JustPearlyThings - Woman Claims That Having Kids Is SELFISH

00:00:00.400 okay so going back to jennifer aniston would you guys consider having a child by yourself

00:00:07.200 if you couldn't find a partner absolutely not no no okay

00:00:15.120 no because i want my child to have a father figure okay what about you certainly reason i

00:00:20.240 want to give my child the best opportunity so okay i think i think it's quite obvious i don't

00:00:25.520 want children okay okay in the back no i wouldn't no well i have a child um by myself but um i wouldn't

00:00:33.760 do it again i wait until i'm married okay um what made you guys say that why wouldn't you

00:00:40.080 because a lot of people are considering ivf nowadays and having a child on their own

00:00:44.960 yeah i just think when i look at my own life i feel like it would have been completely different

00:00:50.560 without a father figure and i think as much as big up to like single moms and stuff they want to

00:00:57.680 give that to their child i think there are certain qualities as a woman that you can't give a child

00:01:02.960 because you're not a man and i feel like with for example when you get into puberty and stuff

00:01:08.640 as a child you have very different convos with your mom than you have with your dad and you take away

00:01:13.680 things from both of them and i feel like that's irreplaceable you can't give the same advice as a

00:01:18.400 woman because you simply don't have the same brain as a man so yeah what about you guys mine um is just

00:01:25.440 from my own experience like my parents are still it's actually their anniversary today 34 years big

00:01:31.040 them up um and i just think i've grew up in that environment of having like a loving family and being

00:01:37.440 supported as a loving family so i can't imagine kind of not giving my children that it's like maybe

00:01:43.360 it's the white picket fence fantasy that i have but that's how i kind of want my future

00:01:49.840 i just don't want to give put any child in position where like the other ladies have said they're going

00:01:55.360 to be like just basically not have the influence of a father figure pretty much that yeah okay me

00:02:04.320 personally i i think see it from the perspective of i would never have a child out of wedlock like i would

00:02:10.400 have to be married just preference morals whatever whatever so if i was to never get married or never

00:02:16.720 get to that point i wouldn't bring a child into this world yeah just every child needs a mother and

00:02:22.560 a father obviously situations and things happen that that is not the case but i think to go into it

00:02:29.360 without with the you know denying that child a mother or a father or a father should i say is yeah

00:02:35.680 it's selfish i was about to ask do you guys think it's selfish women that do that um depends and this

00:02:42.480 is for the men too you guys can yeah it depends on their situation it depends on what i mean the

00:02:47.920 situation is there's no dad okay yeah but he isn't there it might it might not have been the choice you

00:02:54.480 know so okay let's let's take me i don't have kids let's say i'm 35. would it be selfish in this

00:03:00.080 situation i'm 35 and i no prospects it's just you know my dms are a desert it's horrible

00:03:09.760 and so i say you know what i i want a child so i'm i'm gonna go to the ivf clinic and i'm gonna do it

00:03:15.440 or i'm gonna i don't i don't know i don't know the science behind it but i don't think it's selfish

00:03:21.280 but i think you need to think about you know what can you offer the child can you because you want

00:03:27.760 your child to grow up in certain conditions right so do you have enough money to provide for the

00:03:32.160 child do you have maybe have a male figure around you um maybe your brother your dad that can still

00:03:39.520 support your child as a man so you don't think it's selfish to expect that out of them no because again

00:03:46.480 before you have a child i would have locked that in i would have already like thought about these

00:03:52.640 things do i have money for this do i have men around me that can support my child that can

00:03:57.920 offer that guidance if i don't then i'm then i may not have a child because again it's a life

00:04:05.760 you want to offer someone the best life that you can give right if i'm not in that position i'm not

00:04:10.640 going to have a child okay what do you guys think well you said no prospects so i'd say that's kind of

00:04:15.680 selfish what are you really bringing to the table as like oh as a sole person you're not really

00:04:22.640 bringing like the love and the support you might be able to to a certain extent but by yourself

00:04:26.720 that's hard like i wouldn't really want to wish that on someone okay i think if it's a choice for

00:04:33.440 you to bring a child into this world by yourself and then look after the child by yourself i think

00:04:37.680 that is selfish because yeah and what about you china yeah i'll just i was just waiting to see if

00:04:43.760 anyone's going to say it wasn't selfish but yeah it's incredibly selfish to to bring a child into

00:04:48.240 the world and do it by by those types of means yeah okay i feel like i feel like having a kid in

00:04:56.640 general is kind of selfish even though you mentioned pearl earlier you said that having a not having a

00:05:01.920 kid was selfish i think like having a kid is inherently quite selfish let's take a moment to think about

00:05:07.600 the world that we live in today let's think about politics let's think about financials let's think

00:05:11.600 about everything that comes into being an adult in the world that we live in today the lowest rates

00:05:16.400 of poverty ever in human history yeah but human history is first of all like let's think

00:05:22.000 about it comparatively i mean if you genuinely really genuinely want children of course you can

00:05:27.040 have children but if you're having children because you feel like you need to that's different

00:05:31.520 what's wrong with the like the world today is great especially in the west it is better than it's

00:05:36.080 ever been but it's great it's phenomenal so were your parents selfish for having you

00:05:41.360 they're rubbing my face all the time no i'm just asking you no i think they are how many siblings

00:05:45.600 do you have i have two so there's three of you so your parents were incredibly selfish for having

00:05:49.520 you guys and the thing is i feel like my parents do have a lot of regret in terms of having children

00:05:54.800 especially so so you wish you wasn't alive you do you feel like you feel like you don't want to be

00:05:59.360 alive that's not what i'm saying because before a fetus is born they don't even know what life is

00:06:04.400 that's not what i'm asking you said it's incredibly selfish and you're saying but i'm

00:06:07.280 saying you come from a family of three um so do you consider your life to be selfish i'm not

00:06:11.840 going to say on camera that i wish i was dead there's no need to swear we're just having a

00:06:15.440 conversation you don't need to swear but no but you're swearing a conversation someone is quite rude

00:06:19.920 i wasn't trying to be rude i was just swearing like i normally talk i know but it's not quite okay

00:06:24.240 so when you when you meet somebody you've never met somebody for the first time to swear when you

00:06:28.880 speak to that person we consider it's considered quite rude so we're on a platform and we're talking to

00:06:33.360 like a thousand thousand people that you're using towards her it's quite rude it's fucking rude i'm

00:06:37.840 not gonna lie oh it is you're being rude to me okay okay so wait hold on a second because i was

00:06:44.400 not being rude to you hold on a second hold on a second i've just literally just spoke i haven't

00:06:48.240 done anything you're baiting her guys have i raised my voice no have i said anything derogatory

00:06:53.040 wait hold on a second wait you're stopping me it's really rude you did say no i haven't said

00:06:56.640 she wish does she wish that she's alive no i asked her a question i asked her a question i

00:07:01.120 asked her question you keep interrupting so nothing about my tone so the problem of so what we seem to

00:07:05.440 find is when men speak and when we speak directly we always get women that try to speak to us about

00:07:08.800 a tone there's nothing wrong with my tone i haven't raised it she she literally just said it so could you

00:07:13.600 just could you just check your friend for oh check the lady next to you and say there's nothing wrong

00:07:16.320 with your tone you can check me directly no but the thing is directly if you want to no but the

00:07:22.960 thing is i am and everyone now you're raising your voice no because so what you're doing is yeah you're

00:07:27.680 gaslighting the situation this is what you women do this is not what no no no no this is

00:07:30.880 he didn't do anything let me teach you let me teach you no no let me teach i think i think the

00:07:37.920 question was a bit wow but that's why we're on a podcast the question is all right so what you guys

00:07:41.840 are doing again you guys are stopping the man from speaking i've tried several times on this

00:07:45.120 platform to speak oh now i'm waiting not you but what you've done is first of all you gaslighted

00:07:49.040 that situation by saying about my tone i didn't raise my tone i didn't speak in a device you didn't

00:07:54.080 see what you're doing again is see guys guys so so so this is a so this is a good platform so i want

00:07:58.560 the super chats to look at look at this this is an example of gaslighting i simply asked the

00:08:03.280 question because she said it was selfish for um for people to having children right now so i asked her

00:08:07.520 do you consider it to be selfish for your parents that had you as a child um she was you know thinking

00:08:11.600 about it that's fine of her to think about it but she swore at me so i've never met this lady it's

00:08:16.000 the first time i met her and she swore at me so i just said could you please not swear and i swear

00:08:18.880 at me on a platform what you've then said to me is about my tone if anything i would actually be

00:08:23.440 quite in my right if someone swore at me so bro what she actually did respond has just said she's

00:08:28.720 naturally swears anyway so so as much as you're in your world in your rights to be offended by what she

00:08:33.760 said because you don't know you don't know and you're yourself your own person you have your

00:08:38.480 boundaries okay so you're allowed to feel the way you feel so she just so do you think

00:08:43.600 do you think the world owes you any understanding so if you've never met somebody and you meet them

00:08:46.800 for the first time do you think the world owes your understanding to be like i can just effing

00:08:50.320 blind at you do you think i owe you understanding no you've never been to east london babe

00:08:56.320 i'm not saying the world necessarily owes her understanding she just said that to almost like

00:09:01.360 out of contact just to comfort you like it's all right i didn't mean it so let's use this example

00:09:05.280 right guys so let's use the example right so there's nothing wrong so there's nothing wrong

00:09:08.880 with my tone i haven't raised my tone i haven't pointed at you i haven't shouted at you okay okay

00:09:14.240 no no he didn't it's easy it's easy he did point at me he was doing she she she so he did yeah she i

00:09:21.440 didn't so so you know what it is you know what it is i find it so i don't want i don't want to do

00:09:27.360 this pearl but i'm going to say this as a black man and i'm going to do that i find it this is this

00:09:31.920 is a scenario that that we find ourselves in i haven't done anything i haven't shouted at you

00:09:36.800 i haven't been aggressive to you i haven't sworn at you but yet you no but wait yet you have continued

00:09:41.360 to you talk about my tone you've tried to create an image of me a perpetual image of me on screen

00:09:45.200 which is not that i was sworn to on live on the air that's all i said was can you please no no no it's

00:09:51.360 fine but we're not talking about you now what we're talking about is her gaslight in a scenario

00:09:55.120 and she's spoken about about the tone she's trying to act like i've been aggressive to her

00:09:58.640 guys the super chats and everything will let you know because i really haven't done it you

00:10:02.000 guys have jumped on top of me but it's fine i'm ready for this let's go switch the situation

00:10:05.840 if she if she no if you're offended no no stop stop if you're offended i apologize but i'm not trying to

00:10:11.280 we switch it we switch it if we switch the rate the they're not the racist the genders here if a

00:10:18.160 girl says that to a guy could you please not swear at me it wouldn't be a thing i would and like

00:10:22.160 and that's the thing whenever men have standards they're shamed for having standards constantly yeah it

00:10:26.800 wasn't a thing in the first place he said i swore at him i'm swearing as i talk the way i talk

00:10:32.720 occasionally i might throw a fuck or shit like i'm just having a conversation because i feel like a

00:10:38.480 little bit more comfortable if you don't want me to swear at you that's completely fine it was quite

00:10:42.320 simple i simply said and i just made you aware of it i didn't actually get at you i just simply said

00:10:46.000 could you please not swear at me you don't you unaware of it but what happens from there i can't

00:10:50.080 believe what's happening just simply a man saying please don't swear at me and you guys have used it as

00:10:53.760 a situation to gaslight instead about my tone and even if i did lose lose my rag a little bit why

00:10:58.560 are you swearing at a man that you've never met before and the first time on a platform is very

00:11:02.000 disrespectful was not no no no no no right now this is not even about this no no no no because i'm not

00:11:08.080 actually offended by what you said i just simply said you could please not swear at me said okay that's

00:11:11.760 cool what she's then gone on to do is create a whole separate scenario now i don't want to know

00:11:16.080 why have you done that i was sticking up for her because i felt like the question just was a little

00:11:22.000 insensitive and kind of to say that just the way it was worded i didn't like so you don't think i

00:11:27.760 was i was in my right to ask her considering she said no not about the swearing i understand no no

00:11:32.320 not about the swearing she said that just said being being selfish right so i just said do you

00:11:37.360 consider your existence and your siblings existence to be selfish based upon the question that she put

00:11:42.560 out there i simply just gave her counter question it was the way it was how was it worded oh my gosh no

00:11:47.600 i'm so bored of this conversation no no no no no because this is an example no we're not going to

00:11:51.840 do this because what you women do is you man you might guess like you guys guess like men and then

00:11:56.560 we when we actually want to prove a point you're like let's move it on we're not going to move it

00:11:59.520 on i want to know no because i want to know what what led to the point where you can start saying

00:12:04.720 about my tone and start a disrespect what led to it what did i say to her you said to her about do you

00:12:09.280 wish that you weren't alive or something along them lines it was worded that way and i just thought oh that's a

00:12:13.520 little bit too much but that came after the fact that she said she considered it to be selfish

00:12:17.760 can i say something so was that was that not a team let her talk for a second i do think the

00:12:23.200 question was a bit whoa and we're all in that no we're all out of it i thought it was a great

00:12:32.560 after what she had said i wouldn't be like why are you asking me that it makes sense because even me

00:12:36.800 i was kind of like yeah do you not want to be here i was about to and lucky i'm sitting here like

00:12:41.040 i'm not gonna lie sometimes i have my days so so i don't think personally but i can see why

00:12:48.560 someone else might be a bit like i don't know you whoa do you understand so even if she threw in

00:12:53.040 the little the little or whatever i i'm i was a bit taken about that you took okay okay okay okay

00:13:00.080 we're gonna we're gonna we're gonna guys guys we're gonna we're gonna move up we're gonna move

00:13:04.320 on guys guys guys stop stop we're gonna we're gonna we're gonna stop stop you just did it again

00:13:09.120 okay we're gonna move on um do you guys back row do you guys think it's selfish to um get ivf

00:13:15.680 treatment um and because she used to be a single mother go ahead in the corner yeah yeah go ahead yeah

00:13:23.280 yeah okay you think it's selfish what about you i can understand why people would do it but

00:13:30.800 yeah just denying without a father in the picture it's okay it's not fair yeah it's selfish because

00:13:37.120 ultimately every woman will try to locate a man that can fill that father figure or teach certain

00:13:44.960 things that the partner or the husband or whatever would have taught if they were within a union

00:13:49.760 so it is selfish personally i don't think it's selfish if you have a good support system it works well

00:13:56.000 for you okay okay that's a word yeah what about the sperm donor though but there's still a father

00:14:04.080 involved to have that for that child to be created there's still a father involved there's a sperm

00:14:10.640 which comes from a father yeah but he's not i know but most most women right now are single but

00:14:15.440 they have a good support system that makes the child uh even better it works out for the child

00:14:19.440 better but if you have no support no no it doesn't no no i said i said most i didn't say everyone i think

00:14:24.400 that's one word because there's a lot of a lot of women you can have a child if you want a baby i don't

00:14:29.600 think that's inherently selfish when you put it your kid at every statistical disadvantage no no offense to the

00:14:35.360 mothers on the panel but you put your kid you put your kid at every statistical disadvantage if you

00:14:39.040 talk to people that came from single mother homes they all want a father you you're more likely to

00:14:42.720 go to prison you're more likely to end up homeless you're more likely to go to jail like like every

00:14:47.520 you're more likely to drop out of school run away from home i already said i think inherently having

00:14:52.560 children is a bit selfish but that's besides that's the precise question as many of you know i was just

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JustPearlyThings - March 29, 2023

Woman Claims That Having Kids Is SELFISH

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