JustPearlyThings - Women SETTLE More in RELATIONSHIP

00:00:00.000 what do you guys think who settles more men or women definitely women okay why i think women

00:00:07.680 well women certain women get to this certain point where they just can't be asked to do the whole 1.00

00:00:13.280 day in thing and getting to know someone so they just tend to settle or sometimes they settle for

00:00:18.960 the baby daddy that's giving them issues because they have a child together um i feel like because

00:00:25.360 women you know growing up we take such high responsibilities for such a young age like 1.00

00:00:31.280 we start cooking cleaning and taking care of the family from such a young age so i feel like maybe

00:00:36.880 that's why like what he's bringing or not at least he's there with me i guess maybe that's how some

00:00:50.000 women think yeah what do you guys think who settles more men or women i think women i think

00:00:55.680 women settle more because one they might feel like oh okay i'm getting older i'm lonely 0.99

00:01:03.680 so i'll just settle for any guy and as well you know we've got a body clock and you know we want

00:01:09.120 to have kids and things like that so maybe a thing where okay i'll just settle with this guy so i can

00:01:14.080 have kids and just situations like that where you just feel like oh there's a lot of times you feel

00:01:19.200 like oh there's no good men out there so let me just go for the options i have now

00:01:22.320 i think men settle more because i don't think women in my generation at least are taught

00:01:31.520 what a woman is supposed to provide to a man and so they just kind of expect that because this is 0.97

00:01:38.640 what they want in a man that this is what they're supposed to be at least that's what i was told

00:01:42.400 is like be who you want to date but it's not really true

00:01:49.120 what do you guys think who settles more men or women guys

00:01:51.520 it's a really tricky one it's a really tricky one this because

00:02:03.200 um it's not a matter of settling it's not a matter of uh like to say oh well i'll just go with this

00:02:11.040 guy you know you you only get to settle if you have a lot of choice yeah and that's that's the

00:02:18.160 reason why i would say that women probably settle more than men do because men don't have as much 1.00

00:02:23.680 choice by some considerable margin so um unless of course they are the you know the alpha you know most

00:02:33.200 men um no they don't they don't settle they have one or two opportunities they they you know they find

00:02:40.560 somebody that suits them and you know they don't i don't think their expectations are as high so

00:02:48.640 so you know you can call that settling if you like but i think that because women have a good deal more 1.00

00:02:53.680 choice yeah i think it depends what you mean by settling right so like i think men settle for what

00:02:59.760 they can get like most most men because because uh like if i speak to my friends they they only have

00:03:05.680 they don't get girls coming to them all the time right so when they do get a girl it's like well

00:03:12.160 this is all i've got so i'm gonna try settle so that's that's what i think and i think because

00:03:16.400 girls have more choice it's it's harder for them to sorry settle in in today's today's age if you mean 1.00

00:03:23.200 like settle like as in okay this is what i'm gonna settle for like i'm gonna settle for this type of

00:03:28.080 woman or this what like type of thing because some men only get like that choice yeah what's the

00:03:34.080 difference between so what specifically you guys what is the difference between settling and that's

00:03:39.120 just your level so the girl because you said something like oh she's just gonna go with her 1.00

00:03:44.800 baby daddy because you know even though he gives her problems but isn't that just her level because

00:03:49.040 she can't get anything better well she could maybe she's just not looking because she's so comfortable

00:03:54.560 in her situation or maybe she could sleep up but not lock him down but also um i don't know a lot

00:04:02.080 of with the whole baby mama baby daddy why is there so much drama like from it could be from

00:04:08.080 either side i feel like there's always something like people don't always break up in the best

00:04:14.480 amicable way well it's because they didn't plan a family yeah exactly if you just get pregnant yeah

00:04:20.560 it's not really like a decision that both of them planned but there's also a lot of women that try to 1.00

00:04:24.720 trap the man as well which is like he's not gonna love you just because you have his child you know

00:04:30.000 well they're paid to do it if you pay someone to trap like trap a man she can get child support

00:04:36.080 for 18 years not in the uk it's not worth it you know it's like it's like it's really low and now

00:04:43.280 it's decent it's like 15 here something like that if someone's rich that could be a decent chunk of

00:04:48.880 change and if there's a house involved then you get to live in it until the child's 18.

00:04:52.800 oh really yeah oh i didn't know that and the husband gets thrown out on the street

00:05:00.320 oh really i didn't actually know that that's crazy yeah if kids are involved right yeah yeah

00:05:07.200 so what is from the ladies what is a guy that you would settle for

00:05:11.760 me um i feel like if i would settle it would be more so because of my emotions um and that would be

00:05:26.160 out of love like if i genuinely care for that person and you know sometimes we talk about oh yeah you know

00:05:33.280 this guy he has so much potential you know he's going somewhere i feel like that may be

00:05:38.960 um a reason for me to settle because of my emotions oh so it would be like it'd be like a bum 0.54

00:05:45.840 no no you said he's going somewhere so i'm assuming he's not somewhere now oh i'm just based off what

00:05:51.920 you said oh well you'd be settling for like a guy that that's not financially there i'm i'm you're

00:05:57.120 you're gonna hold him down no i i feel you won't be doing that i feel as though i need paid that was

00:06:04.800 real that wasn't me no but i feel as though um the definition is subjective you know like

00:06:10.720 personally for me when i say potential i mean okay someone that is going somewhere with their

00:06:15.760 their life okay they have a job or they have a secure um income but their dreams and aspirations

00:06:21.920 are a lot larger than what they have at the moment like for me personally i would never settle for a bum 0.97

00:06:28.400 like bummy behavior is no good okay he's gotta he's gotta have a job i mean he's gotta have like

00:06:37.280 it needs to be like matching at least you know make or hire a job that he's able to provide for

00:06:46.160 himself and do things for himself i don't mean like a bum that's just sitting on the couch like 1.00

00:06:50.320 oh bye honey or welcome home like so so when you say settle so what did you mean when you said like

00:06:56.160 like you're gonna hold him down and he's gonna no i'm i just necessarily i just meant in terms of

00:07:02.320 like um holding that person down i don't believe i said that because i know personally i wouldn't

00:07:07.280 i'm paraphrasing sorry yeah but um no i just mean in in terms of like supporting that person with their

00:07:12.640 aspirations i wouldn't hold that man down like that's not how i was raised good good okay absolutely go

00:07:20.640 go ahead what's a guy that you would settle for that i would settle for yeah

00:07:31.440 well a guy that i would settle for has to be a guy that has a good job and good money um is a family man

00:07:39.600 um okay so that sounds like a catch that doesn't sound like settling

00:07:55.200 that sounds like give me his number you know

00:07:57.280 man with a job she said family man yeah great go ahead man with a job who likes pets

00:08:08.720 go ahead go ahead um i'm not sure if i could settle because like the number one important the most

00:08:16.000 important thing for me is character okay and so kind of an issue i'm having with dating is like

00:08:21.520 i date with the intention of marriage and if i marry then i have to submit and so i would need

00:08:30.080 somebody in which i trust their judgment in order to submit to them so that's like the number one thing

00:08:36.320 for me and we need to have the same values which are what um preferably the same uh outlook in terms

00:08:43.200 of like politics hopefully religion but it's kind of hard to find um and somebody that wants a family

00:08:49.920 okay i think it's also worth saying that you know marriage is a partnership very much a partnership

00:08:57.440 it may be a partnership you know at the end of the day if you have two people

00:09:03.280 um trying to do something they they're going to disagree they're they are absolutely going to

00:09:08.960 disagree so somebody has to have the casting vote yeah and quite often that's the man quite often it's

00:09:16.720 the woman as well actually but um you know you need to you need to build a partnership and practicing

00:09:25.280 building that partnership in a boyfriend girlfriend situation is a bloody good idea not just evaluating

00:09:32.640 them as somebody who you might attach to yourself but also but also can i build something together with

00:09:41.120 this person can i make a partnership with them in every in the real sense

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JustPearlyThings - April 17, 2023

Women SETTLE More in RELATIONSHIP

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