00:00:00.000Are you not re-engaging in life because you're protecting yourself or are you just avoiding
00:00:06.660being back in the arena? Because those aren't the same thing. Protecting yourself is wisdom,
00:00:12.660I'll give you that, but avoiding it altogether, dressed up as wisdom, is actually cowardice.
00:00:20.960And maybe we're just, you know, like painting over it, glossing over it, making it sound better
00:00:25.640than it is. But if you're just avoiding, you're being a coward. You're not being wise. Wise is0.99
00:00:30.680learning the lesson and getting back in the arena and then doing something different.
00:00:34.880Men, I want you to look at a man's hands after 20 years of real work. They're not soft. They're
00:00:43.080not smooth, but cracked knuckles, thick elephant pad calluses, maybe a finger or two that doesn't
00:00:54.480quite sit straight or maybe he's not even there maybe it's he's missing a finger because you know
00:01:03.180he broke it or lost it on the table saw when he was 10 but he kept working anyway and those hands
00:01:12.120tell a story before that type of guy even says a word and then look at his back
00:01:18.280you know bent bent a little bit more maybe it's crooked maybe it's not quite as as straight as
00:01:25.220it ought to be maybe you might think he has scoliosis like we used to get tested for when
00:01:30.640i was i don't know eight years old you know our uh you know uh grandma grandma elma or whatever
00:01:41.440He used to like check our backs for scoliosis, but this is a guy who's been carrying weight, physical ones, financial weight, the weight of people who just depend on a guy like him to carry the load.
00:02:00.440And you can read a lot about a man's work and labor in his back the same way that you might read it in his hands.
00:02:09.540I was at the gym today and I saw this really metro, looks maxing, effeminate guy in the gym and he was doing bench press on the Smith machine instead of free bench presses with gloves on his hands.
00:02:27.640Look, not completely judgmental, at least he's there, but also do some free bench presses.
00:02:35.980Take the gloves off. It's okay if you have a few calluses on your hands.
00:02:42.040But there's also another place where the work of men shows up and almost no one looks there.
00:14:28.160Oh, well, you know, their house faucet or sink or toilet is leaking,
00:14:33.040and you're telling me you're going to come over and you're going to charge them
00:14:37.440when their family is struggling because their toilet is leaking
00:14:41.340and creating thousands of dollars worth of damage?
00:14:43.880Why wouldn't you just do that out of the goodness of your heart?1.00
00:14:46.300This is the stupidity of the arguments that we hear.1.00
00:14:50.160These are men who are in the arena, but they don't acknowledge themselves as in the arena.1.00
00:14:55.840And so while they're dealing with their own stuff, they'll pick up stones and they'll pick up dirt and they'll even take their own shoes off and they'll sling them at you and they'll throw them at you.
00:15:07.240And they'll say, you're doing it wrong as they chastise you for doing it wrong to others.
00:15:13.880it's ironic at best and disgusting at worst.
00:15:20.520Those are men who, I was going to say they never got in the arena.
00:15:24.420No, they got in the arena, but they don't even acknowledge
00:35:06.040So if you're interested in that, head to orderofman.com slash war room, orderofman.com slash war room, all one word, and you can get registered for August 19th at 8 p.m. Eastern.
00:35:20.600Guys, just remember, don't listen to the guys chirping in the cheap seats.