Pearl - February 20, 2026Female Bosses Are Dictators
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Summary
In this episode, we re reacting to women complaining about their female bosses. We ve all had female bosses in our careers, and we all know that they re not always the best leaders. But what s worse is when they re toxic?
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Every single person there, the vibes were perfect.
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The banter was there, the peeps was getting made.
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We're genuinely just chopping it up and having fun.
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But my one manager was the biggest hypocrite, bro.
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we know that nobody hates women more than other women.
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and today we are reacting to women complaining about their female bosses i've had one or two
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in my lifetime and i'll be honest they're never good they're never good you never know when they'll
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be happy they can be pissed off about something else they'll take it out on you it's just
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incredible okay capable and confident female reporting to a competitive ladder climbing
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female boss your job security may be at risk due to what psychologists call the queen bee syndrome
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here's why a female boss may oust you for being a strong female performer one she sees you as a
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threat and competitive male dominance it's even worse if she sees you as a threat sexually young
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hot woman reporting to an old ugly woman i'd rather kill myself women already hate hot women
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have you seen that video of that woman that's like beautiful walking through the airport and
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all the women are just glaring at her environments especially some women feel there's only room for
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one at the table your confidence ideas or popularity can trigger her comparison insecurities
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and negative thoughts instead of mentoring you she'll protect her status by undermining or pushing
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you out of the company two she punishes your confidence rather than rewarding it she may hire
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you for your confidence well okay when they say punishing you for confidence it usually means
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i think i'm smarter than i am right and a lot of young women do have that problem because they're
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told they're amazing their entire life but you'll never know if you're actually amazing that's that's
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the challenge because women hate you right so you might actually be treated unfairly as a young hot
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chick and men want to fuck you so they'll just tell you you're doing awesome even when you suck
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initially but later criticize you for it once you're in the role because she feels insecure
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around more secure females she dismisses your ideas or reframes them as bad if they don't come
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from her she minimizes or ignores praise that you women also take credit for everything so like
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she'll just take credit for all of your hard work you know what i mean it's just it is what it is
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see from others for a job well done because the praise doesn't center around her if she's looking
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to make budget cuts she'll keep the females on her team who are more insecure and compliant
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than the female less hot the females on our team that aren't hot who is confident or offers
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different perspectives than her own three control matters more to her than collaboration and in
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female work environments popularity matters the most god that sucks men competence matters women
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popularity matters insecure female leaders need to feel like the smartest or most admired woman
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in the room she'll restrict your visibility withhold or take credit for your ideas and
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retaliate against you when you shine this is not good leadership this is power protection that
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prevents other women from having a seat at the table when an organization has one or more queen
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beef female bosses it'll start losing talented highly qualified women and the culture will turn
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competitive instead of if you lose a woman it's not really that much of a loss um but if anything
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the women just gang up together and then just eat each other it's just incredible you ever see like
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teachers they just eat each other collaborative and if you join a team and notice most of the
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women on the team play small while the female boss calls the shots recognize that as a red flag
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if you're a female who's great at what you do you're well liked and you're confident but you
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you report to an insecure competitive female boss know that you can't grow under a leader who needs
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you to shrink all right let me go here about why so many of us find female bosses to be amongst
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the most toxic and damaging that we've ever had in our career so speaking from personal experience
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i mean guys i've had some bad bosses in my career and i'll tell you more about some of those another
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the time but in particular I had this one female boss who decided that they had to lead like a man
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in order to be successful and by a man I actually mean a stereotypical toxic alpha male all the
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wrong reasons all the wrong behaviors but that was the decision they made for me that made my
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life miserable we didn't relate at all on a personal level and on a professional level
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every day was charged and frustrating and upsetting for me because I couldn't seem to
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get it right. She wanted things from me that I simply couldn't give her. But here's what I know
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in retrospect. And by the way, you know, this person really, really did a number on my confidence
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at the time. But I have recovered since then. And I want to share some of my insights. So here's
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what i've learned since then this person was a fantastic at their job so on a functional level
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you know because a woman can be good at her job but not a good manager and that's the challenge
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a lot of times they think oh i'm a good manager um so i'd be a good boss but no not for women
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a star they were brilliant women aren't patient i think that's the one thing women don't
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women aren't patient and they just want to like pile on when you're not getting something where
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men are like patient and will train you they and men are a lot more like if someone's not good at
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one task they don't try to make somebody good at something they're not good at they just try to
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rearrange the team but what they like they're solution oriented where women just want to
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complain and nag but they weren't a great leader i can see that now in hindsight and they were in
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a leadership position one of the reasons for this and this is why i focus on this so so so much in
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my coaching it's actually the foundation of all of my leadership coaching is that they lacked
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self-awareness and they lacked the capacity to be self-reflective women are not self-aware
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self-reflective men are all those things naturally active in any way so they would never sit and
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think about their behavior they would simply barrel on through the day and didn't really
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matter what damage they caused in their wake being self-aware as a leader means that you are able to
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reflect on who you are the good and the not so good so yes think about your strengths and your
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skills also think about any biases or blind spots that may be getting in the way you being a really
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effective and empathetic leader this person didn't have any of those capabilities it was pretty clear
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to me now this is she's just nagging all right let's see let's see the next one somebody asked
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me this why women's supervisors and i'm not gonna put a race on it women's supervisors period be the
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worst fucking supervisors it's like they get on you about stuff that doesn't matter it isn't that
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important and they make a bigger deal of stuff like it's just i could go on and on they'd be so
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try to bang the young guys fucking dramatic so fucking emotional and they do the most grimy
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shit to other women at the workplace they don't care if you work good you kind of work every day
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you do what you're supposed to do they just be fucking with you and that shit is so weird to me
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like it's the same way like women test their husbands for no reason what the all right
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let's see the next one this guy place some of the worst managers are female managers
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now trigger warning this is only towards the bad toxic narcissistic power hungry all of them
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and that's just like our nature our nature is kind of narcissistic you got to keep it in check
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like this is about overcompensating female managers who are trying to dominate when they
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don't need to you just need to show value respect compassion and empathy towards your team stop
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trying to dominate you know especially if you're leading a male team you don't need to throw your
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wang about this yeah and a lot of a lot of times when women manage men they like have a chip on
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their shoulder they want to show they want to show they're super confident competent even though the
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men under them usually just do their job for them towards good female instead of doing it by showing
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competence they just do it by like having to stick up their ass because there are some really good
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ones out there but my experience and for those who have reached out to me on email in the comments
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why do we always have to say there's some good ones out there like if there were good ones out
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there shouldn't that like shouldn't that be assumed without saying on my live streams females seem to
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be some of the worst managers in the world very power hungry and my message to you is someone who
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doesn't have to put up with any of that but i'm speaking on behalf of the people here to the female
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bad managers pipe down show some respect value your team lead the way stop dictating
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and start to be more compassionate and just muck in get involved with the lads it's impossible
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women can't do that get involved with the ladies i've even had a lot of ladies say oh my god aaron
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i agree with you some of the females are the worst very bitchy very bitchy and very you know
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calculated in being very talented all right let's see the next guy it is because every female
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co-worker i've had has been good but every female manager i've had except for one has been like a
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demon from hell like just straight sociopathic tendencies like competing with all the other
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women at the job doesn't know how to talk to people at all just no people skills like every
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female manager i've had has been hated by the rest of the staff except for one i'm not far enough
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removed from my most recent job to talk about that because she was actually worse but my first job
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with the female manager was at pizza hut bro every single person there the vibes were perfect
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the banter was there the piece was getting made we're genuinely just chopping it up and having
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fun but my one manager was the biggest hypocrite bro she would literally come in and sit on her ass
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and use her phone for like the whole day she wasn't really doing but i used my phone one
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time and she's gonna be like oh no using your phone at work so i set my phone on a table and
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i go back to work start making the pieces and tell me why at the end of the day i go back to
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get my phone off the table and my she's missing oh she took it i'm like what the did somebody
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yeah women micromanage deal my phone so they're so controlling they can't give up control i start
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asking around i eventually find my manager and she says that she locked it in a safe she put my phone
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in it this hypocritical bitch who's using her phone the whole time locked my in a safe
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so i get my out of there keep it cordial and i never showed back up to that pizza hut again
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It was roaches and all types of fucking safety regulations.
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That shit should be shut down, but that's beside them.
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So again, even women don't want to work for female managers.
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When women get power, we're just not too good with it.
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Guys, let me know if you ever had a female boss.
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If you have, put it in the comments and put your story.