JustPearlyThings - May 22, 2023


Woman Gets Clowned For Saying This...


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Length

10 minutes

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217.49562

Word count

2,357

Sentence count

240

Harmful content

Misogyny

27

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Hate speech

14

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Summary

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In this episode we talk about toxic women and how to deal with them. We also talk about how women can be just as bad as men when it comes to being a narcissist and trap men in relationships. We talk about the dangers of getting pregnant with someone you don t want to get pregnant with and why it s important to be careful with who you have sex with.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Have you ever promised to go on a date and not get, not went?
00:00:03.300 Have you ever blown off a guy from a date?
00:00:04.780 Yeah.
00:00:05.700 Are you guys all toxic?
00:00:07.620 Yes.
00:00:08.480 You know, I used to be.
00:00:09.620 I used to be.
00:00:10.600 To an extent.
00:00:11.240 I used to do the whole life.
00:00:12.740 I used to do the whole player thing.
00:00:13.920 I would lead you on and then just maybe.
00:00:15.580 I'm pretty sure all girls have entertained guys like plenty of times in their lifetime.
00:00:19.160 It's for their own selfish reasons.
00:00:20.940 Yeah, but women aren't demonized for it. 1.00
00:00:23.180 Men are.
00:00:23.720 We call it entertainment.
00:00:25.240 It is entertainment.
00:00:26.280 It is entertainment.
00:00:27.340 It is entertainment.
00:00:28.040 I think women can be just as bad. 1.00
00:00:29.440 I want to go on to the Friday night entertainment.
00:00:30.700 Right, but so you can say entertainment.
00:00:32.800 You can say like a rotation entertainment, ha, ha, ha.
00:00:35.740 But when a guy says that, he's toxic.
00:00:38.460 Yeah, that's absolutely correct.
00:00:39.660 He says the exact same thing.
00:00:41.060 I do think women can be just as bad as men, though. 1.00
00:00:43.140 Some women are actually demons. 1.00
00:00:45.500 Like, they're evil, pure evil.
00:00:47.480 Yeah, I think there are some demons.
00:00:48.040 Tell me, who are you thinking of?
00:00:49.500 What story?
00:00:52.140 No, I've just like seen how like some women treat men and like, you know, 1.00
00:00:56.400 some women can be very narcissistic. 1.00
00:00:59.120 I think social media especially has like become a breeding ground for narcissism
00:01:04.460 in a lot of people.
00:01:05.700 But I do also think the term's thrown around very loosely.
00:01:08.440 And a lot of people are accused of being a narcissist when they're actually not.
00:01:11.840 No, but what girl?
00:01:13.020 You said you could think of a narcissistic girl.
00:01:15.620 Is there a story?
00:01:16.220 Give us a tea.
00:01:16.800 Yeah, come on. 0.77
00:01:17.580 Spill the tea, baby.
00:01:18.760 I mean, I could use like my, I don't know.
00:01:23.780 I don't know any narcissistic women. 1.00
00:01:26.120 Oh, you've heard stories.
00:01:28.380 I've heard lots of stories and it's actually like heartbreaking because a lot of the time
00:01:32.080 these men really care for these women and they're trapped in this abusive relationship.
00:01:36.260 Yeah, but you know what?
00:01:36.760 A lot of girls trap guys by getting pregnant. 1.00
00:01:39.980 They do, but at the same time.
00:01:40.760 And that happens a lot.
00:01:41.780 And then they have all this baby mum and dad job, but it's like, it's mad.
00:01:44.300 No, but do you know what it is?
00:01:45.440 Yeah.
00:01:45.620 When it comes to like trapping a man with a baby, you need to be careful who you sleep
00:01:49.200 with.
00:01:49.780 If you're sleeping with people loosely and you run the risk of getting that person pregnant. 0.97
00:01:55.020 So you have to, you have to sit, like you dug your grave.
00:01:57.440 But that runs back to what we said earlier.
00:01:58.460 Do you remember what we said earlier about if you only go into a relationship with that
00:02:01.240 person, you date that person if you want to be with them and you get into a relationship
00:02:03.820 because of trust.
00:02:04.940 And then you'd only sleep with that person if you're like, do you know what I mean?
00:02:07.920 Yeah, but at the same time, at the same time, if you don't want a baby, then you need
00:02:11.460 to wrap up because as much as it takes two to tango, you need to protect yourself for
00:02:16.520 your own good.
00:02:17.440 Like, yeah, the woman can say she's on the pill, she's on this, she's on that. 0.97
00:02:20.560 But like, at the same time, protect yourself.
00:02:23.260 You said you've, you've heard of a girl trapping a guy. 0.99
00:02:26.220 Tell me about that.
00:02:29.140 We're just baiting people's business out today.
00:02:31.840 You don't have to say names.
00:02:32.940 You don't have to say names.
00:02:33.920 But obviously, someone in the music industry, I'm going to put out who it is.
00:02:37.060 I can't even show you the story.
00:02:38.000 Be careful, babes.
00:02:40.520 Be careful.
00:02:41.420 But, but, what was I going to say?
00:02:43.860 Obviously, yeah, he was obviously dating, I think this like, girl, OnlyFans girl.
00:02:52.380 And, yeah, and then obviously his energy kind of switched, right?
00:02:56.940 And she was quite toxic. 0.55
00:03:00.020 I know she's toxic because she used to, I heard from other girls, that she used to block, 1.00
00:03:03.940 she used to go on his phone and block certain goals. 0.87
00:03:06.500 Oh, wow.
00:03:07.140 And he used to go, and she'd go through people's like, Insta stories and stuff.
00:03:11.920 Who he follows.
00:03:13.680 That makes sense.
00:03:14.400 That makes sense.
00:03:15.640 Yeah.
00:03:15.920 And then afterwards, obviously, who knows how she got pregnant. 1.00
00:03:21.300 Oh, wow.
00:03:21.720 Yeah.
00:03:22.320 And then, but obviously, again, it was, it was, it wasn't serious.
00:03:26.760 He was doing it mainly for pleasure because of her body, right?
00:03:29.780 She's got a nice body. 1.00
00:03:30.640 Okay, cool.
00:03:31.300 What else can you bring to the table?
00:03:33.120 You know, we've got beautiful lady panelists and stuff. 1.00
00:03:35.400 We've all got body, body yoddy.
00:03:37.520 You know what I mean?
00:03:38.480 But we've got more than that.
00:03:39.540 Hence why we're here today.
00:03:41.420 That's what I'm trying to say.
00:03:43.000 But obviously, in that case of obviously trapping him, it's crazy because now it's messed up
00:03:48.380 his career a little bit.
00:03:49.420 He obviously didn't want it.
00:03:50.320 He did not really take responsibility.
00:03:52.160 And he's kind of like hiding away from everyone, almost.
00:03:55.380 And obviously, that can impact the man mentally as well.
00:03:57.800 And I think a lot of people don't focus on a man's mental health as well.
00:04:02.020 And I think females are all like, oh, we're emotional. 1.00
00:04:04.640 We've got feelings.
00:04:05.640 But obviously, men are taught to obviously keep that away.
00:04:09.180 But also, what I would say is like once a woman, like when a woman actually falls pregnant, 0.97
00:04:13.700 it's a very, very, very difficult decision to make whether to keep it or to get rid of it.
00:04:18.940 Like, you grow...
00:04:20.940 How do you fall pregnant? 0.74
00:04:22.380 How do you fall pregnant? 0.74
00:04:24.540 Whoops!
00:04:25.500 I don't know why people say that.
00:04:28.900 Yeah, but...
00:04:30.300 It is true.
00:04:30.920 It is true.
00:04:31.580 Because you get an emotional attachment to that baby.
00:04:33.560 You get down to Tyrone and you fell pregnant. 0.92
00:04:36.500 Yeah, it's an actual baby.
00:04:38.620 Do you know what I mean?
00:04:39.040 You might tell yourself, oh, I don't want a baby.
00:04:41.200 And then you fall pregnant.
00:04:42.280 And you're like, oh, shit.
00:04:43.600 Like, what have I done?
00:04:45.280 Yeah.
00:04:45.400 What have I done?
00:04:45.900 Like, I actually want to keep this baby now.
00:04:47.660 Or I'm going to...
00:04:48.660 That's what I feel like a lot of people do.
00:04:49.660 You guys don't think about the consequences of your actions.
00:04:51.840 You're always relying on abortion and stuff.
00:04:52.860 I feel like this generation likes so much awareness.
00:04:56.100 Yeah.
00:04:56.780 Like, are you present?
00:04:57.840 Are you aware of, like, what you're doing and the consequences?
00:05:00.660 Well, our generation...
00:05:01.520 I would say mostly this generation, yeah.
00:05:03.320 I would say mostly women. 0.87
00:05:04.640 So go back to what you said, yeah.
00:05:06.060 I would say women use abortion as a form of... 1.00
00:05:08.240 I would say we use it as a form of birth control.
00:05:10.840 Which is not good, by the way.
00:05:12.940 I mean, I know people might have different views,
00:05:15.940 views, but I say that's not good.
00:05:17.960 That's horrible.
00:05:18.780 That's horrible.
00:05:19.260 Yeah, I think if you don't want to get pregnant, 1.00
00:05:21.460 then you need to, like, take the precautions to not get pregnant.
00:05:24.700 Obviously, if you need to have an abortion, then, like, you get an abortion. 1.00
00:05:27.860 I understand that.
00:05:28.360 Some circumstances are like...
00:05:30.340 Because there's women out there that can't have children. 1.00
00:05:32.300 And then if you get a lot of abortions, 1.00
00:05:33.580 it can actually stop you from having kids in the future.
00:05:35.680 That is very true.
00:05:36.740 That is very true.
00:05:37.500 Because I took the pill so many times,
00:05:39.380 I now suffer from polycystic ovarian syndrome,
00:05:42.660 so it's hard for me to actually get pregnant.
00:05:44.520 Unfortunately, I haven't seen my period for four years,
00:05:48.100 but recently I got my period through some prophet that prayed for me.
00:05:51.480 Yeah.
00:05:52.040 I'm delivered, guys.
00:05:52.940 Miracle.
00:05:53.780 Wait, so from...
00:05:54.920 What did you get it from?
00:05:56.400 The pill.
00:05:57.160 Like, do you mean the morning after pill?
00:05:59.260 Yes.
00:05:59.540 Or the...
00:06:00.080 The morning after pill.
00:06:00.960 Yeah, I took that too many times.
00:06:02.580 And I also went on the pill.
00:06:04.840 How many times did you take it?
00:06:06.380 I think, like, six, seven times.
00:06:09.060 Six, seven times within the span of how long?
00:06:11.440 Within...
00:06:12.160 Ooh.
00:06:13.180 Maybe, like, a month.
00:06:15.480 Six, seven in a month?
00:06:17.380 Wow.
00:06:18.060 Yeah.
00:06:18.440 And did you know that was a possible side effect?
00:06:20.660 No, I didn't.
00:06:21.480 And how did you find out that you had that?
00:06:23.640 This was actually what the polycystic ovarian syndrome,
00:06:26.540 when I was in a relationship with my toxic ex,
00:06:29.060 because I noticed that he would obviously...
00:06:31.800 Inside of me, and then I would notice that I wasn't, like, getting pregnant,
00:06:36.020 and I was gaining so much weight really quickly,
00:06:38.320 and I started growing excess hair in certain places.
00:06:43.520 So those are all the side effects of getting polycystic ovarian syndromes.
00:06:47.280 And then I went to the doctors, found out I had it, and, yeah.
00:06:51.620 That's what happened.
00:06:52.260 What was that like for you?
00:06:53.740 It was scary because I love kids.
00:06:56.080 I am a child myself, you know?
00:06:58.440 Like, I love laughs.
00:06:59.440 I love playing.
00:07:00.120 I love to just be me everywhere.
00:07:02.340 So kids was a big factor for me,
00:07:04.560 but I knew that in due time, things will work out in my favor,
00:07:08.600 and I will get the kids that I want.
00:07:10.420 It's not impossible not to have kids, but it's harder, ten times harder.
00:07:14.580 Do you wish they told you about that before you took it?
00:07:17.300 Before I took it?
00:07:17.880 Yes.
00:07:18.600 A thousand percent.
00:07:19.500 A thousand percent.
00:07:20.960 Because I feel like a lot of girls really don't know about the side effects.
00:07:23.600 They don't discuss them.
00:07:25.020 The doctors don't tell you.
00:07:26.100 I've never really been on it because when I heard about birth control,
00:07:29.100 I was like, you're going to stop me from getting pregnant. 0.98
00:07:31.720 I'm like, that can't be good.
00:07:32.580 I want that education.
00:07:33.880 I want that education in that aspect when it comes to contraception methods.
00:07:37.440 It's not that good.
00:07:38.400 They teach you a little bit at school, but not completely, like, the full deal.
00:07:42.140 But even when you go and, like, get it prescribed,
00:07:44.020 the doctor don't really tell you nothing.
00:07:46.080 And you know what?
00:07:46.600 There's so many women that go on contraception, 1.00
00:07:48.380 and then they struggle to get pregnant afterwards.
00:07:50.880 Like, they're like, oh, your fertility goes back to normal straight away.
00:07:54.120 And it doesn't.
00:07:55.260 And some people are trying for a baby,
00:07:56.780 and three years down the line, they still can't have a child
00:07:58.560 because they've been on contraception for so long.
00:07:59.720 Everyone's body's different as well.
00:08:00.940 Everyone's body works differently.
00:08:02.480 Yeah, yeah.
00:08:03.280 Yeah, it's hard.
00:08:05.260 Do you guys believe that the label toxic is overused in relationships today?
00:08:09.820 Yes.
00:08:10.200 Yeah.
00:08:10.500 A hundred percent.
00:08:12.220 I mean, look at me.
00:08:13.160 Like, what, ten minutes ago, I was like, yeah,
00:08:14.780 I've been in a toxic relationship.
00:08:16.440 What do you think?
00:08:17.400 Like, come on now.
00:08:18.440 Like, really?
00:08:18.980 And then I hear in their stories that, you know, there's different,
00:08:21.240 like I said, there's different heights of toxic, levels of toxicness.
00:08:25.340 And again, it's what you perceive the word toxic to mean.
00:08:28.780 But I do think that toxic relationships and, like, just with anyone,
00:08:34.180 like friends, partners and stuff,
00:08:36.280 it's, like, really, like, promoted on social media.
00:08:39.220 It is.
00:08:39.720 It is, actually.
00:08:40.080 It is, like, the toxic relationship lifestyle.
00:08:42.620 Like, toxic love, like, everyone wants to be a part of it.
00:08:44.980 Yeah, like, with Krishon and, and what's his name, Blueface?
00:08:47.480 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:08:48.040 That's why I don't understand why they get so much,
00:08:50.400 I don't get so much attention for that.
00:08:52.260 And it's, like, so unhealthy.
00:08:53.480 They're probably so, both so depressed and unhappy in that situation.
00:08:56.440 I feel like, for them to be toxic, you have to have a very strong head.
00:08:59.780 Yeah.
00:09:00.260 Like, for them to be toxic, they know what they're doing.
00:09:03.220 It's like, they don't, it's not like they don't know what they're doing.
00:09:05.140 It's like, it's like, it's calculated.
00:09:06.940 Yeah.
00:09:07.180 They're doing it on purpose.
00:09:08.620 From what I've seen, that's what it looks like.
00:09:11.100 Yeah, I mean, to be honest, I feel like with toxic relationships, you get that adrenaline rush from, like, when things are good.
00:09:17.400 And then when it goes, like, really bad, you just think about the good times, which is why you stay with that person rather than the negative.
00:09:23.240 You feel like you're making excuses for yourself to stay.
00:09:25.200 Yeah, and obviously it's so up and down, like, once it goes down, you're like, oh my God, I can't wait for it to, like, go back up again, like, and everything to be good.
00:09:31.500 Because you guys go through, like, really good phases and it's, like, really bad.
00:09:34.120 You cling on to that little bit of hope, almost, that good part.
00:09:37.000 Or sometimes you're just used to it.
00:09:38.780 This is your comfort zone now.
00:09:40.220 Yeah.
00:09:40.500 And the cons will eventually outweigh the pros.
00:09:45.120 I mean, that's when you know.
00:09:46.720 How do you get used to it?
00:09:48.460 No, but some people have grown up in, even, like, a toxic household, like, with toxic families.
00:09:52.520 Like, also, like, how someone's been raised has a big impact on, like, the type of men they go for.
00:09:58.180 Women also like drama. 1.00
00:10:00.020 Yeah, they do.
00:10:00.880 They do.
00:10:01.380 They love it.
00:10:01.580 I mean, why don't women watch sports? 1.00
00:10:03.860 That's camaraderie.
00:10:04.620 We like the Kardashians.
00:10:05.740 Oh, my God.
00:10:06.880 I love the Kardashians so much.
00:10:10.560 Red flag.
00:10:11.680 Red flag.
00:10:12.760 Don't do that.
00:10:14.140 Kardashians live the life. 0.99
00:10:16.060 Watch me in a year's time.
00:10:18.800 I'm going to be sitting with Kim Kardashian.
00:10:20.820 She's going to be, me and her are going to be, I'm telling you now.
00:10:24.000 Manifestation.
00:10:25.080 Me and her are going to be opposite each other, working on, you know, Skims, X.
00:10:29.680 I've got a COVID-19 dropping soon as well.
00:10:31.840 Joining me with my music, so mad, madness.
00:10:34.480 As far as you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:10:37.640 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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