JustPearlyThings - July 13, 2023


You Won't Believe What This O.F Model Mom Said


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12 minutes

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2,561

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15

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In this episode, I speak with my good friends, and about the perils of working a 9-5 job to support their families. We talk about the dangers of it and the benefits of it.

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00:00:00.000 like what effects that would have on when you guys have kids i have got kids okay i've got three
00:00:05.520 how old are they 17 14 and five okay and they're they're cool with it yeah they what those they
00:00:12.160 wasn't at first um i've been doing it for two years um but now my job gives them opportunities
00:00:17.840 that i wouldn't be able to give them before um i i was literally using food banks with my children
00:00:24.320 when i had my other job and that that was a respected job um i was still spending time away
00:00:30.000 from home like working and still coming home and have not having enough money to like support them
00:00:35.920 now i'm home all of the time they get all of my attention and i'm still able to provide and pay
00:00:42.880 for things that i wouldn't be able to do like just like an example is like swimming lessons for my
00:00:47.840 daughter i would never ever have been able to afford swimming lessons something so basic and
00:00:52.480 simple that's going to help her in the long run i wouldn't have been able to do that before
00:00:56.880 without what do you what do you tell them when they say mommy what do you do for work they know
00:01:00.080 what i do for work well obviously youngest doesn't know what i do for work but the two older one do
00:01:03.920 know what i do for work did to any of uh their mates at school subscribe obviously not under yeah under
00:01:10.960 18. that's not going to stop anyone from going on the internet well yeah it does because there's a
00:01:15.680 paywall for a reason like it's to stop like under 18s getting access to it yeah that'll work
00:01:21.920 that'll work yeah that doesn't actually stop
00:01:26.640 yeah that'll work yeah you can't be naive come on what did your son say when you first did it
00:01:33.200 um not a lot really um he just accepts that that's where the money comes from and he's he's got a
00:01:39.280 lifestyle that he's happy with do you think that's going to set him back a little bit because he just
00:01:43.120 thinks uh that's a good way to make money um so my daughter's 17 so my oldest is 17 she's she's a girl
00:01:50.640 um like she she would never ever do only funds she's not that kind of person she's really shy and
00:01:56.640 reserved um but she's like she's she's happier now that i do only funds would you be okay with her
00:02:06.400 doing it um i literally would support her in anything she wanted to do or like encourage it
00:02:11.840 i wouldn't encourage it i wouldn't encourage anybody to do only why not just because it's it's it's hard
00:02:18.080 work you do have the negative stuff i'm not naive i don't think that only funds is like the be all
00:02:23.440 and end all and is is amazing so if you if you said this is a good route to go down or a bad route would
00:02:28.960 you say it's bad it depends on which way you look at it so it is a bad road to go down it depends it
00:02:34.880 depends like if you're if you're going to get like 130 a month then i don't see the point in doing a good
00:02:41.760 route if you make enough money i i would say so yeah because i don't think like money should have
00:02:46.960 any bearing on values unfortunately it's either no i i disagree i i don't think it does money
00:02:52.560 literally makes the world go round no i i think there's either things you would do for money or
00:02:56.480 things you wouldn't like like okay i'll give you a different example like murder could you murder
00:03:00.480 someone if they pay you enough money yes because the difference is i'm not hurting anybody murder
00:03:12.880 is obviously hurting someone your reputation will in fact it will hurt your family someday
00:03:19.360 it won't there's always there's always what if what if your daughter's to get bullied because her 1.00
00:03:23.360 mom chose that route then we need to sort the bullies out move out our country and live in a 1.00
00:03:27.280 mansion somewhere else like if you think it's okay for bullies to bully people because of
00:03:32.160 we don't i don't think it's okay i just know that's an outcome it's a possibility that will happen and
00:03:36.880 then okay you gotta get a mansion but that's to pearl's point not everything is about money not
00:03:41.280 everything is so material you you got to have something fulfilling in your life and to teach your
00:03:45.360 kids hey it's okay you can if all goes to just jump on only fans and sell your body you know i don't
00:03:51.760 think that's a really good way to i'm not i'm not a parent so i wouldn't they can't really go out and
00:03:55.680 say it but i think that's a healthy way to bring up your child i feel like i'm in a position where
00:04:00.560 i'm able to support my daughter to not do only fans she i've i've got enough money to be able to set
00:04:06.640 her up her own business so she can be a business woman and not work for anybody else and slave away 1.00
00:04:11.200 and get minimum wage for nothing where is and you don't have to answer this if you don't want but
00:04:15.280 where where's the dad um the dad's an arsehole um can we get a pulp pill where are the fathers
00:04:23.600 for all the only fans girls so when i was with him i wasn't even allowed i wasn't even allowed
00:04:29.040 facebook i wasn't allowed any social media whatsoever he was really controlling it was an
00:04:33.200 abusive relationship no social media no social media that's reasonable okay i wasn't i wasn't
00:04:39.440 even allowed to wear my hair down that's how controlling he was i wasn't allowed to shower
00:04:44.480 without his permission my mom didn't give me a phone until i was like in year nine i might i had
00:04:49.600 it really hard you know geez i hate my mom for that i just want to point something out i think i think
00:04:54.800 it's a dangerous society we live in when parents allow kids to set the standard for their morality
00:05:02.160 i think it's a parent's duty to set the standard for what morality is going to be in their household
00:05:06.720 and should not depend on what their children feel about it exactly you see you see the thing is i
00:05:11.840 don't i obviously i don't disagree with only fans so if she wanted to go and do only fans i would 100
00:05:18.800 support her um i would not i just it seems like you but you wouldn't encourage it though no i wouldn't
00:05:24.240 encourage you i would encourage you to take other routes um i wouldn't also encourage her to go and get
00:05:28.320 a job at mcdonald's because i don't want her to do that either um so it's it it works both ways 1.00
00:05:35.200 jeez how would kids feel if you had no money in the household exactly partner was a bum you were 0.87
00:05:41.200 a bum that's exactly how it is but you had nice tits to get out so i mean you haven't been into like 1.00
00:05:48.320 like i don't know i used to travel a lot when i was younger and it was shocking to me how like in
00:05:53.360 third world countries like they would be so happy like they're some of the happiest i'm sorry but i
00:05:57.680 was not happy when i was poor and neither were my children well i know but it's funny it's in the
00:06:02.160 west though it's like in the west countries have no crime and violence everywhere what what do you
00:06:08.080 mean toward world countries well i mean i'm talking about so i went to the country i'm talking about was
00:06:12.800 india and when i went to india that's the most poverty i've ever seen in my life like that's the lowest
00:06:17.120 like standard of living and i um i mean it's both right there's a range but in some of the parts we
00:06:22.080 are in and to me it was just like shocking how like they were really really happy even though
00:06:26.720 they had nothing the thing is extreme high grape over there in india i'm not i'm not saying i'm not
00:06:34.000 saying it's like all sunshine and rainbows i'm just saying i don't i don't think money is the only thing
00:06:38.720 that dictates happiness not in that country it doesn't but in this country it does and in most
00:06:43.680 countries it does money is like the factor that runs the world like that's it is sad but it's true
00:06:49.840 money makes me happy that's literally how it is like you get more opportunities the more money
00:06:54.960 you've got and you get a better quality of life the more money you've got in this country that's
00:06:59.280 that's just how it is i i mean i guess i really think quality of life depends on your family more
00:07:06.560 than anything if you didn't have family i don't have parents well i mean i'm saying i'm seeing a real big
00:07:12.560 pattern i think i think the goal should be to have you know to like bring kids up into parent household
00:07:17.360 no no my parents died so like it's different for me but i'm not talking about you i'm just talking
00:07:22.160 about in general i i no offense i just don't think that's like the norm you know um i i agree with you
00:07:29.680 with that i think obviously the the two-parent household it is important i think having a good
00:07:37.280 upbringing however what so your your house obviously i've seen your content i know the way it works
00:07:44.000 um your stance is that obviously the are you thinking that both parents should work or just
00:07:50.960 the the father should work because you grew up with your dad well your mom was working with your dad
00:07:56.480 but then your dad did most of the stuff yeah you know they i mean they worked together my mom was
00:08:01.360 going to be a teacher she put that to like they did a business together so yeah that was really nice
00:08:07.040 yeah but yeah what's what's my stance i mean i i think the more time parents can spend with their
00:08:13.440 kids the better exactly that that's so then like with people like kimmy who's got kids she can spend 1.00
00:08:19.120 all the time in the world with her kids and obviously still do what she does yeah but i would just think
00:08:24.720 like the better outcome is to get married and stay married yeah right that doesn't always work though
00:08:29.680 and i i would personally in my my situation their father has a more of a negative effect on them than
00:08:36.960 as both being together and 100 percent and the kids would say that too are the kids better
00:08:42.480 other kids better off with you guys together definitely not the kids the kids witness some
00:08:47.600 horrible horrible things that nobody should witness and they they are loads a million times
00:08:52.960 better off now that i'm a single parent that's one thing i would ask you though what do you think
00:08:57.760 about like couples therapy like do you think that's a good thing like if there is like issues going on
00:09:03.520 with like to keep the parents together if it was a last resort would you would you would you think
00:09:08.800 that couples therapy is a good thing to make the the parents stay together for the kids well i think if
00:09:13.200 you get a good therapist potentially but i think 90 plus of therapists are insane and crazy i'm not
00:09:20.720 saying there's no validity in the profession there is but i i've i was inside school for psychology
00:09:28.000 yeah um wait if you think that they're not well i'll tell you i was in it because i just wanted a visa
00:09:35.200 i just was like this seems like an easy degree so i'm gonna pick this one most people do it because
00:09:39.360 it's easy yeah yeah no but that's not good these are the therapists of the future and i noticed all the
00:09:44.480 girls in the program did you do it in the us or the uk the the uk but i noticed you were gonna go 0.73
00:09:49.360 in and pay nine grand a year well i had a i had a sports scholarship here so it was it was you look
00:09:54.640 like you played netball volleyball but but in the us in the us i noticed like a similar thing i was
00:10:01.280 like these are the therapists of america this is terrible well most therapists with school teachers
00:10:05.920 as well most therapists just found out i found out the craziest thing this is very random oh my god this
00:10:13.760 blew my mind so i had this whole women aren't needed in society video i don't know if you saw 0.52
00:10:18.880 it but because i realized every industry women run it just tends to go poorly i found out in the 80s 0.99
00:10:24.640 yeah no seriously i started thinking about it and i was thinking one was education i was like god damn
00:10:28.720 we run every industry we go into into the ground now now because everyone was like oh you need the
00:10:33.840 teachers right like you can't you need women in society in the workforce like you need the teachers and 1.00
00:10:38.560 i was like maybe maybe we do and so i look into the numbers turns out when women got into um the 1.00
00:10:45.440 they took over education in the 80s what they did was they made the um it used to just be based on
00:10:52.000 test scores so you would have a test every month or three months like and it would be a standard and
00:10:56.480 then you had to like just test and that was it then they added in projects papers all this other
00:11:01.120 shit that made it that made it more subjective because when women go into an industry we make it more 1.00
00:11:05.600 egalitarian where men naturally organize themselves in a hierarchy it's like female police so so now 0.99
00:11:11.280 right now we have um the high school graduate has an uh i think it's an eighth grade love test levels
00:11:17.840 so since and usually there's a teacher and a teacher's aide so two teachers couldn't teach as well as one
00:11:23.520 man because like based on test scores and now we have participation trophies as well yeah because when women 1.00
00:11:33.680 go into an industry we tend to want to make it more equal and egalitarian i mean even when like earlier
00:11:38.480 i was like we have to make like rank everything everyone's like no we don't want to do it and the
00:11:41.920 men were like no rank them this is how i would rank them because men tend to do like more of a hierarchy
00:11:47.600 where women want it to be more equal yeah same in the workplace same for female police they've got to 1.00
00:11:52.240 get lower test scores to get into i said we should ban female really yeah i agree with you in in the uk 1.00
00:11:57.920 police only get paid 23 grand a year so i don't think anybody would really want to do that