Pearl - “31 Year Old Woman Almost Got Her FIRST Boyfriend” @JustPearlyThings

00:00:00.000 A couple of months ago, I was on the brink of getting into my very first relationship

00:00:04.440 at the age of 31, and it didn't happen.

00:00:07.840 I wasn't going to say anything, and I wasn't going to talk about it, because to be honest,

00:00:11.860 like, I really have gotten over it for the most part, but over the past few days, I've

00:00:17.140 caught myself feeling a little bit sad and grieving this experience, and so I do want

00:00:22.800 to talk about it.

00:00:23.480 And the type of grief that I'm experiencing with this specific situation is much different

00:00:28.240 than the grief that i've experienced in the past with other people that i've been with mainly in

00:00:33.040 the fact that this specific relationship was the beginning of the relationship that i had been

00:00:39.600 waiting for for basically my entire adult life and the relationship didn't end because the other

00:00:45.120 person nor i didn't want it it was simply a matter of the circumstances did not allow for our

00:00:51.520 relationship to develop any further and this sort of what if is actually driving me crazy because

00:00:57.600 this is actually a what if that i will never be able to come to a clear answer with no matter how

00:01:03.900 hard i try to think about it and you're probably thinking okay well what are the circumstances that

00:01:08.720 made this relationship not work out while the circumstances are that it would have had to be

00:01:13.500 a long distance relationship yeah we gotta stop doing that now you're probably like relax people

00:01:18.540 do long distance relationships all the time which those are my thoughts too when this whole thing

00:01:24.040 was going down and at first i was of the mentality of like well okay you clearly don't like me enough

00:01:28.960 if you don't want to try to make this work long distance he doesn't and that's the thing because

00:01:32.600 you're not you're coming in at 31 not 21 at 21 he might be like all right move into my house but 0.98

00:01:38.240 you probably have too much shit by the time you're 31 so it's just cooked you wanted this badly 0.90

00:01:42.120 enough if i meant enough to you then you would at least be willing to make this that's just an 1.00

00:01:46.320 insufferable mindset this is how we naturally think ladies so you got to kind of clock it but

00:01:51.060 you hear her she's saying oh if he just really loved me and i mean that's an insufferable way

00:01:55.780 to think some people just feel how they feel which don't get me wrong there is a part of me

00:01:59.860 that's that's you know that's so much work we're in another state does feel that way but now that

00:02:04.820 i've been home again for a few weeks and now that i've gotten back into my normal work routine and

00:02:10.020 just like my daily habits i have to say that i don't really think that i want to do long distance

00:02:16.340 which is interesting because for a really long time i thought that that was something that i'd

00:02:20.660 be able to tolerate but given the current state of my life and just like other things going on

00:02:26.980 right now i really don't have the capacity to like add the extra chore of having to facetime

00:02:32.180 someone every day or like texting someone all day every day like that really is just you know that's

00:02:37.300 way less work than when they're in person like that's it's way more time in person or that i

00:02:42.020 don't want to put up with and there is a part of me that feels guilty for like not understanding

00:02:47.860 this other person's point of view when it came to that because that's essentially what he was trying

00:02:52.460 to say.

Pearl - September 25, 2026