Pearl - November 27, 2024


Modern Women LOVE to Destroy MEN'S Hobbies ｜ Pearl Daily


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14 minutes

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291

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15

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Toxicity

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In this episode, I talk about a situation where a woman told me it's time for me to go back to school and how I dealt with it. I also talk about why I decided to leave my 9-5 job in order to pursue my dreams.

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00:00:00.000 The argument that conservatives make is that men make more because of women and that the men just
00:00:06.500 need a woman to tame them and just make them better men. And from my experience, that wasn't 1.00
00:00:12.980 the case. The case that I have seen is that if they make more money, the woman is spending it. 1.00
00:00:19.000 And oftentimes women are more of a distraction to men than a benefit in 2024. So I want to watch 1.00
00:00:30.000 this day to talk about this. But this guy got divorced over Yu-Gi-Oh! 0.88
00:00:34.680 I need to say this. Let me just say it straight out.
00:00:37.440 And by the way, this is this seems like a Christian guy. He's got, I can do anything through God
00:00:41.880 who strengthens me. Seems like a Christian guy.
00:00:44.820 Wait, I am no longer married and I'm divorced. When I met this woman and I told her about my
00:00:50.220 Yu-Gi-Oh! stuff, she hated it.
00:00:51.780 Okay, so he was, to give preface, he was a Yu-Gi-Oh! YouTuber.
00:00:55.720 She said that, hey, you can do something better with your life. You should go back to school.
00:00:59.940 So you know what I did back in 2016? 17, 16? I said, you know what? Maybe she's right.
00:01:05.620 You know what I did? I sold all my equipment. I sold my YouTube channel. I sold all my camera
00:01:11.360 stuff. I'm like, you know what? Maybe it is time to move on. Maybe it's time for me to
00:01:14.840 do something better with my life. Not knowing that at that time, what I had was very special.
00:01:20.020 At that time, something that I chose to do, YouTube, I had something going on. Even though
00:01:24.800 I had some drama and stuff going on before and I shut that drama channel a few times,
00:01:29.180 I had something that I completely gave up. I gave it up because someone said, hey, you
00:01:34.480 know what? Maybe it is time to move on. You got to do something better with your life.
00:01:37.320 There's got to be something more for your life. And I sold all my stuff for a woman and 1.00
00:01:41.400 she's no longer here. And this problem persists. She told me at that time, hey, you want to
00:01:46.260 meet my mother? You need a car. Because I didn't have a car at the time. I was doing YouTube.
00:01:50.800 I was working from home. So she's saying spend more money. Because men are practical. He
00:01:56.100 said, I don't need a car. Why do I need a car? I need to drive anywhere. Yes, YouTube is what
00:02:02.000 I did for a living. How I paid my bills. And I was street performing also. How did I street
00:02:07.180 perform? I just catch the bus 20 minutes down the street, played my horn, went home. I never
00:02:11.820 needed a car. But when I met this woman, you have to go back to school. You have to exercise. 1.00
00:02:17.420 You have to get your degree. You have to do something better with your life. Even though
00:02:20.780 I explained to her, this is what I chose to do. A woman comes in your life and trying 1.00
00:02:25.440 to tell you the plan that you chose for your life is wrong. And out of love, I choose to
00:02:30.660 say, you know what? Maybe she's right. And I took a chance. I said, you know what? I'm
00:02:35.060 going to give this up completely. Like for good. Sold the channel to Jobber. Sold all my stuff.
00:02:40.080 Tried to go back to school multiple times. I don't want to say that I can't finish school.
00:02:45.800 But it certainly feels like I can't. I don't know what it is. And every time I talk to people,
00:02:50.660 they just think that everything I say is just an excuse. You are a grown man. You are an adult.
00:02:57.020 You can do it. It's like no one can see it from my perspective. It's like I am always wrong.
00:03:03.620 When I study, what do I do? I fall asleep. What do they say? Hey, you're lazy. You're
00:03:08.360 procrastinating. You're choosing not to do this. And I'm like, that's got to be something wrong with
00:03:12.800 me. When it comes to school, studying and staying on task and staying focused, I just can't do it.
00:03:19.460 And I try. And I go back to school. And I pay all this money. And I pay all this money.
00:03:24.300 And I fail. And I fail. And I fail. And I fail. Music has always been there for me. And I've
00:03:29.500 always been great at it. People say that, hey, they try to test me. They say, hey, you know music,
00:03:34.480 right? You know this person? No. You know this person? No. You know this person? No. How are you a
00:03:38.660 musician? I also get people say to me, hey, what kids this is? I say, I don't know. They say, well,
00:03:44.280 how are you playing? How are you a musician? How do you play so well? I am not the type of person
00:03:49.320 who is book smart. And remember, a lot of men feel like that because the school system caters to
00:03:56.580 women. It's run by women. And women tend to be better at like regurgitating information back to you. 1.00
00:04:03.220 They're better at things like showing up to class. So they have more emphasis on things that don't
00:04:08.820 really matter as much. Where men, you know, before I think it was the 70s or the 80s,
00:04:13.980 the school system was just straight tests. You take the test. Can you do it? So if guys don't see it
00:04:19.540 as useful to show up to class, they just won't come. Women will come anyway. So a lot of men go 1.00
00:04:25.240 through the school system and think that they're dumb or whatever because they don't learn like women. 1.00
00:04:32.160 I don't know things, but I know how to do things. I know how to do things physically in a creative 0.96
00:04:38.240 way. I'm not a type of person who retains things and hold on to things, who can read a book and then
00:04:43.640 take a test, pass it and go on. That's not me. I am a creative mind, creative minded person.
00:04:50.740 Anything that involves creativity, I can do. So he's saying, I know how to do things. I don't know
00:04:56.060 these theories, all this stuff. I just do it, right? That's much more like men. That's, you know, 0.99
00:05:01.580 that's much more how men operate. At least to some degree where people are like,
00:05:06.540 why are you doing so well? You ever thought about going to school? I tried. It doesn't work. So
00:05:11.220 this is all tying together. I met the parents. They asked me, hey, what do you do for a living?
00:05:17.100 I had to tell them I am a musician. I didn't, I couldn't tell them I was a street musician.
00:05:22.860 I am a musician. Then they said, hey, you have a degree? I said, I don't have a degree.
00:05:27.720 My wife's parents did not speak to me for two years and told her not to marry me because I don't
00:05:34.880 have a degree. What sense does that make? So I give up this YouTube thing. I give up my
00:05:39.160 entrepreneurial thing. I try to do something that's not innately a part of my strengths at all
00:05:44.860 because I'm thinking I'm in love to do something for somebody to prove something. And this continues
00:05:50.440 on through the marriage. She says, hey, you need to find a hobby. I'm like, oh, let me play
00:05:55.520 Yu-Gi-Oh again. So last December, last year, I start my channel up again. I buy my channel
00:06:01.200 back from Java. Oh, she gave me the LK to go into a hobby. You know what she said? You're
00:06:05.740 spending too much time playing those cards. It's either the cards or me. She literally
00:06:09.740 said that. I like, you just said, I need a hobby. I get into a hobby. And now you said
00:06:13.720 I'm doing it too much. What is it?
00:06:16.180 So I don't know what it is, but again, this is something I found out from men. They get married
00:06:22.520 and women hate whatever their hobby is and try to destroy it. So for some women, it's video games. 1.00
00:06:27.760 They just can't let the men enjoy their video games. Other women, it's football. They can't 1.00
00:06:32.560 let the men enjoy their football. You know, ladies, we have stupid hobbies too. I mean, 1.00
00:06:37.340 we like the Kardashians and the men, they don't care. They say, okay, go watch that brain rot TV.
00:06:43.260 It's not my problem. That's our thing. We like makeup tutorial. You know, I like women's sports, 1.00
00:06:49.000 even though nobody watches them. That's fun to me. I like playing. You know, so many men go into
00:06:53.900 marriage thinking it's the thing that Matt Walsh is saying, right? Or Ben Shapiro saying. And they
00:07:00.320 get into this reality where this woman is trying to change who she is. And then they're saying, 0.60
00:07:05.680 well, you just picked the wrong woman. Maybe he did. But do you think that he should be put on
00:07:10.600 lifetime alimony for picking the wrong? Like, doesn't everyone make mistakes when they're young?
00:07:15.040 Doesn't that happen? She says, why are you into those cards so much? I said, hey, I need to make
00:07:19.640 a video about something. And I haven't played this card game for two years. On and off, how can I make
00:07:24.900 a video for my subscribers about something I have no knowledge of? And I try to explain it to her,
00:07:29.960 but she don't get it. She thinks it's just cards. They said, it's literally doesn't matter what it is.
00:07:34.220 The problem is the attention is not on her and she isn't interested in it and lacks the personality 0.97
00:07:39.040 and thinks it needs to be about the status. Play like Una. It's not that way. Every three months,
00:07:44.520 a new set come out, new stuff come out. I can't make a video about something if I don't know what
00:07:49.060 it's about. I can't start my channel back up and just start making videos. I have to be in it. I
00:07:53.660 have to learn about it and learn what's going on. And this just broke my heart because she's trying 0.98
00:07:59.720 to mold him into something he's just not. He's not the normal nine to five guy. And I was looking at
00:08:04.840 his channel. I don't know anything about Yu-Gi-Oh! So I have no idea what his stuff was, but I saw the views
00:08:10.540 that he used to get 10 years ago and they were crazy. They were really, really high. And because
00:08:16.060 he wanted to do the right thing, he gave that up for her. And this is what switched my mind on no
00:08:22.120 fault divorce. Should he be subject to that woman for the rest of his life that ruins anything he's 0.88
00:08:28.400 interested in? I don't think so. You know, the idea of banning divorce, I used to say that, right?
00:08:33.300 It's interesting in theory, but in practice, I don't think men like that should be punished
00:08:38.640 for life for picking the wrong woman. Cut your losses, you know?
00:08:41.940 So she hated those cards. She literally cried because of those cards. And people say, hey,
00:08:47.900 priorities, man. It's your wife or, you know, you got to do what you got to do. But then I'll be back
00:08:52.520 at that point where I'm giving up things that I like, things that's a part of my life for someone
00:08:57.980 else to feel happy. And I feel miserable in the process. I'm sitting there watching all these
00:09:03.640 YouTubers come out and make videos and do all this stuff. They're traveling. I'm like,
00:09:07.460 that's what I used to do. I love that. I miss that.
00:09:10.160 And you can just tell he's so passionate about it, right? You can tell that it's not even about
00:09:15.760 the money for him. He just likes Yu-Gi-Oh!
00:09:17.960 Why can't she come along with my journey instead of scrutinizing me? And then that's money gone
00:09:22.340 from me. It's not about the money, but that was money gone from me. Then street performing. I said to
00:09:28.300 her, hey, I don't want to move away from Baltimore. You might be thinking, why? That's where my home base
00:09:34.660 is. My gigs, my performances, everything. Keep in mind, I didn't have a job. Like when I say I don't
00:09:39.980 have a job, like a real job. A real job is, you know, going in nine to five. I didn't have a real
00:09:45.720 job for over 10 years. It was YouTube and playing my horn. That's how I paid all my bills. So when
00:09:51.580 we got married and we moved out to Baltimore to somewhere else that I didn't want to be, she said,
00:09:55.860 hey, how come you're not paying the bills? And I was like, what? I have a job. I have a nine to five
00:10:00.380 job. I don't make enough from this nine to five job to pay all these bills. That's the other thing
00:10:05.500 the tribes will say, well, have a stay at home. Why? You're not a real man. If you can't pay all 1.00
00:10:10.100 the bill. Well, not all the men that are doing the infrastructure jobs of this country are paid
00:10:16.120 enough to deal with the modern woman's spending habits. And they can't tell her stop spending, 0.95
00:10:22.540 right? We have credit cards now. What is the man supposed to do? I could street performing and YouTube.
00:10:28.240 I made enough money off of that to pay the bills. Now I'm working nine to five all day long. And
00:10:33.260 that's not a complaint because there are people who do that. But I had something that most people
00:10:37.040 wish they had. Most people wish they can go out, make some money, pay their bills and have all day
00:10:42.340 off. That was a gift. That was something that I had. Now you can take this video of me complaining,
00:10:49.440 crying, I messed up. It is all of that. It is true. I am complaining. I am hurt. I made some
00:10:58.120 mistakes. I did some dumb things. And you're right. It is my fault. I chose to sell my channel. 0.97
00:11:07.240 I chose to give up the thing. Not realizing, you know what? This is my YouTube channel.
00:11:13.240 This is my life. You can't come into my life and dictate to me and tell me what's better for me
00:11:20.200 because you don't see it from my perspective. And they get mad at me when I lose all of those
00:11:26.080 things. I can't do what you think I should do. I've never been that way. It's like you're trying
00:11:30.340 to tell me to run a race with no legs. You're trying to tell me to do something that I innately
00:11:35.240 just cannot do. And when I say I can't do that. It's interesting. My dad always said to focus on what
00:11:41.560 you're good at and to not really try to get good at what you're bad at and just outsource it if you
00:11:46.600 can. Again, she's trying to make him into something that he just isn't. In two weeks,
00:11:50.940 I'll be moving out. I'll have my own place again. I'm starting over, starting my life over. And you
00:11:55.540 guys know I couldn't make videos in the house. The only time I can make YouTube videos is when she's
00:12:00.540 gone. And you might be thinking, well, why is that? She would come in here from my room and say,
00:12:04.580 hey, you're too loud. Hey, I'm trying to read. I'm like, wait, what? I got to make a, I got to talk.
00:12:11.020 I got to make a video. I'm disturbing her. And yes, I'm venting and I'm ranting. If you stay this long,
00:12:16.360 thank you. But I needed to get this off my chest because it was brewing. Deeply hurt. And I hurt
00:12:20.780 myself. I don't blame her at all. Everything that I've chosen to do is because I wanted to do it.
00:12:27.440 I wanted to make someone happy. I thought I can be that person for someone else. And I thought I
00:12:32.520 can do it. I thought I can get away from YouTube and Yu-Gi-Oh and Street Performer. I thought I can
00:12:36.540 go back to school and pass and get a real job and make some good money to pay all my bills. I thought
00:12:41.660 I could be that man who could do those things. But the truth is I have special gifts and
00:12:46.340 talents that other people wish they had to be able to make money and do things in ways
00:12:51.280 people wish they could. It's ironic, isn't it? It's ironic that I wish that I can go to
00:12:56.520 school and work a non-job all day long to pay all my bills. It's ironic that I want to do
00:13:02.060 what people hate to do. They hate to go in and live a mundane life. They hate that. They
00:13:06.940 want to have their own business. They want to make their own money. They want to have that
00:13:09.440 free time. I had that. Literally, I would work three hours a day and have enough at the end
00:13:13.680 of the month to pay all my bills and do whatever I need and travel. But that wasn't good enough
00:13:17.700 for the person I was with. It wasn't secured enough. What if you didn't make enough was the
00:13:22.440 question. What about medical bills? What about this? What about that? What about retirement?
00:13:25.700 What about all the stuff? I truly want to do YouTube full-time, not for a living. Yes,
00:13:30.720 money comes along with it. And yes, my channel is dead, but I'll do it as a hobby because I like
00:13:35.640 doing it and I can't give it up. I've made a video about not giving up before. I said I would
00:13:40.180 never give up. I just can't. I enjoy making videos. I enjoy playing Yu-Gi-Oh! I enjoy being
00:13:46.040 with my friends and doing those things, even at this age, even 15 years later.
00:13:50.840 This broke my heart to watch because you could just tell how passionate he was about his hobbies
00:13:57.300 and how much he liked it. And I don't know why society, and I even see conservatives do this.
00:14:02.880 They shame men for playing video games when Elon Musk is the number five Diablo player in the world.
00:14:08.660 I don't even know what Diablo is. I know it's some sort of video game. And if the men like it,
00:14:13.920 why do the women have to tear down at the things they like and change him into something he's not? 0.96
00:14:19.880 And we always hear women say that if he found me in the club, he can't tell me to stop going. 0.94
00:14:25.660 Why do women think it's okay to tell men what they can and can't do? All right, guys, 0.95
00:14:29.740 make sure you like the video on your way out and subscribe. And if you have any questions for this
00:14:34.140 guy, he's coming on the channel on Wednesday. The show starts at 3 central as normal, but he's
00:14:38.740 coming on at 3 30. Like the video and subscribe. And thank you guys so much for watching. I will
00:14:43.580 catch you guys tomorrow for another episode of Pearl Daily. See you guys.