Pearl - Andrew Wilson： Single Dads Outperform Single Moms

00:00:00.000 right is it a good idea in 2024 to get together with a single mom if another choice was viable 1.00

00:00:06.160 i have never seen andrew so called what up guys welcome to my reaction series today we are reacting

00:00:13.120 to andrew wilson telling the truth to single mothers raising children you disagree on the uh

00:00:21.600 uh on the view uh brian and most others have on single moms so i'm i guess what is the position

00:00:31.520 that you think i or others have on this well might not necessarily your point of view um sorry thank

00:00:37.520 you um it's just point of views i've heard before on this podcast or other podcasts about how

00:00:44.640 generally children of single mothers turn out to be the bad bunches of the world 1.00

00:00:50.320 it's true and and i i get that and i don't disagree with like the statistics of it and all

00:00:57.440 i just i guess where i i disagree is putting solely the blame on the fact that it's a single mother

00:01:05.280 and not necessarily a single parent in general yeah because the dads raise good kids where the mom

00:01:13.520 the mom not all but the mothers have a tendency to raise not so good kids so you know

00:01:20.000 because some of the turnout situations could still be the same if it was they're not they're not yeah

00:01:26.720 me and andrew think alike so when it's a single father at home the uh problems and the outcomes

00:01:33.680 are significantly better than when it's with a single mother at home that's why i think if you

00:01:39.120 want to be a single mom you should give up custody that i should write it'll never happen but in a 0.96

00:01:44.560 in a in an ideal world i used to be against divorce um until i realized that was stupid and the really 0.99

00:01:52.480 the reason that was stupid is because so many men are tortured by these terrible wives that just nag 1.00

00:01:58.000 henpeck and are just awful to them and you know we're not going to force that to work so i just say 0.99

00:02:05.760 let her torture herself right but not torture the children so give the kids to the dad let the dad 1.00

00:02:14.480 raise the kids and then you can go you know you can most men are good people they'll let you come see

00:02:20.240 them you can go date the hot guys and then you can go live your like own life you know so this way with

00:02:27.200 so much social stigma so the idea is not to say that uh women who are single many times women can 0.91

00:02:36.240 become single through no fault of their own perhaps they're in an abusive an actual abusive relationship

00:02:41.680 perhaps their husband dies perhaps you know there's any number of different situations which can cause

00:02:47.440 it but if you were looking to advise if you're just if let's say you had an entire pool of men to

00:02:53.520 advise then you were to look at the numbers and you go okay look the amount of that you're going

00:02:58.880 to put up with marrying a single mom versus not marrying a single mom is massive you're putting

00:03:04.800 up with a lot more a lot more trouble now you got exes involved you got all all of this involved right

00:03:12.240 baby it's probably better if you have viable options external to a single mom to take those now 1.00

00:03:20.000 there's situations many situations where marrying a single mother works out fine dating single moms 0.64

00:03:25.920 works out fine there was no problem with that but it's not often right those are those are much

00:03:33.840 smaller in the percentage of the pool versus the amount of people who end up in with catastrophic

00:03:39.440 situations because now they have to not only deal with you but they have to deal with children that

00:03:46.000 are not theirs and then the fathers of those children the extended families of those fathers

00:03:51.200 of those children who all want to be involved that's that's where the the viewpoint is is like

00:03:58.320 so if you were going to advise your son if you had all of that data and there was options in front

00:04:04.400 of them and so option one is really like this girl but you know she has children from another man

00:04:10.880 but i also really like this girl and she doesn't right it seems pretty clear that you would advise

00:04:16.720 them hey maybe you should think if that option's available to you about going with that because

00:04:21.920 there's less potential for damage to you yeah if you're picking between the two the only concession i

00:04:27.200 may make is that if um she has to really want it that single mother has to be begging and that girl 1.00

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00:05:54.960 that most of the time it's a no-go if you're looking for the best for your own kids right

00:06:00.640 does that make sense oh yeah definitely before before i have you answer that i actually didn't

00:06:05.680 hear you actually raise this from the context of dating now perhaps it's your position the only thing

00:06:12.400 i heard was just you've heard people say that when it comes to raising children the outcomes of the

00:06:18.160 children when raised in a single mother household as compared to single father household but this

00:06:24.000 is also just because andrew's now in the realm of dating right yeah is are you also have qualms

00:06:29.760 there when it comes to hey it's uh it's uh sub-optimal to date single moms as opposed to childless 1.00

00:06:37.360 women oh no definitely not like i definitely just uh so andrew i think her position is simply just 0.94

00:06:43.440 the whole uh single moms raising children the outcomes for the children as compared to the 0.99

00:06:48.640 single father's not really a dating yeah i think she has qualms i mean they're right they're much 1.00

00:06:52.800 worse across the board okay so they're much worse in criminality and here's why i i'll tell you why

00:06:57.840 this is the case it's because of the external component of stepdad so stepfathers are far more

00:07:05.360 likely to abuse the kids stepdads are far more likely to have a revolving door right or boyfriends much 0.99

00:07:12.400 more likely to have a revolving door single dads that doesn't work that way right so if a single 0.85

00:07:19.760 dad has another woman who enters in the kid's life they have a lot more power to do something about 1.00

00:07:24.880 any type of problem which may occur right not going to have the same dependency issues you're not going

00:07:30.400 to have the same revolving door and so the the chance of abuse goes significantly down so for instance

00:07:36.560 if i was single tomorrow and i was dating a woman and i saw some kind of abusive tenants right

00:07:42.000 very easy for me to be like get the out of here lunatic and what is she going to do about it nothing 1.00

00:07:47.520 but the other way might not be so easy right so this is why you generally have better outcomes

00:07:54.640 with single fathers is because uh they can actually do something wow this is the calmest way 0.95

00:08:03.280 i have ever seen him explain this he's explaining it so calm when it comes to this idea of abuse and

00:08:10.640 they are far more likely far more likely than the biological dad to abuse kids like overwhelming

00:08:16.240 not all of them do it in fact by most of them don't do it i'm just saying that statistically

00:08:21.760 they're more likely to so that's that's why the outcomes tend to be better with single fathers than 0.96

00:08:26.800 single mothers and isn't there data that per capita looking at children raised by single fathers

00:08:32.640 as compared to single mothers for example incidents of criminality yeah i brought that up but that's why 1.00

00:08:38.080 the the incidences of criminality come sure so me being single is better for my child like yeah

00:08:44.960 honest honestly i would say single moms shouldn't date over like the kids i don't want to say shouldn't 1.00

00:08:53.680 because i have no control over that but i don't know when the kids are young can you take a few years

00:08:59.840 off you know i mean go get sex somewhere else but seriously dating i don't know like you don't 0.50

00:09:09.520 really want a revolving door of guys around your kids i do have to move it on but if it's so if you

00:09:14.800 can make sure the chances the chances are and this is just raw facts this is raw facts okay the chances

00:09:22.960 of you introducing a new man into your child's life are likely going to be more detrimental than if 1.00

00:09:29.360 you're in a relationship with the child's biological father for the course now that doesn't mean that

00:09:35.680 that's going to be true i'm just talking about risk factors yeah the risk factors are higher that's all

00:09:41.200 so yeah so i'm saying like from my point of i've been single since i've been single so from your what

00:09:47.840 you're explaining that means that like my outcome would be slightly better because i'm not having

00:09:52.160 that higher yeah yeah the outcome may the outcome may be slightly but you you don't have a guy to

00:09:57.920 discipline them to is the other problem where is the dad better because you don't have other men coming 0.94

00:10:02.880 in however it's still going to be suboptimal as to if you had probably stayed with the father and so

00:10:09.280 that's why like you said your christian churches will often recommend look there's no abuse there's no

00:10:15.040 drugs there's no stuff like that you guys are just having i think give up custody to the dad let the

00:10:20.240 dad make all primary decisions um yeah that's what i would say a hard time reconciling some issues

00:10:27.840 you should probably still stay together to make sure that the kids have the best shot at life because

00:10:32.560 after they're out the door then he can do something different you know what i mean but that's that's

00:10:36.400 often why even even non i don't know why mothers don't want 50 50 custody if they do want to date it's

00:10:43.040 gonna be pretty impossible um having the kids around all the time i mean that's not great for

00:10:49.760 the kids uh religious counselors will often advise this okay uh you said also the viewpoint that women

00:10:58.160 are more attractive at 20 than 40. so what was your thing there i mean kind of you asked earlier about

00:11:05.760 if i thought i looked better now than i did at 20 and i understand the whole man of point of view i mean

00:11:11.360 guys i noticed attention dropping when i was like 22. i mean from when we were 18 you know i mean you

00:11:19.760 just feel it every year as a woman and it's unfortunate but can we

00:11:30.960 can we just can we just accept it you know that's why i would always you know do the younger women are 1.00

00:11:36.720 hotter than older women like on twitter and stuff because you know i'm just like guys

00:11:46.080 it's just very obvious we're better looking when we're younger like how they look how when we're

00:11:51.440 younger we look more fertile and we are more yeah fertile looking and you're thinner because you have

00:11:58.480 less time to get fat i mean some people lose the weight but most people don't as young women i just

00:12:05.680 personally i believe that women look slightly better even men we look better

00:12:10.240 in that middle of age somewhere between 30 and 40 when we have more matured features we slightly

00:12:15.440 don't look so babyish in our faces not as young and and i just think that we look slightly better

00:12:22.320 slightly i think it's i think as women age definitely their taste age when it comes to when 1.00

00:12:27.840 it comes to men 100 not confident that is the case the other way around that uh that women yeah men they

00:12:35.520 just love 22 year olds the only reason men go older is they can they have more they can kind of look into

00:12:44.480 her history a bit more to see if she's crazy because there's gonna be like if she's made bad decisions she 1.00

00:12:51.600 would have made them by now but for the most part they like they like younger women it just is

00:12:58.560 or they think the younger women are too expensive they can't afford them they're like no i'll take the 1.00

00:13:03.760 girls on sale 30 35 28 let's see the let's see you guys or i'm sorry that men aren't still attracted to

00:13:14.000 younger women because all the data that i've seen most definitely shows that they are 0.89

00:13:19.200 there's women it seems that their tastes slightly deviate though they still from a beauty standard 1.00

00:13:24.320 point still go okay 25 year old men are still better looking on average though the 45 year old

00:13:29.280 men age like fine wine like well i think the taste change because of the valuation of different things

00:13:36.720 they just value different things yeah men at 45 are still looking at women as vessels and carriers of

00:13:41.760 children that's what the attraction comes from so youth is associated with that of course that's why

00:13:48.160 you'd be attracted to younger women yeah so i mean it's not it's not even really that difficult

00:13:53.360 to understand it's not yeah i don't know do you have the study though actually we can bring it up

00:13:59.120 you can go to if you want i mean i think it's a societal understanding a really good place to source

00:14:05.440 a lot of this data especially on the abuse in the home you can go to my wife's substack rachel

00:14:10.800 wilson and uh and you can check i mean she's gone through and compiled huge amounts of data

00:14:17.680 just to kind of go through these one at a time because she argues with feminists so much probably 1.00

00:14:22.000 the best anti-feminist debater in the world and uh to meet her yeah her book occult feminism 1.00

00:14:27.920 it compiles some of this but her substack has most of the kind of cultural battle statistics that we're

00:14:33.680 kind of going over all the time but especially in the case like this and i think what happens is

00:14:39.840 people often they think that you're attacking them based on their situation when you're not

00:14:45.920 really attacking them based on their situation you're just explaining the distinction in risk

00:14:50.080 assessment you're like look if i'm going to advise somebody if i were to tell a man right is it a good

00:14:56.080 idea in 2024 to get together with a single mom if another choice was viable i have never seen andrew

00:15:03.600 so called i've never seen the women so called this is cool i like this one answer is definitely no

00:15:09.840 it is definitely no you shouldn't okay and and what happens is because they're in the situation where

00:15:16.480 they themselves are a single mom they see that as an attack but it's not an attack it's just showing

00:15:21.520 look um this is what is true it's not the case that it may be true in your situation or anybody's

00:15:28.800 situation um but yeah do you know what when you when you're a single mother you just can't tell me 0.67

00:15:36.320 anything ever that's my opinion all right guys let me know what you think in the comments uh please

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00:15:47.760 know would you personally date a single mother does it matter what age the kids are like if the kids are

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Pearl - August 15, 2025

Andrew Wilson： Single Dads Outperform Single Moms

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