Pearl - April 17, 2025


Modern Women Slept with Devestated Man’s Closest Friend


Episode Stats


Length

3 minutes

Words per minute

193.55737

Word count

695

Sentence count

64

Harmful content

Misogyny

2

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Toxicity

2

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Hate speech

1

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about sleeping with your significant other's friends on the first date and how to deal with the consequences if they find out. We also talk about why you should not have sex with someone you are interested in on the very first date.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Do I tell him that I've slept with two of his closest friends or do I not mention it and hope
00:00:05.100 they never bring it? Lie. Yeah, that's what I would tell you. Yeah, lie. Yeah, because if he
00:00:09.580 finds out you're cooked. I left my boyfriend and I've been traveling for 10 days. Oh, shoot. Hold
00:00:14.820 on. You got to be kidding. Okay, hold on. I got to put the confirm. Wait, no. There we go.
00:00:22.900 All right. And I've slept with 22 people in that 10 days. My goal was 20 and I just hit 22 this
00:00:35.040 morning. It's 1 p.m. now here in Paris and I need to check out because I'm going home. I really doubt
00:00:41.660 I'm going to get another one on the board, either on the plane or like on my layover. So I think 22
00:00:48.780 is where we're going to cap it out. Yeah. So again, we have incentive to lie. Assuming she's 0.97
00:00:54.000 telling the truth, that's love of the game, man. That's love of the game. The idea that you shouldn't
00:00:59.020 sleep with someone, particularly men, on the first date because they might not respect you or see you
00:01:03.700 as like wifey material is antiquated. It's stupid. Yes, there are men who say and think this, but they 1.00
00:01:08.720 just don't respect women, period. So irrelevant. For the most part, sleeping with someone on day one 1.00
00:01:13.820 doesn't really impact your chances with them. I personally have had many relationships and a
00:01:19.860 couple of proposals with guys that I like slept with before really like dating them and like on
00:01:25.140 the first day or even like before the first date. And I dumped all of them. The relationships did not
00:01:30.280 work out. And this is why I think you should not sleep with someone on the first date or the first
00:01:35.840 few dates. It's not because I think they're going to see you differently. It's because I have dated
00:01:40.760 people that I would never have dated if I had taken the time to go on a few dates with them
00:01:45.820 and get to know them better before I slept with them. Like I be getting digmatized. Do not make 0.96
00:01:52.140 my mistake. Not have sex with someone until you know that you fundamentally like them and are aligned
00:01:56.340 with them. I have slept with two of his closest friends. Don't worry about it. I matched with a guy 0.51
00:02:03.800 from my area on Tinder, also 22. And we messaged for a little while. I did the usuals, doctor's
00:02:11.120 Insta, and I saw that we had a lot of mutuals. And he had pictures with not one, but two other
00:02:18.240 boys that I have slept with in the past. Okay. It's funny. She's put blankets when I was in my crazy
00:02:24.960 girl era. I have been on many dates with this guy and we frequently stay to the places. And I am
00:02:31.140 really starting to see him as someone I want and see in my future. But in getting to know him,
00:02:37.380 I have found out that these two boys that I've slept with are actually very good friends of his.
00:02:42.680 I'm stuck between, do I tell him that I've slept with two of his closest friends or do I not mention
00:02:48.600 it and hope they never bring it? Lie. Yeah. That's what I would tell you. Yeah. Lie. Yeah. Cause if he
00:02:53.720 finds out you're cooked, so you have two choices here. This is what I tell her. And I'm not saying this
00:02:58.160 based on morality. I'm saying based on outcomes, right? If you want a good outcome, um, I would
00:03:03.020 lie. And, um, yeah, that's, and hope now you will have to prepare cause they might tell him they
00:03:11.300 probably will tell him, but, um, I would avoid the friends. Like maybe say they like, be like,
00:03:19.540 you know what, honey, have your boys tonight. I don't want to go, you know, you, you deserve to be,
00:03:26.700 and he's like, don't you want to meet my friends and be like, well, you know, why, why ruin what we
00:03:30.760 have? That's what I would tell her to do. You know?