Pearl - May 22, 2026


Men Like Spending Time With Women But Women Don’t Like Spending Time With Men


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Length

8 minutes

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144.95825

Word count

1,163

Sentence count

50

Harmful content

Misogyny

12

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Toxicity

7

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Hate speech

17

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00:00:00.800 What's going on guys? Welcome to my morning coffee talks. Today I have a grande iced hiracha
00:00:08.260 oat shake and espresso. It's not the healthiest, I won't lie. I kind of fell, kind of fell,
00:00:16.400 but it is what it is. So today I was thinking about how I think that men crave more time
00:00:26.080 with women than women crave with men. And I was thinking my own personal experience
00:00:32.240 is especially when women are young, women don't really have time for a full-time relationship 0.98
00:00:40.080 because a full-time relationship is like you're seeing each other every other day or at least 1.00
00:00:46.820 maybe three or four days a week. I would say that is the time commitment of a relationship in general.
00:00:52.920 um like for example if you marry somebody that travels for work they're usually there the whole
00:01:00.760 weekend so when women are young um we tend to have female brunches we tend to have um
00:01:08.960 you know like for me it was like a really intense volleyball schedule and unless
00:01:15.400 you're dating somebody that does that same hobby which does happen right usually you don't have
00:01:21.200 enough time for like a full blown relationship. And I think that's actually part of the reason
00:01:26.500 women get cheated on when women are young is because they're only seeing, they're only making 1.00
00:01:31.340 enough time for the guy, like one, maybe two days a week. And so like, that's not really a full time 0.95
00:01:39.220 girlfriend. And I have a friend who, um, as long as I've known him, he's always had like two or
00:01:46.680 three girlfriends. And I asked him how many days a week he's spending time with like the girlfriends.
00:01:54.220 And he said four or five days a week, he hangs out with like each of his girlfriends. And I
00:01:58.840 thought about it. I'm like, that is a lot of time. And I don't think women generally want to spend
00:02:07.480 that much time with men. But I think men want to spend that much time with women. 0.95
00:02:11.540 and then I thought about it even further if you like um look at mother's day posts 0.67
00:02:19.320 mothers are always talking about how they want time like away from their families and you just
00:02:27.060 don't my hands getting tired you just like don't see men do that like they don't really feel like
00:02:32.380 they need a break from their families like they enjoy and get joy out of their families and
00:02:38.820 spending time around women. And I thought about it even more. Women constantly tell men that they
00:02:46.080 can't go to their girls' nights, right? They constantly tell men like, I don't want you at 1.00
00:02:51.020 my girls' nights. The beauty salon is for us. And to be fair, I don't think men like are dying to go 0.85
00:02:58.540 into those spaces. But I think there's a reason that men let women into work or like men let women 0.98
00:03:06.180 into all their spaces is because men actually like being around women 0.98
00:03:12.820 I think they kind of hate what comes with women right
00:03:17.660 the nagging the complaining but men they like us so much that they completely filter themselves
00:03:30.300 when they're around us and we don't even have like the decency to filter ourselves around men
00:03:36.160 and like not post all of our embarrassing stuff on the internet, you know? Um, so I don't know,
00:03:45.000 in my experience, like, I think men want to spend more time with women than women want to spend with 0.66
00:03:52.320 men. And women always say that men are just like using them for sex. And again, I have a friend, 0.99
00:03:59.700 um, as long as I've known this guy, I knew him from like the PUA stuff, always has had like two
00:04:05.980 or three girlfriends. So I know, I know guys that do that, but in all honesty, I think
00:04:12.780 that more women use men for sex than men use women for sex. I think men want relationships 0.96
00:04:23.960 more than women. And it's all inverted. Like everything that women say men want, women 0.80
00:04:32.020 want. Um, women are always saying that men are going to leave them. Sorry. Airplane. 1.00
00:04:46.160 Airplane, airplane. Okay. Women are always saying that like men are going to leave them
00:04:51.040 high and dry after a baby. And I'm like, no, women leave men high and dry after a baby. 1.00
00:04:57.140 like women use the men for the sex get the sperm and then leave them after 0.97
00:05:02.620 like men enjoy women's presence so much that even throughout a sexless marriage like they're 0.92
00:05:14.340 willing to stay like they'll get absolutely nothing but nagging belittling um and just
00:05:23.600 terrible treatment in a relationship and they'll stay and a lot of people say they stay because
00:05:28.760 oh well it's the law or whatever and I'm like no I don't think it's just that I think it's like
00:05:33.980 on some level men just really really like having a woman around and I thought about it even further
00:05:42.020 I'm like even sex workers who their one job is like to have sex with men they'll all tell you
00:05:50.220 Some of their top, like, clients are, like, married guys who don't even, like, they're in sexless marriages.
00:06:01.760 Airplane.
00:06:03.740 And they don't even want sex.
00:06:05.960 They just want, like, a woman to listen to them.
00:06:10.840 Now, I think men. 0.97
00:06:13.740 now I'm a little bit torn because one of my thought processes is like men can be alone
00:06:22.640 in the woods and like go camping and they don't really like groups as much but I don't know it
00:06:30.620 just seems like men crave women's presence and like affection more than vice versa even though
00:06:39.040 they say like like I remember I was talking to an older woman who was like trying to date in her
00:06:44.020 50s right and even at that age I was like shocked at the amount of choice she had because she was
00:06:50.200 like an in-shape 50 year old woman and even at that age she's like telling me that she doesn't 0.88
00:06:58.460 really want to take away time from her current schedule to like see a man like she doesn't want
00:07:05.280 to take away time from seeing her kids or like, you know, X, Y, Z. And I'm thinking,
00:07:11.460 okay, what's left? So you just want to have sex with him. So I think women, 1.00
00:07:20.740 oh my gosh. I think women are projecting, let women use men for sex and say that men want to 1.00
00:07:32.260 use them for sex. And I think this kind of goes back to the polygamy thing. I was thinking just 0.99
00:07:39.800 like pragmatic, not saying I'd want to do it kind of makes sense because women only want to spend 0.99
00:07:46.380 one or two days a week with a man or men want to spend like five to seven days a week with a woman 0.95
00:07:52.560 around. So anyways, maybe I'm wrong. If you think I'm wrong, put it in the comments. I'm just kind
00:07:58.260 of spitballing, like the video, subscribe, and I'll see you next time.