Pearl - Female Social Groups are Hell on Earth

00:00:00.000 all right what up guys good morning uh today i have my water because i already drank my coffee

00:00:06.320 i want to apologize it's still dark out because i woke up today at like

00:00:11.240 four in the morning and i couldn't go back to bed so i'm like i guess i'm off to the gym

00:00:15.420 but i was thinking about how much freedom i've had the last few years because honestly 1.00

00:00:23.520 i get kicked out of every social group i enter into because of the like the women's stuff right 1.00

00:00:29.520 but I've kind of been this way since I was young where I didn't really like having a big group of 1.00

00:00:34.560 friends or like a big I always liked having one-on-one friendships with women and I never

00:00:40.520 enjoyed group friendships with women and I couldn't articulate why because I kind of forgot until

00:00:47.700 recently because whenever you get into a group of women you have to monitor your speech because

00:00:58.100 otherwise one woman will get mad and kick you out of the group so sometimes I forget that people 0.97

00:01:04.380 can't talk like I do like I'll go out and I'll be like god damn pageeats or I'll be like got 0.98

00:01:10.220 black people again you know what I mean and people will look at me funny and I forget I'm almost 0.99

00:01:17.520 removed from the matrix because I haven't had a real job in like quite a bit I've just been a

00:01:22.860 YouTuber right and I haven't really had a friend group for a while because when I was in London

00:01:29.780 okay basically in 2023 I started my YouTube channel in 2020 I was working a sales job

00:01:35.780 I quit my sales job to go overseas now unfortunately my season got canceled because of

00:01:41.740 COVID so I've been home for like a year and my parents live in kind of a remote it's like an

00:01:48.560 hour from the city. So I mean, it's not like, I guess I could have made friends, but you have

00:01:57.500 to understand I'm kind of like a loner ish anyway. Like I'm always just more interested in whatever

00:02:02.920 I'm doing. So anyways, um, I then go to London and in London, um, I start, um, I'm playing semi

00:02:13.880 pro volleyball and I started one of the biggest YouTube shows in the United States. So everyone

00:02:17.900 I met was kind of through YouTube pretty much, um, or volleyball. And, um, yeah, the volleyball

00:02:25.700 girls were more liberal, so they didn't really, I don't like, they're really nice, but I don't have

00:02:30.860 a ton of friends there. But anyways, the, the YouTube stuff, um, like it's been a while since

00:02:44.060 I've had to monitor how I talk and I caught myself doing it because I noticed this girl kind of was

00:02:50.200 like iffy about what I said so I'm at the gym and I said something and I noticed this girl was kind

00:02:55.360 of upset and naturally you want to be like oh no you know so it's very subconscious it's like a

00:03:01.480 subconscious level and oh sorry and then in 2023 I got really famous um so that kind of changed

00:03:10.040 things and then um I lost everything I had like 20 employees then I got demonetized I had to leave

00:03:16.420 London go back to Chicago living with my parents again and I haven't been in the same place for a

00:03:22.340 while I picked Texas because I was like you know what I need a cheaper city to live in in case I

00:03:28.440 get demonetized again because I can't those London expenses were brutal man

00:03:33.080 brutal and i think a lot of youtubers are coming to texas so i like texas i'm staying

00:03:41.100 partially i moved here partially for love it didn't work out but but i'm like i'm i'm staying

00:03:49.140 in texas i'm staying so anyways i realized when you get into a group of women the problem is

00:03:56.160 the women will kick you out for saying like a bad thing they also you sacrifice your privacy 0.84

00:04:03.600 because if you tell one woman everything one thing she'll tell everybody everything

00:04:08.320 and on top of that on top of that you then have to monitor how you talk and I've always since I

00:04:13.960 was young hated having to monitor how I talk um maybe maybe it'd be better for me to monitor more 0.98

00:04:21.480 right I'm not saying I'm just saying this is how I feel you can't argue with me on how I feel damn

00:04:28.500 it and it just kind of took me back to like um like this recent exchange which was so minuscule

00:04:36.500 and small it just reminded me of high school because I'm like I remember being in high school

00:04:42.580 and thinking like I said something in a group so I've always been kind of quirky and one girl got 1.00

00:04:47.220 mad and i could just tell she was gossiping about me but it's terrible because female gossip you 0.64

00:04:51.860 can never confront but you know they're doing it but if you bring it up they'll just gaslight you 0.74

00:04:56.580 they'll just pretend they didn't do it and so it's like the female circle of gaslighting

00:05:03.060 uh but it made me think that like um part of the reason that nobody says anything or corrects women

00:05:09.700 is they don't want to lose popularity and i think i'm a little unique in youtubers because

00:05:15.140 i really enjoy making videos but i've never wanted to be popular because when you're popular

00:05:21.420 that's the problems it comes with you know

00:05:24.160 then you have to deal with losing the popularity like if you get popular then you have to deal with

00:05:32.000 losing popularity i've never been popular so it's never been a problem for me do you know what i

00:05:36.880 mean but the it's the principle right if you get into the girl group and what i noticed too i

00:05:44.080 remember in school noticing that every like six months there'd be like three or four girls that

00:05:49.680 maybe were less like socially awkward um less weird and they were like the better ones in the

00:05:56.560 group and they would get to stay in the group but the lower like usually if there's a group of like

00:06:02.300 10 girls I would be at the bottom right I'm barely in it I would be kind of fun but I'd get kicked

00:06:06.780 out I'd get kicked out all the time um and I remember being in school and like for a while

00:06:13.220 all the girls were talking bad about me and I'm like well I guess it's just my turn

00:06:17.160 and then uh then like a year later they all loved me like they thought I was so funny and nice and

00:06:25.180 I'm like how I'm the same person I was a year ago but the other women um like then it was a new girl 0.97

00:06:32.980 that was getting kicked out and they would gossip about talk shit about women hate each other man 0.66

00:06:39.020 but I think a lot of times that's why nobody says anything is they don't want to lose their 0.97

00:06:44.820 popularity so a lot of times you you they don't want to lose their money right but even outside 1.00

00:06:49.280 of the money I've never enjoyed female groups because like in a family the mothers have these 1.00

00:06:56.240 events so they can be popular and then kick you out if things don't go their way this happened

00:07:01.920 to me once i don't want to get too much into it i could mom but i'll just say this i had an instance

00:07:10.500 where a relative like didn't like what i was saying online and went around to so many people

00:07:16.840 and then i got kicked out of the functions for like a year like but then but it's so crazy

00:07:24.160 because it'll be funny if you get kicked out of a function and you say okay i'll see you that's fine

00:07:29.200 then they get mad too it's like a never-ending and that's the thing like when you get into a

00:07:33.800 female group i find i'm happier long term when i'm more by myself and i don't know if that's a

00:07:41.100 bad thing like i'm not a loner i'm extroverted maybe maybe i'm thinking too much about myself

00:07:47.620 again pearl you're solid plastic but i've noticed like i've noticed that 0.99

00:07:55.100 i i don't like being in a female group because then i i have to i have to monitor and filter

00:08:03.520 because i'm an empathetic person right and i never want to make somebody uncomfortable

00:08:08.720 so i kind of like youtube because then it's like the people that want to tune in can but i don't 0.94

00:08:16.660 have to deal with the nagging from the bitch who doesn't i don't have to deal with the nagging 0.99

00:08:21.920 the bitching the moaning the complaining from the bitch who doesn't want to listen 1.00

00:08:28.300 oh i can't believe she said that why don't you just never talk to me again we could just never 1.00

00:08:34.980 interact but they can't do that they can't just walk away i can i can but anyways that was my 1.00

00:08:41.800 two cents though is like honestly i've noticed i've noticed that um in female groups that's why

00:08:53.180 i don't like female groups that's why i think i prefer male groups because male groups allow you

00:08:57.520 to like be yourself and male groups reward good behavior where female groups reward the shittiest

00:09:03.900 people like the the alpha or whatever of the female friend group the leader she's always a 1.00

00:09:09.420 bitch always it's just how much of a bitch right she's never like this sweet night now usually 0.99

00:09:18.780 there's like a sweet nice girl that's like third in the group but the quote-unquote alpha the group 1.00

00:09:23.640 yeah she's always a bitch always always so at least in male groups they'll like reward you for 1.00

00:09:31.700 working hard they'll like reward you for doing the right thing but female groups are hell on earth 1.00

00:09:37.840 because they reward you for doing the wrong thing bitching nagging complaining that's rewarded the 1.00

00:09:43.700 more you do it doing nothing is rewarded because you have all these stupid social things you have 1.00

00:09:48.940 to go to and if you don't go to the social things they emotionally torture you and bitch complain 0.99

00:09:57.300 moan that you're not at the social thing this is what they do come to my social thing you go 0.98

00:10:02.500 you don't act exactly how they want you to act they talk to you about everybody torture

00:10:08.240 Torture. 0.96

00:10:10.040 Pearl, why don't you have female friends? 1.00

00:10:12.100 Maybe I don't want a ninja. 1.00

00:10:13.540 I actually have a few.

00:10:14.600 But maybe I don't want them.

00:10:16.300 But like whenever it gets to be a group.

00:10:18.280 Now, the one thing I will say is good about a group.

00:10:22.660 Groups do filter out for terrible behavior in a way.

00:10:26.620 Because at some point, if you're terrible to everybody, it does catch up to them at some point. 1.00

00:10:31.680 But it takes years because women are retarded. 1.00

00:10:33.940 It takes like a four-year process to kick out the narcissist. 1.00

00:10:37.380 and that's too long who's got time for all that bitches and I naturally like people so it's just 0.99

00:10:43.700 never it's always unfair because they naturally don't like me and I naturally like them even if 1.00

00:10:50.000 they're bitches I'm like I still naturally there's something in me I just don't really 1.00

00:10:53.960 I'm a lover not a fighter 1.00

00:10:55.860 I'm a lover not a fighter just is what it is so anyways okay so a couple things about the channel

00:11:05.920 we're just going to talk about i'm doing this event um friday for those of you that have signed

00:11:10.720 up i do apologize um we're having an issue with the website it's a long story but i've had to get

00:11:16.860 my domain back in the last two weeks someone took it now i got it back it's like a whole thing

00:11:22.420 long story short i'm switching the domain anyway i'm going back to just pearly things 0.72

00:11:28.540 fuck this network i tried to start a youtube network that was the most money i've ever wasted 0.82

00:11:33.600 in my life uh yeah shout out christine grace um i did start her channel and her as a youtuber but 0.99

00:11:41.480 i gave her her i gave her a channel when i left i said fuck that i don't want to manage this and

00:11:46.840 she's done great i wish her well you know what i mean but the youtube network i'll maybe do a 0.63

00:11:51.060 youtube partnership i'll keep the network domain in case i ever go that route but right now we're

00:11:56.880 doing just pearly things i'm gonna change my youtube chain name back i'm gonna change my

00:12:02.260 website back to just pearlythings.com um so because of that these issues we've had a little glitch in

00:12:08.220 the website um if anyone wants to buy a ticket the website should work right now if it doesn't look

00:12:15.140 this week has just been bad timing um just cash out me and put your email in the cash app just

00:12:22.120 look at the price on the website should be like i don't know 1700 for two days you get to hang

00:12:28.060 out with me for two days. Um, 500 bucks for Friday. I know you guys are going to bitch about

00:12:32.180 the prices. Look, they're going to go down over time. We gotta, we gotta build this up and then 0.88

00:12:37.040 later we can, I can make them cheaper, but you guys just got to trust me on this. Um, speaking

00:12:44.240 of which, speaking of which Friday, we're going to do tacos and tequila, which will be kind of fun.

00:12:49.860 And, and, um, you get to see a podcast. So, um, there will be security at the podcast. Um, so

00:12:56.500 don't try anything crazy um but yeah you'll you'll basically go with me to watch me do a

00:13:02.360 podcast with andrew branco love self-defense he's coming saturday right saturday we are going to do

00:13:09.400 a ufc fighter is going to teach us how to box um then we're going to go to a gun range and then

00:13:15.200 um we are going to go to a steakhouse for dinner so it's going to be it's going to be a fun weekend

00:13:22.180 we're gonna we're gonna get lit get lit so anyways all right um cash at me if the website

00:13:29.720 doesn't work i'm sorry i'm a woman anyway but i'm about to i'm really excited because there's been

00:13:35.760 a lot of issues the past few years and i think i finally solved them do you guys want to hear

00:13:42.080 about my problem i'm going to tell you about my problems anyway i'm a woman basically when i was

00:13:46.640 in london i had really high overhead i moved out of london i went to a cheaper city to dallas

00:13:52.300 lower overhead i'm a terrible boss i don't manage employees very well um they always forget they

00:14:00.940 always forget i'm their boss it just never goes well i decided i'm going to create an incentive

00:14:05.720 structure where if i don't make money they don't make money i i said one i'm going to have little

00:14:10.740 employees impossible impossible the ones that work for me have to be self-sufficient and only

00:14:16.580 make money when I make money. And the ones that want to work hard are going to sign up. And right

00:14:24.800 now I'm really happy with the way things are going. So that's, that's number one. That was one issue I

00:14:29.780 had. Second issue was the backend, like my website, all these different things, like talking to each

00:14:38.760 other, the website, the CRM, all this, the digital backend was just terribly put together. And I

00:14:46.500 basically we created a website that's that's its own infrastructure and has all the things I want

00:14:52.360 in it it's probably going to take a few more months to get it really good it's a little bit

00:14:57.460 but I needed to accept donations manage a sales crm to sell events

00:15:03.060 and then the next thing was I needed a plan for when I get demonetized

00:15:08.320 when I get demonetized I can't be screwed again so I said you know what I'm gonna have low

00:15:15.440 overhead this time around. And also, um, I want to make my studio all self-service. I don't have

00:15:21.840 to worry about paying a producer. And then, um, which, so I spent a decent amount of money

00:15:27.160 building my studio, but now I can do it myself. So you guys will have to deal with me changing

00:15:33.840 cameras and some bullshit. Um, and if I have guests in studio, I might have a producer come 0.70

00:15:38.260 in, but my overhead is nothing. Um, not nothing, but like, it's pretty low compared, comparatively,

00:15:44.420 comparatively um and then i figure these events if i can build them up if i can build up the events

00:15:54.500 so right now the first one broke even i think this one's gonna make a little money the next one

00:16:00.820 because it's not a lot of people my thing is i want these to be small intimate events to start

00:16:06.740 that have a high ticket price point so you guys can just hang out with me if you want to pay for

00:16:10.660 um oh but pearl who wants to pay to hang out with you ninja i would have i'm like a lot of people

00:16:17.540 are like oh but pearl like that's so stupid i'm like okay i loved kevin samuels and i absolutely

00:16:25.240 would have paid two grand i think he charged like a grand for an hour of his time consultation or 0.96

00:16:30.700 something like that it was ridiculous but if i could have hung out with him for two days straight

00:16:35.120 I would have paid two grand I'm not saying I'm as cool as him I'm not all I'm saying is if I

00:16:41.420 would have bought it there's a market for it so um and that's the price point is gonna go down

00:16:47.840 over time like it's not I'm telling you over time you guys just gotta trust me on this if if if the

00:16:54.120 last few years I've come off as a money hungry bitch I don't know what to tell you I'm I'm

00:16:58.940 really not motivated that way I'm motivated by fun fun getting good at things fun getting good

00:17:05.100 things so I don't know man um but yeah that's once a month ideally so if I get this event system down

00:17:14.000 then um I want it to be really simple easy and in Dallas we might go to other cities later I saw

00:17:21.500 some comments are you coming to my city no if you want to pay for the overhead that's my goal here

00:17:27.820 I want low overhead less stress um if you want to pay for me to come to your city then we can

00:17:34.580 talk about doing an event in your city but i gotta find a venue i gotta pay for flights not only me

00:17:39.900 if i have security like you see what i'm saying anyways all right i'm outside my gym i need to

00:17:44.680 go work out it's been like 20 minutes of me sitting in my car so anyways all right i love

00:17:49.040 you guys like the video subscribe to the channel get this workout in i'll see you next

Pearl - September 30, 2026

Female Social Groups are Hell on Earth

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