00:00:00.000We have lived in three different cities since being married.
00:00:02.140And in each of those places that we moved to, we had no friends prior to living there and no family that lived there.
00:00:07.600And we partially did this on purpose because what I have found is when you are trying to create a new identity.
00:00:13.660What you have found or what he has found?
00:00:16.100In three different cities since being married.
00:00:18.260And in each of those places that we moved to, we had no friends prior to living there and no family that lived there.
00:00:23.900And we partially did this on purpose because what I have found is when you are trying to create a new identity, you are trying to start a new life, you're trying to build something new.
00:00:33.520It is much harder to do so when you are surrounded by your old life.
00:00:37.660And when you move somewhere new where you know absolutely no one, it does a couple of things.
00:00:41.740Number one, it forces you to meet new people and connect with new people and build new friendships.
00:00:46.000And number two, it allows you to hyper focus on the vision that you and your spouse want to create.
00:00:52.720i think a lot of times the advice is okay once you get married you kind of want to settle down
00:00:56.880you want to be near your family you want to raise your kids with a village etc i have fully accepted
00:01:01.760the fact that i am not going to have a village when we have children i am not going to have help
00:01:07.040right down the street my parents aren't going to live right down the street we may not be able to
00:01:10.880go on as many date nights we may not be able to travel as much that's fine i'm going to embrace
00:01:14.800that season when it gets here but it is necessary for us to not have that village that's a sacrifice
00:01:20.800i'm willing to make because that decision was but do you see the point of this is to bring attention
00:01:25.200i'm so awesome it's just so insufferable i'm so awesome because i'm willing to make this look how
00:01:31.600great i am i mean required to become the people that we are now it was required for our growth
00:01:38.160it was so necessary look at us look at our relationship if i reflect back on the this
00:01:42.880divorce is going to be terrible for past two years of our marriage and where we started
00:01:47.760to where we are now the number one thing that i would tell someone is move away you and your
00:01:53.840husband move move away yeah um i would only say that if they're close to the mother get away from
00:02:00.800the mothers it will help you grow exponentially all right let's keep going