Order of Man - October 06, 2017


FFN 076： Motivation is B.S.


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In this episode, Ryan talks about why he believes that motivation is BS and gives 5 strategies to replace it with your own source of inspiration. He also discusses why you should stop attending motivational conferences and start using your own sources of inspiration instead.

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00:00:00.000 You're a man of action. You live life to the fullest. Embrace your fears and boldly chart
00:00:05.000 your own path. When life knocks you down, you get back up one more time. Every time.
00:00:10.440 You are not easily deterred or defeated. Rugged. Resilient. Strong. This is your life. This is who
00:00:17.240 you are. This is who you will become. At the end of the day, and after all is said and done,
00:00:22.800 you can call yourself a man. Gentlemen, what is going on today? My name is Ryan
00:00:27.560 Mickler, and I am the host and the founder of this podcast, The Order of Man. I am honored
00:00:31.900 that you are here with us today. This, if you don't already know, is a podcast about being
00:00:36.440 a better man, a better father, a better husband, a better business owner, and a better community
00:00:41.940 leader. So if that sounds like something you are interested in, you are in the right place.
00:00:46.220 Guys, we also have an interview show, which is released each Tuesday, but this today, every
00:00:50.820 Friday is your Friday Field Notes. These are some thoughts, some ideas, insights, those
00:00:55.480 type of things that I've had from throughout the week that I feel are worthy of sharing
00:00:59.440 with you. I've also got a couple of great interview shows coming out in the next couple
00:01:04.020 of weeks. I've been talking about this, but we've got three New York Times bestselling
00:01:07.440 authors. I'm not going to give away who they are, but I promise you, you will not want to
00:01:11.260 miss these conversations. So make sure if you have not already done so that you get subscribed
00:01:15.500 wherever you listen to your podcast so you don't miss any of those interviews. Now, also,
00:01:20.520 the topic that I'm going to be sharing with you today, which is motivation is BS, is also
00:01:25.620 the topic of the month inside of the Iron Council. And if you're not already familiar
00:01:29.860 with the Iron Council, this is our exclusive brotherhood. And basically it's designed for 0.78
00:01:34.920 the select few of you who want to do more with your life as a man, whether you're looking
00:01:39.400 for guidance or direction, accountability systems, the ability to connect with like-minded
00:01:44.880 men, which I know is huge for the guys inside the council or anything else that you may
00:01:48.900 be looking for on your quest to become a better man. We have got you covered inside of the
00:01:53.220 Iron Council. This month specifically, we're going to help you identify where you are strong
00:01:58.020 when it comes to discipline, where you're weak and help you develop processes and systems
00:02:03.600 for ramping up your discipline. You're going to get access to our Facebook page, our Slack
00:02:08.380 team, our membership site, my daily insights and the brotherhood that will help you take your
00:02:13.540 life to the next level. So if you're interested, you can join us at orderofman.com
00:02:17.680 slash Iron Council. Again, that's orderofman.com slash Iron Council. Now with that said, guys,
00:02:23.540 let's talk about why I think motivation is BS. And more importantly, I'm going to go through
00:02:28.300 five strategies today, five strategies to replace the need to feel motivated all the time in order
00:02:34.340 for you to take action and get the job done. It seems that everywhere you turn, you're going
00:02:38.720 to find another motivational guru attempting to inspire the masses to take action. If you're
00:02:44.820 like me, you've attended conferences and purchased courses and poured over endless quotes and memes
00:02:51.360 in a feeble attempt to get motivated enough to do what you and I already know we should
00:02:56.600 be doing. And I don't want you to get me wrong here. There's nothing particularly wrong with
00:03:00.960 motivation other than it just doesn't last. You know, we've all left that conference where
00:03:06.360 we feel inspired and then we get back into the grind and then we lose that excitement that
00:03:10.760 we had within, I don't know, a day, two days at tops. It seems like motivation is like a drug user
00:03:16.300 hooked on cocaine. We're constantly on the lookout for the next conference that promises to inspire
00:03:23.180 and amaze and motivate us. So we go, we spend the time and the energy and the money and the resources,
00:03:29.860 and we even get motivated. It works. It works for another 24 or 48 hours until our next fix
00:03:35.660 is required. And that's the problem. We become so dependent when we seek motivation from outside
00:03:42.520 sources. And those that host these conferences know that, and they bank on the fact that you'll
00:03:47.380 have to come back again next year to get that feeling. And I'm not suggesting that you don't attend
00:03:52.600 these types of motivational conferences. I'm just encouraging you to dig deeper,
00:03:57.060 dig deeper than the surface level BS that's out there. And it seems to be so prevalent
00:04:00.860 in today's society. So rather than beat on my chest today and shout a catchy little tagline
00:04:06.720 that motivation is BS, which I said, I want to share with you five strategies that you can start
00:04:11.500 using today, today to become your own source of inspiration and more importantly, your own source
00:04:18.420 of the desire to take action in your life. So number one, plant your flag. We live in a world where
00:04:24.520 everything is promised immediately through Amazon. I can make a book recommendation to you and you can
00:04:30.380 have and be reading that book in the next couple of minutes. We're promised immediate results from
00:04:34.860 the latest fat loss hack and even podcasts like mine, like this one, the order of man allow us to
00:04:41.380 listen to any subject on demand free from the need to wait for or on anybody. In most cases, I think
00:04:51.000 this access to information and products and services is a, is a great thing. It's a beautiful thing.
00:04:56.020 The unintended consequence, however, is that our attention span and patience is greatly diminished
00:05:03.780 to say the least. And that's really too bad considering that your success and my success in
00:05:08.640 any area of life requires an insane amount of consistency over long, stretched out periods of
00:05:14.040 time. So if you're looking for immediate results in your life, motivation might actually work. Motivation
00:05:20.560 might actually cut it. But if you're interested in maintaining a healthy, wealthy, successful life,
00:05:27.660 a lifelong pursuit of those things, then you're going to have to wrap your head around taking action for
00:05:31.840 a lifetime that requires you planning your flag. Now, the second component of this is being a man of your
00:05:37.360 word. Planting that flag requires you to do what you say you're going to do. If for example, you've committed
00:05:46.320 to working out five days a week. Every day that you miss makes you a liar to put it bluntly. Sure.
00:05:53.520 We can sugarcoat that and make excuses for why we missed our workouts. But at the end of the day,
00:05:57.920 you did not do what you said you would. And that by definition makes you less than a man of your word.
00:06:04.420 It's a good thing then that the idea of doing what you say you will is a skillset. It's a skillset,
00:06:10.040 which means that it can actually be learned. All it takes is a little effort and some consistency.
00:06:15.180 Even the smallest of tasks and the smallest of promises count. If you tell your wife you're 0.95
00:06:20.340 going to take out the trash, take out the trash. If you tell your son you're going to play catch with
00:06:25.260 him after school, play catch with him after school. If you tell a neighbor you'll be there to help him
00:06:30.160 move, be there on time to help him move. Every time that we fall short of our word, I think a little
00:06:37.240 piece of our soul dies. So it's no wonder why so many men, you look around and you look at your
00:06:42.600 neighbors and your friends and your colleagues and your coworkers and your family. And these guys
00:06:46.240 seem to be miserable. It's because they can't keep their promises to themselves, let alone keeping
00:06:51.560 promises to others. When you wake up early in the morning to go work out, don't question whether or
00:06:56.920 not you should or sit around or hit the snooze question whether or not you're going to be a man of
00:07:02.800 your word today. Because the promises that you make to yourself are the most important promises that
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00:08:42.820 Now, with that said, let me get back to the last three steps that I wanted to share with you
00:08:47.480 regarding motivation and discipline.
00:08:49.720 So step number three, guys, is creating systems and processes. Part of being a man of your word,
00:08:58.520 which is step number two I just shared with you, is about creating systems and processes
00:09:02.620 to ensure that you are, to ensure that you are a man of your word. I'm going to use that workout
00:09:07.620 example again. If you tell yourself you're going to work out in the morning, set your clothes out
00:09:12.900 the night before. Get your pre-workout drink ready. Know what workout's going to be. These are the
00:09:17.000 simple systems that's going to keep you on track when, frankly, you don't want to be on track.
00:09:22.180 It's calendars, daily rituals, evening routines, task lists, electronic reminders, field note
00:09:28.540 journals. I use those all the time. Coaching, masterminds. These are all great examples of
00:09:32.520 systems and processes that you can implement to actually get your work done. Step number four is
00:09:37.220 to review your progress. Out of all the systems that I could talk with you about and I just mentioned,
00:09:42.260 I want to focus on the idea of reviewing your progress. Most guys don't. We tend to identify
00:09:48.240 the task and then we do it or we don't do it and then we move right on to the next task because
00:09:53.380 things need to be done. This process of reviewing your actions and your conversations, projects,
00:09:59.300 interactions, and your day is critical. It's a critical component of diving deeper than simply being
00:10:06.020 surface level motivated. I learned the after action review in the military, which is
00:10:11.580 a series of five questions. It's five questions that you can ask yourself to review your work and
00:10:16.300 get you pointed in the right direction every day. So for the sake of time, I'm not going to share
00:10:20.500 those five questions with you. I've done it before, but if you are interested, you can go back, listen
00:10:24.560 to some of the podcasts, or you can get a copy of the after action review at orderofman.com
00:10:29.860 slash after action review. We make it simple for you. Step number five, the last thing I wanted to
00:10:34.800 talk with you about today is that discipline trumps motivation. After all is said and done,
00:10:39.660 the mantra that discipline trumps motivation has been a huge, huge help for me. Motivation is
00:10:46.520 external. Discipline is internal. We rely on those outside sources when we seek after motivation,
00:10:52.880 but we depend on ourselves, the people that actually matter when we strive and work towards
00:10:57.280 discipline. And this is what makes discipline so powerful. We simply decide, we decide that we're
00:11:03.540 going to be disciplined rather than wait for the perfect set of variables to motivate and inspire
00:11:09.520 us. So when you're struggling to get out of bed or go work out or be consistent with the project at
00:11:14.840 work or in school, remember, remember and tell yourself that discipline trumps motivation, or as
00:11:21.180 Jocko would say, and I know a lot of you guys follow Jocko, discipline equals freedom. Internalize it,
00:11:27.400 get a bracelet that says it, tattoo it on your forehead if you have to, but whatever you do,
00:11:31.960 live your life by the words that discipline trumps motivation. This is not an overnight process guys,
00:11:37.540 especially if you've been relying on others to motivate you for most of your life. But remember
00:11:42.120 to plant your flag, be a man of your word, develop the systems and the processes to keep you on track,
00:11:48.140 review your progress. And then again, like I just mentioned, live your life by the mantra,
00:11:52.620 discipline trumps motivation. Again, gentlemen, a reminder of our exclusive brotherhood,
00:11:57.400 the iron council. This month we're focused on those five tools for developing discipline.
00:12:02.820 You're going to have access to our weekly calls, a battle team to keep you accountable,
00:12:06.960 assignments, challenges, video replays, and the brotherhood that we've created through years of
00:12:11.760 testing and refining. You can join us if you're interested at orderofman.com slash iron council.
00:12:17.480 Again, that's orderofman.com slash iron council. Until next week, gentlemen, take action,
00:12:22.140 be disciplined, and become the man you are meant to be. Thank you for listening to the Order of Man
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