You Won't Believe What He Said When He Lost His VIRGINITY
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Summary
In this episode the lads talk about losing their virginity and how it's like losing your virginity in a relationship. The lads also talk about their own experiences with losing their virginities and how they lost their virginity.
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what what age were you guys when you lost your virginity i was 17 17 i was 15 15 16 16 i was
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about 13 13 14 yeah babysitter i'm just i'm just being real yeah maybe what babysitter and it's
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weird because if it was the other way around it would be classed as something completely different
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but because it's a guy it's a bit like traumatized from that or no um not really but i because you
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know i had sex then but then i didn't actually start having sex when you're in actually in love
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in a relationship until i was a lot later in my teens that's so scary i'm not leaving a kid with
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a babysitter it's fucked yeah how did she like did your mom ever find out uh i've heard that story
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before though it is it's a common story i think i was being babysitted by like my friend's older
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sister who brought a friend to kind of help babysit and it was her who kind of used to like
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play with me and my mate and it got like that and you know they were like a couple years older
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how old were they i couldn't tell i was about 34 they probably must be about 16 maybe yeah so they're
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a couple years couple years older but i still i would kill it oh i would kill it some people
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you're right if it was the other way around it'd be completely different even if it is that way around
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if i if i had a son and a babysitter oh i would kill her yeah yeah yeah it's crazy oh i've heard
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that story a couple times it's very common yeah it's very common yeah uh what about you how old
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were you when you lost your virginity 14 and then i went to a girl's house on my bike on my black
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bicycle and then she was like come around came around and i went upstairs and she had friends
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and downstairs downstairs she had friends i was like ah when you're doing it then it's my first
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time it was my first time she's like wait a bit wait a bit i was like i can't wait but i'll still wait
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and then yeah it was like i was kissing her kissing her and then i was like when we gonna do it then
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she's like wait go slow i was like how much more slower can i go bruv i don't understand and then
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yeah we ended up doing it it was obviously but then i went right i was riding back home to my on my
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bike yes bruv yes bruv finally bruv finally i've done it bruv and then i went home slept happily
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easy as and i never spoke to her again easy as bro you never talked to her again why you didn't like
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her like that it's not that it's just like you know when it's your first time you have a proper fall
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in love with a girl or you're just like oh what the you just wanted to lose your virginity yeah
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it's not even that i probably wanted to her do you understand but when i did it i was like what
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the is this about like it was nice whatever but i was like uh like i don't want her anymore like
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you know what i'm saying there's a lot of girls a lot of guys and then oh that no it's too much
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and then they leave her then she gets upset easier do you know what i'm saying
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but yeah that was my story of losing my virginity here what was it that like turned you off from
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her you see how it was like doing it this and that after i came no offense to the podcast by the
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way after i came i was like you know after a guy comes he's like i bet he's in love with her or he's
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like ah what the fuck is this was there a certain thing though that gave you a neck it's just like
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it was just too easy you know what i'm saying i came to a house one time the first time coming to
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her house yeah on my bicycle on my bicycle bike bicycle i was like oh let me do this right now
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quickly of course i'm gonna go like oh what the fuck is this like the first time this and that
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i get you i get you yeah but she liked it and she kept texting me but i had to block her and then we
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went to the same school and then she was like burkan what's wrong brutal just relax bro relax yourself
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move away but easy as don't even look at me easy as because the guy either falls in love with the
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girl that he loses his virginity to or he goes up this girl was was there anything she could have
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did differently i'm gonna make me wait get me in a relationship with her but if you just like that
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but you were rushed though you were saying well when do you want to do it then yeah because she
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was holding herself back she wasn't holding herself back if i if i asked a girl cool let's do it now
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i understand she's a skirt no offense i understand she's a skirt and i understand she's going to give
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it quickly that's why i say cool we're doing it then did you ever think about i don't even do that
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i don't even do that now bro how do you know you weren't pressurizing her what the hell is
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pressurizing so like being pushy yeah into doing something being forced into something sexual
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i actually i wanted to hear so what is pressure like just pressuring you yeah just like you feel
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like you have to but like because i don't know i don't know the situation not saying this is the
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situation by the way but like a girl maybe feeling in a way like she doesn't want to do it but she's
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kind of you're kind of going at her like oh you know let's do it like or like hinting and she's kind
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of feeling you know what let's just get over and done with whatever and then then maybe she might
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think oh now that i've done it we can we can carry on but sometimes that's not the case yeah of
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course of course like if a girl feels pressurized then and she's young she'll do it you know what i'm
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saying yeah i don't personally think i was pressurizing her you know what i'm saying yeah yeah
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obviously i don't know the situation there's a lot there's a lot of guys that will go like yeah
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let's have sex now we're gonna do about it you know what i'm saying i mean i mean that's that
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that's that grapey you know what i'm saying i don't i don't i don't with that but if i'm going to the
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girl when we're doing it then come on now when we're doing it you know what i'm saying and if
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she goes like no i don't want to do it then that's fine on her easier if she was like come to my house
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on this day on this time with your bike then obviously i'm gonna go do it there's no pressurization
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bro if that's a word you know i'm saying i mean if you both agree to it can you be pressured by a guy
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like because i'm thinking you'd have to be somewhat into it to get to that point
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sometimes you don't expect it though yeah sometimes us girls are delusional so you
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you don't see it it's weird he takes off your clothes you don't see it maybe you could think
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about like you could be talking and that guy actually wants to you but you're you kind of
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have every girl has that kind of thought in their head that oh like you know he probably wants to
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fuck me but i want to get to know him and yeah like a lot of time yeah majority of men like just
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just want to fuck mate they'll fuck anything i mean let's be real here but um where was it
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where was it cool cool where it comes down to you guys are like pretty patient as long as you
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oh i don't know some of them some of them no i don't think they're patient
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if a man wants you he will wait but the thing is the thing yeah for the guy she wants you yeah
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and you're in a mode for it like you actually want to do it but you're holding yourself back in your
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your head in the back of your mind you're like oh should i do this yes or no you're so like into
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the moment like you just don't care do you know what i'm saying you don't want to give it to him
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like you don't care i mean if you're both if you're both feeling it then go around like
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if you're feeling it but a guy's like i can't lie guys like in his head he's like
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uh he's sure this girl like into himself are you sure this girl wants it this and that
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you know i'm saying like he he thinks about it as well it's not like i just want to
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fuck this girl fuck it i don't care some guys i like that that's predatory i can't lie that's
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predatory yeah yeah yeah yeah of course i don't know i don't respect that i don't respect some
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boys don't don't think about how the girl feels in the situation especially if they've got it on
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their head and it's like it's almost like a mission the thing is when the guy when the girl's in the
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moment she wants to do it so much like she's oh i can't i can't lie i want to do it so much oh yeah
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i'm in that moment you know i'm saying that guy's not going to hold back easy as
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but but if the if the girl says no to him he's in the back down he's you know okay no problem
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baby not necessarily he'll show her but the guys that are like that they're not predators in it
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them easy but the guys that actually listen to them they call the girl goes like no i don't want
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it right now well no problem baby stroke her hair make her feel comfortable yeah but someone like
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some girls can't say no guys some girls can't say no
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they choose not to say no it's like even even the girls go back and forth like you've never okay
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you've never said no to sex and changed your mind later no never no what was this the person at the
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same time yeah to be fair i have yeah i've said no and then later i'm like yeah yeah it's it's confusing
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to men i think it's confusing to women like like they don't know what they're into you know because in
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the time you're not in the moment exactly and then give it another couple of hours you're like
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oh yeah yeah that can be very confusing to men because i've been in situations where they've been
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like wait let me finish bro bro let me land let me land i'm trying to say that there's been times
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with my experience where girls been like no no no no but then as time's gone on she's changed her mind
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so it's made me think actually next time i'm with a girl and she goes no no no no maybe i should stay a
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little longer she might change her mind um that happens bad times do you get what i'm saying so
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yeah but then it's like are you a predator then uh you know what i mean it's like by this by this
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logic right like you could be if you have that knowledge you could be and be like you know if i
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wait around maybe she might change her mind but at the same time it's like you're trying to get what
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you want the same way she's trying to get what she wants if it's like a pushy salesman you don't blame
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the salesman if you buy it still you swipe your credit card yeah because it's still your choice
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and at the end of the day you could walk away like i think it's kind of disingenuous when we go back
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and say oh you said pushy's but it's like you accepted it you could have told them to get out
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but i think i think it's subtle signs of a girl like when she's in the moment she actually loves you
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she wants to have it with you but she's that kind of like like scared about it you know i'm saying it's
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your right to make her feel comfortable you know what i'm saying you have to go like cool relax baby just
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for less easier but if a girl actually doesn't want it then you can tell she doesn't want it by
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the subtle signs like nah stop touching me this and that this and that and you're gonna have no
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problem you're not gonna wait around to fuck her bro you understand what are you talking about i'm
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just saying you're not gonna wait around to fuck her bro like let's say no but you didn't say that he
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was gonna wait around i'm just saying i'm saying to everyone someone do wait around wait around just to
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fuck one woman yeah listen i'm saying i'm saying this like if you're gonna if she says no and you wait around
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just to fuck her like afterwards then you're a little big you're a bitch easy as like if she
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says no then leave it do other things with her you don't have to have sex with her jonathan
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exactly but if you wait there like oh i'm gonna get this girl i'm gonna get a pussy i'm gonna wait
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a bit so she's happy allow yourself bro you're a man bro yeah bare men do that though
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bare men do that and they need to get put in jail bro i just i think saying that's like jail i think
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that's a bit extreme just because a girl changes her mind yeah but it's not about that let's say
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let's say it let's say it's his actions that's what it is let's say a girl says i don't want to
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have sex with you and love you and the guy's waiting there hopefully she changed her mind
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hopefully she's still there but what if that guy's had like five other girls that he tried to have sex
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with she said and then and then you know maybe he wasn't expecting it but she changed her mind later
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because i've even i've even had guys tell me that like if they tell a girl okay fine that's fine no no
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problem then she comes back even like harder weirdly enough when he like takes away the attention
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so it's it's like i think saying that he's a creep is kind of it's a bit far it's not saying
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that but if a guy is specifically there yeah just to her when she says i don't want it and
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he waits there just to her then that's not right that's predatorial yeah i just wouldn't say
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predatorial like that acts like you're a child you can still tell him no and just say go home
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like at any point it just proves that you don't have any self-control listen if you can't do it
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a lot of people can't do that they choose not to does your voice not work i've actually invited
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girls to my house and been a bit like hesitant to be like actually i don't want you here
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i want you to leave but i've been a bit hesitant to say leave i feel like girls have been in the same
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position and book and i've not actually said you should learn how to say leave then but like i think
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it's like i think you shouldn't put it on the other person i feel a lot of people like i'm just big
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i'm just big in like accountability like if you if you choose to sleep with someone you can't go
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back and call them a creep later in my opinion if you if you choose to do it if if you didn't choose
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to do it then that's one thing but i'm just not i just think there's a lot of like me too
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that's kind of gone around where we call men creeps when i don't think they're creepy yeah yeah
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but the thing is like if it goes statistics listen bro i'm sweet statistics listen bro i'm speaking bro i'm
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on my podcast i have to listen but i'm speaking first bro listen cool let's say yeah a girl's there
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and she tells you specifically no yeah instead of like instead of like choking her hair or whatever
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you get angry at her yeah oh and then i heard that when's this girl gonna give you sex you know
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i'm saying that's the amateur that's what little nerds do you know what i'm saying and then like
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she doesn't want it and then she ends up not wanting it because he's angry she he wants to see
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you shouldn't get angry exactly you know what i'm saying but if even if he's in his head like
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oh i want to this girl so much some people just in the head honestly it's gonna come
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across like that you know what i'm saying but if he's that cool no worry baby he's cool it's fun
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like you can go home if you want should i drop you home in the car no problem if you don't have
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a car then you shouldn't be going for girls anyway bro don't be walking around on the streets of
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women easy as if you're in a car and you're like cool don't walk on the streets with women i'm confused
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wait why you get watched listen listen listen listen when there's when there's countless guys
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with cars with nice houses oh and they pull up wait it's not even that nah it's still weird though
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when guys are doing that and they're stuck it's weird when they pull up with a car listen
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and they like pull up beside you and they think that you you're just gonna get in the car like
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anyway anyway anyway it's really when i got when a lot of guys have cars you know what i'm saying
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you're walking the street with a woman do you not feel embarrassed to work harder bro do you
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don't feel embarrassed to get a car so you can get a girl in a car and go on like jobs with her
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do you don't get embarrassed sorry yeah oh okay we were talking about a totally different
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because i thought you were talking about the whole thing when you're walking down the street say us
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girls walking down the street and then a guy comes up to you in the car or like walking behind you quite
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quick yeah and they're like you're right babes yeah i don't respect that especially when she's
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over with a guy i don't respect guys moving to girls when she's with her man i don't respect that i don't
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even look at guys i don't even look at guys when they're with their girl like i don't look at girls
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when they're with their guy because i don't go like oh she's so sexy when she has a man that's disrespectful
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i wouldn't want to say anything happening to me easier it's just you know respect at the end of the day
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exactly exactly exactly when they go like oh um your boyfriend doesn't have to know
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i think i think it's about comfortability because if a girl comes back to your place
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i think it's a kind of a mutual understanding of what's expected or what's possibly going to happen
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i think if a girl comes back to your place and you're vibing you're doing whatever you're doing
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and she says no i think it's a it's a point of like comfortability she doesn't feel comfortable with
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you if you you she walks in she takes her shoes off let her know right there get comfortable
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well i just don't understand like what were you doing there in the first place like because
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if a girl if you feel pressured or whatever it's like why why'd you go back exactly because
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after a certain hour yeah i just assume that's that's assumption that's assumption that's not
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assumption all right any one of you it is if i invited you back to my place in your mind i do
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think that straight away what's the expectation what do you think what are we doing yeah what are we
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doing but you know are we just chilling you know if you go back to a man's place after you've been
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drinking out night on the club with your girls and i'm out with my boys or whatever yeah and you come
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back we know what it is oh i'm delusional enough to actually think that you want to be my friend
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what it is if you're coming back then you know what the expectation why am i inviting you back
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to my place i think i'm not gonna lie bro i think that's your own expectation i feel like
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whatever girl that i go back with i know whether we're gonna just chat and talk or whether we're
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we're gonna have at 2am you want to chat we're we're gonna do this i know what the situation i
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think you automatically assuming oh if you're back at my place at this time we have to fight
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i think that's just your expectation listen bro listen 2am in the morning if a girl comes back to
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your place she's not there to talk okay okay okay wait what what world do you live in i live in the 21st
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century in london do you know what i mean so you you bring girls back to your place wait wait wait i've
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been i've been back wait wait wait wait i'm gonna ask you a question so you bring you you bring girls
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black to your place at 2am and i wait yeah yeah yeah i'm waiting i'm waiting and what they just curve you
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sometimes they have sex with me sometimes we eat sometimes we do this sometimes we do that i think
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it depends it depends on the girl depends on do you see what i'm saying i think if you're gonna be
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like my man and assume that every girl you come back with you're gonna you're gonna you're gonna
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fuck you're a waste man i'm just being real i agree this guy here i don't know what you're saying how
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old are you my bro you're 20 yeah i'm 28 so i've got eight more years of understanding of what it is
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and you're still a feminist it's about it's not about being a feminist brother it's not about being a
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label when a girl comes to me it's a young thing listen labeling people in a bracket is a young
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thing bro listen so you're telling me when a girl comes to your house at 2am 2am you're gonna eat
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fucking peace with her and watch netflix bro bro bro bro sometimes it's like that brother why
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do you know what should i tell you something should i tell you something you might have a girl come back
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to your yard at 2am yeah and you know what you might try to fuck her and she don't want to
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fuck you then you know what you'll never see her again when some people might just wait chill get to know
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the girl and in the future they still will fuck her do you get what i'm saying what do you mean
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if you don't want to fuck her again maybe cool i'll say cool no problem darling that's no problem
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but but you know i'm not going to force myself onto her so then why are you asking me a question
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if a girl comes to your yard at 2am you're gonna do what what do you expect to do bro exactly
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you have an expectation what do you expect it why you have an expectation in your head
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it's 2am because it's 2am exactly this is exactly what i'm saying because we live in reality
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come on what should we come on bro that's basic wait wait this is so wait wait that's basic wait
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this is your last warning it's your last warning it's so it's so it's so did all right go go bye
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thank you all right all right say no more of them finally bro finally bro we're talking peace bro