Pearl - October 24, 2025


Divorce Court： Men Pay While Women Play


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

212.21104

Word Count

2,243

Sentence Count

205

Misogynist Sentences

25

Hate Speech Sentences

18


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00:00:00.000 Again, it's all gender stuff.
00:00:01.200 I think it's kind of goaded when men get alimony.
00:00:03.180 It's like you get your alimony king.
00:00:05.260 What up, guys?
00:00:05.920 Welcome to my reaction series.
00:00:07.540 If you want to support me, go to the link in the description.
00:00:10.180 So today, we are going to be reacting to James Sexton talking about if divorce is harder
00:00:15.700 for men or for women.
00:00:17.580 I'm actually a fan of Sexton.
00:00:19.060 I think he's got some really good takes.
00:00:20.540 So let's see what he has to say.
00:00:22.920 Is divorce harder on women or men?
00:00:24.320 I think it's equally hard on both.
00:00:26.160 But I think that the world is more sympathetic to women when they get divorced.
00:00:30.540 I think when a woman gets cheated on, the man's a piece of shit.
00:00:34.060 And when a woman cheats on a man, she must have been forced into the arms of this other
00:00:38.300 man.
00:00:38.440 Yeah.
00:00:41.820 No, it's the most BS thing.
00:00:43.500 It's always like, well, what was he doing that she threw it back for 10 other dudes?
00:00:46.880 It's like, I don't know.
00:00:47.940 She's being a whore.
00:00:49.820 She was whoring.
00:00:50.840 Or she had to explore herself or she was being neglected in some fashion.
00:00:54.660 And so if a man cheats, he's a piece of garbage.
00:00:58.480 And if a man's wife cheats, he mustn't have been me.
00:01:01.300 Yeah.
00:01:01.500 And they never talk about the sexless marriages.
00:01:03.760 You know, I mean, if she's not, if she's not banging him, someone, don't be surprised
00:01:08.980 when some 20 something year old Latino with a big booty does it for you.
00:01:13.540 She's like, I want that green card, Poppy.
00:01:16.780 Being her needs.
00:01:17.720 And she had every right in the world.
00:01:18.940 So the world is very unsympathetic to men when they get divorced.
00:01:22.680 There was a maternal presumption, a legal presumption.
00:01:26.500 What was called the tender years doctrine, which was that if a child was under the age
00:01:30.620 of seven, they were automatically presumed that they would be in the custody of the mother.
00:01:33.660 So men get really beat up still in court.
00:01:36.580 I mean, the law theoretically is gender blind right now, but I don't actually see that because
00:01:40.880 the law is people.
00:01:41.980 The law is judges and judges are human and they have all the same biases.
00:01:45.860 And it's just not a moment right now where men are particularly.
00:01:48.820 And that's the thing, even if they change the laws, it's still up to the discretion of
00:01:53.720 the judge.
00:01:54.300 So if you get a judge that's just not sympathetic or very feminist or leftist, you're kind of
00:01:59.600 screwed as a guy.
00:02:00.540 And a lot of times the women going into law are kind of liberal anyway.
00:02:04.700 And now I think the majority of judges, I have to look it up, but I think the majority of
00:02:09.520 judges are actually female.
00:02:10.780 Really sympathetic characters, even young men.
00:02:13.100 I mean, if at a school dance, they sing Beyonce's Girls Who Runs the World, like if there was
00:02:19.120 a song called Men Who Runs the World, Men, and it was a positive thing, like you get
00:02:24.500 pilloried for that.
00:02:25.440 So I think that men have a very hard time right now in divorce.
00:02:29.240 They see their children less.
00:02:30.700 OK, correction, it's about a third, but it's increasing.
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00:03:28.940 Now, let's talk bigger picture.
00:03:31.340 Why don't we have true free speech in America anymore?
00:03:34.400 Welcome to the female economy, where women make 80% of consumer buying decisions.
00:03:39.020 Have you ever wondered why women always seem to get their way?
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00:03:55.740 what gets funded.
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00:04:00.240 And if that means catering to the majority female audience, they will.
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00:04:16.060 They get hit harder financially.
00:04:18.120 They are the bad guy no matter what.
00:04:20.000 If they cheat, they're the bad guy.
00:04:21.480 If they get cheated on, they were the bad guy because they probably neglected her.
00:04:25.100 There's a presumption that the man is to blame a lot of the time.
00:04:28.980 Men find a less sympathetic world.
00:04:31.740 But in fairness, divorced men have it a little easier.
00:04:35.480 Divorced men meet a young woman and the woman's like, instant family, just add me.
00:04:40.660 That's great.
00:04:41.340 You know, if he's got kids, it's like, oh.
00:04:43.880 Yeah.
00:04:44.500 Men do have an easier time dating after divorce as long as the woman isn't ruining his life.
00:04:49.860 Oh, he's got kids.
00:04:50.760 Look at how nurturing he is and how lovely.
00:04:53.220 Women, they get divorced.
00:04:54.760 They've got kids.
00:04:55.720 Guys are like, whoop, it's got baggage.
00:04:57.660 I'm not coming near that.
00:04:58.640 Men and women have different problems post-divorce.
00:05:01.560 And the world could be better to both of them.
00:05:04.080 I have some women who I've done their divorce.
00:05:06.620 You can tell he's a lawyer because he's always playing both sides.
00:05:10.400 And whatever guy is with them is going to be very lucky because they're beautiful.
00:05:15.080 They're smart.
00:05:15.840 They're good moms.
00:05:16.660 But they're also, you know, vibrant, exciting women.
00:05:19.800 Now they're loaded.
00:05:20.580 And they've got money now.
00:05:21.900 Yeah, they've got money.
00:05:22.720 They don't have as much financial insecurity.
00:05:24.880 Although I have to tell you that, you know, it's the last remaining feminist taboo.
00:05:28.100 I got a lot of women paying alimony these days.
00:05:30.160 I mean, you know, women can women marry the like handsome musician who's not successful
00:05:35.540 or the artist.
00:05:37.020 There's been a significant effort in our culture in the last decade.
00:05:41.180 I bet in New York City, he would see that.
00:05:43.300 And if anyone didn't notice to improve the situation of women, if you have an equally
00:05:48.120 qualified man and an equally qualified woman, the woman's the diversity hire.
00:05:52.040 The man's not.
00:05:52.980 So I have a lot of women who get when they get told like, oh, yeah, no, you got to give
00:05:56.940 him half your shit or oh, no, you got to pay alimony because he makes 50 grand a year
00:06:01.280 and you make 250.
00:06:02.580 And they're like, you know, they could be the staunchest feminist in the world.
00:06:05.980 And yeah, they're like, no, no, I'm not doing that.
00:06:10.340 You tell them they got to pay alimony.
00:06:11.660 They're like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
00:06:13.540 He's a man.
00:06:14.700 He's got a strong back.
00:06:15.840 He can get out there and work.
00:06:17.640 And then suddenly the whole like gender is a construct and there's no such thing that
00:06:22.600 goes right out the window.
00:06:23.580 And you got told you got to pay alimony.
00:06:25.100 That's like, nope, no, no, no, no, no.
00:06:26.820 I believe in strict gender roles.
00:06:28.340 Men should pay alimony.
00:06:29.940 Women, even if you earn 10 times, you should not have to pay alimony.
00:06:32.960 I've had I've had very, very staunchly feminist clients who changed their mind about how feminist
00:06:40.520 they were when they got told that they were going to have to pay alimony.
00:06:43.240 But I do have a lot of men who won't take alimony, even though they're entitled to it,
00:06:47.080 because there's just some feeling of like, yeah, no, I'm not doing that.
00:06:49.580 It's emasculating.
00:06:50.580 Like if she tells people that we know that I took alimony from her, like people will think
00:06:54.020 I'm less than a man.
00:06:54.980 So again, it's all gender stuff.
00:06:56.640 I think it's kind of goaded when men get alimony.
00:06:58.660 It's like you get your alimony king.
00:07:00.760 Tell them to bring me my money.
00:07:02.300 It's still out there.
00:07:04.800 It's still still part of the zeitgeist.
00:07:06.740 You know, we're still trying to figure it all out.
00:07:08.120 How many marriages are genuinely happy, you think?
00:07:10.220 I know a lot of people and I think I know one couple that has like a genuinely happy
00:07:15.780 marriage.
00:07:16.540 What do you think the secret is?
00:07:17.560 They really like each other.
00:07:18.980 I don't know.
00:07:19.860 They're really good to each other.
00:07:21.700 I have to tell you, they make me very uncomfortable.
00:07:24.300 My ex-wife and I jokingly say that they were the reason we got divorced.
00:07:27.780 We've known them since we were in college.
00:07:29.400 And we went to Disney with them, with their kids and our kids when all the kids were little.
00:07:36.800 And we were going to go on a ride with our kids and their kids.
00:07:40.960 And they were going to like, you know, oh, like we'll take the kids on the ride and you
00:07:45.220 guys can go.
00:07:46.360 And my friend was like, oh, good.
00:07:47.600 We're just going to go walk and hold hands.
00:07:49.900 And they walked away and like holding hands.
00:07:52.040 And we looked at them and we didn't say anything to each other.
00:07:55.520 But like five years later, when we got divorced, I said, you know, I, when I saw
00:07:59.300 the two of them together, I thought, I don't feel like that about her.
00:08:06.920 Oh, that's brutal, but true.
00:08:08.800 Like, and she said, oh my God, I remember that exact moment.
00:08:11.400 I felt the same way.
00:08:12.960 So I think they make people uncomfortable.
00:08:15.120 Like when you see someone who's got it right, like this guy just loves her.
00:08:20.440 He loves her.
00:08:21.220 They've been married 25 years.
00:08:23.100 And dude, he's like, it's like, he's talking about a girl he met yesterday and she's the
00:08:28.000 same way about him.
00:08:29.100 It's a miracle when that happens.
00:08:30.460 It's so rare.
00:08:31.720 I can't think of one.
00:08:33.120 I'll think harder though.
00:08:34.300 I tell people marriage is like the lottery.
00:08:36.360 You are probably not going to win.
00:08:37.960 But if you win, what you win is so good.
00:08:41.240 Like, I don't know, maybe buy a ticket.
00:08:43.340 Fuck it.
00:08:44.560 Like, but buy it to get a prenup.
00:08:45.940 Do you take all your money and buy lottery tickets?
00:08:48.380 No.
00:08:48.760 But if you, and I don't buy lottery tickets.
00:08:50.380 Like I don't play the lottery.
00:08:51.120 You're not going to fucking win.
00:08:52.160 Why?
00:08:53.080 You know, set the money on fire.
00:08:54.740 It'll be more fun.
00:08:56.060 But if somebody said to me, no, man, you know what?
00:08:58.480 Once a week I buy $20 worth of lottery tickets.
00:09:01.300 All right, go for it.
00:09:02.720 You know, somebody's got to win.
00:09:03.980 Maybe it'll be you.
00:09:05.040 Like same thing with marriage.
00:09:06.180 Like maybe somebody's got to win.
00:09:07.820 Like, yeah, I've met hundreds, if not thousands of couples.
00:09:11.940 And I know one.
00:09:14.140 One.
00:09:15.540 One.
00:09:16.140 And I know people that were really cute for a period of time, but then it ends, you
00:09:19.960 know.
00:09:20.120 That is legitimately happy and like really seem to just.
00:09:24.940 And you're not going to know until after the kids are old, because that's when you see
00:09:27.680 if the woman really likes him or wanted kids.
00:09:29.580 Feed that happiness by that marriage that they have.
00:09:32.920 And they both as individuals have become the best version of themselves.
00:09:37.980 They won the lottery.
00:09:39.140 So buy the ticket, I guess.
00:09:41.160 Don't make that your retirement plan.
00:09:43.380 Like, don't go like, well, you know, don't worry.
00:09:45.180 I'm not saving money for my kid's college because, you know, I'm buying lottery tickets.
00:09:49.100 Like that's you're an idiot if you're doing that.
00:09:51.720 Is divorce harder on women or men?
00:09:53.300 That's realistic.
00:09:54.060 I like him because he's realistic.
00:09:56.040 You know, we all like the idea that we're going to find that special person and things
00:10:00.380 are going to be different for us.
00:10:01.400 But most people are statistics and it's better to go through life looking at what statistics
00:10:06.220 apply to you and assuming that could happen to you and having a plan for if it does.
00:10:10.880 So it's the same thing with getting married.
00:10:12.500 I'm not against people getting married, but I don't think it's a good idea for men or women
00:10:16.720 to go in with rose colored glasses.
00:10:18.400 You obviously hope for the best.
00:10:19.540 You try to make it work, but a lot of times it doesn't.
00:10:22.200 And in this society, most people are not going to figure out how to do it.
00:10:26.140 So anyway, let me know what you guys think in the comments.
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