Pearl - Divorce Court： Men Pay While Women Play

00:00:00.000 Again, it's all gender stuff. 0.80

00:00:01.200 I think it's kind of goaded when men get alimony. 0.66

00:00:03.180 It's like you get your alimony king. 0.94

00:00:05.260 What up, guys?

00:00:05.920 Welcome to my reaction series.

00:00:07.540 If you want to support me, go to the link in the description.

00:00:10.180 So today, we are going to be reacting to James Sexton talking about if divorce is harder

00:00:15.700 for men or for women.

00:00:17.580 I'm actually a fan of Sexton.

00:00:19.060 I think he's got some really good takes.

00:00:20.540 So let's see what he has to say.

00:00:22.920 Is divorce harder on women or men?

00:00:24.320 I think it's equally hard on both.

00:00:26.160 But I think that the world is more sympathetic to women when they get divorced. 1.00

00:00:30.540 I think when a woman gets cheated on, the man's a piece of shit. 1.00

00:00:34.060 And when a woman cheats on a man, she must have been forced into the arms of this other 1.00

00:00:38.300 man.

00:00:38.440 Yeah.

00:00:41.820 No, it's the most BS thing.

00:00:43.500 It's always like, well, what was he doing that she threw it back for 10 other dudes?

00:00:46.880 It's like, I don't know. 1.00

00:00:47.940 She's being a whore. 1.00

00:00:49.820 She was whoring. 1.00

00:00:50.840 Or she had to explore herself or she was being neglected in some fashion. 1.00

00:00:54.660 And so if a man cheats, he's a piece of garbage. 1.00

00:00:58.480 And if a man's wife cheats, he mustn't have been me. 1.00

00:01:01.300 Yeah.

00:01:01.500 And they never talk about the sexless marriages.

00:01:03.760 You know, I mean, if she's not, if she's not banging him, someone, don't be surprised 0.99

00:01:08.980 when some 20 something year old Latino with a big booty does it for you. 1.00

00:01:13.540 She's like, I want that green card, Poppy. 0.92

00:01:16.780 Being her needs.

00:01:17.720 And she had every right in the world.

00:01:18.940 So the world is very unsympathetic to men when they get divorced.

00:01:22.680 There was a maternal presumption, a legal presumption.

00:01:26.500 What was called the tender years doctrine, which was that if a child was under the age

00:01:30.620 of seven, they were automatically presumed that they would be in the custody of the mother.

00:01:33.660 So men get really beat up still in court.

00:01:36.580 I mean, the law theoretically is gender blind right now, but I don't actually see that because

00:01:40.880 the law is people.

00:01:41.980 The law is judges and judges are human and they have all the same biases.

00:01:45.860 And it's just not a moment right now where men are particularly.

00:01:48.820 And that's the thing, even if they change the laws, it's still up to the discretion of

00:01:53.720 the judge.

00:01:54.300 So if you get a judge that's just not sympathetic or very feminist or leftist, you're kind of 0.98

00:01:59.600 screwed as a guy.

00:02:00.540 And a lot of times the women going into law are kind of liberal anyway. 1.00

00:02:04.700 And now I think the majority of judges, I have to look it up, but I think the majority of

00:02:09.520 judges are actually female. 1.00

00:02:10.780 Really sympathetic characters, even young men.

00:02:13.100 I mean, if at a school dance, they sing Beyonce's Girls Who Runs the World, like if there was

00:02:19.120 a song called Men Who Runs the World, Men, and it was a positive thing, like you get

00:02:24.500 pilloried for that.

00:02:25.440 So I think that men have a very hard time right now in divorce.

00:02:29.240 They see their children less.

00:02:30.700 OK, correction, it's about a third, but it's increasing.

00:02:33.860 Back in 2023, I was put on a government watch list for speaking out about men's issues.

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00:02:42.320 And honestly, to some extent, it worked.

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00:02:55.620 The more honest I was, the harder I was punished.

00:02:58.180 And eventually I had to shut down my show, move back home, and completely start over.

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00:03:28.940 Now, let's talk bigger picture.

00:03:31.340 Why don't we have true free speech in America anymore?

00:03:34.400 Welcome to the female economy, where women make 80% of consumer buying decisions. 1.00

00:03:39.020 Have you ever wondered why women always seem to get their way? 1.00

00:03:42.700 Well, here's the truth.

00:03:44.660 Men tend to care about the free flow of ideas.

00:03:48.000 Men can separate an idea from the person who said it. 0.60

00:03:51.040 But women, on the other hand, have learned that they can control what gets said by controlling 1.00

00:03:55.740 what gets funded.

00:03:57.260 Platforms like YouTube have one goal.

00:03:59.060 They want to make money.

00:04:00.240 And if that means catering to the majority female audience, they will.

00:04:03.800 That's why being a conservative creator today feels impossible.

00:04:07.460 This isn't just about me.

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00:04:15.060 again.

00:04:16.060 They get hit harder financially.

00:04:18.120 They are the bad guy no matter what.

00:04:20.000 If they cheat, they're the bad guy.

00:04:21.480 If they get cheated on, they were the bad guy because they probably neglected her. 0.98

00:04:25.100 There's a presumption that the man is to blame a lot of the time.

00:04:28.980 Men find a less sympathetic world. 0.72

00:04:31.740 But in fairness, divorced men have it a little easier.

00:04:35.480 Divorced men meet a young woman and the woman's like, instant family, just add me. 0.65

00:04:40.660 That's great.

00:04:41.340 You know, if he's got kids, it's like, oh.

00:04:43.880 Yeah.

00:04:44.500 Men do have an easier time dating after divorce as long as the woman isn't ruining his life.

00:04:49.860 Oh, he's got kids.

00:04:50.760 Look at how nurturing he is and how lovely.

00:04:53.220 Women, they get divorced. 0.99

00:04:54.760 They've got kids.

00:04:55.720 Guys are like, whoop, it's got baggage.

00:04:57.660 I'm not coming near that.

00:04:58.640 Men and women have different problems post-divorce.

00:05:01.560 And the world could be better to both of them.

00:05:04.080 I have some women who I've done their divorce. 1.00

00:05:06.620 You can tell he's a lawyer because he's always playing both sides.

00:05:10.400 And whatever guy is with them is going to be very lucky because they're beautiful.

00:05:15.080 They're smart.

00:05:15.840 They're good moms. 0.99

00:05:16.660 But they're also, you know, vibrant, exciting women. 1.00

00:05:19.800 Now they're loaded.

00:05:20.580 And they've got money now.

00:05:21.900 Yeah, they've got money.

00:05:22.720 They don't have as much financial insecurity.

00:05:24.880 Although I have to tell you that, you know, it's the last remaining feminist taboo. 1.00

00:05:28.100 I got a lot of women paying alimony these days. 1.00

00:05:30.160 I mean, you know, women can women marry the like handsome musician who's not successful

00:05:35.540 or the artist.

00:05:37.020 There's been a significant effort in our culture in the last decade.

00:05:41.180 I bet in New York City, he would see that.

00:05:43.300 And if anyone didn't notice to improve the situation of women, if you have an equally 0.99

00:05:48.120 qualified man and an equally qualified woman, the woman's the diversity hire. 1.00

00:05:52.040 The man's not.

00:05:52.980 So I have a lot of women who get when they get told like, oh, yeah, no, you got to give 1.00

00:05:56.940 him half your shit or oh, no, you got to pay alimony because he makes 50 grand a year 0.99

00:06:01.280 and you make 250. 1.00

00:06:02.580 And they're like, you know, they could be the staunchest feminist in the world. 1.00

00:06:05.980 And yeah, they're like, no, no, I'm not doing that.

00:06:10.340 You tell them they got to pay alimony.

00:06:11.660 They're like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

00:06:13.540 He's a man.

00:06:14.700 He's got a strong back.

00:06:15.840 He can get out there and work.

00:06:17.640 And then suddenly the whole like gender is a construct and there's no such thing that

00:06:22.600 goes right out the window.

00:06:23.580 And you got told you got to pay alimony.

00:06:25.100 That's like, nope, no, no, no, no, no.

00:06:26.820 I believe in strict gender roles. 0.96

00:06:28.340 Men should pay alimony. 1.00

00:06:29.940 Women, even if you earn 10 times, you should not have to pay alimony. 1.00

00:06:32.960 I've had I've had very, very staunchly feminist clients who changed their mind about how feminist 1.00

00:06:40.520 they were when they got told that they were going to have to pay alimony.

00:06:43.240 But I do have a lot of men who won't take alimony, even though they're entitled to it,

00:06:47.080 because there's just some feeling of like, yeah, no, I'm not doing that.

00:06:49.580 It's emasculating.

00:06:50.580 Like if she tells people that we know that I took alimony from her, like people will think

00:06:54.020 I'm less than a man.

00:06:54.980 So again, it's all gender stuff. 0.56

00:06:56.640 I think it's kind of goaded when men get alimony. 0.66

00:06:58.660 It's like you get your alimony king. 0.94

00:07:00.760 Tell them to bring me my money.

00:07:02.300 It's still out there.

00:07:04.800 It's still still part of the zeitgeist.

00:07:06.740 You know, we're still trying to figure it all out.

00:07:08.120 How many marriages are genuinely happy, you think?

00:07:10.220 I know a lot of people and I think I know one couple that has like a genuinely happy

00:07:15.780 marriage.

00:07:16.540 What do you think the secret is?

00:07:17.560 They really like each other.

00:07:18.980 I don't know.

00:07:19.860 They're really good to each other.

00:07:21.700 I have to tell you, they make me very uncomfortable.

00:07:24.300 My ex-wife and I jokingly say that they were the reason we got divorced.

00:07:27.780 We've known them since we were in college.

00:07:29.400 And we went to Disney with them, with their kids and our kids when all the kids were little.

00:07:36.800 And we were going to go on a ride with our kids and their kids.

00:07:40.960 And they were going to like, you know, oh, like we'll take the kids on the ride and you

00:07:45.220 guys can go.

00:07:46.360 And my friend was like, oh, good.

00:07:47.600 We're just going to go walk and hold hands.

00:07:49.900 And they walked away and like holding hands.

00:07:52.040 And we looked at them and we didn't say anything to each other.

00:07:55.520 But like five years later, when we got divorced, I said, you know, I, when I saw

00:07:59.300 the two of them together, I thought, I don't feel like that about her.

00:08:06.920 Oh, that's brutal, but true.

00:08:08.800 Like, and she said, oh my God, I remember that exact moment.

00:08:11.400 I felt the same way.

00:08:12.960 So I think they make people uncomfortable.

00:08:15.120 Like when you see someone who's got it right, like this guy just loves her.

00:08:20.440 He loves her.

00:08:21.220 They've been married 25 years.

00:08:23.100 And dude, he's like, it's like, he's talking about a girl he met yesterday and she's the

00:08:28.000 same way about him.

00:08:29.100 It's a miracle when that happens.

00:08:30.460 It's so rare.

00:08:31.720 I can't think of one.

00:08:33.120 I'll think harder though.

00:08:34.300 I tell people marriage is like the lottery.

00:08:36.360 You are probably not going to win.

00:08:37.960 But if you win, what you win is so good.

00:08:41.240 Like, I don't know, maybe buy a ticket. 1.00

00:08:43.340 Fuck it. 1.00

00:08:44.560 Like, but buy it to get a prenup. 1.00

00:08:45.940 Do you take all your money and buy lottery tickets?

00:08:48.380 No.

00:08:48.760 But if you, and I don't buy lottery tickets.

00:08:50.380 Like I don't play the lottery. 0.99

00:08:51.120 You're not going to fucking win. 0.99

00:08:52.160 Why? 1.00

00:08:53.080 You know, set the money on fire.

00:08:54.740 It'll be more fun.

00:08:56.060 But if somebody said to me, no, man, you know what?

00:08:58.480 Once a week I buy $20 worth of lottery tickets.

00:09:01.300 All right, go for it.

00:09:02.720 You know, somebody's got to win.

00:09:03.980 Maybe it'll be you.

00:09:05.040 Like same thing with marriage.

00:09:06.180 Like maybe somebody's got to win.

00:09:07.820 Like, yeah, I've met hundreds, if not thousands of couples.

00:09:11.940 And I know one.

00:09:14.140 One.

00:09:15.540 One.

00:09:16.140 And I know people that were really cute for a period of time, but then it ends, you

00:09:19.960 know.

00:09:20.120 That is legitimately happy and like really seem to just.

00:09:24.940 And you're not going to know until after the kids are old, because that's when you see

00:09:27.680 if the woman really likes him or wanted kids.

00:09:29.580 Feed that happiness by that marriage that they have.

00:09:32.920 And they both as individuals have become the best version of themselves.

00:09:37.980 They won the lottery.

00:09:39.140 So buy the ticket, I guess.

00:09:41.160 Don't make that your retirement plan.

00:09:43.380 Like, don't go like, well, you know, don't worry.

00:09:45.180 I'm not saving money for my kid's college because, you know, I'm buying lottery tickets. 1.00

00:09:49.100 Like that's you're an idiot if you're doing that. 1.00

00:09:51.720 Is divorce harder on women or men? 1.00

00:09:53.300 That's realistic.

00:09:54.060 I like him because he's realistic.

00:09:56.040 You know, we all like the idea that we're going to find that special person and things

00:10:00.380 are going to be different for us.

00:10:01.400 But most people are statistics and it's better to go through life looking at what statistics

00:10:06.220 apply to you and assuming that could happen to you and having a plan for if it does.

00:10:10.880 So it's the same thing with getting married.

00:10:12.500 I'm not against people getting married, but I don't think it's a good idea for men or women 1.00

00:10:16.720 to go in with rose colored glasses.

00:10:18.400 You obviously hope for the best.

00:10:19.540 You try to make it work, but a lot of times it doesn't.

00:10:22.200 And in this society, most people are not going to figure out how to do it.

00:10:26.140 So anyway, let me know what you guys think in the comments.

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00:10:31.280 We are on both app stores like the video and I'll see you next time.

Pearl - October 24, 2025

Divorce Court： Men Pay While Women Play

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