Pearl - Meet The Women Who Have GIVEN UP On Dating

00:00:00.000 the workout classes would help i don't understand how the ladies are having such trouble i think 1.00

00:00:03.920 women are just saying this for attention because even her she'll have a plethora of brown men 0.93

00:00:08.640 waiting you know better looking than hers what's up guys welcome to my reaction series today we're 0.98

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00:00:32.580 let's go if you've completely given up on dating i want you to listen to this about a year ago i

00:00:37.540 felt honestly hopeless like i was never going to meet anyone i was going on dates from dating apps

00:00:43.020 and the people i was meeting just weren't my vibe and it felt like such a waste of time it was so

00:00:47.960 discouraging all of my friends were getting married and i was a bridesmaid and i was going

00:00:52.480 on bachelorette trips and every single time i was like when is it going to happen for me and i kind

00:00:57.640 of spiraled into a place where I was viewing dating really negatively then I kind of realized

00:01:02.680 that if I wanted to find the person that I want to be with I had to become someone that that person

00:01:08.720 would want to be with and I knew I wasn't there yet so I decided to go all in and focus on myself

00:01:14.020 it started with three months and then it became five months and then it became six months and it

00:01:18.940 ended up being a seven month journey I lifted weights I prioritized my health I worked hard on

00:01:24.900 my anxiety and my nervous system i built routines yeah when women say i worked in my nervous system

00:01:30.560 it just means i got pumped and dumped too many times and now i get scared men will do it in the

00:01:35.420 future so it's a structure that i still live in i poured into my friendships my family my career

00:01:42.340 i really just focused on becoming the best most healthy any woman that looks like this giving

00:01:48.780 dating advice is, look, you didn't do anything because you're in the top 10 or 20% of women in

00:01:55.640 America, even at 29, because you're not fat. And American women are obese, overweight. So the fact 1.00

00:02:00.680 that you're blonde with light eyes and not fat, you didn't do anything. You just existed. And

00:02:05.640 Chad eventually found you. A version of Griffin that I possibly could. Whatever higher power you

00:02:10.220 believe in, I don't think we're given certain blessings until we are ready to receive them.

00:02:14.680 For me, I don't think I was ready for a relationship until I learned how to love

00:02:18.240 myself first until I became healthy griffin as my mom likes to call it could I have met someone

00:02:23.460 before then sure but I think it would have been another lesson rather than the person that I was

00:02:27.400 meant to be with so anyway two weeks after this seven month journey that I went on I met my now

00:02:33.280 boyfriend crazy to say see if he's on the on the page which young chad found you yep

00:02:40.700 I'm single I'm single I'm 29 and single I'm 29 and single

00:02:46.000 Well, Chad, there's a lot of men that look like that in Texas.

00:02:52.180 I'll tell you what, the mustache.

00:02:53.700 Okay, here we go.

00:02:54.300 It is so dry.

00:02:55.480 No men in the DM, no men on my text, no, because I have no-

00:02:58.580 A little bit overweight, honey. 0.99

00:02:59.960 There are men that are, there's probably black men in your DMs, if I'm being honest. 0.98

00:03:05.860 But yeah, you want the white boys, you're going to have to lose weight. 0.98

00:03:08.300 No abs. 0.99

00:03:09.180 I just stopped trying.

00:03:10.520 I guess that's what happens when you stop trying.

00:03:11.960 Everyone says, oh, oh, it's going to happen when you least expect it.

00:03:14.940 No, it's not.

00:03:16.000 because i don't expect it nothing's happening i couldn't expect it less it's gonna pop off and 0.99

00:03:20.660 it's that is stupid advice yeah because the girl before she found love because she's instagram and 0.92

00:03:26.260 like go to my workout classes and get super hot you know and live my life i guess like i give up 1.00

00:03:31.760 like i don't know what to do the workout classes would help i don't understand how the ladies are 1.00

00:03:35.700 having such trouble i think women are just saying this for attention because even her she'll have a 1.00

00:03:40.080 plethora of brown men waiting you know better looking than hers like i go out like i'm outside 0.70

00:03:45.440 i've been outside this summer nothing i just like don't know what to do about it honestly i'm just

00:03:50.540 like at a loss of like what to do because i'm like so type a and i thought that if i went on

00:03:55.240 like a million dates i would be guaranteed to like get a boyfriend but it didn't work

00:03:58.740 i still don't have a boyfriend i've been single for over five years and it genuinely can't be my

00:04:03.820 fault at this point like the self-improvement is self-improving mentally physically like emotionally

00:04:08.940 it's there i don't know what else to do besides just live my life i guess i actually enjoy being

00:04:14.660 single it's nice not to have to worry about anyone else but myself i love being able to use my time

00:04:19.300 for me it's it's my time it's my life in my late 20s i'm just really done giving my energy to men

00:04:26.020 because they don't care they genuinely do so we love i reward men that don't care unfortunately

00:04:31.620 that's um we just love them we love them more they're like we hate you and we're like i love you 0.99

00:04:37.140 we hate you i love you so much you know the date sucks right now it's not just because men suck 0.98

00:04:43.860 right now it's not just because people have no social awareness because of the pandemic you know 0.99

00:04:47.780 what it's because it's because we have to work so many jobs just to survive nobody has money

00:04:54.100 to take people out on dates nobody has time to take people out on dates and no one has energy

00:04:58.100 to take people out on dates and i'm like i'm sick of pretending that it's like just because people 0.93

00:05:02.180 suck like it people suck yeah but like it's mostly the no money no time and yeah i actually do agree 0.92

00:05:10.580 the economy is getting worse it is getting worse no energy and like yeah a portion of it is like 0.99

00:05:16.500 the manosphere and like all that stuff but like it's not everything i don't think the majority of

00:05:20.980 men are red-pilled thing like it's mostly because we have to work three jobs we have to be in school

00:05:25.300 to try to you know get better jobs so that we don't spend all of our money on rent and food

00:05:30.900 and then we're getting like six hours of sleep at night nobody's gonna be a wonderful person to be

00:05:34.660 around getting only six hours of sleep a night because they have to work all these jobs and do

00:05:38.180 do all the school to try to better our lives sorry for yelling at you you didn't do it yeah

00:05:42.020 okay let's keep going oh you're having a bad day let me tell you about what i just found out

00:05:48.080 so a few months ago i was talking to this guy and he was coming to hawaii anyway to do like a work

00:05:56.260 thing and he was like oh you're gonna be out there when i'm out there i'm gonna come a day early and

00:06:00.560 see you my cool awesome so he does and we end up seeing each other for like a few we saw it casually 1.00

00:06:10.640 because you have a neck tattoo and you maybe fell in love you know just because these women have 0.99

00:06:15.360 tattoos doesn't mean they can't fall in love with a ninja weeks like two months tops right

00:06:21.840 and he's just a terrible guy and i was like whatever i came back to hawaii to visit the

00:06:27.920 the same friend that I was coming to visit. To begin with, turns out, the guy I was talking

00:06:36.500 to hooked up with a girl in the airport on his way to come here to see me. What? That's

00:06:45.020 awesome. Who is this guy? I didn't know until now. See how she's smiling? Women love this

00:06:54.120 stuff i'm gonna call the irs and tell them that there's a certain someone that didn't pay his 1.00

00:07:01.520 taxes this year do you know what that is why you don't want to do women too dirty because women 1.00

00:07:07.160 will ruin your life after women don't for we hold grudges so you don't want women trying to kill 1.00

00:07:12.260 your ass truly it's like it's terrible i hate it i hate it i hate it and i hate that it's the only 1.00

00:07:20.560 way to like get married because you are so fat like you ma'am you should not even talk about 1.00

00:07:26.000 dating right now there's no reason for you to be going on a date you need to fix your your fatness 0.99

00:07:32.140 i understand look i i struggle with weight just like the rest of us but you gotta you gotta fix 1.00

00:07:37.520 this problem ma'am stupid straight stupid like i'm sorry i was under the impression that cruel 0.99

00:07:47.220 and unusual punishment was illegal in the United States of America apparently not because it 1.00

00:07:52.820 happens to me every single time I go on a date yeah the bad dates far and away far and away

00:08:01.300 outweigh the good ones so love this for me um I'm about to just tell my parents arrange marriage

00:08:12.540 truly because like i would feel sorry for whoever got an arranged marriage and you showed up you

00:08:19.020 are so fat you're way too big look at the top comment you know what would dramatically change

00:08:25.180 your experiences losing weight will make dating options more available but the result is still 0.56

00:08:30.560 the same deal so don't center men center yourself it's like i can't keep doing this i can't keep

00:08:36.560 doing there's jamaican men out there that will risk it all for you yes i can't keep taking these

00:08:43.040 hits okay i'm not strong enough um i hate the weight comments yes losing weight ups the quality

00:08:50.520 of men but not the quality of men as if being smaller is the gateway to finding your person

00:08:54.700 it literally is so that's fun but it's the difference between black men and white men 0.81

00:08:59.040 one day i'll be rich and famous and he'll be a loser still so it's you know rich they're not 0.67

00:09:05.160 going to care if you're rich and famous trust me i've been both and men do not care they care if

00:09:10.480 you're thin 33 and i'm giving up on dating and it's not in the way that you think i'm giving up

00:09:15.060 on dating in the sense that i'm giving up the whole idea that every time i walk into this means

00:09:19.660 she just got pumped and dumped by an alpha so and she's taken one too many maybe she can't even get 0.79

00:09:25.520 their attention anymore that's the sad day when women that are older like are basically they're 0.98

00:09:31.380 so mean to alphas because they're begging for their attention they're like please pay attention 0.55

00:09:36.120 to me and the guys are paying attention to the 22 year olds and 23 you know it's a sad day you know

00:09:41.300 look i'm not quite invisible yet but i'm on my way there right and you you walk into a room 0.99

00:09:47.180 sometimes and there's women that are 22 that just mog the fuck out of you and they're they 1.00

00:09:51.720 could be chubby and still mog the fuck out of you and it just is what it is you just eat that l and 0.99

00:09:55.880 you move on and you know but women you know don't say you're not going to de-center men if anything 0.98

00:10:00.900 if you want to get into a relationship you got to center the man more than a 22 year old

00:10:04.840 because i'll tell you what men would prefer 22 year olds always and and if there's a 22 year

00:10:11.680 old that's in the same position like you know um how do i put it men sometimes pick older women

00:10:18.460 because they're more humble than they have less of an attitude a lot of the 22 year olds now are

00:10:22.440 kind of drunk on power but if you're not going to humble yourself then you're cooked room i have to

00:10:26.800 scan the whole room and look for somebody and that I'm not good enough without a partner and

00:10:30.920 that I need to do all these things in order to fix myself so that I can become good enough for

00:10:36.840 a partner. I'm giving up that whole idea that I am not enough just as I am. What I'm not giving up

00:10:44.380 on is love. Some people are going to sit here and say that you can't replace romantic love with

00:10:49.400 familial and friendship love. It's like different. It's a different kind of love and absolutely you're

00:10:53.200 right that's when women switch to betas it's around 33 yeah i mean women are holding out as

00:10:58.980 long as possible but of love and the yearning that you have for that kind of romantic relationship

00:11:04.080 is a different kind of yearning do i know what life is going to look like and do i know what

00:11:07.900 the outcome is going to be am i going to find a forever person i don't know that well okay you

00:11:12.320 can't really find a forever person after a certain age because forever's already gone by you met

00:11:17.000 halfway through life like a forever person is when you're young and if you didn't do it young

00:11:22.500 then well i don't know that but what i do know is that i love being me and i love spending time

00:11:29.040 with me and just by being me i have made so many new friendships i have made so many different new

00:11:36.400 connections i've allowed myself to put myself out there friendships will be gone as soon as you get

00:11:41.060 a boyfriend or anything happy happens for you in situations where i am uncomfortable taking that

00:11:45.680 time to get to know me and figure out me and be myself has allowed me to step into places where

00:11:51.380 I am uncomfortable but I also know that I trust myself and that energy that I have tapped into

00:11:57.340 allows me to be myself everywhere that I am and when I am myself I naturally attract people that

00:12:04.280 are more like me and are more aligned to me and therefore it's almost created this like

00:12:09.900 assurance that I know that I will meet somebody whether or not that's my forever person I don't

00:12:15.120 know but I know I'll get into another relationship I know I'll fall in love again I know this is

00:12:19.660 going to happen again for me because as i this is the cope so she's coping because she has to 0.95

00:12:25.620 switch to betas and no woman woman wants to so anyways all right guys let me know what you think 1.00

00:12:30.600 of the comments i love you thank you so much for watching like the videos and i'll see you next time

Pearl - August 10, 2026

Meet The Women Who Have GIVEN UP On Dating

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