JustPearlyThings - August 17, 2023


You Won't Believe What He Said When He Lost His VIRGINITY


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In this episode the lads talk about losing their virginity and how it's like losing your virginity in a relationship. The lads also talk about their own experiences with losing their virginities and how they lost their virginity.

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00:00:00.000 what what age were you guys when you lost your virginity i was 17 17 i was 15 15 16 16 i was
00:00:09.820 about 13 13 14 yeah babysitter i'm just i'm just being real yeah maybe what babysitter and it's
00:00:22.880 weird because if it was the other way around it would be classed as something completely different
00:00:25.860 but because it's a guy it's a bit like traumatized from that or no um not really but i because you
00:00:32.360 know i had sex then but then i didn't actually start having sex when you're in actually in love
00:00:37.560 in a relationship until i was a lot later in my teens that's so scary i'm not leaving a kid with
00:00:42.100 a babysitter it's fucked yeah how did she like did your mom ever find out uh i've heard that story 0.99
00:00:49.760 before though it is it's a common story i think i was being babysitted by like my friend's older
00:00:54.680 sister who brought a friend to kind of help babysit and it was her who kind of used to like
00:01:00.520 play with me and my mate and it got like that and you know they were like a couple years older
00:01:04.840 how old were they i couldn't tell i was about 34 they probably must be about 16 maybe yeah so they're
00:01:11.240 a couple years couple years older but i still i would kill it oh i would kill it some people 0.89
00:01:17.960 you're right if it was the other way around it'd be completely different even if it is that way around
00:01:21.960 if i if i had a son and a babysitter oh i would kill her yeah yeah yeah it's crazy oh i've heard 0.99
00:01:28.120 that story a couple times it's very common yeah it's very common yeah uh what about you how old
00:01:33.640 were you when you lost your virginity 14 and then i went to a girl's house on my bike on my black 0.86
00:01:40.840 bicycle and then she was like come around came around and i went upstairs and she had friends
00:01:47.000 and downstairs downstairs she had friends i was like ah when you're doing it then it's my first
00:01:51.000 time it was my first time she's like wait a bit wait a bit i was like i can't wait but i'll still wait
00:01:58.360 and then yeah it was like i was kissing her kissing her and then i was like when we gonna do it then
00:02:03.960 she's like wait go slow i was like how much more slower can i go bruv i don't understand and then
00:02:09.640 yeah we ended up doing it it was obviously but then i went right i was riding back home to my on my
00:02:17.400 bike yes bruv yes bruv finally bruv finally i've done it bruv and then i went home slept happily
00:02:25.880 easy as and i never spoke to her again easy as bro you never talked to her again why you didn't like
00:02:31.800 her like that it's not that it's just like you know when it's your first time you have a proper fall
00:02:36.280 in love with a girl or you're just like oh what the you just wanted to lose your virginity yeah 0.63
00:02:43.800 it's not even that i probably wanted to her do you understand but when i did it i was like what
00:02:47.960 the is this about like it was nice whatever but i was like uh like i don't want her anymore like
00:02:53.480 you know what i'm saying there's a lot of girls a lot of guys and then oh that no it's too much
00:03:00.920 and then they leave her then she gets upset easier do you know what i'm saying
00:03:04.440 but yeah that was my story of losing my virginity here what was it that like turned you off from
00:03:09.880 her you see how it was like doing it this and that after i came no offense to the podcast by the
00:03:19.080 way after i came i was like you know after a guy comes he's like i bet he's in love with her or he's
00:03:24.280 like ah what the fuck is this was there a certain thing though that gave you a neck it's just like 0.86
00:03:29.800 it was just too easy you know what i'm saying i came to a house one time the first time coming to
00:03:34.520 her house yeah on my bicycle on my bicycle bike bicycle i was like oh let me do this right now
00:03:41.160 quickly of course i'm gonna go like oh what the fuck is this like the first time this and that 0.89
00:03:45.960 i get you i get you yeah but she liked it and she kept texting me but i had to block her and then we
00:03:50.600 went to the same school and then she was like burkan what's wrong brutal just relax bro relax yourself
00:03:55.800 move away but easy as don't even look at me easy as because the guy either falls in love with the
00:04:01.800 girl that he loses his virginity to or he goes up this girl was was there anything she could have 0.97
00:04:07.800 did differently i'm gonna make me wait get me in a relationship with her but if you just like that 1.00
00:04:13.240 but you were rushed though you were saying well when do you want to do it then yeah because she
00:04:16.440 was holding herself back she wasn't holding herself back if i if i asked a girl cool let's do it now 1.00
00:04:21.560 i understand she's a skirt no offense i understand she's a skirt and i understand she's going to give 0.96
00:04:25.880 it quickly that's why i say cool we're doing it then did you ever think about i don't even do that
00:04:29.560 i don't even do that now bro how do you know you weren't pressurizing her what the hell is
00:04:33.560 pressurizing so like being pushy yeah into doing something being forced into something sexual
00:04:43.960 not my man again
00:04:47.960 i actually i wanted to hear so what is pressure like just pressuring you yeah just like you feel
00:04:57.960 like you have to but like because i don't know i don't know the situation not saying this is the
00:05:03.480 situation by the way but like a girl maybe feeling in a way like she doesn't want to do it but she's
00:05:08.040 kind of you're kind of going at her like oh you know let's do it like or like hinting and she's kind
00:05:13.080 of feeling you know what let's just get over and done with whatever and then then maybe she might 0.99
00:05:17.560 think oh now that i've done it we can we can carry on but sometimes that's not the case yeah of
00:05:23.960 course of course like if a girl feels pressurized then and she's young she'll do it you know what i'm
00:05:28.440 saying yeah i don't personally think i was pressurizing her you know what i'm saying yeah yeah
00:05:31.880 obviously i don't know the situation there's a lot there's a lot of guys that will go like yeah
00:05:34.840 let's have sex now we're gonna do about it you know what i'm saying i mean i mean that's that 0.59
00:05:38.520 that's that grapey you know what i'm saying i don't i don't i don't with that but if i'm going to the
00:05:43.000 girl when we're doing it then come on now when we're doing it you know what i'm saying and if
00:05:46.280 she goes like no i don't want to do it then that's fine on her easier if she was like come to my house 0.60
00:05:50.680 on this day on this time with your bike then obviously i'm gonna go do it there's no pressurization
00:05:56.920 bro if that's a word you know i'm saying i mean if you both agree to it can you be pressured by a guy
00:06:01.720 like because i'm thinking you'd have to be somewhat into it to get to that point
00:06:06.040 sometimes you don't expect it though yeah sometimes us girls are delusional so you 1.00
00:06:13.000 you don't see it it's weird he takes off your clothes you don't see it maybe you could think
00:06:18.120 about like you could be talking and that guy actually wants to you but you're you kind of
00:06:23.800 have every girl has that kind of thought in their head that oh like you know he probably wants to
00:06:28.120 fuck me but i want to get to know him and yeah like a lot of time yeah majority of men like just
00:06:33.240 just want to fuck mate they'll fuck anything i mean let's be real here but um where was it 0.91
00:06:39.240 where was it cool cool where it comes down to you guys are like pretty patient as long as you
00:06:44.600 oh i don't know some of them some of them no i don't think they're patient
00:06:52.680 if a man wants you he will wait but the thing is the thing yeah for the guy she wants you yeah 1.00
00:06:57.640 and you're in a mode for it like you actually want to do it but you're holding yourself back in your
00:07:00.840 your head in the back of your mind you're like oh should i do this yes or no you're so like into
00:07:04.760 the moment like you just don't care do you know what i'm saying you don't want to give it to him
00:07:08.840 like you don't care i mean if you're both if you're both feeling it then go around like
00:07:13.720 if you're feeling it but a guy's like i can't lie guys like in his head he's like
00:07:18.760 uh he's sure this girl like into himself are you sure this girl wants it this and that
00:07:23.160 you know i'm saying like he he thinks about it as well it's not like i just want to
00:07:25.880 fuck this girl fuck it i don't care some guys i like that that's predatory i can't lie that's 0.99
00:07:29.560 predatory yeah yeah yeah yeah of course i don't know i don't respect that i don't respect some
00:07:35.000 boys don't don't think about how the girl feels in the situation especially if they've got it on
00:07:39.400 their head and it's like it's almost like a mission the thing is when the guy when the girl's in the
00:07:43.160 moment she wants to do it so much like she's oh i can't i can't lie i want to do it so much oh yeah
00:07:49.960 i'm in that moment you know i'm saying that guy's not going to hold back easy as
00:07:52.840 but but if the if the girl says no to him he's in the back down he's you know okay no problem
00:07:57.880 baby not necessarily he'll show her but the guys that are like that they're not predators in it
00:08:02.200 them easy but the guys that actually listen to them they call the girl goes like no i don't want
00:08:07.720 it right now well no problem baby stroke her hair make her feel comfortable yeah but someone like 0.97
00:08:13.400 some girls can't say no guys some girls can't say no 0.99
00:08:17.320 they choose not to say no it's like even even the girls go back and forth like you've never okay
00:08:25.880 you've never said no to sex and changed your mind later no never no what was this the person at the
00:08:33.160 same time yeah to be fair i have yeah i've said no and then later i'm like yeah yeah it's it's confusing
00:08:39.000 to men i think it's confusing to women like like they don't know what they're into you know because in 0.93
00:08:43.960 the time you're not in the moment exactly and then give it another couple of hours you're like
00:08:48.040 oh yeah yeah that can be very confusing to men because i've been in situations where they've been
00:08:54.280 like wait let me finish bro bro let me land let me land i'm trying to say that there's been times
00:09:02.120 with my experience where girls been like no no no no but then as time's gone on she's changed her mind 0.99
00:09:07.640 so it's made me think actually next time i'm with a girl and she goes no no no no maybe i should stay a
00:09:13.080 little longer she might change her mind um that happens bad times do you get what i'm saying so
00:09:18.840 yeah but then it's like are you a predator then uh you know what i mean it's like by this by this
00:09:24.200 logic right like you could be if you have that knowledge you could be and be like you know if i
00:09:29.000 wait around maybe she might change her mind but at the same time it's like you're trying to get what
00:09:33.800 you want the same way she's trying to get what she wants if it's like a pushy salesman you don't blame
00:09:39.000 the salesman if you buy it still you swipe your credit card yeah because it's still your choice
00:09:44.680 and at the end of the day you could walk away like i think it's kind of disingenuous when we go back
00:09:48.920 and say oh you said pushy's but it's like you accepted it you could have told them to get out
00:09:54.200 but i think i think it's subtle signs of a girl like when she's in the moment she actually loves you
00:09:58.280 she wants to have it with you but she's that kind of like like scared about it you know i'm saying it's
00:10:02.360 your right to make her feel comfortable you know what i'm saying you have to go like cool relax baby just
00:10:06.520 for less easier but if a girl actually doesn't want it then you can tell she doesn't want it by
00:10:10.920 the subtle signs like nah stop touching me this and that this and that and you're gonna have no
00:10:14.840 problem you're not gonna wait around to fuck her bro you understand what are you talking about i'm 0.99
00:10:19.400 just saying you're not gonna wait around to fuck her bro like let's say no but you didn't say that he 0.55
00:10:23.400 was gonna wait around i'm just saying i'm saying to everyone someone do wait around wait around just to
00:10:27.240 fuck one woman yeah listen i'm saying i'm saying this like if you're gonna if she says no and you wait around 0.87
00:10:32.600 just to fuck her like afterwards then you're a little big you're a bitch easy as like if she 1.00
00:10:37.320 says no then leave it do other things with her you don't have to have sex with her jonathan 0.98
00:10:43.400 exactly but if you wait there like oh i'm gonna get this girl i'm gonna get a pussy i'm gonna wait 1.00
00:10:47.960 a bit so she's happy allow yourself bro you're a man bro yeah bare men do that though
00:10:53.320 bare men do that and they need to get put in jail bro i just i think saying that's like jail i think
00:10:59.640 that's a bit extreme just because a girl changes her mind yeah but it's not about that let's say
00:11:04.040 let's say it let's say it's his actions that's what it is let's say a girl says i don't want to
00:11:07.720 have sex with you and love you and the guy's waiting there hopefully she changed her mind 1.00
00:11:12.200 hopefully she's still there but what if that guy's had like five other girls that he tried to have sex 0.63
00:11:16.680 with she said and then and then you know maybe he wasn't expecting it but she changed her mind later
00:11:21.000 because i've even i've even had guys tell me that like if they tell a girl okay fine that's fine no no
00:11:25.720 problem then she comes back even like harder weirdly enough when he like takes away the attention 0.95
00:11:30.440 so it's it's like i think saying that he's a creep is kind of it's a bit far it's not saying
00:11:35.320 that but if a guy is specifically there yeah just to her when she says i don't want it and
00:11:39.960 he waits there just to her then that's not right that's predatorial yeah i just wouldn't say
00:11:47.400 predatorial like that acts like you're a child you can still tell him no and just say go home
00:11:51.960 like at any point it just proves that you don't have any self-control listen if you can't do it
00:11:57.720 a lot of people can't do that they choose not to does your voice not work i've actually invited
00:12:03.000 girls to my house and been a bit like hesitant to be like actually i don't want you here 0.94
00:12:06.920 i want you to leave but i've been a bit hesitant to say leave i feel like girls have been in the same 0.99
00:12:11.080 position and book and i've not actually said you should learn how to say leave then but like i think
00:12:16.120 it's like i think you shouldn't put it on the other person i feel a lot of people like i'm just big
00:12:19.560 i'm just big in like accountability like if you if you choose to sleep with someone you can't go
00:12:23.720 back and call them a creep later in my opinion if you if you choose to do it if if you didn't choose
00:12:29.240 to do it then that's one thing but i'm just not i just think there's a lot of like me too
00:12:33.880 that's kind of gone around where we call men creeps when i don't think they're creepy yeah yeah
00:12:38.840 but the thing is like if it goes statistics listen bro i'm sweet statistics listen bro i'm speaking bro i'm
00:12:44.040 on my podcast i have to listen but i'm speaking first bro listen cool let's say yeah a girl's there 0.99
00:12:49.800 and she tells you specifically no yeah instead of like instead of like choking her hair or whatever
00:12:55.480 you get angry at her yeah oh and then i heard that when's this girl gonna give you sex you know 1.00
00:12:59.800 i'm saying that's the amateur that's what little nerds do you know what i'm saying and then like
00:13:04.280 she doesn't want it and then she ends up not wanting it because he's angry she he wants to see
00:13:08.040 you shouldn't get angry exactly you know what i'm saying but if even if he's in his head like
00:13:11.880 oh i want to this girl so much some people just in the head honestly it's gonna come
00:13:16.040 across like that you know what i'm saying but if he's that cool no worry baby he's cool it's fun
00:13:20.680 like you can go home if you want should i drop you home in the car no problem if you don't have
00:13:24.280 a car then you shouldn't be going for girls anyway bro don't be walking around on the streets of 1.00
00:13:27.800 women easy as if you're in a car and you're like cool don't walk on the streets with women i'm confused 1.00
00:13:33.800 wait why you get watched listen listen listen listen when there's when there's countless guys
00:13:39.720 with cars with nice houses oh and they pull up wait it's not even that nah it's still weird though
00:13:45.560 when guys are doing that and they're stuck it's weird when they pull up with a car listen
00:13:52.040 and they like pull up beside you and they think that you you're just gonna get in the car like
00:13:56.280 anyway anyway anyway it's really when i got when a lot of guys have cars you know what i'm saying
00:14:01.320 you're walking the street with a woman do you not feel embarrassed to work harder bro do you
00:14:05.000 don't feel embarrassed to get a car so you can get a girl in a car and go on like jobs with her 0.52
00:14:10.440 do you don't get embarrassed sorry yeah oh okay we were talking about a totally different
00:14:20.040 because i thought you were talking about the whole thing when you're walking down the street say us
00:14:24.280 girls walking down the street and then a guy comes up to you in the car or like walking behind you quite
00:14:29.160 quick yeah and they're like you're right babes yeah i don't respect that especially when she's 1.00
00:14:35.160 over with a guy i don't respect guys moving to girls when she's with her man i don't respect that i don't
00:14:41.400 even look at guys i don't even look at guys when they're with their girl like i don't look at girls
00:14:46.120 when they're with their guy because i don't go like oh she's so sexy when she has a man that's disrespectful 1.00
00:14:51.000 i wouldn't want to say anything happening to me easier it's just you know respect at the end of the day
00:14:54.840 exactly exactly exactly when they go like oh um your boyfriend doesn't have to know
00:15:00.760 what the fuck
00:15:03.400 i think i think it's about comfortability because if a girl comes back to your place 1.00
00:15:08.040 i think it's a kind of a mutual understanding of what's expected or what's possibly going to happen
00:15:13.320 i think if a girl comes back to your place and you're vibing you're doing whatever you're doing
00:15:17.560 and she says no i think it's a it's a point of like comfortability she doesn't feel comfortable with
00:15:23.960 you if you you she walks in she takes her shoes off let her know right there get comfortable
00:15:29.880 well i just don't understand like what were you doing there in the first place like because
00:15:34.040 if a girl if you feel pressured or whatever it's like why why'd you go back exactly because
00:15:43.960 after a certain hour yeah i just assume that's that's assumption that's assumption that's not
00:15:49.080 assumption all right any one of you it is if i invited you back to my place in your mind i do
00:15:56.280 think that straight away what's the expectation what do you think what are we doing yeah what are we
00:16:03.080 doing but you know are we just chilling you know if you go back to a man's place after you've been
00:16:09.240 drinking out night on the club with your girls and i'm out with my boys or whatever yeah and you come
00:16:13.960 back we know what it is oh i'm delusional enough to actually think that you want to be my friend
00:16:23.080 what it is if you're coming back then you know what the expectation why am i inviting you back
00:16:27.240 to my place i think i'm not gonna lie bro i think that's your own expectation i feel like
00:16:32.120 whatever girl that i go back with i know whether we're gonna just chat and talk or whether we're
00:16:37.000 we're gonna have at 2am you want to chat we're we're gonna do this i know what the situation i
00:16:41.480 think you automatically assuming oh if you're back at my place at this time we have to fight
00:16:46.600 i think that's just your expectation listen bro listen 2am in the morning if a girl comes back to
00:16:51.640 your place she's not there to talk okay okay okay wait what what world do you live in i live in the 21st
00:16:57.800 century in london do you know what i mean so you you bring girls back to your place wait wait wait i've
00:17:03.160 been i've been back wait wait wait wait i'm gonna ask you a question so you bring you you bring girls
00:17:08.680 black to your place at 2am and i wait yeah yeah yeah i'm waiting i'm waiting and what they just curve you
00:17:20.680 sometimes they have sex with me sometimes we eat sometimes we do this sometimes we do that i think 0.80
00:17:25.560 it depends it depends on the girl depends on do you see what i'm saying i think if you're gonna be
00:17:30.040 like my man and assume that every girl you come back with you're gonna you're gonna you're gonna
00:17:33.320 fuck you're a waste man i'm just being real i agree this guy here i don't know what you're saying how 0.99
00:17:38.040 old are you my bro you're 20 yeah i'm 28 so i've got eight more years of understanding of what it is
00:17:43.720 and you're still a feminist it's about it's not about being a feminist brother it's not about being a
00:17:49.480 label when a girl comes to me it's a young thing listen labeling people in a bracket is a young
00:17:54.840 thing bro listen so you're telling me when a girl comes to your house at 2am 2am you're gonna eat
00:17:59.960 fucking peace with her and watch netflix bro bro bro bro sometimes it's like that brother why 0.79
00:18:05.320 do you know what should i tell you something should i tell you something you might have a girl come back
00:18:08.440 to your yard at 2am yeah and you know what you might try to fuck her and she don't want to 1.00
00:18:12.760 fuck you then you know what you'll never see her again when some people might just wait chill get to know 0.97
00:18:17.960 the girl and in the future they still will fuck her do you get what i'm saying what do you mean 0.96
00:18:21.720 if you don't want to fuck her again maybe cool i'll say cool no problem darling that's no problem 1.00
00:18:27.240 but but you know i'm not going to force myself onto her so then why are you asking me a question
00:18:31.400 if a girl comes to your yard at 2am you're gonna do what what do you expect to do bro exactly 0.95
00:18:35.160 you have an expectation what do you expect it why you have an expectation in your head
00:18:39.400 it's 2am because it's 2am exactly this is exactly what i'm saying because we live in reality
00:18:44.440 come on what should we come on bro that's basic wait wait this is so wait wait that's basic wait
00:18:51.400 this is your last warning it's your last warning it's so it's so it's so did all right go go bye
00:18:56.840 thank you all right all right say no more of them finally bro finally bro we're talking peace bro
00:19:05.000 you need to go up in bitch boy 1.00
00:19:06.440 oh yeah
00:19:06.840 obviously
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