Pearl - November 03, 2025


Leonarda Jonie Hates Actors and Comedians...But Is MARRYING ONE？


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Length

7 minutes

Words per minute

203.87735

Word count

1,609

Sentence count

2

Harmful content

Misogyny

13

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Toxicity

1

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Hate speech

3

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss what it's like being in a toxic relationship with a man and how to deal with it. We also talk about what it was like being a woman in the late 80s and early 90s.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 women like comedians they like funny guys you know i mean you've seen it at the comedy shows 1.00
00:00:05.680 those guys they pick up a good looking women you never banged a comedian no no no the only
00:00:14.000 time is i'm now marrying him so come on there you go you've got to be kidding me yeah but he he uh
00:00:21.840 i didn't bang him like we you know he courted me as a successful business entrepreneur okay but
00:00:29.040 then what happened we got married well we're getting married so okay yeah it wasn't like oh
00:00:34.000 my there was no part of me that was like oh look at this super hot high status i thought he was a
00:00:40.720 good person you didn't think he was attractive not in the beginning no i didn't i haven't thought
00:00:46.560 literally any guy i've ever dated or been with i never thought they were attractive when i first
00:00:50.880 met them really no never zero nothing that's what i mean it's not how it's no i just don't in general
00:00:58.800 like and no but that i'm not saying that oh i dated ugly guys that's not what i'm saying i'm
00:01:03.040 saying i don't find men attractive just looking at them none oh come on i don't brad pitt's a good
00:01:10.800 looking he's a good looking guy he's a good looking guy i'm not attracted to him because i don't have
00:01:16.880 any there's nothing going on and this is again this is the nature of women despite everything they're 1.00
00:01:22.080 telling you women fall in love with their ears men fall in love with their eyes so what made my man
00:01:28.480 attractive is not i'm not oh yeah it became very attracted to him was who he was with me
00:01:34.960 there's a here's a guy he's not trying to get anything out of me he didn't try to sleep with me
00:01:40.720 he basically uh wanted to get to know me so he was like hey i i'm i have these position like i i need
00:01:48.080 somebody to feature for me here here here i had no idea what was going on by the way and i showed
00:01:53.120 up to the first job and i was like if this guy is trying to bang me so i could do because i knew that
00:01:59.120 this was a strategy i was like he's got another thing coming there was nothing like that it was
00:02:03.120 like hey this is what i need and um if you want some food i'm gonna get food you're welcome to come
00:02:09.360 with me and then there would be talking to me and asking me things about myself and like what i
00:02:14.480 you all these things and i was like okay and then all of a sudden somebody's opening he's opening my
00:02:18.640 door for me he's being very nice he asked me if i needed help with uh like some of my videos that i
00:02:23.920 was doing i was like wow that'd be real nice you know and uh you know then said said one one of you
00:02:30.400 guys been together been a while no about a year and a half okay yeah i had a you know not a great
00:02:36.480 uh ability to find good men oh really that's why i have a little bit of a different point of view
00:02:41.840 where i see the evil nature of men so how when it comes to women well we're not going to get into
00:02:48.160 that but i did get married when i was 25 yeah and that was well no but like it just kind of goes
00:02:53.120 with what i was saying like women prioritize different things on different ages of their life 1.00
00:02:57.520 well generally no but here's the thing my now husband is far more attractive than my ex was he's
00:03:04.480 a much better person than my ex was he's way more alpha than my ex was lots of women like go after 1.00
00:03:14.720 him you know he's not like you wouldn't look at him go wow this guy's so hot right it's not an
00:03:20.240 insult to say that but lots of very attractive women have wanted him so comedian so there's there was no
00:03:28.560 like uh oh it's time to settle you know wasn't there was no part of my life where i was banging a
00:03:33.680 bunch of alphas it was worse i was banging losers yeah well that kind of backs my ex-husband being a
00:03:41.840 loser but but um it had nothing to do with that it's just being you know my i don't think my story 0.95
00:03:46.960 really is okay we don't know no no i just don't have to go too much into it i don't think it's typical
00:03:51.680 of the standard because i came from a very atypical situation and having absolutely zero exposure to men
00:03:57.920 and not knowing anything about the ways that there would be bad guys who try to get bad things out
00:04:01.840 of you like i didn't have evil intentions or bad intentions and i never really tried to get things
00:04:06.560 out of people um at an expense to them so it never occurred to me that anybody would be doing that
00:04:12.720 men or women you mean like gold digging or something
00:04:17.200 gold digging using for for different things um men can use women in different ways i think 1.00
00:04:23.600 then then women use men although some men do use women the same way you know for monetary stuff
00:04:29.200 which i've had the experience of um it just didn't occur to me you know i'm pretty like kind of up
00:04:36.080 front what you see is what you get i'm telling you what i'm thinking there's no ulterior motive or agenda
00:04:42.720 and that wasn't the case with what i was experiencing and i and i've seen that with a lot of men
00:04:47.760 you know like even you know when i was single when i became single as a comedian you know all these
00:04:52.800 comics who i've been known me for years i'm one of the guys right because i'm actually funny wrong
00:04:59.680 you're available now i'm gonna see how i can i get in there and sleep with you and you know it was 1.00
00:05:06.000 like oh yeah they'll always try it's so so you know but but i mean more than that right like presenting
00:05:12.320 yourself like i had the experience of a guy uh in my circle presenting himself as a suitor very aware
00:05:19.040 that i didn't have a reputation for you know whatever and so i well okay cool let's get to
00:05:25.200 know each other whatever and then he makes a move and i go whoa whoa i just want you to know like
00:05:29.840 outside of a relationship i'm not doing anything like this oh oh okay well you know i'm just not
00:05:37.760 ready to be in a relationship right now i was like oh okay cool shake your hand goodbye we'll
00:05:43.280 be friends and but no no no oh yeah i'm gonna be your friend and i'm still trying and i was like no
00:05:48.880 no i don't think you get it this isn't a negotiation but that's that's a lot of women kind of think like 1.00
00:05:55.520 okay maybe that's what he's saying but i can change his mind a lot of women do a lot of women do 1.00
00:06:00.800 change his mind oh yeah oh yeah i didn't well i wasn't that's a way like women get in the door with 1.00
00:06:05.200 men out of their league it's a strategy yeah well i thought it's not very good at it no i've seen it
00:06:10.720 in school um there was women i never thought would get relationships out of men that got children out 1.00
00:06:15.840 of them yeah his wife but but is that something that that ends up being good in the long run well
00:06:23.280 for some of them there's winners and losers in the game of love okay you know what i mean
00:06:27.200 so if a girl is a five or a six if she's a mid yeah the guy is an eight well what's what's a way to
00:06:32.560 when tyson eight you put yourself on sale jeez man i wish somebody had told me these strategies
00:06:39.520 if she's easy there's one girl i'm thinking of in particular i would put her at like a 5.56 maybe 1.00
00:06:45.040 for for our age yeah the guy she married was the best looking guy on the baseball team and for years
00:06:50.320 i thought he would never date her because it was like a situationship or whatever uh-huh five years
00:06:55.200 wow she just stuck around long enough geez it was likable enough now for every winner there's losers in 1.00
00:07:00.960 life i was gonna say like it doesn't work for everybody all i'm saying is it's a strategy for
00:07:06.400 women to get in the door with men that are out of their league is by i wish you had taught me these 0.69
00:07:12.080 strategies when i was younger because i i didn't have any of those on tiktok women admit to this stuff
00:07:18.640 man yeah i you know i hope i don't have a daughter i'm not gonna be able to teach her how to 1.00
00:07:24.000 do any of this stuff yeah um you know i don't know i don't know i i and i don't regret anything
00:07:30.240 actually because i'm happy you know and i think i found uh exactly the kind of person that's suited to
00:07:34.960 me and i'm grateful for that i have no right i had no right to expect any of that so to me that's
00:07:39.680 like a god shot you know that i'm like all right thank you