high standards.
00:03:21.220 Like we've seen.
00:03:22.220 So like, again, I, I understand, like when we talk about like quality of life.
00:03:26.220 What about the men?
00:03:27.220 Well, I mean, all these men, I mean, you're also like, that's the thing that's in the back
00:03:30.980 of my mind.
00:03:31.980 You're like, oh, all these women are childless and dah, dah, dah, dah. 1.00
00:03:33.980 Well then also there's a large percentage of men that are also great.
00:03:37.320 So like there's, who are these women potentially going to marry? 1.00
00:03:40.180 Like there's like not, so, I mean, that's also another side to that.
00:03:43.120 And I don't, I can't like, I don't have the statistics or the computer in front of you.
00:03:46.520 I don't, but I remember like having conversation with someone about this actually on a date.
00:03:51.720 And he told me that like men between the ages of like single men, between the ages of like
00:03:57.520 32 and like 45 who are single are more, are like, there's a specific demographic of men
00:04:03.160 that are most likely, unfortunately, to like unalive themselves, whereas women are not like 1.00
00:04:09.080 as likely.
00:04:10.080 You're, you're actually, you're correct.
00:04:11.620 Like most of, throughout most of history, men have not reproduced. 0.84
00:04:15.220 Only 40% of men have reproduced historically, but that's, that's always been the way where 1.00
00:04:19.780 80% of women have reproduced historically or 90, 80 to 90% depends on who you look at.
00:04:24.740 So it's odd now that 50% of women will not reproduce and, and now, and you said, what
00:04:30.860 will that mean for relationships moving forward as women raise and raise their standards? 0.99
00:04:34.720 It just means we're sharing guys.
00:04:36.160 How do, how do relationships, no, think about it.
00:04:38.160 I mean, you, you've probably been a side chick at some point.
00:04:40.460 Do, do, how do, how do, how do, no, no, no.
00:04:42.400 And I know this is, this is crazy, but I'm going to explain it.
00:04:45.180 Okay.
00:04:46.180 How do relationships start?
00:04:47.180 Sex or, or a relationship?
00:04:49.780 What usually comes first?
00:04:51.860 Sex.
00:04:52.860 What?
00:04:53.860 In, in 2022, what comes first?
00:04:54.860 I mean, relationship for me.
00:04:55.860 Okay.
00:04:56.860 So every person you've ever slept with, the relationship came first.
00:05:02.200 Define relationship.
00:05:03.200 Like we got to, we got to meet each other.
00:05:05.860 So, so usually.
00:05:06.860 Like situationship or like, this is your, my boyfriend, girlfriend, I would say it's like
00:05:11.180 50, 50.
00:05:12.180 So, so in the situationships, typically that's a man you find attractive, right?
00:05:17.180 Yeah.
00:05:18.180 Yeah.
00:05:19.180 So that means other women find him attractive.
00:05:20.180 So you're probably not the only one he's sleeping with.
00:05:21.180 So you kind of start as a side chick.
00:05:23.180 And if you, if you do good, you might get promoted to girlfriend.
00:05:26.180 Is that how you, is that how you think?
00:05:29.180 That's how, that's how it happens.
00:05:30.180 No, because, because the number one way people are meeting.
00:05:33.180 Promoted to a girlfriend?
00:05:34.180 Yeah.
00:05:35.180 In a way.
00:05:36.180 Yeah.
00:05:37.180 Because the number one way people are meeting nowadays are dating apps online.
00:05:39.180 And, and, and again, women only swipe right 5% of the time. 1.00
00:05:42.180 What does that mean?
00:05:43.180 We're sharing.
00:05:44.180 If you're on a date, if you're on a date with a guy.
00:05:47.180 I mean, but we're all, but like the inverse is also true.
00:05:50.180 Like we're also, women are also being courted by multiple men at the same time. 1.00
00:05:55.180 So again, like I, I'm, I'm struggling to.
00:05:58.180 That's, that's true.
00:05:59.180 But, but of what percentage?
00:06:00.180 So it's like 80% of women want 20% of men.
00:06:03.180 It's actually a hundred percent, but 80% of women share 20% of men.
00:06:07.180 I don't like this word share.
00:06:09.180 No, I don't, you don't like it, but it's true.
00:06:12.180 Did you, you, you had a question green?
00:06:14.180 So yeah, I was going back to that, the, what you were saying before, like what standard
00:06:20.180 is it you expect or you're insinuating that women should have then?
00:06:23.180 Like, cause I don't think.
00:06:24.180 You have to settle.
00:06:25.180 Yeah.
00:06:26.180 But I don't think it's wrong to say, I don't want a man that doesn't, I don't want a man 1.00
00:06:29.180 who cheats.
00:06:30.180 I want a man who earns a certain amount of money.
00:06:32.180 That's, you know, realistic to whatever standard that woman is at. 1.00
00:06:36.180 And obviously just a good, I just don't see what is wrong with that expectation.
00:06:41.180 Okay.
00:06:42.180 I don't think it's wrong to want a man that doesn't G again. 1.00
00:06:45.180 Again, I, again, I was raised by a dad that never cheated.
00:06:48.180 He had 10 kids.
00:06:49.180 He was a multimillionaire.
00:06:50.180 He, he had a lot of, yeah, he was.
00:06:52.180 You have nine siblings?
00:06:53.180 Yeah.
00:06:54.180 I have nine siblings.
00:06:55.180 Yeah.
00:06:56.180 Yeah.
00:06:57.180 I mean, yeah, it's nice.
00:06:58.180 I mean, I like having a big, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:06:59.180 What number are you?
00:07:00.180 Um, four, four, but they adopted, it's a long story.
00:07:01.180 They adopted some like later, but it's okay.
00:07:03.180 But, but I don't think it's wrong to want that.
00:07:06.180 But the, the problem is if you're going to go for a guy, if you want him to be handsome,
00:07:11.180 not just like, uh, okay.
00:07:12.180 Handsome.
00:07:13.180 Attractive.
00:07:14.180 Right.
00:07:15.180 But remember women, so women rate 80%. 0.98
00:07:18.180 And it's okay.
00:07:19.180 You guys have never heard this stuff before.
00:07:20.180 I don't expect you to know it, but women rate 80% of men is unattractive. 1.00
00:07:24.180 Okay.
00:07:25.180 But like, how many times have you heard a girl from like, Oh, but he's cute to me.
00:07:28.180 Like how many times have you heard women? 1.00
00:07:31.180 Like we, we are like, you're going to lower our standards for men.
00:07:34.180 So we're so much more likely to do that.
00:07:37.180 Right.
00:07:38.180 But, but so no, no, no.
00:07:39.180 But remember, remember eight women rate 80% of men is unattractive. 0.97
00:07:42.180 So, so top 20% of men, 10% women might be like, Oh, he's hot.
00:07:47.180 The next 10%. 0.50
00:07:48.180 Oh, he's okay.
00:07:49.180 Women are going for the most attractive guy though. 0.98
00:07:50.180 Girls will, girls will. 0.89
00:07:51.180 Yeah.
00:07:52.180 That's what I'm, that's what I'm talking about.
00:07:53.180 Okay.
00:07:54.180 Okay.
00:07:55.180 Which is, which is, which is fine.
00:07:56.180 You're less likely to get cheated on if you date a less attractive guy.
00:07:58.180 That's not true.
00:07:59.180 Okay.
00:08:00.180 Okay.
00:08:01.180 Guys, but this is like, guys, guys, guys, guys, again, you don't think, okay.
00:08:04.180 You don't think a good guy with character would have a hard time saying no to a model.
00:08:09.180 Okay.
00:08:10.180 So listen, right.
00:08:11.180 Sometimes when you date an unattractive guy, the second that somebody else starts giving him attention,
00:08:16.180 like, Oh, two people are giving me attention at the same time.
00:08:19.180 Oh, I, I've never experienced.
00:08:21.180 He's not unattractive.
00:08:22.180 Cause he's not.
00:08:23.180 Two girls, two girls are giving him attention.
00:08:25.180 No.
00:08:26.180 Okay.
00:08:27.180 I've, I've given attention.
00:08:28.180 Like his, his, his sexual, what is it?
00:08:30.180 His sexual rating goes higher depending on the woman that he has on his arm.
00:08:33.180 That's true.
00:08:34.180 That's true.
00:08:35.180 So like, yeah, he could, he could be this, he could be a two, but he's with an eight.
00:08:39.180 He's immediately a six.
00:08:40.180 Okay.
00:08:41.180 But usually when girls say this, they're not ugly guys.
00:08:43.180 Like if you could show me him and I won't show it on screen, but if you show me the picture,
00:08:47.180 no, usually cause I've done this on the show, it's always guys that I would rank a six or a seven.
00:08:51.180 And typically like girls will say, Oh, I'm dating medium ugly. 1.00
00:08:54.180 It's not medium ugly.
00:08:55.180 That's just your level respectfully.
00:08:57.180 Like I've been there.
00:08:58.180 I've been there, but, but, but it's, it's just honest.
00:09:03.180 And so it's like women want everything. 1.00
00:09:05.180 And even like, they can also want everything.
00:09:07.180 No, they, that's, that's, so again, what the men swipe, right?
00:09:11.180 50% of women swipe, right? 1.00
00:09:13.180 Like the data just doesn't indicate that because men find about half of women attracted.
00:09:17.180 Like, it's actually crazy.
00:09:18.180 When I started talking to men, there'd be a girl that I'd think is a woman. 1.00
00:09:20.180 There'd be a girl that I think is like kind of chunky or like unattractive. 1.00
00:09:23.180 And I'm like, would you, would you smash?
00:09:25.180 And they're like, hell yeah.
00:09:26.180 And as many of you know, I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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