Pearl - August 11, 2026


Wanting to Be A Good Person Is Destroying Society


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Length

9 minutes

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172.05

Word count

1,664

Sentence count

31

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Misogyny

5

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Toxicity

10

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Hate speech

12

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00:00:00.000 All right, what's up, guys? So I wanted to talk about how the need to feel like a good person
00:00:06.040 tortures everybody. And I feel like there has to be a philosopher that's talked about this.
00:00:14.020 Okay, so I live in downtown Dallas. And I live in a neighborhood that's right by a church.
00:00:21.480 And in the church, although it is a liberal church, they feed a lot of the homeless people.
00:00:26.540 it. So there's some probably white women, let's just keep it a book, um, that decided they want 0.95
00:00:32.840 to feel like good people. So today we're going to feed the homeless and that need to feel like a 1.00
00:00:40.400 good person is torturing everybody because I'll just walk and there's crackheads everywhere.
00:00:45.700 My friend, um, he, him and his pregnant wife watched, um, a dude jack off in front of their
00:00:54.380 house like a homeless dude and the police don't really do much and these this church it's like
00:01:01.960 you're torturing everybody now we all have to deal with these homeless people and i bet you guys don't
00:01:07.700 even live here you probably drive to the church go home feel like a good person okay that's that's
00:01:14.280 story number one story number two um a person i know i'm gonna change the details but basically
00:01:20.300 there's a person I know that kind of insinuated I was racist or like that I can't say the things
00:01:28.400 that I say about black people you know how they commit crimes and you know I'm a different type
00:01:32.560 of racist because I actually like black people genuinely we get along really well but I just 1.00
00:01:39.160 know what happens when they get together I used to live in a really black area and unfortunately 1.00
00:01:45.180 I ended up losing a lot of money, time, energy, resources, because I gave black people the benefit 0.99
00:01:52.140 of the doubt. It's like a whole thing. So regardless, regardless, this person takes in 1.00
00:02:00.920 this like kid with kind of a sketchy background. And I tell him, I'm like, look, this is going to
00:02:05.320 go bad. My family took in three kids that had pretty sketchy backgrounds. And one was okay.
00:02:11.660 but one really screwed us and I told him I'm like this is how it's gonna go he's from a single 0.99
00:02:17.840 mother home I promise to God this kid is going to commit a crime he's going to it's not if it's 1.00
00:02:24.200 when he will commit a crime now I thought that I thought that this um this kid was just gonna rob
00:02:31.640 him I thought it was just gonna be like a robbery you know that's kind of what happened to me
00:02:36.800 But it actually turns out that he, um, that this kid was actually murdering animals in the woods.
00:02:49.740 Murdering animals in the woods.
00:02:51.820 And that the police said that he was on track to, like, be a serial killer.
00:02:55.680 That's how a lot of it starts.
00:02:57.340 Um, and now he's, like, arrested and he knows where this my friend lives and, like, all this stuff.
00:03:04.140 And I'm thinking, dude, that that need to feel like a good person has now tortured everyone around you because, you know, you brought this kid in.
00:03:13.380 Now your family is, you know, in danger and yada, yada, yada.
00:03:18.360 And I don't know what the solution to this is, because I don't know.
00:03:26.420 I don't know what the solution is to this, but it just seems like there's a lot of torture.
00:03:30.100 And that comes because of, especially white people, our need to feel like good people.
00:03:35.640 I can transcend that to, I grew up in a Catholic-like conservative area. 0.63
00:03:41.400 And so many of the fathers just enabled the mothers torturing everybody,
00:03:47.060 giving them time, attention, resources to torture all of us with.
00:03:53.000 You know, and because the fathers have this need to feel like a good dad 0.98
00:03:58.480 and be supportive and all that's bullshit right right it wouldn't be bullshit if it worked but 0.92
00:04:03.880 um you know now they're torturing all of us and it's like the circle of torture 0.81
00:04:10.700 um I also thought about how when I was growing up this is kind of related kind of not my favorite
00:04:20.660 coach I ever had was a coach that screamed at me and yelled at me all the time but I improved
00:04:28.940 well okay wait let me let me backtrack so I was a big volleyball player and I started off at the
00:04:35.080 worst team in my club there's black red white and I was on 15 white when I started and I was a
00:04:40.260 bench warmer and every year I worked my way up to the next team so like I remember I was on I didn't
00:04:48.300 know 14 white I was a bench warmer 15 white I got to play um then I made 16 red and the coaches and
00:04:56.140 it was a really big deal because I finally jumped teams and for me that was the hardest jump and um
00:05:01.780 when I was on um when I was on that team the coaches were really like they would scream at 1.00
00:05:11.140 you and yell at you and they're my favorite coaches I ever had I don't know women are 0.97
00:05:14.640 glutton for punishment but I've noticed a lot of coaches that are really beloved actually are not 0.68
00:05:20.480 nice to their um to the people they coach they yell at them they scream at them but there's
00:05:25.860 someone there's something about somebody that makes you earn it or is very stern and strict
00:05:33.080 with you that almost signals that they care more because they don't care about being liked
00:05:39.240 they don't care about being nice they care about you getting better um and I remember those coaches
00:05:46.080 they were pretty harsh to me but it helped me become like better um the next year I was a
00:05:52.940 starter on that team and the year after I made it to um 18 black and that was a big deal for me
00:05:58.480 because I started at the bottom.
00:06:08.500 And it's just something that I've noticed
00:06:10.540 that people's need to be,
00:06:13.480 and I think people's need to be liked
00:06:16.340 and to be a good person comes from the mother
00:06:18.200 because all of us had our mothers torture us.
00:06:21.880 I mean, I'm a millennial.
00:06:22.820 I think across the board,
00:06:24.040 millennial mothers are the mothers of millennial,
00:06:26.980 like Gen X women. 1.00
00:06:27.700 just torture like I remember growing up my mom was always always worried about our reputation 1.00
00:06:34.080 always worried about you like embarrassing her or saying something and I think that kind of
00:06:38.740 programs you to really care about what other people think um but there's something that's
00:06:49.220 actually kind about someone that doesn't care what you think and they just want you to get better
00:06:53.280 like okay I went to this bar the other day um I do open mics occasionally and
00:07:00.320 there was a woman talking about like dieting right
00:07:03.960 and I'm like I basically like I'm so into the fitness stuff I could be a personal trainer
00:07:10.940 honestly or coach um and she had some excuse about why she's fat and I was just like
00:07:18.400 girl no you gotta that's not an excuse it's actually easy because she's saying she ate out
00:07:24.000 all the time and I'm like girl it's actually easier like some of my best cuts I only ate out
00:07:29.100 she's like oh I can only eat bar food I'm like well you can get chicken breast it actually makes
00:07:34.420 it easier because you don't have to you know and I thought she was gonna get mad but I think
00:07:39.840 there's such a lack of like that in society where you're just being real with people and real with
00:07:45.000 yourself because my friend um when he got screwed for letting the kids stay with him
00:07:49.540 we know what race it what the kid was you know what I mean um I said you know why you're mad 0.88
00:07:55.840 you're mad because deep down you knew this kid was going to screw you and you weren't honest with
00:08:00.960 yourself and because and I can tell you because it happened to me because you know there were signs 0.60
00:08:06.900 that I was going to get screwed by people that robbed me and I did all this stuff to me in
00:08:13.540 england and i wasn't honest maybe part of it i think is like you don't know we both grew up my
00:08:21.060 friend in a high trust area so where we're from benefit of the doubt is like appreciated there's
00:08:27.060 good things maybe that come of it but in the real world it just does not work so i think that
00:08:33.680 the rarest thing in society is people that can be honest regardless of how you react
00:08:41.900 and those are the real kind people it's not really the people that are trying to feel good
00:08:47.220 about themselves because the people that do that always end up enabling and torturing everybody
00:08:53.140 involved you know it's it's the dad that says no that's not good enough not the dad that says it's 0.97
00:08:58.800 not your fault because the dad that says it's not your fault and don't judge and all this bullshit 0.98
00:09:04.260 he's dumb enough to listen to women because women came up with that um and the dad that says be 0.98
00:09:11.100 accountable for your actions that's the one that matters i guess that's the one that raises good 0.98
00:09:15.800 kids so anyways all right guys let me know what you think in the comments um i like doing these
00:09:21.140 when i get my steps so i know some of you were saying you wish i could hold the camera higher
00:09:26.000 but the problem is when i when i do that um it's kind of awkward when i walk by people so i'd rather
00:09:32.620 it be a little more discreet so anyways if it makes me ugly i'm sorry but whatever all right
00:09:38.140 Guys, like the video, subscribe, I'll see you next time.