Pearl - Modern Women Versus The Herp

00:00:00.000 that was pretty traumatizing honestly because the experience on losing my virginity in general was

00:00:05.040 traumatizing so it could have like re-triggered it but yeah that's my story and it's complicated 1.00

00:00:08.920 but yeah so when women take L's again this is why feminism is going to eat itself because we 0.70

00:00:14.140 just put the L's on the internet what's up guys welcome to my reaction series so today we're 0.98

00:00:19.540 actually talking about how women have herpes so one of the top STDs for women is herpes like a

00:00:24.760 quarter of women have it. And in my experience, whenever there's a statistic that makes women 0.70

00:00:30.040 look bad, it's usually worse. Like if this is what they're reporting, it's probably like half

00:00:34.720 HIV. You know, I mean, be careful. You better wrap it up out there, fellas.

00:00:40.780 So anyways, all right. So today we're going to be also talking about how I'm doing an event in

00:00:46.980 New York City. If you guys want to come, it's going to be with me and Terrence Pop. At some

00:00:52.220 point we want to do these like once a month we're kind of doing proof of concept now so you know the

00:00:56.860 link to the tickets are in the description and it would be cool to hang out with you and we're

00:01:01.160 probably going to do a podcast with me and terrence and maybe one other person um and i think it'll be

00:01:06.840 kind of cool so anyways let's talk about std so this woman is um she's got herpes so let's see

00:01:12.900 and also there's a cope that men think they can tell who has it you really can't um i don't think

00:01:18.720 any of you would really i mean some of the women do look like they have it but some just look like

00:01:23.340 normal women all right guys so it's my first time taking meds for my hsv and i'm just talking about

00:01:32.940 it because i've been avoiding taking it because taking it makes it very real and i want to get

00:01:41.280 one thing clear um well first hsv is herpes i have hsv2 which is southern herpes was given the meds

00:01:51.200 you know my first break after my first breakout and i never took them because it had gone away

00:01:58.720 i was really sick it was awful it was awful awful awful i would not wish that pain and sickness

00:02:05.360 on anybody but anyway i took i didn't take it so i saved it and i have it um and now it's

00:02:14.760 about two months later um two months into my diagnosis and i have my first breakout um 0.98

00:02:23.240 and yeah so this is what i mean women don't have consequences like someone will still wife her up 1.00

00:02:28.420 or you know there'll be some legal or whatever but women are addicted to terrible decisions and 1.00

00:02:32.720 there are consequences like STDs, debt, right? Alcoholism, drug addiction. So women are addicted 1.00

00:02:40.640 to terrible choices. It's like really small, honestly. And I, part of me is like, I could 1.00

00:02:45.760 probably just wait it out and it'll be okay. However, I have to sneeze. However, I could just

00:02:57.180 not have any itchiness or pain or bump or anything if i just take it or it could reduce it

00:03:03.220 significantly um so i was just texting with my sister and she just like reframed it for me and

00:03:09.800 asked me like does is it like part of it that it makes it more real um and yeah for sure um

00:03:18.500 at first i was like well i don't know what if i have side effects i'm gonna be out i'm gonna be

00:03:22.060 at the gym blah blah blah no i'm just afraid i'm just afraid of taking it because then it's real 0.66

00:03:27.160 and i choose to talk about it because i think it's fucked how stigmatized it is there's a lot

00:03:33.880 that goes along with it and it is not what people think all the time and i think stigma is just

00:03:41.340 really harmful and painful and i will say like when i first found out that i had it i didn't

00:03:46.320 care that i have that i have it like i don't care that i have herpes i don't care she absolutely

00:03:54.700 cares i don't know why you're putting it on social media it's treatable it's not curable

00:03:59.060 but it's treatable there's medication i don't have to give it to other people especially if

00:04:05.740 you know if they're informed um which goes which which leads me to

00:04:12.280 how i got it i was not informed it was not informed

00:04:16.160 yeah was not disclosed to me yeah that's it i keep telling you guys people lie

00:04:24.580 nobody nobody nobody says when they get it so um anyway i'm gonna take it 1.00

00:04:35.540 it fuck you dude fuck you of course i can't open it they're so big 1.00

00:04:55.220 girl why are you crying girl do this offline you need to call a friend or something this 1.00

00:05:02.460 is a mental illness okay this is harder than i thought it was gonna be everything's fine 0.99

00:05:15.220 oh my god anytime soon but um i was griped and all right i doubt it you whored out okay 0.94

00:05:27.160 i often get asked how did you get the general heartbeat this girl's doing better than the 0.92

00:05:30.620 other one that's what i mean would you be able to tell guys get the fuck out of here virus and i

00:05:35.080 want to share mostly because i think that story can really help a lot of you out there who are

00:05:39.520 dating and don't want to get herpes or you have it and you're just trying to figure out what might

00:05:44.140 have happened so i there's two ways i could have gotten it and to this day i'll never know which

00:05:48.880 one was the thing that gave it to me but i'm going to share both when i was 23 um it was just a few

00:05:54.020 months after i had lost my virginity and i was dating someone from a dating app in new york city

00:05:58.480 and I got a horrible rash. I had no idea what it was. We had been using protection. Condoms don't

00:06:04.780 prevent herpes. And I still, I got something. So I went in and I visually got diagnosed by

00:06:11.660 the nurse practitioner saying, looks like you have herpes. Traumatizing, horrible, freaked out,

00:06:17.660 so painful. Flashback, flash forward to when I was in high school, I was a senior and I got a

00:06:24.900 pretty, pretty bad rash down there. Oh, so she probably got it before the deal. Oh, and by the

00:06:29.780 way, I got diagnosed with herpes one genitally. And the guy that I was with also ended up testing

00:06:35.580 positive for it. So both of us tested positive both when I was 23 and neither of us knew that

00:06:41.380 we had previously potentially had it. So we don't know who gave it to who. Okay. Then when I was

00:06:47.640 in high school, I had this experience getting this horrible rash and went into the ER because it was

00:06:53.920 so so painful and I don't remember if it felt exactly like my my that herpes outbreak but I

00:06:59.680 just remember like excruciating pain and I went in and they looked at it and said that it could

00:07:06.820 potentially be herpes and mind you I actually don't remember my mom was with me in this appointment

00:07:11.940 because I was in a lot of pain and she remembers it all and she told it to me later um but both of

00:07:17.560 us knew that I wasn't sexually active I was really honest with my parents had a good relationship I

00:07:22.680 was waiting until marriage at that point um at least when it came to intercourse but not to other 0.99

00:07:28.160 things and i had a serious that's what i was saying like women do oral so yeah oh so do i 0.80

00:07:35.280 think she got it from she might have already had it he had um so she might have spread it down

00:07:40.880 there and i now realize and of course i realized this you know before i started my herpes company

00:07:47.060 that when i was learning i realized he easily could have given it to me if he had cold sores

00:07:52.320 as a you know at any point in his life it wasn't something we ever had talked about so it could

00:07:59.040 have been from that and that could have been my first experience and because I didn't even think

00:08:03.300 it was I didn't do anything to like I didn't worry about it I didn't I wasn't all consumed with it

00:08:10.020 because I thought it was a misdiagnosis and or my you know my mom and dad did too and I just went on

00:08:15.940 and moved on with my life and i didn't get the other outbreak or the second outbreak if that

00:08:22.580 was the first until that time that was pretty traumatizing honestly because the experience

00:08:29.300 on losing my virginity in general was traumatizing so it could have like re-triggered it 0.98

00:08:33.940 but yeah that's my story and it's complicated but yeah so when women take l's again this is why 0.85

00:08:39.300 feminism is going to eat itself because we just put the l's on the internet um here's another one 1.00

00:08:43.460 part two of what god has saved me from i wasn't gonna do two videos on hsb2 i got so many dms to

00:08:50.240 be what i wish someone would have told me perspective and a backstory i basically have

00:08:54.260 had one outbreak like my whole life before now my last outbreak was like five years ago don't

00:08:59.000 really deal with it i don't really take medication for it like i don't deal with outbreaks and

00:09:03.300 primarily because it completely changed my diet really don't eat processed food make every single

00:09:08.460 meal at home i don't smoke i don't drink like people that really struggle with outbreaks and

00:09:12.440 that can be very very hard understand what that looks and feels like and i get it one thing that

00:09:17.240 i did take was oil of oregano is so spicy l-lysine give you a cyclophore those are the three things

00:09:23.020 that like helped me save my life when i did have my first outbreak but that one i've never had it

00:09:27.860 again and i hope to god that i don't living proof that god can redeem what you think ruined your 1.00

00:09:33.040 life it honestly and this is what i mean when bitches go to church when you find a bitch in 1.00

00:09:36.920 church what's centered a church you know what i mean it really changed too much for me i say that 1.00

00:09:41.440 now because i'm like years later studied and done all the things but we're still worthy having that

00:09:45.860 conversation after being yeah and then she raised her standards it's like incredible catch us catch

00:09:50.320 an std raise your standards like there was a man in my life at one point and i was so nervy girl

00:09:55.340 i was so nervy i was so nervy to tell this boy because he was so like perfect i thought i was

00:10:01.360 gonna marry him this didn't happen i was literally in my car and i was in tears and i was so nervous

00:10:06.580 and i was like you cannot like me like we were getting to the point where i was like okay like

00:10:10.560 we're starting to like each other and i looked at him and i was like you can't like me like i come

00:10:15.340 with a lot of baggage and i don't really want to like put that on you i used to do this pregnant

00:10:20.720 by marine man and i got herpes because of it like can't you can't like me like to me he was just so

00:10:25.060 like ideal he literally someone will always do it watch really grabbed my hand he was like emma i

00:10:31.060 don't see you for anything that the lord doesn't see you for christian dude see you to be spotless

00:10:36.960 and blameless your husband is going to pick you it doesn't matter what you've been through because

00:10:41.440 i just was in tears i was just like whoa like this is yeah that's what i mean players send

00:10:45.880 women into marriage because she got humbled so bad she gave the christian guy a chance and now

00:10:49.960 she's married and probably gave him herpes too like you can't really hurt my feelings because

00:10:54.100 i've already told myself worse i had my first outbreak i also lost all my hair and i was

00:10:58.960 diagnosed with alopecia the duo of them babe there was there was nothing to live for genuinely like

00:11:05.320 it destroyed everything in my life.

00:11:07.420 Like you have no idea what's about to happen for you.

00:11:10.500 The fear is so in your head

00:11:11.660 and there's such a stigma on it.

00:11:12.880 That's like, so like you're just-

00:11:14.180 And they're trying to get rid of the stigma,

00:11:15.560 but the stigma is there for a reason.

00:11:17.380 And you're this, it made me the healthiest person ever.

00:11:20.460 Yeah, all right, I'm done listening to this.

00:11:23.020 All right, guys, let me know what you think in the comments.

00:11:25.080 Make sure you like the video and subscribe to the channel.

00:11:27.100 I love you.

00:11:27.940 Thanks for watching and I'll see you next time.

Pearl - August 31, 2026

Modern Women Versus The Herp

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