JustPearlyThings - August 12, 2023


Wokies CORRUPT Children By Normalizing THIS


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7 minutes

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205.04465

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1,531

Sentence count

130

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Misogyny

7

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7

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In this episode, we talk about the impact of single motherhood and how it affects our generation. We discuss the benefits and disadvantages of having a single parent home and the effects on children who come from single parent homes.

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00:00:00.000 If I have a relationship with a female and I'm with her for five years and I have a child and I have a relationship with someone else for a year and I have a child, like, I'm talking vice versa. 0.60
00:00:11.100 Okay, I have a really good solution here.
00:00:13.660 Okay.
00:00:14.340 Don't have sex with people you don't want to have kids with.
00:00:16.880 Trust.
00:00:17.940 Or, you know, use birth control of some sort.
00:00:21.660 Condoms.
00:00:22.140 Yeah, you know, there's like a billion different forms.
00:00:24.540 You can pick one.
00:00:25.740 And maybe, you know, if you have a kid with someone, stay.
00:00:28.900 Yeah.
00:00:30.000 Those are three valuable, very valuable options.
00:00:32.780 But you can't say if you're not unhappy just because you have a family.
00:00:34.360 But what about the kid's happiness?
00:00:35.480 Why does everyone always go to their own happiness?
00:00:37.800 What about the kid's happiness?
00:00:39.020 Children who come from single parent homes, unfortunately, statistically, are worse off.
00:00:43.280 That is a fact.
00:00:44.300 True.
00:00:44.580 So you are going against the odds for the sake of your, you're forcing your child's life against the odds for the sake of your momentary happiness.
00:00:52.740 Happiness is a feeling.
00:00:53.880 They last temporary, like all feelings.
00:00:56.380 Whereas that child's development is permanent.
00:00:59.640 Because of the way that the brain develops, everything that happens in childhood is a building block.
00:01:03.080 Like if you have a kid that's in a single mother home, she's more likely to go to jail. 1.00
00:01:06.360 She's more likely to drop out of school.
00:01:07.600 They're more likely to be sexually abused by the stepdad. 0.77
00:01:10.760 They're more likely to have mental health issues.
00:01:13.420 Every, she's right, every statistical disadvantage you could put your kid out, you're putting them out, what?
00:01:18.320 Because you're not happy?
00:01:19.620 Yeah.
00:01:19.960 You're in control of your happiness.
00:01:21.660 But that's when we get into the maturing thing.
00:01:23.920 Happiness is a feeling.
00:01:24.580 It's that happiness kind of has to take a back seat.
00:01:27.840 Yeah.
00:01:28.100 Yeah.
00:01:28.480 Yeah.
00:01:28.840 Because not everything's going to be happy all the time.
00:01:30.920 I hear it, but at the same time.
00:01:32.100 It depends on the abuse.
00:01:33.020 Abuse.
00:01:33.700 Abuse.
00:01:34.620 At the same time, though.
00:01:35.680 I think male or female, if you're in an abusive relationship, whether it's verbal, abuse is the difference of being unhappy.
00:01:42.200 No, but that plays an unhappiness.
00:01:43.780 That plays an unhappy.
00:01:44.620 Wait, wait, wait.
00:01:45.080 That is unhappy.
00:01:45.440 Wait, wait.
00:01:45.800 But this is propaganda, though.
00:01:47.700 They put this in the media.
00:01:49.520 Like, we're so afraid of these men that are just abusing women all the time.
00:01:52.900 It's like 5%, if that, of men that commit the majority of the crimes.
00:01:56.820 Mm-hmm.
00:01:57.360 And what percent of them are incarcerated?
00:02:00.080 Yet women pick man that's incarcerated. 1.00
00:02:02.320 Women pick these dangerous men. 1.00
00:02:05.020 And then whine when it happens.
00:02:07.940 The thrill.
00:02:08.240 So it's like, am I going to feel bad for you that you picked it back?
00:02:11.640 That's who you picked.
00:02:12.340 You made a kid with him.
00:02:13.180 Work it out.
00:02:14.080 Decisions have consequences.
00:02:15.360 And you need to realize that decisions that you make.
00:02:18.220 Because a lot of times, a lot of people need to realize that the decisions that you make don't only just affect you.
00:02:22.960 They affect everyone around you.
00:02:24.420 And I see it.
00:02:25.700 Like, today, when we had four girls come on the show for, like, the cat lady or wife show. 1.00
00:02:31.680 And I think, did all four come from single mother homes?
00:02:35.780 I think all four, either three out of four or four did.
00:02:38.360 And you can see it in the way they view relationships.
00:02:40.640 Like, they all say partnership.
00:02:42.920 Like, they don't even understand that husband and wife is a role.
00:02:46.060 It's like they don't know basic things.
00:02:47.760 And then it's like you get these kids that have never seen a functioning relationship.
00:02:52.000 Then our generation can't have relationships.
00:02:53.780 There's so many problems that come with that.
00:02:55.700 Like, homelessness, drug addiction.
00:02:57.980 There's so many issues that come as a result of single mother homes. 1.00
00:03:03.260 And a lot of times, it leads to the birth rate declining.
00:03:07.280 Because now, I think we're at, like, 1.4 kids per woman.
00:03:10.840 They're predicting that 50% of women are going to be single and childless.
00:03:13.700 Like, so now 50 more women that hit 30 are not going to have kids than have them in the next couple of years. 1.00
00:03:20.240 Yeah.
00:03:20.620 It's like that thing where, you know, when people say, like, someone who bullies is someone who's just being bullied in another situation by someone else.
00:03:29.040 Right?
00:03:29.620 You can liken that to the situation.
00:03:31.620 Because it's like, if one person sees a bad relationship and they don't know how to do a bad relationship, all they will know is what they've seen and what they know to be true from the immediate surroundings.
00:03:44.380 Now, if the immediate surroundings are negative and every example of a relationship is all negative, the only idea of a relationship that they have in their head is most likely going to refer back to negative.
00:03:55.360 Yes, they will have the positive ones from movies and stuff, but they only know negative.
00:03:58.700 Also, it's also about, like, the way that behavior, the way that humans behave is based off of what they know.
00:04:04.360 We can only behave off of what we know.
00:04:06.060 Like, if you go back to when we were, is it like hunter-gatherer times?
00:04:09.600 Like, our brain maps stuff out.
00:04:12.900 So, if you've only seen bad stuff, like you say, you might see good stuff in the movies, but you're not the one actually going through the experience.
00:04:19.140 You're going to repeat that pattern of unhealthy relationships because it's all that your brain has actually experienced.
00:04:26.340 And it doesn't even have to be.
00:04:27.560 But sometimes you can do the complete opposite because you've been, you were raised in that household and you saw and you're like, this is how I don't want my marriage.
00:04:35.560 Of course, of course.
00:04:36.780 You can, but statistically they don't.
00:04:40.100 Yeah, it's hard.
00:04:40.940 Like, why do you think, we don't even have to look at stats to know this.
00:04:44.440 Why do we say that girls have daddy issues? 1.00
00:04:47.380 There are ramifications for not having functioning, happy relationships.
00:04:51.380 And I also think it turns men into simps where they don't know how to deal with women. 0.58
00:04:56.100 Because, like, they've never seen a masculine man lead in a relationship.
00:04:59.440 But then you have all the women complaining that there's no masculine men. 0.90
00:05:02.280 It's like trying to explain the color red to someone who's colorblind.
00:05:04.340 If you've never seen the color red, how do you explain it?
00:05:06.080 Like, have you seen, have you guys heard of the inmates and the prisoners and the guards' psychological, like, experiment that happened, that they did?
00:05:16.800 Oh, the Stanford prison experiment.
00:05:18.740 The Stanford one.
00:05:19.120 So I met the guy, Zimmerman?
00:05:21.220 Yeah, something like that.
00:05:22.560 Right.
00:05:22.840 So this experiment, essentially, like, they had a room full of people.
00:05:27.000 They split them in half, students.
00:05:28.840 Half of them were inmates and the other half were guards.
00:05:32.180 And they realized, after a certain amount of time, the guards started acting like actual guards.
00:05:36.900 And the prisoners started acting like actual prisoners.
00:05:39.000 And they started to have, like, an actual power disparity.
00:05:40.920 And they had to shut it down.
00:05:41.980 And they had to shut it down early because the guards were, like, really taking it in as, like, this is their life.
00:05:48.340 And these people are actually villainous people.
00:05:51.860 The reason I bring this up is to show, like, this is a real-life psychological example of what it looks like to be surrounded by images of things that you don't really understand.
00:06:01.200 It's an example of, like, being surrounded by a negative image of what you think should happen, only going off your idea of what it should happen, and seeing how the human mind goes with that.
00:06:15.180 Because they were quick to take on the roles of prisoner and jailer.
00:06:19.300 Wasn't it, like, three days?
00:06:20.520 It was, like, three to five days or something.
00:06:22.480 And they flipped.
00:06:23.380 They were going to kill these people.
00:06:25.120 Like, people were, like, locked up in solitary confinement.
00:06:27.500 So, it goes to show, the reason I bring it up is to show that, like, the psychology of human beings is so, like...
00:06:35.980 Fragile.
00:06:36.780 Yeah, I was going to say frigid or, like, fragile.
00:06:38.740 That, like, things around you that you see every day that you don't even realize that you see or hear or you experience shape you, right?
00:06:46.480 So, to continuously show kids, right?
00:06:49.100 Because I'm, like, I've seen it myself.
00:06:50.800 There's so much single-parent stuff shown, and there was a period of time where single-parent stuff was shown a lot, right?
00:06:58.420 And it just becomes something that's, like, very natural and very all right, which shows that, like...
00:07:04.100 Even in fairy tales, like Cinderella, they never...
00:07:07.100 They never.
00:07:07.660 They never.
00:07:09.600 Like, they always remarry someone, and the stepmoms always, like, disgusting, but you never really talk about the mom because you've always passed or something.
00:07:16.620 And it's always, like, one of those ones where single-parent's, like, lifestyle had been pushed, not, like, directly, but, like, indirectly in different ways of, like, if you notice it, then you notice it type of thing.