You Won't BELIEVE What He Said
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss deal breakers, deal breakups, and how to know if someone is a good or bad deal breaker. We also talk about how to deal with all the baggage that comes with being a virgin.
Transcript
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Someone who's not Christian and someone who has a temper.
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Okay, what about, he's perfect, but he's barely been to church.
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Mine would be aggressive, if they come across quite aggressive.
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If they can't communicate, addiction, et cetera.
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I would say lack of self-respect, and also, I just might come across a bit lousy,
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I think a woman has got, like, excessive sexual parts.
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I mean, if she tells me, if I don't know, then I'll-
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Do you think you can generally tell when a woman has a high body count?
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Something like 25, you should have been in a serious relationship for at least 2, 3 years.
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You should have just stayed with someone for a while.
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Yeah, that's the most common answer I get from guys.
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I feel like the same way, like, alright, women will give me a number for income, but they really mean like 20% less.
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I feel like when men say 10, they really mean 15.
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It's just I feel like women with high body count kind of like, because I'm a guy and I'm thinking even me as a man, so many flashbacks got to deal with.
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How do you even, like, even if you find a person for you, like your soulmate, you still got to deal with all the sexual encounters you've actually been through, all the experiences.
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All the sobering and all the connection you've had with so many different people.
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You could be with them because you like them, but there's still so many things dragging you around.
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Okay, so if he was a loser or the best guy ever.
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I mean, I think I'd rather Drake, because to me, that's like, oh, shit.
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Yeah, I feel like, yeah, both people are losers.
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Yeah, I mean, better, I mean, yeah, but someone is, I feel like, okay, cool.
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You're short rather than some guy thinking you didn't have any self value.
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Like, of the, you know, sleeping with Drake is that I don't care about all that.
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The type of gal that's going to sleep with Drake.
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She slept with three guys and one of them is Drake.
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I mean, I think most guys will take three though.
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That's like damn near, that's damn near a virgin nowadays.
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Actually, I think it depends on what relationship she had with Drake though.
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But if she didn't date Drake, then she's cancelled excommunicado.
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There are some girls dating uncle, whatever, anyone can hit it.
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It doesn't matter if she was Drake's stylist or whoever she was.
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The point is like, if she's a girl that has ever slept with a guy for money or clout or any of that crap.
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It doesn't matter if it's Drake or if he's like uncle down the road.
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If she is 30, let's say 25 and the body count is free and one of them girls with Drake.
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I'm saying if she was the type of girl that was like a groupie bruv.
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But if she's a groupie, then I'm sure her body count would be higher.
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So that means she does smash some of the other celebrities as well.
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So I guess to me, the body count is what I'm looking at.
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I'm the only person in the world who doesn't know who Drake is.
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Not everyone is in the life that everyone thinks that everyone's in.
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I would say alright then to correct what I'm saying then.
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Yeah like someone who has literally no communication skills.
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Because if you can communicate then you can write problems out.
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So he's 300 pounds, 5'4", but he can't communicate.
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I'm just asking like what are your deal breakers?
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I'm not gonna really like date a guy because of what he's got.
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What if that's all the job that he can do and he gets 10 pounds an hour?
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Some guys, that's probably the only job that he can get.
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If that's what you want to date, I'm just asking.
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But what if there's guys out there like that are trying to do something?
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But we're not, we're not talking about the exception.
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So I'm asking on average how much does this guy-
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Unemployable is not really desirable though, is it really?
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I'm not shaming anyone for wanting a man with a job.
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I'm not really bothered about what a guy earns.
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So unemployed, there's a homeless shelter down the street.
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I actually think women really don't care about money.
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The reality is women just care about shiny things.
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And they really don't understand the concept of,
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And you need to use it to do this when it comes to men.
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Obviously when it comes to them and buying their things,
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The one actually is someone who will give them secure.
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I'm talking about what they actually respond to in real life.
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it's not the flashy things that they're attracted to.
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It's the skew to the thing that the flashy things may bring.
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Because I've met some women who actually don't like guys who are flashy.
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I would argue that even the guys that you claim are not flashy,
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they are still flashy in the ways women would respond to in terms of like their status.
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I mean, I'm a philosopher at the end of the day.
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I get what you're saying, but I still feel like women are attracted to security.
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it's just in a biological nature to draw to these things.
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I would say like, if you're going to have a household,
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at least 25K because that's what it takes to run the house.
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So my, the deal breaker is not passing my interrogation process.
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Oh, that's what you, you, you had, you wanted to do an interrogation show, didn't you?
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I have my personal five questions that I actually use in my own day in life.
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My five questions are, the first one is do you drive?
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And if so, and what are you doing to resolve them?
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Is this like, is this a problem that we run into multiple baby moms?
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You see, cause if they actually say they have a baby mother, then I know what time of day
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is if they don't respond to the question as my child's mother, then I understand what the
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Um, so if he says he's a plumber, no other, his one stream of income.
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And if he said three, then I know I have a bonus there.
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If he says one or two, then I just understand his work effort and where he would like to go.
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So the last question that I normally ask is what is a male's purpose in four words?
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And these questions, it sounds very military as I'm saying it, but I slide in the conversation.
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You think men want to be questioned about their like past trauma?
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That's how they respond to the question actually.
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It was because I was raised by my grandparents and kind of like being raised by my mom, kind
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of had a little like, you know, but now me and my mom are cool.
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And it's just been very, brought a lot of healing to me.
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And actually I will urge every guy out there to, if you've got any sort of, you know, disruption
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with your parents, whether your father or mom, just deal with it.
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You just have to deal with them and love them and receive the love that they give you.
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The way how he answered gave me a lot of information about him.
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He has, he has a past trauma and he actually done something to resolve it.
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And the fact that he actually did something rather than sit down and feel safe for himself.
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I think it's to provide, protect, and to provide, protect, and also to live out his divine purpose.
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That's to protect, provide, bear children, so reproduce, and to live his dreams.
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So whatever gift that God has given you, you have to make sure that you manifest that in life before you die, before you leave this planet.
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Um, to give out wherever, to give out, to live, to live out his gifts.
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So whatever gift that he's got is to bring it into fruition.
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So if you can put that in one word, what would that one word be?
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Protect and provide is definitely the two words.
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Again, like I said, there isn't any wrong or right answers, but the four words that I'm looking for is protect, provide, hunt, and lead.
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I'm like, wait, you're actually not the first girl that's come on the show and said she wants a guy to like kill an animal.
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But modern daily, obviously, we don't do hunting.
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Living in, like you said, London, 21st century.
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So a man's hunting now is going to Sainsbury's and buying the food or providing the money to buy the food.
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But obviously, you can't go and shoot a deer or whatever.
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So you have to go to Sainsbury's and buy steak.
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These questions, would these be like a red flag or a green flag?
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But then if I'm not really on that kind of vibe...
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I expect a woman of intelligence to do the same thing.
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Yeah, but she said she doesn't do it like how she...
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You won't even realise I'm asking these questions